Due December 2012 - third thread, moving towards the second trimester!

[minipie]

Well, our nattering on the previous thread has used up 1000 posts and I can't see a new thread so here we go!

The list is below, please add yourself if you're missing!

Clarella - due Nov 28-30 DC#1
BigRedIndiaRubberBall - due 29 Nov DC#2
Quills - due 1st Dec DC#2
smongesmonge - due 1st Dec Dc#2
pleasebethismonth due 1st Dec DC #2 i
QueenofMacaronicheese - due 2nd Dec DC#3
ssimma - due 2nd Dec DC#2
DKNY123 - due 2nd Dec DC#1
AceOfBase - due (approx) 2nd Dec DC#3
PurplePidjin - due 2nd Dec DC #1
KMBatfink - due 3rd Dec DC#1
TeaJunky - due 4th Dec DC#2
M0naLisa - due (approx) 4th Dec DC#3
StrawberrytallCake - due 5th Dec DC#2
Yikesherewego - due 5th Dec DC#1
mummycox - due 5th Dec DC#1
queenofsiburbia - due 5th Dec DC#1
ItsMyLastOne - due 6th Dec DC#2
kalidasa - due 6th Dec DC#1
Wittywhirl - due 6th Dec DC#1
SeymoreButts - due 7th Dec DC#3
ivanapoo - due (approx) 7th Dec DC#1
prunelladeville - due 8th Dec DC#1
Brenau - due (approx) 8th Dec DC#1
Chloe55 - due (approx) 8th Dec DC#2
minipie - due 8th Dec DC#1
lauraloo09 - due 8th Dec DC#2
acjfluff - due 9th Dec DC#1
Rosa7 - due 9th Dec DC#2
gilsbubbles - due 10th Dec DC#1
walnut - due 10th Dec DC#2
cashmere - due 11th Dec DC#2
Stacks - due 12th Dec DC#1
Cherrypiew3 - due 12th Dec DC#4
Cookiesandcream06 - due 12th Dec DC#2
Barbeasty - due 12th Dec DC#2
VegemiteSandwich - due 12th Dec DC#1
CODwidow - due 12th Dec DC#5
backwardpossom - due 13th Dec DC#2
bellaboo123 - due 13th Dec DC#1
brooke89 - due 14th Dec
ddas - due 14th Dec DC#2
Margie32 - due 14th Dec DC#2
FriendofDorothy - due 15th Dec (ish) DC#1
QueenandKingMum - due 15th Dec DC#4
Dillydollydaydream - due 16th Dec dc#4
kateand2boys - due 17th Dec FF or due 20th Dec LMP DC#3
roseandroli-due 17th Dec DC#1
ChangeMyHappy - due 18th Dec (ish) DC#2
Whatmess - due 19th Dec DC#2
Shangers - due 19th Dec DC#2
StaceymReadyForNumber3 - due 19th Dec DC#3
nasara - due 20th Dec DC#2
blackcurrants - due 20th Dec DC#2
annelid - due 20th Dec DC#7
CupOfBrownJoy - due 21st Dec DC#1
Chipsandmushypeas - due 24th Dec DC#1
sicilianlemons - due 23rd Dec
JingleBellBaby - due 25th Dec (?) DC#2
Magic69- due 26 December DC#2
MyDaydream - due 27th Dec DC#1
SpottyTeaCakes - due 27th Dec DC#2
LolaAnn - due 28th Dec DC#2
livismum - due 29th Dec DC#3
NaomiRuth - due 30th Dec DC#1
Mama2threemaybemore - due Dec 31st DC#4
KMR281 - DC3 due end

Hello all, I'm 9 weeks today WHOOP!!
Glad for everyone who's had good scans, good luck mini I know people who have had worries and it's all been fine so fingers crossed for you too.
Been to DD2's Playschool Fayre today where DD1 was also doing her first Country Dancing display (I got pulled up at one point too!) had a lovely time but now I'm home I've got a prickly heat rash I've always loved the sun and never suffered before, is it pregnancy related?

Minipie, thinking of you. I think everyone else has said everything I could say much better than I could say it. Fingers crossed for you.

I feel awful the heat has added to my tiredness and I'm just spending all my time in bed. Im very much expecting my blood results to come back lacking in iron. I'm seeing my midwife on Monday I'll mention it to her then.
Also massively bloated. Had a large decaf ice latte 4 hours ago and it's still sitting heavy on my stomach. I'm so thirsty but drinking makes me feel worse. I really want pizza hut for dinner since DP is out but I don't think I can face it. I can't find any positives today!

Minipie thinking of you and have everything crossed for you. You do need to focus on that positive chance you have of everything being ok, although everyone has already said it so well.

Well, I feasted at a family BBQ this evening (meat is a very good friend of mine right now) and.. Shock horror .. A small glass of Pimms! Call the pregnancy police, I just saw it and I wanted it so badly. Made sure it was mega weak, but my god it was amazing. Pretty sure I'm going to get some judging looks never drunk a drop in pregnancy before .. I blame the sun!

