Due in August thread... Part 7!

[MrGeresHamster]

We're on safari with the labour spotting signs... How long till the next baby arrives?

Pull up a birthing ball, sup some raspberry leaf tea and tuck into the 'big boy pineapple balti'. We're on the home straight!

Me too! Apparently its quite common to mix a girl up with a boy but pretty unheard of to be told its a boy and it to be a girl! Think they got a shock but are quite happy, luckily their other child (who is a boy and was hell bent on having a brother) has accepted his little sister without fuss! Currently still "baby who has no name" but I am sure they will decide soon! Looking forward to seeing her tomorrow and getting some practice snuggles!

I am supposed to be getting a girl and I am praying it is actually a girl because most of the stuff I have has been given by friends, I have very little that is neutral but I guess if its a boy then I can either swop babies with SIL or swop clothes but do have some white bits luckily!!

I am a bit odd tonight, very achy thighs and sore wrists! Random but true!

Looking forward to a nice lie in and getting comfy in bed tonight! inbetween 40 wee's and SPD playing up

Congrats on all the babies!

I will now graciously bow out of the 8/8 group and fall back on the 21/8 due date.

My babe and body have decided last minute to initiate a hat trick of fiboid shrink, fibroid move, and baby flip from transverse to cephalic lie the day before my ELCS!

If the lie is proven to be stable over the next few days I can go home! Although I would be more pregnant than when I left. hmm. I love being pregnant but still that sounds weird.

I am really glad to be at WSH. Most of the staff are exceptional!

Still pregnant! Woke up with nausea and headache at 5 am. hardly sleep 4-5 hours a day! I just can't believe he still doesn't want to come out.

Morning all. geeketteit would be great if you could get home, but I'm sure you were all set for meeting LO today....
Welsh, I too had noticed that there were 8 of us due on the 8th...geekette are you ruining our numbers now?!

Which means that today is my due date!
And guess what? Still no sign of anything happening. Have to go to see MW/Cons today to get induction date. Don't want a sweep. At least I know I definitely only have 10 days to go...woo hoo!

Have a good day all.
Oh, and richmondmum84 I too had dreadful nights sleep last night. Grim.

Hey everyone. Had some quiet painful tightenings this morn directly after early morning sex but they seem to have gone again. Didn't really say to dh just told him my bump was a bit sore as I did not want him to worry while at work! They were very low down and not how I remembered my contractions felt last time so just a little bh I think.

Trying not to think about it too much but keep thinking am gonna go over due and its gonna drive me more mad than anyone else cos ds was born at 38 + 3! Anyway 38 week moidwife appointment today which I did not make it to last time as ds was born on that day. Mum and sis coming to take me. Then keep me occupied tho its a rubbish day so I dunno what we are gonna do! Was gonna take ds somewhere but dunno now!

Oh congrats to all those with new little ones dunno who I have said congrats to now.

rumours hope everything is ok?

geekette sounds like good news tho must be weird to be all ready for a c-section and then be told you are going for a viginal birth a lot to take in!

Defo all ready for my homebirth finished off the last few things last night and house is looking pretty clean and tidy bar the living room carpet which is cream not my choice was hear when we moved in. Cream + parties + toddler = grey stained carpet! Still nothing I can do now!

Our Oyster travel system arrives today! SQUEEEEEEEEEEEE!

Yey frilly, have fun playing! Two nights in a row of not much sleep. Seem to have late onset insomnia or it could have been too much excitement leaving the house yesterday evening! Can I join 8/8 ladies to balance out the numbers? 40+6

Frilly we've got the oyster too, can't wait to try it out!

Nothing more has happened here so seems like it was a false alarm yesterday . Baby was doing gymnastics from midnight till about 2am so just getting out of bed now. I don't think he's turned into a strange position, just fidgeted loads.

40+1 today. The well meaning but frustrating phone call/text messages have begun. I am going to stop answering the phone to people as they are only stressing me out more. Grr... DH will have to phone people back this evening.

