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Really glad you're feeling better jojo - you're right, they leave us to it for a long time before we get any kind of reassurance. It's a bit unkind really - it isn't as if you can realistically forget about Irvin the meantime is it? I am feeling so shite all the time I swear I'd feel pretty stabby if I was told to 'put it at the back of my mind for now'!

Despite this baby being somewhat of a surprise, my maternal protective feelings have well and truly kicked in. I am terrified of getting all the way to 12 weeks and getting bad news - though I won't get an early scan - but that is just the way it is. Odds are with rather than against - hang on to that!

JoJo - glad to hear you're feeling better today :)

Just a quick update: didn't need to do a urine sample, bloods are fine and the sore on my lip doesn't look like a cold sore, so all good :) Also she gave me my scan date, which is 14th August at 10am. DH said 'oh that's not long to wait' but it still seems like an eternity so I am definitely keeping my early scan :)

(not sure who Irvin is, or why he crept into my post).

Good stuff eric - lucky you with a scan date!

Good morning.

Im an emotional wreck this morning. Over the weekend had horrible nausea and it continued so I phoned to call in sick. My manager was horrible and insensitive or maybe I have high expectations and over emotional. She said that I had to deal with it and still come in to work. I said I would come in to work later after a telephone consulation with my doctor this morning. I did not choose to be sick although chose to get pregnant. Im thinking I shouldn't have told work early and they would have been none of the wiser if I called in sick but I guess the nausea would have lasted for a couple of days. In fact for me its getting worse as the days go by. I haven't vomited but actually feel so ill and when I stand or talk for so long I start to get dizzy.

Has anyone had any experiences of insensitive managers?

I'm really sorry to hear your news, Suzy - take good care of yourself. Really hope for good news from woody. And how are things motherofone?

What a horrible manager, kkforever! If you need to be off sick, you need to be off sick - end of story! You can self-certify for up to a week, and then get a doctor's note afterwards. I don't know whether docs are usually sympathetic to morning sickness, but I expect they would be?? Feeling very grateful that most of the time I work from home (and all of July and August to finish writing a damn book) and that most of my time with boss is spent on phone, ever other day or so. VERY easy, though it doesn't stop me wanting to burst out with 'I'M PREGNANT!!!' every time we chat! I'm crap with secrets.

I'd love you scan date eric! We have 25 August, which is a week after we're planning on telling my parents. (They're coming to stay, so it may be difficult to hide what with soft drinks etc, and nice to tell them in person.) I think I've won round DH to idea of private scan earlier, as if I've had MMC I want it sorted out before 3 months after my previous expereince. So will see if there are any circs under which I could have an earlier NHS scan when I see midwife on Thurs. Midwife on Thursday! How exciting! :-)

Weee, postie's just been with all my pre-natal yoga/pilates DVDs and the Up-the-Duff Bible!

I have a wonderful insensitive manager story for you KFFOREVER
About 10 years ago I was working in retail, being Christmas it was busy with lots of staff calling in sick with hangovers.
Newyears eve about 10pm I had a mc. Was in a lot of pain and bleeding very heavily so I went to hospital where I was kept in overnight. I called my manager on NY day to explain why I wouldn't be in... his response? "everyone else has called in sick, you'd better discharge yourself and come into work by lunchtime or you won't have a job to come back to". Cue me handing in my resignation...

kkforever I can't believe your manager - it is not for her to decide if you are or are not well enough to go into work! If you don't feel well enough then self certify and rest.

Ah that all sounds exciting mandasand

I'm trying to prepare myself for the worst but can't stop hoping that it'll be ok. Wednesday seems like a long away away and I know that probably sounds stupid if you are having to wait weeks and weeks and even more than a month for the first scan.

Does anyone know if a baby can keep growing if the heartbeat has stopped?

Thank you all for your support. JoJo- that manager is evil.

Im glad my manager said that at least I know to just do the work I am expected to and do no favours for them now.

Just had a telephone consultation with a lovely doctor who signed me off for a week anyway as I had told them work were not understanding.

Glad the doctor has been more understanding kfforever

jojo that guy sounds absolutely awful!

kfforever that's awful! Glad you got signed off!
woody mine are less sore but now the nausea has kicked in instead - bleurgh.
Told my manager today as I felt bad about Friday & not telling the truth about why I was off. She appreciated the notice as I think they will need to recruit or restructure the team while I am off, we are already short handed. Hope I will get some slack if I need more time off & makes appointments easier - was worried they would think I had a drink prob due to tiredness & sickyness , or was skiving for job interviews!

The weird thing is he really wasn't a bad manager! He had just been let down on the most stressful and busy day of the year, I was just the one to take the force of it! He was sincerely apologetic afterwards, but I resigned anyway. I didn't need the stress back then!!

My manager, when told my good news (last preg) said 'oh well, these things happen, I could break my leg tomorrow'. Hmm. Nothing much you can say to some folks - glad you have time off KFF.

woody you are being so brave. I am not a medic but can't see how a baby could grow without a heartbeat - though I am aware that placentas will sometimes continue to grow. I don't want to give you false hope but also feel that you shouldn't give up. Wishing you strength & hope & above all good news on Wed.

