Due in August Thread... Part Five!

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Congratulations again to poppy, here's to the rest of us still with increasingly big bumps or of your choice!

Bring on the final trimester in all it's glory!

Ach Lovemarmite, that's crap about you Mum and something you really don't need. Hope it sorts itself out soon and things resolve. Families eh?!
Had a stressful day. Feel pants with vile cold, got stuck in m&s for ages and then to top it off, stuck in hideous traffic accident for 45 mins which meant I missed first half of DH school concert (sounds odd iykwim!). Now in bed for a bit with ddog, kindle and lucozade. Lazy Daisy v nice again last night though found of the stretches more difficult now am bigger plus blocked head didn't help!

Hope everyone has a nice weekend and the weather isn't too crazy either way. We're hoping to go to a game fair up in Perth but depends on weather, ddog travelling in car again and my cold. And if we can be bothered! Xx

Thanks for all the advice re bruising, will just wait for it to go down but before she even took blood the vein was very sensitive (felt bruised even though nothing had happened to it)!

Lovemarmite sorry to hear your mum's being a bit mental, like you haven't got enough to worry about with a baby due imminently! Can't believe she said the thing about smacking!?

Very envious of 2 hours naps

Ham my feet are starting to swell up and ache a lot more now too, not helped by me living up to my name and trawling malls daily

Anyone got involved with the baby freebies with dd I got a changing bag from Boots and an avent pamper kit (had to buy nappies and avent product), sainsbury's also had a pamper kit and asda had a box with some nappies and wipes etc. Been a bit slow to get around to it this time.

Also advice from my midwife yesterday 1. pack your hospital bag!, 2. don't cross your legs apparently risk of blood clot increases? 3. if you're waters break call labour ward, if you get contractions call labour ward, if you start to bleed: me - call labour ward. mw: NO! call 999... oops

Hi all

I keep crying. And cying. And crying and I don't know why :(

Went to Asda and that made me cry.

DH talked to me about his work and I cried.

Got back to work after lunch, couldn?t find the chocolate bar DH bought me (although he got it free apparently because I am pregnant!) and I cried.

Found the chocolate bar and I cried.

My dad (who I work for) could see I wasn?t myself and asked how I was and how his grandchild was and I cried.

I have to stop crying.

I need sleep too. £500 reward for anyone who can return it to me.

Oh, and sorry to hear about your arm ishop (I didn't cry that time...)

Big hug frilly the end is in sight now...! Sleep (lack of - severe) has def made me more grumpy and a miserable cow, poor DH gets the brunt of it.

and for you

I did cry this morning watching daybreak as there was a little boy who was so scared of a storm he had a heart attack (was ok in the end though after 999 and cpr etc)...

ishop wow that looks bad. I had a small bruise after my 28 week bloods but mw said I was dehydrated and she has never bruised me before (this is my 2nd preg with her) or since so just one of those things I guess.

frilly sending big hugs I felt really grumpy this morn and was really short with ds and dcat and did feel like crying but didn't its just hormones the worst is when you don"t really know why you are crying.

Oh yeah and on a gross note found a tiny slug in my punnet of strawberries this morn yuk!! We've had them in the fridge since tues!!

Feeling v tired again after going to parent and toddler.

Thanks ishop :)

I might actually treat myself to a glass of red wine tonight. I've only had a Corona this week and that's only 1.5 units so a small glass should be ok, right?!

Thanks Susie :) That is savagely gross about the mini slug. I HATE slugs with a passion. What is the point of them?! I was giving DDog a cuddle/kiss the other day and as I kissed the top of her head and stroked her ears, a mini slug attached itself to my hand. I screamed.

Meant to say ouch about your horrid bruise Ishop. Looks v nasty. Have you any arnica? Also apparently helpful post birth apparently (pills that is).
Booo, Frilly poor you. Chin up chuck. Tis Friday and hope you'll be ok. I felt v weepy at DH concert when all the children were singing accompanied by fab bagpipes . Lovely.
Choccy for all being sent round. X

Frilly, crossed post. Your slug story is gross but funny ! Bleuch I hate them too!

ilovemarmite Is it your first baby?

