Due in March 2013

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Thanks for checking in motherofone. What an uncertain situation. Have everything crossed for you. Hang on in there!

threefortea Pants having to go into work on a stay-at-home day, especially in the miserable rain, boooo, and for a crappy meeting. :-( It's an academic book. It's an expanded version of my PhD thesis, but because I was working on another project and have been quite lazy and terrified about this task I've left myself only two months on which to work on it before it has to go to press. Usually you can push and push book deadlines - publishers aren't bothered - but there's a research assessment exercise next year and it HAS to be in print by then. The other project I've been working on is also a book, and that's well advanced so my plan is also to get that to press before baby (hopefully) arrives in March 2013. This is all a bit bonkers, but I need to be in a strong position to get another job after this temp. contract ends in 2014 (+9 months for maternity, hopefully, if boss is amenable). I've seen so many academic women take some years out for childcare and then be unable to get back on the train afterwards. Such a shame. But right now, if you have books in press you are pretty attractive job-wise. If only I could keep my mind on the task ... !!!

Welcome ethelred and congrats on your BFP! I can understand your hesitancy in keeping it to yourself for a while after your MMC earlier this year, btu thanks for joining us. Great that you conceived again so quickly :-) Fingers crossed for you and welcome to the thread!

An update from me. I went in to work to see my manager as she said over the phone. Basically I told her what appointments I had and said doctor signed me off. Then she had a cheek to say " Ahhhh you shouldn't have driven all the way to work to tell me that" and I just replied "well you said.". Basically i think she wanted to see me to see if I was faking it. My colleagues said I look run down and pale and asked why I was at the office. She made me cry and get stressed for nothing. She was also keen to find out if the last 2 weeks off work was sick leave of annual leave. When I said annual leave she softened a bit.

My job entails working with possible violent people and definitely a high stress job just like everyone elses job I guess but I was expecting a risk assessment before having face-to-face contact with clients.

What made me realise and perhaps should realised sooner is that work really don't care. We need to make sure we look after ourselves because at the end of the day we are the only ones that will suffer if things go wrong in our pregnancy.

Congrats on your BFP Ethelred. Stay positive. Hopefully things will work out for you.

mother- what a horrible position to be in. I hope you get a result soon one way or another not knowing is the worst.

Hi there, quick update from me - I just went to the EPU and, having convinced myself it would be bad news... it wasn't! They could see the heartbeat, and said it looked nice and strong, and said that it seems that the bleed is separate from the sac, and could be to do with it burrowing into the womb lining or something.

So I am obviously very pleased :) (though still can't quite believe it, and am now even more paranoid than I was before)

bb congrats on your scan!

By the way (woody, bb and anyone else paranoid), I have no boob pain or size increase whatsoever, and no real pg symptoms, and this is one reason I thought I might be miscarrying, but the nurse I saw said that you can just sometimes have very few pg symptoms.

Which I do find totally weird as this time last pregnancy I was scrubbing down my kitchen trying to find the source of a phantom garlic smell.

mother am so sorry you are going through this. My EPU made me wait 2 days for a scan as they said that scanning too early can give people false hope but I am really not sure why yours won't just scan you now, esp if they are worried about ectopic.

posy- Thats great news, very happy for you. What a relief ay. Right im off for a nap.

kkforever well done for not slapping her, you may have been excused. Gosh she would be on thin ice in my workplace, they are pretty hot on HR borderline discrimitory (sp) issues!

manda that is really interesting, I love finding out about what other women do on here. My Mil is an academic and think she had a similar challenge when raising Dh and sil, she is such a hard worker because she basically had to do full time work and most of her childcare at the same time! Good luck with deadline. You must really be missing caffine??

Ethelred! Sorry totally missed your post earlier, recognise you from the Sept thread, we must of ducked out at about the same time :( So good to see you back on AN though, congrats on your BFP, and might need a hand to hold in Sept still (and just though all the general anxiety)

Has stopped raining so PIL have taken dd for a walk, result! Have feet up while I have the chance.

X post, congrats for that Posy that is really great news! A few people I know have had similar seperate bleeds diagnosed and they have lovely babies now :)

woody I am thinking of you having to wait til weds for your next scan by the way. It really is hard waiting when it could go either way, isn't it? I only waited just over 24 hours and that was pretty agonising. Hang in there x

Thanks threefor. I know some people who bled in their pgs too and now have lovely babies, but I never imagined that that might be a possible outcome for me - I had totally convinced myself it was bad news. Not that my glass is half empty or anything!

bbface .. Chest tightened at your lovely post. How wonderful. Glad it went well.

ethelred .. We were on the "waiting to get back to normal after mc" thread so it is wonderful to see you here. Congratulations.

