January 2012 - Thread 4

[shonnomanom]

Can believe we are on Thread 4 already! We must chat too much

I was stirring curry at the hob and it splattered. Try as I might I could not get my tummy under a tap'

Ouch poor you Giraffe

he he at the girlies flashing thier bits-better get used to it if they are anything like my dd, who now at age four seems to think taking her clothes off is an excuse to run around doing her "funny bum dance"-no matter where we are, including the swimming pool today where i had to leg it out of the changing booth into the communal area with just my pants and t-shirt on to grab her.

Scan was similar here-the senographer rolled the thingy over shrimpy's abdomen and between his legs and I went "oh-it's aboy then"-she laughed and said "i could try telling you thats cord but it was fairly obvious".

My dh loves the fact he is having a son-he was happ either way but he put his Fb status as "I am to have a son-beats chest in a manly fashion"

oh and I had a nose bleed a minute ago-a proper one after colliding with DD at bedtime. My face still hurts.

Aw poor giraffe and fish - hope your tummy and nose (respectively) are feeling a bit better now.

I woke up this morning with a stinker of a cold and am a bit grumpy that I can't do my usual 'take every drug under the sun until it goes away' approach to illness. Am sat looking up what I can take on t'interweb while sipping at some hot ribena

But thanks for that story about your daughter fish. That really made me smile - I have a funny bum dance I do too (usually after i've been at the cooking sherry)....you never grow out of it!

Hey ask. Just about managed to catch up on this thread whilst dh chooses besides me! It was our third anniversary yesterday and we had the loveliest day and evening. Can't believe how in love I still am... in fact, how much more in love I am. We've been together nearly 7 years now, but when he looks at me with such love in his eyes it seems new and scary and exciting all over again. I don't know if it's just where we are in the relationship, our if it's sharing this impending parenthood, but I love how close we are.

Apologies for all the soppinesss. Hope it didn't bring on another attack of nausea for those of you with still-recovering tummies!

That should have been ' hey all' and 'dh snoozes'. Silly phone.

makescakes - I was wondering what your dh was choosing! Aww that's very cute. I wish I could look at my dh like that and not want to thump him!

Congrats to our new blue and pinks! I think we'll stay team yellow, but have a few more days to decide.

fish - that's a great story! I'll look forward to my DD taking up the funny bum dance mantle when she's a bit older (currently she's just into the stripping phase). And hope your nose is better!

deesus - eugh, nothing worse than not being able to drug up. Hope you're feeling more chipper soon.

giraffe - ouch. Hope your poor tum's ok. At least it was in the name of something tasty.

I've already forgotten what was on the previous page, so hope you're all ok!

Yay deesus - congrats on the girl! (or had I missed something, did we already know about her?)

Makescakes that's lovely, so happy for you. I'm a bit loved up atm too (we had our 10th anniv this year) - take the good pg hormones while you can, I say (there's enough crap ones)!

Don't you lot get scans at 32 wks, then? After mine last week the dr said: "Your next scan will be sometime between 30 and 33wks". Wonder what that's for, then?

Morning all.

I have an attractive red blister just under my belly button, at least it'll be a talking point at the midwifes :)

Dd back at nursery today, back into the breakfast and packed lunch between still present morning sickness routine. Just enjoying the peace and quiet for a few minutes before blitzing the house.

Have a good day everyone and Happy Anniversary for yesterday makescakes

Morning ladies I am sitting in a very quiet house as all my children are back at school. Ds2 was so good he went in with out a whimper. The 2 dd'd went off to their new school. Poor dd1 was really anxious so gave her an extra long hug. Can't believe I am going to have only 3 months quiet then ds3 will be here.

Makescakes- it is so nice to hear that your relationship is good I still feel like that and have been with dh since we were 18 and 19 now I'm 38. This baby means so much to us as we never thought a 5th was on the cards. Even though there is alot going on and money is tight I know we will cherish this little boy.

all these bump accidents!! careful ladies!! they're only going to get bigger! Me and my OH can barely fit in the kitchen together at the same time already - I sense some accidents ahead...

fryn I didn't even go swimming in the end. was going to again this morning and still didn't. I am a lazy fat pregnant slug. at least you've been to yoga!!!

makescakes that is a lovely post, I'm glad you're feeling so loved up. We missed our first anniversary this yr because of the m.sickness, so I think we'll go on a date next week to make up for it

Congrats to all you with lovely scan news this week - I keep thinking I want a boy but I know I'll still be over the moon with whatever I get. I am so jealous of all your scans. I still don't have a date. I am now 20+3. Amazing. my OH is going to phone up later in the week and get all cross on my behalf. Or failing that we are going to turn up at the hospital and sit there until they scan me!!! I think it's very unlikely I'll get the 32wk scan, don't you??!

Who are the knitters on here? I got really into it last year on tour (well rock and roll, me) but after knitting a million christmas heart decorations I stopped. Made my brother's kid a lovely white chain of hearts for his babies nursery and now I want to make one for mine but I made up the pattern and now can't remember it! Love knitting though. Couldn't do it when I had m.sickness as it made me feel worse!

omg, been off for a week and have soooo much to catch up on. Was signed off with sinusitis - never knew it could be so sore! but luckily was allowed some antibiotics which kicked in after a few days.

Had scan on Monday and we are... Team BLUE, woohoo! DD is happy as she wanted a boy, DH is happy, it's amazing. And now we can stop as we will have one of each - perfect!

Hope everyone is ok, will go and read rest of this new thread to catch up properly now!

take it easy!

had my scan today and baba is a GIRL and is realy healthy. no complications that can be seen and baby was realy active and smiling and everything during the scan. she is developing at the correct rate for 20 weeks 4 days and they are realy happy with her.

