Due December 2012 - third thread, moving towards the second trimester!

[minipie]

Well, our nattering on the previous thread has used up 1000 posts and I can't see a new thread so here we go!

The list is below, please add yourself if you're missing!

Clarella - due Nov 28-30 DC#1
BigRedIndiaRubberBall - due 29 Nov DC#2
Quills - due 1st Dec DC#2
smongesmonge - due 1st Dec Dc#2
pleasebethismonth due 1st Dec DC #2 i
QueenofMacaronicheese - due 2nd Dec DC#3
ssimma - due 2nd Dec DC#2
DKNY123 - due 2nd Dec DC#1
AceOfBase - due (approx) 2nd Dec DC#3
PurplePidjin - due 2nd Dec DC #1
KMBatfink - due 3rd Dec DC#1
TeaJunky - due 4th Dec DC#2
M0naLisa - due (approx) 4th Dec DC#3
StrawberrytallCake - due 5th Dec DC#2
Yikesherewego - due 5th Dec DC#1
mummycox - due 5th Dec DC#1
queenofsiburbia - due 5th Dec DC#1
ItsMyLastOne - due 6th Dec DC#2
kalidasa - due 6th Dec DC#1
Wittywhirl - due 6th Dec DC#1
SeymoreButts - due 7th Dec DC#3
ivanapoo - due (approx) 7th Dec DC#1
prunelladeville - due 8th Dec DC#1
Brenau - due (approx) 8th Dec DC#1
Chloe55 - due (approx) 8th Dec DC#2
minipie - due 8th Dec DC#1
lauraloo09 - due 8th Dec DC#2
acjfluff - due 9th Dec DC#1
Rosa7 - due 9th Dec DC#2
gilsbubbles - due 10th Dec DC#1
walnut - due 10th Dec DC#2
cashmere - due 11th Dec DC#2
Stacks - due 12th Dec DC#1
Cherrypiew3 - due 12th Dec DC#4
Cookiesandcream06 - due 12th Dec DC#2
Barbeasty - due 12th Dec DC#2
VegemiteSandwich - due 12th Dec DC#1
CODwidow - due 12th Dec DC#5
backwardpossom - due 13th Dec DC#2
bellaboo123 - due 13th Dec DC#1
brooke89 - due 14th Dec
ddas - due 14th Dec DC#2
Margie32 - due 14th Dec DC#2
FriendofDorothy - due 15th Dec (ish) DC#1
QueenandKingMum - due 15th Dec DC#4
Dillydollydaydream - due 16th Dec dc#4
kateand2boys - due 17th Dec FF or due 20th Dec LMP DC#3
roseandroli-due 17th Dec DC#1
ChangeMyHappy - due 18th Dec (ish) DC#2
Whatmess - due 19th Dec DC#2
Shangers - due 19th Dec DC#2
StaceymReadyForNumber3 - due 19th Dec DC#3
nasara - due 20th Dec DC#2
blackcurrants - due 20th Dec DC#2
annelid - due 20th Dec DC#7
CupOfBrownJoy - due 21st Dec DC#1
Chipsandmushypeas - due 24th Dec DC#1
sicilianlemons - due 23rd Dec
JingleBellBaby - due 25th Dec (?) DC#2
Magic69- due 26 December DC#2
MyDaydream - due 27th Dec DC#1
SpottyTeaCakes - due 27th Dec DC#2
LolaAnn - due 28th Dec DC#2
livismum - due 29th Dec DC#3
NaomiRuth - due 30th Dec DC#1
Mama2threemaybemore - due Dec 31st DC#4
KMR281 - DC3 due end

Hi all, i'm new to this so am joining fairly late - hope that's ok. I'm pregnant with DC1 and due 8th December. We had our first scan on thursday, but bump wouldn't stay still long enough to get the measurements they needed (it kept curling itself up so the sonographer couldn't get an acurate measurement) so we have to go for another in 2 weeks.

prunella I had this after last ds although didn't know until postnatal check, I had to be careful for a while after and roll onto my side to sit up otherwise your at risk of a hernia, they also give you some gentle exercise to do

Chloe Support his decision now you've told him how you feel and what the outcome of him going back will be. Hope he's serious about changing for your sake.
I'm exhausted and hot and have to tidy up for the midwife visit tomorrow. I've been in bed since I got home at 7 since I was about to drop, still can't motivate myself to do anything. I just feel hugely bloated and very sick. I don't see why they do 2 part booking in appointments round here, seems a waste of time.
Welcome to all the newbies, I hope everyone was enjoying their weekends in the sun.

kate I'm pretty sure my dd (6) is going to ask me how the baby got there when I tell her! She asked me how they come out a few weeks ago because her teacher is pregnant!