KF .. Wow, just wow. What a muppet of a manager. Is she really that distrustful of the team she has to SEE they are ill?! Says a lot about her, rather than you. Glad it is sorted anyway and take the time to relax guilt free.

posypoo .. That is fab, fab news. A lovely strong heartbeat? What more can we ask for at this stage! And not many symptoms?! Lucky old thing!

The sickness is back, had a rough afternoon on the sofa with ds2 watching Tree Fu Tom while I had a doze. I am craving salt. Sweet things just make me sick. Just had some salted nuts and feel a whole lot better. I can't be arsed looking up what this week's attitude is to nuts during pregnancy, it changes so often. They help me stay sane so down they go!

I am very sad about the posters having a tough time right now. I think you are very brave to post on here and I admire you for it. I am ashamed to say, I simply left the due in Sept 2012 thread without a word, I just could not bring myself to type it. I was in shock for a good while I think.

Righto, time to start dinner. Hope you are all feeling perky and not too yakky today!!

Yay posy!

Welcome along ethelred - you're in good company & we'll look after you during these crazy first few weeks :)

motherofone I join the others in incredulity that you weren't offered a scan. You poor thing. Glad the levels are rising but sad for you that they are still talking about poss ectopic symptoms. Really hope it is resolved - and happily - for you soon.

My folks are over tomorrow to help - am so very grateful & relieved. It is hard at the moment with newly mobile DS & this constant sickness & exhaustion. Not that I am unhappy - just knackered!

Oh I want my scan. And to feel better. And a sleep. Um, and a packet of wotsits.

Sorry bb - hoooorrraaaaaaaaayy!

Aww great news posy glad your little baby is growing and they have found a heart beat x

tiddly Im worried all the time I have little breaks inbetween feeling sorry for myself then something reminds me that this is already really difficult so what have i hot in store if it does continue... but again i know i should feel positive and that lots of women have been through much worse then me. its humbling to read other ladies posts and i send my love and support to everyone who is having tough time or has had a mc or ectopic pregnancy.

I never truly understood how they must have felt til now. its more the stress then anything.
Big hugs to woody

thanks, threefortea - it is interesting to see the different challenges we all face. I feel lucky to have a great job and boss but there are still stresses and uncertainties.

I did a research interview with a retired female academic recently and she said that in the early 1970s her (male) boss turned up the day after she had given birth to her first child with a bottle of champagne ? and the proofs of a book for her to edit within two weeks! A similar story was told by another who gave birth mid-1990s. It's still a male-dominated world where women are still expected to sink or swim. The idea of maternity leave, for most women, involves a lot of work just to stay in the game. On the other hand, we're suckers for punishment as we tend to love what we do to a ridiculous degree.

I'm missing caffeine but I only relatively recently went on a bonkers 6 cups of coffee a day regime after a long period of abstinence so it's quite nice to have a proper excuse for just one weak cup of coffee in the morning! Sometimes I have a cup of tea in the afternoons as well. Is anyone else having the odd cup of coffee/tea? Hope so or else I'll feel v.v. bad!

oh, and glad the PIL are making themselves useful, threefortea and that your parents are about to drop in to be helpful tiddley.

posy what fab news - thanks so much for sharing! :-)

Aww great news posy glad your little baby is growing and they have found a heart beat x

tiddly Im worried all the time I have little breaks inbetween feeling sorry for myself then something reminds me that this is already really difficult so what have i hot in store if it does continue... but again i know i should feel positive and that lots of women have been through much worse then me. its humbling to read other ladies posts and i send my love and support to everyone who is having tough time or has had a mc or ectopic pregnancy.

I never truly understood how they must have felt til now. its more the stress then anything.
Big hugs to woody and sorry to hear you had problems last year Ted everyone here is very kind and without this feed id be going even more mad.
Good luck everyone

Xxxx

posy that's fantastic - I'm really happy for you! That's brilliant - it's incredible seeing the heartbeat isn't it. I am trying to stay positive but the uncertainty is hard. I still have nausea, tiredness, needing to drink a lot, needing to go to the toilet a lot and having a lot of saliva and funny taste. But I don't know if it's just my body playing tricks on me.

mother I hope you get everything answered soon.

I have just got up from a three hour nap (is that too long to be classed a nap?!)

motherofone until I had my mc I really hadn't even registered potential complications of pregnancy or really discussed it with anyone. Since then I have been amazed at how many people have gone through so much and felt like 'the only one' or that there is something 'wrong' with them. I just found that theres women in real life (as well as on here) that I have just bonded with which just makes me feel less isolated in general. I so so hope that things look up for you and this pregnancy but in the meantime we all just have to feel free to be as crazy as we need to be, to rant, to slip off like ted or whatever.

Congratulations posy and bb, how wonderful to hear your baby's heartbeat!