Although I have been given time off. I now feel guilty for having time off work. There are deadlines that need to be met and work will pile up if I take time off. What if im still ill in a few weeks time.

woody wishing you the best for Wednesday. We're halfway through Monday now, so there's just tomorrow - if you're not working can you do something really distracting in the day to try to help keep your mind of the worry of it all and make the day go faster?

jojo what an awful story!

kkforever glad to hear you've been signed off. is there any way that you could do some aspects of your work from home? that way, if you continue to be ill you could keep your hand in a bit, especially if this is going to help you catch up in the long run? I understand the anxiety of things piling up if it helps you keep on top of things ? but, as you say, maybe you don't want to go the extra mile for your boss.

This probably sounds a bit stupid but I wish I had more symptoms today. No nuasea, no cramping, and boobs only a tiny bit sore. Feel decidely un-pregnant, boo.

KFF use this time off to rest, sleep & eat well. Don't stress & worry, it's wont do you any good. You will become accustomed to the nausea (sorry!) and you'll figure out how to cope with it (in my case, eat nights, constant grazing, lots of fluids, fresh air). Try not to panic - you would have to be v unlucky to get HG and if you did that would certainly guarantee you time off. Probably you'll feel better from around 12 weeks and will have renewed energy - meantime take it easy & let your colleagues take up some of the slack. You're also due a risk assessment to ensure your place of work isnt posing a risk to your pregnancy & health.

Enjoy your week off & I really hope your ms settles soon x

• early nights. Christ, my typos are beyond a joke.

Hello everyone
woody sending you some hugs xxxx

well today I drove to raw hospital answer started with cramps in traffic which were horrible and I began panicking and getting upset. I thought I was bleeding but when i got into the clinic I checked and nothing good god I was shaking so much!!
I saw my lovely nurse who is very sympathetic and ahead took more blood, I explained what pain Id just had and she told me it maybe a natural miscarriage but only time will tell.

My result are back and they have gone up to I think she said 225?? ish
which is good they haven't gone down but now a new waiting game as ahead wants to consult with a doctor what happens next.

Nervously waiting a phone call now
xxxx

Waiting with you motherofone, I do hope all is ok x

Hi all,

I am one of the early ones, but not posted much. For some reason, just lacking the motivation to do very much at all. Other than eat.

Anyway, I went for my scan this morning. Utterly perfect. Didn't hear the heart beat as apparently too quiet at this stage (7weeks 2days) but you could SEE the heartbeat, which was so special. My EDD has been pushed back to 01.03 from 03.03.

I was actually really concerned as, my goodness... the nausea a week ago had been horrendous and then suddenly it stopped. I don't mean that it lessened slightly over time, I mean one hour I was feeling utterly rough and the next I felt perfect. And it didn't really come back, just a little pang every one and then. I had convinced dh and myself that it would be bad news. It wasn't though thank heavens.

Had my booking in app late this morning too. Lovely midwife, and so much more personal than when I lived in London.

Anyway, I hope you are all holding up well. I wish I could keep up, but I can't. Some of the early birds have also stopped posting, and I miss them!

Good luck to all
X

congrats, bbface, and it's nice to hear form you :-) also good to know that your nausea just stopped too as mine is waning which has been worrying me! happy for you that all is going well.

Hi all,

Have been debating whether to join this thread at this stage, but decided to take the plunge. Got my BFP at the weekend, so by my reckonings am 4+3 and due 23 March.

Have a 2.5 year old DD and had a MMC in feb, so have been hoping for some good news. We aren't telling anyone anything this time, until we have a positive scan, but am going to ring my surgery and make my booking appt. Really trying to not get my hopes up this time in case it doesn't work out, but it's hard not to hope! Really feel for those of you who are going through sad and worrying times. fingers crossed for you all and hope no more of us have to leave this thread early!

Hi there, kk what a horrible manager!

motherofone hope you get good news.
Had to go into work today (mon usually sah for me) for a really sucky meeting. Work is forty mins away for me. Is pissing down here. Pil's are here for the afternoon which means having to be polite whilst trapped relatively small house with them and dd, not so fun.

bb nice to see you post again, agree that march is very busy and keeping up is.a challenge!

Ah what sort of book is it mandasand?

Wow re reading my posts is funny.
My phone has predictive text and so it likes to change words randomly as i type lol. sorry if i make no sense.

I've spoke to through nurse again and AGAIN she wants more bloods on Wednesday :(
Im really not sure what is happening but again she mentioned ectopic :/
I feel like Im being fobbed off for a scan because they think ill just misscarry in my own time and there's no need to check me

Grumpy and tired
xxxx

mother i don't know much about this stuff - and i suppose it depends how many weeks down the line you are - but can't you request a scan? Surely if there's any chance it could be ectopic you would need to know sooner rather than later in order to prevent further complications?? Like I say, I'm no expert.