I had very similar problems with my mum before my first was born. My mum tends to be much the same and not think about my feelings at all at times.

She was verging on bloody horrible to me for the whole of the PG and when you are PG, especially the first time, you need your mum to be, well a mum, not making you feel like she is almost annoyed with you already.

I hope it helps to hear that me having children has changed our relationship tremendously. I still have days I want to fly across the room and shake her vigorously after one of her thoughtless remarks but on the whole we get on better.
Your mum will see you being a brilliant mum and be so in love with her grandchild she may even be able to bite her opinionated tongue when you do something remotely different from how she would have done it!!

I don't know what it is, depending on the mums personality/hang ups, sometimes seeing their daughter pregnant can drag out feelings you really don't expect from a fully grown woman.

Your mums reasons may be very different but I now get an incline that my mum almost felt guilty about certain things she did/didn't do when we were growing up. Maybe your mum doesn't want to feel like your saying "im doing it differently because you got it wrong". Even though you probably aren't, she may be taking it personally.

We went away with my mum and stepdad and the kids a few weekends ago and I was getting very stressed as it kept raining and the kids just fought all the time and I was at my wits end.

I kept trying different strategies to keep them happy/punish bad behavior etc and I sat down exasperated one night getting annoyed with myself for not being able to sort them out.
My mum actually turned and said "do you know what is wrong with you, you are too good a mother, let them get on with it and stop trying so hard".

OMG - I nearly fell off my seat. She is the most critical woman on earth.

Try not to let it get you down. It's a funny time for a mother and daughter if there is any issues or tensions at all. They will change dramatically when her perfect grandchild appears.

Ishop are you on the FB group? I can't add pics to my profile but I can add a pic of the bruise the stupid Dr gave me when trying to put a cannula in (badly).
The bruising is when they don't apply enough pressure afterwards (or none in my case!)

Marmite I also have mother issues. I don't really get on with her, she's been a crap mother but now trying to be the world's best gran, except she's not a nice person full stop so she can sod off! :) you're not alone!

quick you've nailed it completely!
Yes it's her first grandchild and almost completely unexpected as my Dsis is older and has no kids. As my pregnancy has progressed, she has become more and more difficult. Almost to a point that she can only compare herself as 'when she was pregnant' and that she just dealt with everything, drank, smoke etc as if she wasn't pregnant. To which it seemed like she almost wanted a medal for having had two drunken and smoke filled pregnancies. Whereas I've not touched a drop, don't smoke and have been really careful about what to eat plus have gone out of my way to learn what how the LO was growing etc.
She did once tell me that she never wanted kids and that my sister was a mistake and that she had no baby stuff when she was born. She seemed to display a lot of guilt about it, and how I was planned to keep Dsis company. She also worked throughout our childhood and bought us things and so I guess she felt guilty about this too whereas I work from home and don't have the career plans she did when she had us, I kinda did that in my twenties and now am content with the lack of career!
She has also developed this profound sense of 'the family' over the past couple of years since her own career has now ended (forced retirement) and has completely gone mental at Christmas if me or Dsis want to go on holiday or somewhere else. So much so that other people have commented on how controlling she has become in wanting her family to do things her way. Btw our last Christmas was at her house and it was an utter nightmare as she was livid at my aunty for saying a few off comments and winding her up to which everyone who was there could not help but notice and has resulted in a 'never again' thought from both my DH, Dsis and her partner and myself.
With the LO on the scene I can see it may go either way - better or worse, as her whole 'the family' ethos actually drives people away as she is just so controlling.
Oh dear, I've really gone on now! Sorry everyone x
I hope you're right and she'll get better, I don't think that she'll spend a great deal of time with us though, she lives 2 hours away and she doesn't drive and so me being a great mum might never be really noticed?

As for crying - yeap, tons today!

Thanks Imissminipop glad I'm not alone x but glad yours is trying to be a good gran!