Anyway hope we're feeling ok and not too hot and bothered (having been heavily pregnant in similar heat to this before, I am mega relived to only be at this stage now!) happy Saturday night all!

Another wedding, another disaster as another very leathered dh despite his promise to stay reasonably sober, only another 3 to go this year I am seriously mad and upset. I have been thinking even before I got pg that dh always seems to be the most drunk on nights out, that he is drinking more shots etc than I remember, I mean don't get me wrong, I like a drink and am no saint (when not pg) but I can count on one hand the miner of times I have Bren seriously pissed in the past few years yet it seems a regular occurrence for dh, I'm probably more susceptible to it as I'm sober but I don't even look forward to social events now, not coz I can't drink but because I know he will I had to take myself off this afternoon for a walk round the grounds so I could let the tears flow without being seen. He thuja I am being unreasonable and a nag, dh is great in every other way bug this I have just had enough of but seem powerless to do anything about it He is in the hotel bar with my bro as I lay in bed next to my beautiful ds. He met a friend in the local last night for one drink and rolled in at 2.30am pissed as a fart, I think he has just been topping up today. What can I do? sorry for the moan I just feel so lonely right now as I'm sure people think I'm being hormonal but in reality thus is a serious problem for me.

Gosh typing means lots of typos!!!

Ooh yes, add me. I am due just in time for the end of the world, December 21, 2012.
Perhaps John Cusak will save me?

Chloe is he choosing the pub and his mates over spending time with you and ds? That does sound like above average alcohol consumption...

Well we were at a comedy club fri night but left after the acts, preagreed, as I didn't want to go round pubs with our mates obviously. When we got home he met a mate for 'one' which I didn't mind as it was early doors for a Friday night and he works hard all week but 'one' turned into being out til early hours. Yesterday we were at the wedding as a family and he danced etc with ds but he didn't once think to ask me if I'd like a drink from the bar ( he doesn't consider I might be thirsty), he was slurring his speech by 2pm and nearly fell on his face with a load of drinks in his hand, and despite claiming he'd stopped smoking puffed away all day . Ds and I came to bed at the end of the disco and god knows where dh went til nearly 4am this morning-then proceeded to fall out of bed (that the 3 of us are sharing) and snoring. Weddings are weddings and yes, we all like a drink, they are long days with alcohol flowing etc etc but he made me a promise, I just feel really let down and feel that he really couldn't give a shit about that. I have been awake since 7am in tears just wondering why he is behaving like this

Oh sorry, welcome toxic your post made me laugh when I was feeling really shit

Doesn't sound like he has much control, tbh

Chloe that sounds pants. Is he sympathetic to you usually? Maybe he needs a bit of a refresher on what you're going through at the moment. This part of pregnancy I find absolutely the worst in recognising terrible traits in your other half. My dh goes into his 'man cave' quite a lot and has little moods, usually I just ignore and after 10 mins he snaps out of it but I have been pulling him up on it every time and snapping at him a lot.

cookies I had a little glass of wine last night too, first one. We went to see what to expect at the cinema which was great until they all gave birth when I hid behind my hands. I am freaking out a bit because Since I had dd I've had a tumour removed from my womb and some of my cervix taken away that the birth will be more complicated. I really enjoyed giving birth to dd, I'm pretty scared now it won't be the same.

Erm....the world is ending this year?

Well the midwife has just been to visit to do my booking in appointment. Despite having a high BMI and some bleeding she reckons I am low risk which is reassuring!

Oh Chloe you poor thing. Please try not to be so upset (although I completely understand, I would be the same in your situation) in fact I had a massive wobble this morning and spent ages in tears as DP didn't come Home last night (ok he was drunk at his parents, but still, hormones and all that!)
That does sound like he is drinking a bit more than maybe he should- maybe have a quiet word about how you're feeling once you've calmed down? It's not good for you to be that upset. From my own experience, OHs can be pretty useless in these earlier stages. They just don't understand. I really hope you're ok and can get some enjoyment out of your weekend.

strawberry How was the film ? (minus labour scenes?!) me and DP keep saying we must go and see it this week and have some 'us time' away from DD and stresses of work etc. I'm reassured to know its not just me being a little naughty, I can't tell half my 'mum friends' they would give me the most sturn of looks (MIL and DM encouraged me !! )

One final thing to say.... White chocolate magnums!! Gone off chocolate but combined with ice cream I can deff make an exception - WOW

Oh and friend if you don't mind me asking you, what was your BMI? I have put on a bit of weight recently and BMI has gone up to 30 and now I'm 'high risk' I got home and cried after my booking in

My BMI is 37.... so I am well overweight. The midwife did suggest that the BMI thing is bollocks though as your BMI isn't reflective of how healthy you are etc.

chloe your DP sounds like he's been a bit rubbish this weekend, I'd be having a word just to let him know how I was feeling. I'd be more annoyed at the going against his word than the drinking, since I don't care when DP does but I care hugely when he goes back on something. Hope he comes round soon.
Cookies Is it just your BMI that's making her put you as high risk? When I saw my midwife last week she said nothing at my BMI being 30, I'm healthy everywhere else with no family history of anything so she didn't see me as high risk. I'd find out why she sees you as high risk, or if you have another midwife next time see if she agrees or disagrees with the opinion.

