April 2013....from Flumper to Bump! (Part 4)

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Over here!

Another place for us April 2013 Ladies!

We have old thread & stats threads as below:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1569780-April-2013-part-3-scan-scan-scan

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1560543-April-2013-stats-thread

As the days darken & winter approaches may this thread bring us all blossoming bumps, peaceful nights & more friendship and laughter.

enjay you are not alone. This is DC1 so I have no sense of how big or small I should expect to be but I have had a couple of dramatic growth spurts and feel huge. Yesterday a colleague commented how big I was and checked it's not twins...cue some frantic googling to see how common it is to miss a twin at the 12 week scan (sensible answer very rare, panicky answer but it did happen to someone the girl on that American chat forum knew ). I had heard about how everyone would have opinions on your pregnancy that you'd need to learn to ignore, but I hadn't appreciated it would start quite so soon!

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Woo hoo, had 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep! Woken up sneezing but can't have everything!

16+5

Hello all on new thread! Haven't caught up in ages sorry, been so busy with work, can't wait til the half term begins! Heard the heartbeat last Friday which was a relief and a few small kicks from then which was lovely, although not much movement this week so far, trying to stay positive and not worry about anything but its very hard!
So happy to hear mama is ok although probably bored stiff in hospital, good luck to everyone x

It's strange to think we are all fast approaching the half way marker it seemed to be going so slowly but now it feels like its flown by!

shomes me either! Last day of school today here then the well needed week off!

essex does sneezing hurt you? I hate sneezing it hurts so bad down below my bump i try to avoid doing it now!

My bump is def there I know some of it is still bloat like it was before but its bigger now and there's no hiding it really no sucking in of the stomach cos it don't go anywhere I had pretty much no bump with ds and I mean no bump so I'm kinda proud of this one! Have grabbed a mat coat from eBay some really nice ones on there as mine now doesn't do up over my boobs or belly and I'm not going all winter with my coat open that's for sure!

Have a great day all X
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Morning all hope everyone is well? I am having my scan today as I have passed some clots overnight. Fingers crossed all is well abd they're even be able to see the sex

Good luck mama, let us know how the scan goes! Oooo I wonder whether you're gonna be having a little pink one or a blue one?! How exciting! At work today so will do a catch up soon, hope everyone else is well
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Hello everyone, nice to see a shiny new thread [hgrin]

I have read all the messages now but it would take me forever to post names etc so sorry for being a bit useless in that department.

Welcome and congratulations to all our new joiners, that list is HUGE!! And Kellestar thank you soooo much for sorting that stats list out, it's been niggling at me for ages but I just couldn't find the mental capacity to do it. Much better now it's all in the proper order Remember ladies, copy the LAST list from the LAST page if you're updating anything or Kelle might have a hormonal pregnancy rant after all her hard work hahaha!

Mama How exciting that you might be finding out the sex today, eeekkk! I hope all is still well with you and bubs. I'm so glad he/she is hanging on in there. What a pair of troopers you are. Have fingers crossed for you that everything is looking good today and your little one plays along and shows you what needs to be seen!

Sorry to hear some of you have been ill. It's that time of year again isn't it? We had a sick bug then got the hideous flu like cold thing that everyone seems to be coming down with. I don't ever remember a cold being so bad. I felt so ill for just over a week, it's still lingering now but at least I can actually eat again, my throat felt like it was being shredded just having a sip of water.

I'm sure someone mentioned having bought a doppler. I've never heard that it can damage babies hearing before, I don't really understand how it could, am I just being a bit thick? I used one in my 3rd pregnancy and have already used one this time as my sister gave me hers. I've only used it 3 times, picked hb up everytime so far, it's just amazing to hear that little heart beating so fast. Can even hear the little kicks and movements it makes! I think as long as you're not going mad with it and limiting the use I can't see what harm it could possibly do. MW's use them all the time!

I feel little gummy bear moving about ever so often now, for the last 2 weeks. Due to my complete lack of stomach muscles, when I lay down I can feel and see exactly where my uterus is and can feel where baby is, it's a little freaky but lovely at the same time.