Hope your cold goes asap mrsmiggins
and ham hope your delivery from the US works out not soo crazily expensive but great to hear you've made a decision on nappies. We just can't decide on which ones to go for .

Hi, sorry i am new to this my baby is due 15th August, its my 1st. am scared to death about the whole parenting thing. Just hope i do the best by my child.

I am just trying to get my head around packing a hospital bag.

Be good to chat to other mums to be.

Oh Yes marmite she is definitely fearing the 'obvious' differences.

My mum used to say things like

"oh when I was leaving the hospital with you two (older brother) and the nurses tried to tell me to feed you small formula feeds every two hours I thought yeh right, no baby is going to rule my life. I just force fed you all the milk in one day and if you woke I fed you sugar and water and you soon learned. You were both sleeping within 2 weeks".

My breast feeding drove her crazy. My two had reflux and feeding was a nightmare and she watched me struggle for months and months and kept saying, just give him/her a bottle then everyone will be happy. .

5 Years on she has watched me as a mum myself and mellowed. She even told me how she was bragging to her collegue about how much I put into breast feeding and healthy eating etc. .

Believe me marmite. My mum was every bit as horrible and I had written her off as a grandmother.
I thought she was way too selfish and like your mum she never wanted kids. She NEVER bonded at all with my brother and blamed/resented him for ruining her life. As a result they have barley spoken in 10 years.
She admitted later that she wasn't that excited at all about becoming a grandmother and she couldn't believe the 'rush of love' she had for her grandson and how much he/they have brought to her life.

Your mum is having some MAJOR issues with your PG and they are her issues. Leave her to make a fool of herself and stew in her own juices.

You enjoy the rest of your PG and don't let her spoil it for you, I know how it can feel .

I think things will change dramatically when her grandchild appears and she wants the best for them too. I think a not so good mother gets a 2nd chance with their grandchildren and can surprise themselves.

My mum isn't perfect. She isn't keen to help out with two like she was with one and it's always if it suits but thats just her.

However, she seems to respect me more as she see's me as a good mum to her grandchildren. I respect her more because I see what a loving grandmother she is ( loving isn't a side I knew before).

My last two PG she is much much nicer to me and is more concerned than critical. Infact, my mum has taken it upon herself to organise my hospital bag . She asked what I needed, bought a suitcase (oh yes) and has bought PJ's, nighties, slippers, nappies etc etc. Apparently I will be washing my hair with Paul Mitchell in hospital!!

Ignore her marmite it's just a phase . x

I'm not liking all this slug talk.. Bleck. I hate the bloody things and the thought of finding one in my fridge....!!! Doesn't bear thinking about.

Everytime I go to cross my legs ishop I now stop myself! It's really scary really because I always have my legs crossed and hadn't really thought about it :(
Hospital bag will be finished next weekend :)

Sorry you're having a tearful day frilly. I certainly would have a small glass of red and make sure you enjoy it :) I would have a bottle of lager except we don't have any in.

Thanks quick you've made me feel a lot better, although I sobbed all the way through your post as there's quite a few resemblances, especially about the resentment.
I know that my mum now loves babies and this is something that I'm quite apprehensive about when LO comes. I can't just forgive her for her cat-iness now and so perhaps the distance and ignoring her for a while might help?!

I'm really glad your mum has come around and you have a better relationship with her now.

Hi all, just checking in to say that my blood test came back today - all clear :-) So probably it was because I ate a biscuit before doing the first sample and don't normally - lesson learnt! Funnily enough I was most upset about the possibility of having GD because (in my hospital) it would mean no water birth - funny thing to worry about really.

Just got back home from seeing the Olympic torch locally. It was nice, busy but not so crowded that I felt venerable with the bump IYSWIM. Home now and shattered and still have to make dinner but glad we went - quiet weekend planned at least :-)

Hello Lollilu, you're due the same day as me! Hurrah. I think you'll surprise yourself when the time comes and it'll be as natural to you as breathing. A shock, but natural and you'll do it your way. I say this, as a first time mum too and that's what I'm telling myself! Come on and have a ramble/wobble/chat whenever. I love this thread and really feel I've made some chums !