In today's episode of Early Pregnancy Madness, I have just spent another 10 quid on a clear blue digital pg test in the hopes that it will say 3+ and reassure me that my levels are going up. It's totally bonkers, I know, but if I go to the GP I know they're never going to check my hcg levels.

mandy I totally empathize with your need to finish your manuscript. I am a novelist and I have to get my book done by the time the baby pops out. So far it's not even a quarter of the way there, but I'm hoping the next 8 months or so will give me enough time to get it handed in--otherwise I won't feel like I can allow myself any maternity leave. There are some real advantages to being self-employed (not having to deal with horrid managers!), but on the other hand, there's no paid maternity leave and I have to motivate myself to work extra hard so I can get the book done, and thus get paid, before LO comes.

Still no pg symptoms yet. No massive boobs, no nausea, just a little tiredness, but I'm not the most energetic person in the world even on a normal day, so...

All of you who are going through tough times, my heart goes out to you. Having been through an mc just two months ago, the experience is still quite raw for me. Fingers crossed you all get good news.

Hey rose :-) How great it is to have someone else with a pressing book deadline on here! maybe we can inspire and encourage each other on! I think a quarter of the way there is a very good place to be. Presumably by this stage you have characters and plot mapped out in outline? But I don't underestimate the task ahead for you! What genre do you write in?

Sorry to hear you are one of the many on here to have suffered at least one prior MC. I now know if things don't work out for me and DH this time that there is lots of hope of conceiving again, and soon, as so many of you wonderful women have done. It's really inspiring and encouraging.

Threefortea totally the way Im feeling now, never realised so many women out there had mc's!
I think I read somewhere its one in four pregnancies and a lady I work with has just had a baby after suffering a mc the year before. apparently it doesn't affect future fertility and for that Im feeling a bit better.
I don't want to upset anyone going the a tough time so i won't go on too much about stats and all that jargon but I feel I've learnt so much in the last few days, probably info over load but its my way of dealing with it.
I really feel for you and others that had lost a pregnancy
xxxx

Hi all, thanks so much for such a warm welcome and hi to those ladies who were on the September 2012 or the conception after MC threads. Hope we can all hold each others hands through these worrying early days!
Have booked in with the mw, seeing her beginning of aug, so wondering if I might be able to convince her to send me for an early reassurance scan? Probably not, but can I ask assuming I get that far FX.

No symptoms here yet apart from frequent weeing and bit of indigestion, but that's it. Don't worry though those of you with no symptoms; when I was pg with DD I had no sickness, no nausea, no tiredness or soreness, and went on to have an almost 10lb bouncing baby! So don't be worried!

Hoping for good news for those of you waiting for results etc.

Hi everyone,

Posy that's such great news

Well I took dcs out shopping today, and felt awful the whole day, so now I'm lying down, if I keep feeling this I wont be able to keep it a secret for too long dd1 is 11

I haven't even booked my doctors appt yet to get booked in

Fingers crossed for those still waiting on scans

I must say I feel very lucky to be amongst the company of such a great bunch of ladies - and so articulate too. I adore language & read voraciously so I guess it is important to me. I should have guessed manda was an academic - i often read your posts and think 'yep, I totally agree with that but couldn't have said it'. I also think ted should write :) rosi more info please - can we read your manuscript please please please?

Thing is, everyone on here is 'speaking' honestly & without inhibitions (the joys of anonymity!). I think that gives each post a poignancy that you wouldn't otherwise get.

Anyway - enough contemplation, I have a roast chicken dinner on and boy, am I starving... :o

Hmmm roast chicken dinner! Can't beat it. My dh thinks it's all about the trimmings ie roasts and stuffing.

On the weird pregnancy symptom list has anyone gone a bit deaf? I have in one ear and vaguely remember having it when preggers before. It does help dampen the noise of dc1 when he frequently wakes up in the night still so it's swings and roundabouts.

Glad some of you got a good news! And really sorry about the bad news! Hope everyone else is doing ok.
I'm here to complain again! Sorry, I know is nothing compare to what some of you are going through. I just had a look in the mirror and I had put on so much wait already! I look so fat! I'm only about 7weeks! I really want to go on diet, but I know now is not the time! Also I need to eat all the time otherwise my nausea kicks in!
Also, wanted to say that last Tuesday I has an app with my doctor and she was so so horrid! She kept telling me I'm probably going to miscarry and the baby is not growing, because that's what sometimes happens! And she won't refer me to a hospital until I have my scan next week ( I had lots of pain almost 2weeks ago and bit of discharge so went to a&e and the did the scan and told me to come back, they could see the sack and everything, but couldnt see embryo as it was too early so told me to come back) she also told me having baby is a miracle and lots of women mc very early on! And I should bring my dh with me for the scan as possibly it's going to be a bad news!!! What a awful doc! I was utterly shocked and it took me good few days to process that! When I was leaving I asked her if I'm going to be dealing with her during my miracle pregnancy! Luckily she said mostly not!