Chloe big big hugs to you. I really hope you sort things out really soon. Best of luck.
kate Massive lol, but great news on the scan. Cannot wait for mine. Ahh I hate waiting
COD I am feeling a little better too (touch wood) at 11+4 too so the magic 12 week mark does seem closer.
strawberry first babysitting opportunity we get we really are going to have to go see it, looks right up my street and need a good chilled night out.
mydaydream and friend - P.H = YUM. Nope no other risk factors at all. No family histories, otherwise healthy, my first pg was ok. Just since BFP put on nearly two stone .. Oops.. Hoping the weight gain slows for a long time! Also I'm short with large breasts at the best of times, and my they've gotten bigger, and I'm a little 'chunky' yes. But yeh was upset and I've been feeling pretty crappy ever since (partly as I didnt realise my pregnancy greed had added quite so many extra pounds..) she says this eating strawberries...

For those of you who have told your dcs have they nicknamed the baby? Ds calls mine superman, despite the fact he thinks it's a girl he keeps asking how superman is and says goodnight and morning to it, he's so cute!! Unfortunately he hasn't forgotten the mc though and fears this baby will go the same way

Oh he has also chosen Rosie for a girl (which I don't mind but does not go with our surname) and Roy for a boy!! er....no offence to any roys out there but no!!

4yo dnephew says it's a boy called Dick

No. Fecking. Way.

:o

had my booking in on sat, thankfully being moved to a midwife team closer thn the local hospital now which is good. Booking went ok, i'm being referred for Glucose tollerence tests and to the mental health team (had PND with ds) but that should just be to make sure if i need help i can get it. Other than that i am low risk and should be able to have this baby at the birth centre! YAY

Also got a scan appointment through for the 20th of june, :( that's ages away and I will be 14 weeks exactly! Oh well at least i have a date now :)

Hope everyone is well, my morning sickness is still on and off but its a lot better than it was so i shant complain!

anyone elses MIL's a pita? this is her first grandchild (my DC's are from a previous marriage) and she's trying to get involved already, she's told DH she doesn't like our choice of boys name, which I think is tough coz i love it! ( feel a bit like a reblious teenager when it comes to her, why can't she just be supportive like my parents are?)

Morning all. Only 2 sleeps till my scan! Excited, not nervous (yet), after the scan we're heading down to DH's family to tell his grandparents we're expecting. It'll be their first great grandchild, they're really quiet people though, so I don't expect any squeals or interference.

Then Thursday I think I'm going to submit all the paperwork to HR to inform them I'm pg. Gets me free time off for appointments, whereas at the moment I'm having to make up the time after.

Chloe is there something that could be bothering your DH just now? Maybe he's drinking to avoid dealing with it? I'd say this is more likely if this was your first DC - but I think you've already got one? I really hope he sticks by his promise and sobers up for you. Drinking to excess at any time just isn't on (in my book), and if he's doing it every time he has the chance then there's something wrong with his relationship to alcohol. He needs to tackle it before it becomes a real problem, and if he can't stay sober (not necessarily t-total, just not drunk) for you for a couple of months, I think he might want to look seriously at whether he does have a problem. My ex became was very close to becoming an alcoholic, it was tough for him to accept he had a problem, but he did and now has a much better relationship with alcohol. He doesn't "use" it, he enjoys it when appropriate.

Sorry that turned into a bit of an essay. Lots of hugs for you Chloe, and waves to everyone else.