Love and Quick, your posts are so sad . Hope you're both ok tonight and spending some quality time with DHs etc.

Wimbledon was exciting tonight, no?! Off to bed soon to recover. x

Just calmed down from the match mrsm TOTALLY epic. Gotta love Federer though, he did well!

How are you all getting in with 50 Shades?

night glad results went well!

Thanks mrsm will give arnica a try, someone recommended it after I had dd too but I never got around to it.

poppy how's mini pop doing? I'm not on the fb group but may set up a profile and join.

vino I know! Not sure how much truth there Is in it but she scared the daylights out of me!

Welcome lollilou

Just watched we need to talk about Kevin, not as good as the book but still not advisable to watch when pg!

frilly my copy Is unopened but I did buy the sequel today (!)

ishop have managed to work out how to get pics up (again!), does it work?
MiniPop is doing ok thanks, we had a bit of a pear-shaped day yesterday following his eye test (which was normal - so far- thank goodness), but it was better today. He's 4.8lb now, and 35 weeks :o he's a little trooper and learning how to suck and swallow at the moment..

I also took Arnica post c section, not sure if they were effective or not, but took them anyway, as figured everything would help.

Frilly hope you're feeling bit better now? I have days where I cry a lot, although for different reasons! :)

Hi Lollilou, congrats and good luck!

Talking of slugs, I found one in our dishwasher. I thought it was a bit of mushroom and went to remove it, but then realised it was moving - grim! I can only imagine it must've come up the drainage pipe... hate slugs. They're vile things....

Right, must stop MN-ing and get to sleep, gotta be up in two hours for next expressing session...

Morning!

The weather here is finally starting to get good, woohoo! Wanting to get some DIY done this weekend.... ahem, actually, I want DH to get some DIY done, I'll stand at a comfortable distance and direct

Sat last night and watched some episodes of Green Wing we had on DVD once DS was in bed asleep, LOVE that show, miss it! Laughed our heads off.

My streak of nosey-ness is making me bout you all on FB being able to see what each other look like. But I am a one woman anti-FB machine so I won't be joining up just to sate my curiosity.

Am still getting sharp and odd pains very low down in bump, sort of where the bump meets the top of my pubic hair. Is especially bad when I'm lying in bed. I think I remember a few days ago someone else said they had that too, so I'm glad I'm not alone!

Think I'm 32+1 but honestly I'm losing count

Grumpy today. We were meant to be driving up to Perthshire (about 2ish hours from borders) for the Scottish Game Fair. There was to be terrier racing, lots of shoping, lots of pointing at chaps in red trousers and importantly, a hog roast. And a chance for me to buy DH some waders for his birthday. And the bloody event has been cancelled due to torrential rain. Am so dissapointed. So now, we're just lurking about the house saying over and over again, what should we do today?! We were both looking forward to doing something fun as we've not seen each other much lately either. And it's raining again here, so not even a chance of a nice walk or picnic etc. Bum bum bum.

Anyhoo, apart from that, cold is better which is good. Tempted to take myself back to bed with a hot drink and sulk!

Hope you all have a better Saturday than me (woe is me). x

Heya all,

Just on the train on my way home from St Andrews. Spent the day with my sister and BIL who are camping there for the weekend. Got a coupl of cute baby things out a wee gift shop.
That's me now at 36 weeks, I really need to find some motivation to get my hospital bag packed, think I have most of the stuff for it, just need to put it all in one place.
Is anyone else planning a water birth and having their DH in the pool with them? My midwife mentioned this at the ante natal class, and DH seems quite up for it, so need to buy him a pair of trunks for the hospital bag.
Speaking of slugs, I hate the creatures, but keep seeing white ones in my garden, what would make a slug white?
mrsmiggins thats crap it was cancelled, the weather round here has been so bad recently, think I'll give up even hoping for a summer! I also get so disappointed when plans are cancelled at the last min, hope you managed to fill your day.

Thinking about a wee glass of wine myself tonight, haven't had a drink for months, but fancy one tonight. Ho hum.