Morning all. Sounds like things are definitely moving in the right direction for lots of you not me . Am 39 weeks today hurrah and feel ok if big now. Sunny again today so am doing more laundry and planning to go for a swim and DH and I fell asleep yesterday and didn't make it! Also plan to play about with pram and car seat as well as figure out our Angel Care too which is still in its box.

Reading with interest alll your sympoms etc and hope to read about some new babies soon . Happy Wednesday all x

Hi everyone,
I'm really upset with me mum for bitching behind my back as I got a long email from one of her friends about really nasty things.
At 39+4 I can't quite handle the emotion of this and have spent over an hour in floods of tears and cannot face her or the things in the email. I've had to involve my sister but we're flumoxed as to what to do at the moment. I know I have to call my mum and have it out with her, but with someone so passive aggressive I know it just angers her and then makes it worse as she never speaks to me directly.
Oh I never want to be like my mother!
Sorry to off load but I really feel LO is feeing my tears and sadness right now.

Oh Lovemarmite, please don't be upset!
Ignore,ignore,ignore!

This situation will still be there in a few weeks, just forget about it! Your mum and her "friend" do not sound very nice...sorry.
But just focus on yourself and baby. You can deal with your mum later-much later!
I don't think you have to call her at all, ignore her. That will bother her more, and you have so much more in your life than this crap!

Oh marmite! Mums eh! Don't worry about turning into her. She isn't the only one in your social environment influencing your behaviour!

And whatever it was she said just ignore. Especially if she is passive aggressive. Most likely trying to reach out to her will achieve nought. Like most bad behaviours, she needs to realise something is amiss by herself, for anything to start changing.

Choclates, tissues, hugs, roses and shoulders. have any virtual support you need to pull you through today! And don't worry about baby. It is happy to take care of you as much as you take care of it in its own special way.

It should feel weird not seeing my baby today but strangely it doesn't. I feel very calm maybe even elated to have yet one more thing go well for me during this pregnancy.

Baby is still head down. One more day of obs and I could be home tomorrow!

Lovemarmite, sorry to hear that your mum is causing sadness when you least need it. Try to ignore whatever the problem is. Distract yourself with other things. You don't have to deal with it now! Your little one is fine, try to visualise a happy, smooth delivery and the moment you are holding him :) it helps me change my mood when I feel bad...

marmite sending lots of hugs your way. Try not to dwell on it, it will all work itself out in the end.

marmite oh no, you poor thing. Why do you feel you have to have it out with her? If you can it might be better not to. You need to protect you and your little one. Can your DH or sister step in to smooth the situation until you are in a better place to deal with it?

Your mums friend sounds just as bad, why would anyone send such an email to a someone who is heavily pregnant. What does she gain?

There are some really good threads on relationships on mumsnet and some posters with some really good advice. Have a read through and post if you feel up to it.

Take care and keep on posting. x.

Thanks for all your support and hugs xx
I kind of respect the friend who wrote the email in some ways, at least it's out in the open and I don't need to try and work out if my mum is upset (or as she described it as 'hurt') as this was her thing when we were young. She never speaks to me or my sister from her heart but likes to find a comforting ear with someone so she can tell them her woes and how we're hurting her. She then makes it all about her.

Thanks for the tip about the relationship forums as I don't want to burden you about this here on this thread as it's such an exciting and amazing time at the moment.

Hope all is going well with everyone and that your obs go well today geekette
Thank you again xxx

marmite please don't feel you are burdening us at all. how could you possibly burden a group of heavily pregnant women all sat on sofas across the country Posting here is really good as we have all known you for almost 9 months and it's more like having friends to talk to. I mentioned the relationships forum as there are people who have similar relationships with parents who offer some amazing advice from their own experience.

If you respect the friend is there a way that she could become a kind of go between. Taking into account your pregnancy she could approach your mum back on your behalf in a more neutral way. I know that with my hormones at the moment I couldn't have an argument with anyone without overreacting/crying possibly wetting myself which might do more harm. Could you meet up with this friend of your mums to talk? Maybe with your sister...