DP isn't talking to me because I had a mad explosion when we got home last night. We got home four hours later than we were going to leave, which I was fine with because we were having fun, but I was exhausted to the point I couldn't keep my eyes open and he started snoring and wouldn't roll over. So I told him to fuck off, slammed the door and came downstairs, but I wouldn't tell him what was wrong because I was too tired to put it into words. This morning I'm very sorry because I was being stupid and was just so tired, but he's not talking to me now. We were going out to fix my pizza hut craving for dinner, don't think he's going to go with that one now.

Hi guys i'm due Dec 28th can I join? Its my first baby. No scan date yet but have had a private scan (couldnt wait for my 12 week one!) Im about 9 weeks. Apparently there is a midwife shortage in my area. Anyone else waiting for appointments? Its a bit mad when no one tells you anything. Well thats me for now, Im not sure how this place works but don't know many folks with kids so would love to be able to chat here. Thanks :D

The film was quite funny cookies just really easy to watch, I did well up more than a few times though. They have made the women quite distinctive so it's easy to relate to all of them a bit, I would recommend it (but definitely hands over your eyes for labour).

I can't believe I haven't seen the polo advert until just now, boo hoo...even dh was slightly emotional.

Welcome shakira

Well, I left dh a note (2 sided a4 letter!) explaining how he has made me feel when he gets that leathered, how I have sacrificed so much in order to just get pg in the first place and now we are here the lengths I have gone to try and help this baby stick and that he has essentially done fuck all. Then I went out with a friend who admitted she had a massive row with him at a party he attended whilst I was busy throwing up with morning sickness at home basically telling him to be more supportive and think about what I'm going through etc etc (she is very unconfrontational usually) and he was apparently very rude to her and she ended up in tears. She has known him the 10years I have as she is my bf and she said she has noticed this nasty drunk side of him more and more recently.

I actually told him to pack his bags and leave . He is trying to convince me he has realised he drinks too much and clearly there's a problem as he is upsetting not only me but other people etc. He says, off his own bat, that he is gonna go on the wagon for a few months. This is an unheard of revelation for him and we have a few social events in our calendar, I guess all I can do is support this decision, right? I am obviously still very and this feels like an empty promise at the moment as I don't think he has the willpower yet I hope he has. He does seem genuinely upset that he has made me feel so shit.

Gah. This is bloody annoying me now. I have had a perfectly lovely day and then I have just been to the loo to see the tiniest amount of pink spotting. I know it is likely to be nothing like all the other times but it has really pissed me off!

Welcome, Shakira, I'm a bit further along (13+2 due 2/12) with PFB but you're not alone in being at the tenterhooks stage!

Chloe

FOD its nothing

11 sleeps til scan day really impatient now!! really wish I was going to know all was ok before jubilee weekend and all the family/friends gathering.

11+4 today and noticing the overwhelming tiredness is drifting into slight tiredness through the day much easier to cope with, food aversions are getting easier and mammoth hunger is getting better so looking good (I hope)
Dh has been brill since bfp (only taken 4 previous pregnancies to get to this point) but can't fault him. I think the mc has something to do with it and also I've made it quite clear we need to be a team with 5 dc's.
FOD I'm sure it's fine and hopefully it'll all stop soon.

getting out of bed last night i noticed my stomach moved to form a pointed ridge in the centre just below my belly button as my stomach muscles tightened. I've googled this odd thing and found it's likely to be 'diastasis recti' - tummy muscles split basically. Has anyone with DCs ever experienced this? had any problems/been able to get muscle strength back during or after pregnancy?
is it worth a visit to the GP?

Welcome Shakira

Chloe your dh sounds like he has been a complete arse. Hopefully now he will realise how unreasonable he has been and get his act together a bit. FX for you.

FOD Repeat after me, 'it will all be fine, just like before'.

Cookies My BMI is 31 and I wasn't considered high risk. Although my mum had a blood clot last year so that did up my score somewhat. I think I'm low risk as I've had babies already.

I saw my baby today!!!!!! We paid for a private scan and it was in there dancing away, he waved his arms and legs around and really 'performed'. It was definitely money well spent. The sonographer has moved my dates forward and she thinks I'm 11+2 and due on the 14th. I don't think I'm that far along but we'll see. I feel sooo much better now, it isn't wind after all

We told the ds's today too. DS1 cried form the shock and then had to go and process it all on his own for a few hours, he's dyspraxic, so this reaction was totally expected, but he seems ok now. DS2 is very excited, his first question was are you going to get very fat, followed by 'I want a sister'. I have a feeling ds2 is going to bombard me with questions from now until Christmas. I'm just waiting til he asks how the baby comes out. Also told my brother and SIL, who were also very shocked, but pleased their 1 year old with have a cousin near in age.

Hope everyone is well, not suffering too much feeling sick in the heat.

Prunella I've never heard of that, may be worth a trip to the GP.