10 sleeps til scan

morning everyone hope everyone is ok

Thinking of you minipie
chloe thougths also with you, here's hoping your DH sticks to his promise to cut down xx

Well first day back at work for me after nearly 2 weeks off and wish i stayed off. Still not feeling 100% and this place is just dragging me down.
DH and I told my DD (nearly 3) straight away about the baby, after the early scan we showed her the photo and told her baby was in mummy's tummy...she turned in total horror and shouted "mummy you ate the baby!!" now she has told her nursery workers and friends that her mummy ate a baby lol...at least i dont need to explain how it really got there lol

lauraloo that is brilliant :) my dd asked a while ago how babies come out (she's 7) I told her the doctors do it at the hospital, she didn't press any further, so i'm sticking with that right now!

Good Afternoon everyone! Two weeks today till scan.... :o

Stacey My (soon to be) MIL isn't a massive pita but this is the first grandchild in OH's family and they are dying for a grandchild they can take shopping, on holiday, out for walks, into town to show to their friends... basically OH's Dad is expecting all future joy and entertainment to come from grandchildren.

Soooooo.... I'm not feeling any pressure..... biggest problem is OH's parents are old and I don't let MIL drive me anywhere mind you, it's cheaper than Alton Towers let alone any future small person

Hello everyone. I was on this thread right at the beginning but I was hospitalised with severe hyperemesis for the first of several times when I was still five weeks pregnant and to be honest I haven't been able to face reading about less nightmarish pregnancies until now! I am now 12w4d and still in bed after eight weeks but at least not in hospital any more and just beginning to feel that the nightmare may end eventually. On four different drugs at max dose and still throwing up. I lost a stone really fast at the beginning and haven't gained any back yet though I have managed to stop losing and am eating a bit more now.

Anyway, the good news is I had my 12 week scan last week at 11w4d and the baby is amazingly fine. In fact so big that they've moved my due date to the 30th November (from 6th December) but I am sure about conception so I'm sticking with the 6th in my mind! I was also really surprised to be told it was a boy. Has anyone else heard of someone being told gender so early on? The radiographer seemed really sure. DP is very proud of his well-endowed son as you can imagine!

Well just wanted to drop in and say hallo and I hope no-one else on here has been so ill. We had to consider termination at one stage it was so bad so I'm really pleased to have made it this far.

oh kalidasa how awful for you, i'm very glad things are looking up for you right now. Take very good care of yourself, we may all whinge about our pregnancies but I personally can't even begin to imagine what you have been through in the last few weeks. I personally have never heard of being told the sex so early but that doesn't mean it's impossible, but keep an open mind, my friend was told at 20 weeks she was having a boy, when baby was born she was mmost definately not a boy! this caused a few wardrobe related nightmares :)

Ooh, congrats on your son, Kalidasa - is it your first? DS is nearly 2 and absolute bliss - you're going to love having a little boy! I've not heard of anyone seeing the gender at the 12 week scan but how very exciting for you - I'm sorry you've had such a rotten time with hyperemesis - it sounds like you deserve a little baby-excitement to make up for it!

it's a bank holiday here today, which is bliss. DH has been getting up with DS all weekend and letting me lie in - the world is full of kindness and wonders :) I hope everyone else has some lovely sun and relaxation time!

Yes it's my first! (And possibly last after this pregnancy - would have to be feeling v. brave to opt into it again.) We had a girl's name nearly agreed on but not a boy's so we have to do some thinking. My DP is French so it needs to work in both languages. All suggestions welcome!

Hello all, had 12 week scan and we have a wriggly, thumb sucking, happy baby. Very excited. Just the one, I've made baby a nice home.

chloe DH has just returned from Butlins, I know how you feel. Hope he calms down soon.

Hope everyone else is coping and that we get some more happy stories from you all soon.

Doh just worked out that pita is not a bread. Was thinking some sort of mumsnet rhyming slang.

Hello everyone

So sorry to hear your shocking experience Kalidasa, I feel so sorry for u & it puts my MS into perspective. With any luck it can only get easier from here on in and your baby will be SO precious to you.

I need advice from you lovely peeps...

My best friend has an obvious eating disorder but is in complete denial. A mutual friend tried to broach the subject a few years ago & was cold shouldered for 6 months. We (& other friends) have discussed it and decided to be supportive/kind but not encourage food convs etc (she makes a big deal about being a foodie etc but really hardly eats) and we try to make innocuous suggestions such as 'here you haven't had any bread' in restaurants etc etc.
She is, I suppose functioning normally, not hospitalised or anything, so isn't at the point of eating two polos a day and wouldnt get to that I think.