Congrats on your scan mia and welcome to team pink mummyzoe!

Wow, congrats mia and mummyzoe (and everyone else I missed on teams pink and blue!) :)

How exciting that we are half way there! I can't wait till Monday, excited and a bit anxious, too! Yesterday I became and aunt again (I like saying that everything a niece is born...yes, we only have girls in the family :)

They are twins and although they are healthy they are too tiny and need to stay in hospital for at least 3 weeks :( Praying they will go home asap though....

redhead used to knit back at school (like every other 15 year old :P) but also used to cross stich and now am dying to to start again...but am struggling for money that the thought of having to buy everything from zero (needles, a magazines, etc) is putting me off slightly...anyone knows of good 'starter kits'? I am leaning towards cross stich as I was quite good at it :)

Hugs all around and keep well! xxxxx

You can get needles from most charity shops for less than £1.00 (but you have to ask as they are offensive wepons or something like that. A lot of patterns are free if you search the internet and balls of wool aren't that expensive...I dont think, its been along time since I bought any!

I really want to restart knitting now! Hmm, I wonder if i have a unfinished project lieing around here?

Hiya all, congrats on the pink and blues.

I'm not in very good frame of mind this week. Really not great at all, spiralling down a little bit tbh. Could seriously use a few kind words.

Lots going on, stress and lack of money. The bank have refused my offer of a voluntary arrangement for my debt which has set me off into freefall, and all of the other stuff that is bothering me. I seriously had more money as a student than I have now and with a new baby coming in a scant few months we have done nothing to make a space for this child in our home.

DH is so laid back about getting the house sorted and doesn't see how important it is to me, but also we have no spare money to do anything, even a tin of paint is a serious consideration and somehow we have to create a room for my dd and a change her old room which badly needs repainting into a nursery. I have no money for winter boots and I own one pair of shoes and one pair of sandals which are both falling apart. If I am going to do anything to get these new contracts under my belt I need my car, and yet dh's car has sprung a massive oil leak and is rattling ominously.

I just cried and shouted at DH. He keeps telling me to stop stressing, it's his way of being supportive, he just doesn't understand how I feel.

I'm sorry ladies-I am venting. I so want this to be a happy time but i'm finding it so hard. Being powerless to change my job situation because of the pregnancy, it's hurting my pride-i have never ever been out of work reliant on someone else before. It doesn't suit me.

addictediam thank you so much for the suggestions! I have also found there is a free knitting meeting just around the corner from my house, so will check it out :)

fish I know how you feel, in the same situation as no one will give me a job now and not making any money and thinking how long will it be until am able to is very daunting.... sending you lots of positive energy and the only thing to do is try and be positive, even when you don't feel like it! There is a nice saying back home that goes "what cannot be fixed is already sorted!" and I truly believe in that!

Warm hugs all around!

Thanks greenlady I like that saying

I had a very fitful night last night and I am up now but still feeling extremely low. The trouble is I just can't tell if this is genuine prenatal depression or simply that I am low because our life is fucking difficult at the moment.

I have declared today a no pressure day, I am going to do nothing that involves rushing about, I am not going to force dd to turn the telly off or simply do anything I dont want to. I am making a few phonecalls, sending a few emails and I may take her to the library later. I am saying no to stress of any kind today. I am supposed to have a benefit advisors appointment later but I am cancelling as theres nothing that they can tell me that isn't on the direct gov website anyway so whats the point in wasting my time. I already know I'm not entitled to anything.

I am seeing my lovely psych nurse next week, I have been ok so far but I am really worried that I am on my way down. It certainly feels like it.

fish you need to get wanting on freecycle! or post some wanteds on facebook. Once people know you need stuff it's amazing what is offered.

good luck, and massive hugs xx

supa it's not stuff thats the problem really-we have been given masses of baby clothes, a travel system (allbeit 8 years old, impoosible to put up and down and heavy) and we still have a cot and things from before.

This is DH's point-the baby will be in our room for 6 months anyway and we have a place for it to sleep and clothes for it to wear. What more does it need-I see that but I can't hear that. IFYSWIM

I want DD to have a proper little girls room or at very least have some curtains up and a cupboard built round the boiler. It's really important to me that this is done before this son of ours arrives. But thats not the point at all really, it's how shit I feel, I know dh is being realisitic, sensible and pragmatic, he doesn't see this as source of stress which is probably isn't really. I just can't help the way im feeling.

fish I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling down, I think you're doing the right thing in taking care of yourself and having a no stress day. Keep that up and be kind to yourself. xx

fish I'm really sorry that you're feeling down. But you're doing the right thing by giving yourself some breathing space to de-stress you (and by extension your little boy), and it sounds like you're coping with a set of really unfortunate circumstances that would make anyone feel stressed and upset.

supa is right though - you need to get on freecycle! Loads of people will have old tins of paint stuck in the garage and I'm sure would be happy to offload. Could you invite friends around for a painting party, with bring your own brushes & paint etc? you could feed them in return. Are either you or DH handy enough to build the box around the boiler? Really you only need a bit of MDF, or Ikea do quite cheap cupboards that could be tailored if you know someone with tools and the know how (I know because we just used an Ikea door, some magnetic hinges, and some PDF to box in the pipes for our boiler in the kitchen).

This probably all seems a bit much right now, and you do have loads of time (though I totally understand the nesting instinct). Could you write a letter to your DH explaining everything you've explained above? He's probably just trying to protect you from stress in a slightly misguided way - but if he has a chance to think about how much this means to you then he might see that simply helping you to sort it all out is the easiest option for him...

• MDF not PDF obviously!