Oh Marmite :( Some people are so bloody cruel!
What's important right now is the well being of you and your baby and if that means no contact with your mum for a while then so be it. I can understand you wanting to clear the air but I'm not sure I could at this stage of pregnancy as I don't think I could control my emotions.

I hope you're feeling a bit better now.

I hope your baby stays ceph Geekette! Sounds like he had other ideas and wanted to stay put a little longer.

Enjoy playing with your pram Frilly. I'm still trying to stop myself from taking mine out for a walk lol.

I've decided to have a very lazy day today! I cannot be bothered with walking anywhere and even the thought of bouncing on my ball seems too much right now! I do think the baby has dropped down a wee bit though because there certainly seems to be some pressure pains 'down there' :)

Thanks Vino and MrGeresHamster
I think I'm going to wait until DH comes home from work and see what to do. He knows how barmy she can be and has wanted to confront her himself as maybe she may listen to him once and for all?! Or not!
Thing is, he's really stressed at the moment as he's had to let someone at work go yesterday (which really does make him so sad) plus he's now taking over all the work load too. Great timing. I really don't want to add to his stress but I guess this involves both of us. Oh yes, of course part of his stress is dealing with me - all crying, all not dancing but heavily pregnant and over emotional wife! I think he deserves a big pressie x
Maybe best to involve the friend as maybe she can defuse the situation, but as it's my mum's way of working, not sure it will actually help future events.

I have now stopped the tears but am a little shaky and thinking a little more clearly and me too would probably wet myself if I get over emotional hee hee, like it!

Oh love your mum really does pick her moments! I know it's hard but try not to let it get to you, like you say you have way more to worry about at the mo. If it makes you feel any better (!) you're not alone, mine is still a bit barmy... had a call from my dad a few days ago saying your mum feels left out as she wants to look after you and cook for you, can you call her and make more of a fuss over her... and he added, you know what she's like she goes mental if she's not controlling everything! No idea where it's come from as I invited her over weekend before last and she was busy (had friends over for lunch even though she knew ds would be born on the fri as was an elective c/s) then I invited her last weekend too (she said she was ill :-s) and called to see if she was ok even though myself and 20mo dd have both been ill, I'm recovering from the c/s and trying to look after ds who's 12 days old(!)... MOTHERS

Let's just hope we learn from it and manage to love our babies unconditionally with no head case issues!

Oh marmite that sounds rough, I second the idea that you should just try to ignore if possible for now and concentrate on you and baby, she sound like hard work and that's just not fair on you (ever) especially right now

Going for my own little moan now: just saw DH off on the train, he's not back still Monday I'll be 38 + 2 by then!! DM is coming up to look after me, will be here soon. I'm really looking forwards to spending some quiet time with her, should be a really nice few days just really wish DH wasn't away

Absolutely no sign of anything happening! Saw Reg today. So booked in for induction on 17th, so hopefully baby here 18th! Yay.
This is DC3 and induction 3-they sure like it in there!

Thanks nightfall and ishop, really value your thoughts

ishop sorry to hear your mum is still being crazy too and I can't believe you have to make a fuss over her whilst you're the new mum recovering from your op! tsssk, bonkers!
I've stewed all day and can't actually ignore it (wish I could) and so DH is sending both my mum and dad the email and we'll address the fall out. Really feel that it's come to a head and if I try and please her, ignore it etc, DH and I are the ones that will miss out on trying to change the situation for the future. Really need to make her realise that if she talks nastily behind people's back, it will come back to her.
Almost looking forward to the fall out, it's like a soap opera in our own home! Thing is, it could go terribly wrong. Sorry didn't want to ignore any advice but I think DH might be able to diffuse the situation, if not, ahhh blimey! but I really feel I have to get it out of my system otherwise I can't relax for our LO arrival. Fingers crossed this works, but I'll learn the hard way if it doesn't

Hope everyone is doing well.. when's the next baby coming? x

I bottled it!
Oh well, the bravado was there fleetingly!

Right back to positive baby arrivals...