Its frustrating as its so sad to see someone you love basically harming themselves and know if u say anything they would drop you like stone. But... What's worse is that she recently admitted she has been going thru hell for over a year, on private ivf / hormone therapy (sorry I don't know exact phrasing) to kick start her periods, which she blames on being on the pill. She is quite a closed book so its unusual for her to breakdown so openly and I felt terrible for her. She also admitted she found it very hard to hear of another friend getting pregnant unexpectedly.

DH and I are about to announce our pregnany news but I know I need to tell my friend before our other friends and I am dreading it, particularly as it happened quite quickly and easily for us.
It is giving me nightmares and I don't know what to say and tbh, it's ruining our good news, which I know sounds selfish but it's our first one so should be a pretty smily time. Instead this goes round in my head all the time, and I almost want to put the announcement off completely - a somewhat short term strategy!!!

I feel guilty because sometimes Im a little annoyed as whilst i accept there could be lots of reasons why she is struggling, the fact that she will not even admit that her weight could be an issue makes our conversations seem fake. Do u think the professionals are talking to her about it? Is it in their interests for her to stay this way as its expensive private treatment (I know that sounds cynical)? She changed our mutual GP after that - somewhat blunt- lady told her there was no chance she would get pregnant unless she changed.

Please help me with the best way to tell her and also anyone who's been thru treatment reassure me that someone will be addressing this issue with her as part of the treatment.

Had my proper booking in today and got all my blood results back and everything is fine. My rubella came back as immune which confused me since last time I wasn't immune and nothing has changed, but the midwife wasn't worried when I mentioned it. Midwife also told me my scan is booked for the 18th when I'll be 12+4, I've been getting all excited about nearing the end of my first trimester but now it feels like forever away again.

Hi everyone, I'm back from my holiday! I haven't read all the thread, or the last one, too tired, but I hope everyone is well. A sunny holiday is a great cure for morning sickness I think it should be prescribed on the NHS. Came home to my scan date, 19th June, will be 12+5 seems like ages away!

How awful kalidasa but also how fabulous its all ok! Not sure about sex at 11 weeks but I'm 75% sure I can see a boy ok my 13+3 pics (something called nub theory!)

Welcome newbies! Thinking of you upcoming scan peeps too!

Chloe - I've had drunk DH issues akin to yours in past but we don't have kids - I think you were right to do what you did. I do think, as others have said, he may need extra support with this for success which you may not be able to fully provide simply as its not really your job! And not fair on you. One really good thing that has helped both me with DH in past (and him with me when I was depressed) was to gently and non-confrontationally praise him for any effort, being specific about what he has done that is positive, why its so helpful to you and how it makes you feel (in a positive way) - its actually quite hard to do in a way that doesn't highlight negative times but is very good at spurring someone on - they try to do it again knowing how good it is. (ironically a tactic I use with kids with extreme challenging behaviours but were all basically human!) We're so quick to criticise with specifics but forget to praise with specifics.

He may need to seek some help by himself or even both of you together? Seems drastic but can be so much clearer and quicker and takes the responsibility off you whilst supporting him.

queenofsiburbia I can see your frustration and also how it will be hard to tell her. I don't know about fertility treatment but I do know that periods can.be weight / body fat linked - young girls who are heavier start earlier, I was a skinny till much older and started ay 16. I was recently told by my skinny deputy head that you need a certain body fat percentage as estrogen is stored in fat.

I would be surprised if the private medics haven't broached the subject as friends who are struggling and over weight have been seriously told (nhs) to loose weight before they'd consider it.

Regarding the eating disorder- I know its hard but she really won't see it - it'd very much about control, and she won't be able to digest that perception, nor that it could stop conception. I'd not mention it at all but you could suggest she seeks help eg counselling? Aforementioned friend has bought book in conception - I don't know if its worth having a look for one with her?

It's hard to judge your relationship but if you don't tell her she will find out elsewhere or spot it soon and maybe feel worse if she's opened up to you. You need to tell her how its hard to tell her author much you want to support her if she wants it.

This is just my view - usually people need to work it out themselves with support when they just don't see what others see - I suspect theres other underlying self esteem and anxiety issues?