I was so undecided on finding out the sex. I have 3 ds's and 2 dd's and I would like to even it out with another dd really. That and the fact that my last ds was and is like a tasmanian devil from the second he popped out. Seriously, he has been just such hard work. The girls in comparison have been a breeze! Anyway I found a place not far away that will do a gender scan from 16wks and then a 3D/4D one between 26-32wks all for £150. That includes print out pics, CD Rom pics and a DVD, for both scans. I thought it was a bit of a bargain so went and booked it. I'm all excited now so think it is just what I need. Can't wait!

We're off on holiday to North Devon on Saturday and I still am yet to even think of packing, I should be doing it now whilst they are all at school and nursery but it's so nice to sit here doing nothing apart from enjoying the peace.

I hope you all have a lovely half term/halloween week whatever you may be doing, I shall be back again after the holiday, I bet there will be another new thread by then [hwink]

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Good luck for the scan Mama! Everything crossed for you and hope you find out the sex.

Edinfirst - I am well jel of your bump - I am 17weeks and a day and still don't really look pregnant (just a bit bloated!!). My normal trousers don't do up and have bought some mat ones and some bigger sizes but still can easily pass for not pregnant. I told the midwife on Monday that I cannot wait until I actually look pregnant and she told me the longer I did not look it the better as I will be well and truly fed up of it once I get big!

I am cautiously wondering if the bloom is starting though - have been going to bed later this week as not tired so early and even managed to go swimming after work last night wich has been unheard of in previous weeks [hshock]

Funsized that sounds like a good deal on the scan. My Mum is so desperate to come but of course you can only take one person to the NHS scans so I am thinking of booking a scan later on in pregnancy that my Mum (and Dad!) can come to. Will have to look into whats on offer around these parts [hsmile]

Hi everyone, think I posted in the wrong place before! Sorry x

I'm Trisha, 29, ftm and I'm 15w2d pregnant.

This place seems really helpful and friendly and it's nice to know I have somewhere else to chat apart from my friends who have babies/toddlers/are pregnant.

Me and my boyfriend are so excited! We've only been together since Feb this year but as they say, when you know, you know! I had 2 long term relationships (5 years and 7 years) before this and it was just never right.

Anyway, we have our 20 week scan on November 27th and I think we will find out the sex as I have lots of friends who have boys who want to pass on things if we have a little boy.

That's enough from me!!! xxx

Wow a lot of people want to find out the sex. This dc1 and I'm not planning on finding out. I will obviously be thrilled whatever it is as long as it's healthy but I can't help hoping for pink so my theory is that if I know now and it's blue I'll be upset it's blue but once it's actually born I won't care. Does that make sense? DH just laughed when I said that but I know that he secretly wants blue even though he denies it when I ask
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Can I ask all your advice about something? I had my screening scan yesterday and when I told my mum about it last night she was cross with me for not allowing my daughter to be there because it's important to make her feel included too. My daughter is 19 and has AS. She did want to be there, she came to the hospital and waited in the reception but knew before hand she wouldn't be coming in with us.

The reason for this is that she is a very loud, in your face sort of person. Her AS means she doesn't really get that it's not about her and what she has to say isn't the most important thing going on. She tends to dominate situations and nobody else can get a word. My husband (her stepdad) on the other hand is a quiet unassuming aspie and usually gets completely sidelined by her. Normally he just accepts this because he's a wonderful man who understands she can't help it. I felt however that on this occasion, meeting his first child, he needed to be able to take centre stage with me.

But now I feel really bad and guilty that my daughter didn't get to be there. Have a stuffed up? :(

IMHO, I think you did the right thing, flaminnora.
If this is your & DH's first baby together, and his first child, then it's really important that you and he share the scan together and that the baby feels real for him. And also had there been any problems, it would have been important for him to be able to express his thoughts and feelings which he might not have been able to do had your daughter been there.

When that baby is born, you and your DH will need to be a really strong little unit to get used a new baby in the house, and still managing what will be a hectic household anyway (as any house with a 19 year old in is!). So it's really important he bonds with the baby and the pregnancy and feels like you and he are a strong unit.

Yes, she will need to bond with the baby and needs to feel included, but there will be lots of other opportunities to do that. Perhaps there is some stuff you and she can do together that's less important for him - shopping for baby clothes or something?

Just my opinion, but I think it sounds like you made the decision that was right for you and your husband, and your mum can't make that decision for you. x

flaminnora I think you did the right thing. Your daughter will have plenty of oppertunities to feel included (shopping, setting nusery up, feeling the baby kicking etc) and your Mum was completely out of order to suggest otherwise. I am on your behalf.

flaminnora - you did completely the right thing not only for you and your DH, but also for your DD. AS or not, it is not the right thing to pander to her all the time, it doesn't teach her anything about the the hard knocks of life and that it isn't about her (or me for that matter!) all the time. [hbiscuit]

(i only added the biscuit as i wanted to use a halloween smiley, but maybe it will make you feel better anyway)

Hello all

Such a long time since I've meandered my way back on here, I'm feeling fab at the moment, getting a bump but still in normal clothes and boobs not growing thankfully (already huge so was just panicing about that). I'm still minus 5lb to before I got pregnant, so even though I am loving choc, I just can't eat the quantities I want too :)

Cannot believe on Sunday I am officially half way through!

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Thank you ladies. I did think at the time it was the right thing to do. I need to trust myself more.

Flamin I think your Mum was totally wrong to have said that to you!

And especially as it was a screening scan. It would have been awful if god forbid there had been any problems. There's plenty of time for dd to bond with the baby. You did the right thing.

Hello! This is my first post, 1st pg and 17 wks today :) Hope everyone ok and well and those who aren't having a great time, hugs. I'm off work and haven't had the bet of times so far but baby is ok and I'm so glad to have found the April bump club to share a little moan and a laugh and along the way. EDD 4th April.

Don't be too cross at my mum. I know she means well. She's just extremely PFB (grandchild) with my daughter and is completely, willfully blind to her faults.

flamin your mum is being daft! [hsmile] You were right to take your DH. Your DD will have plenty of chances to bond with bump and baby.

mama hope your scan goes well.

olympicvibes welcome to the board, feel free to join in! We get a little chatty, what with there being so many of us. Last count was 97 but I think that may be 100 as we have had a few newbies that haven't added their details to the stats thread.

DD went to gymtots with MiL who is taking her home to play with and give her tea. Means that I've had an afternoon of watching ER [Carol Hathaway is having her twins!] and eating lebkuchen from lidl. Getting all teary seeing the snuggly newborns. Bleeding has stopped and I'm just feeling manky with this cold, but enjoying the peace and quiet.

Oh! DH bought me a gift. Bump to Birthday, pregnancy and first year journal. www.fromyoutome.com/parentandchild/bumptobirthday.html He had it sent from Amazon [so a little cheaper] but it's lovely, journal starts at 9 weeks. Plenty of space for free writing and pictures. Also has questions for you to answer. It's really lovely.

I have an Our Story from Mum to Daughter which I have enjoyed keeping for DD.

Thanks all. My scan went well but I'm still bleeding heavily. Can't seem to stop crying I just don't seem to be able to shake this feeling of something I dont know I've been Having some cramping and am just so tired. I found out the sex it was pretty clear and it suddenly seems real, this baby even best case is gonna have such a fight because me stupid crappy body can't do the job it was apparently designed for. The drs kept saying its good news it won't be so bad well my son fought for his life for months and months and scbu was every bit as bloody awful as my worst nightmare. I just feel so guilty My poor baby. my partner didnt come to the scan either, too hard apparently...... Sorry girls for the me me me post but it helps to write and there's no one else to talk to.

mama never worry. We are always here for you. A little boy! that's lovely. I bet your children will be happy to know. I really want to give you a un-MN hug, I'd also sneak you in a large bar of chocolate, but don't know if you'd be able to keep it down/fancy it :)

Oh mama you have been so strong that it's only inevitable you have a wee wobble now and again. You have created some real fighters (they take after their mum!) and they are all made of strong stuff. I know it must be so hard for you in hospital but we are all here for you (we'll take shifts to sneak the hugs onto MN and the chocolate into the ward!) xx