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RosyRosie · 25/07/2011 09:32

Hello, not sure if there's a similar thread already but just thought I'd create somewhere for nayone else expecting in April 2012?

I actually conceived about 3wks ago but I think this counts as week 5? Just staring to get symptoms - headaches, little stirrings of nausea, getting tired and grumpier than usual lol.

A little bit concerned because I have a LOT of work on from now until October and maybe beyond - and I think I'm just going to want to sleep and puke through it all - hell! :( d'oh.

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Thaleia · 19/09/2011 11:13

Monday, Monday ....

I'm 8 weeks now and I haven't enjoyed the pregnancy so far. Of course, it has its moments but overall I'm tired, nauseous, tired, very upset and mentally exhausted - I'm scared that I'll lose it.

My mum tells me all the time, I shouldn't be so negative and it's bad for the baby but all I can think of is how to survive the afternoon, which is normally worse than the morning.

I don't feel ready, we're so not prepared and the upcoming tests, scans etc etc frighten and decisions frighten me.

Hubby said on Saturday, I only would talk about how sick I feel. But that's all I have at the moment? I can't come up with another subject. It's hard enough to pretend at work.

Of course, I know it'll be better "sometime" even "soon" - but at the moment it's feels like the last 2 mins on the treadmill when you can't do it anymore but have to finish it. Only that it's not 2 mins but 4 + weeks.

Sorry for the post - but whom should I tell :-(

spannermary · 19/09/2011 12:39

Thaleia you should tell us: that's what we're here for :). I know exactly what you mean about the afternoons. I'm shocking when I wale up, then ok from about 9.30am till lunch. No matter how much I try and chill at lunchtime, the afternoon is a killer...and then comes the end of day commute!

So, La Tristesse do you think people can train themselves up in hypnobirthing without seeing a specialist but by relying on the book and mp3s?

womanlytales · 19/09/2011 13:55

I have the same - fine in the mornings mostly - depends on how vivid and disturbing my dreams have been the night before... and then come afternoon I am a mess.. a certain fogginess in the head is the best way to describe it ... sleep helps always - so a 1-2 hour nap can go a long way. Overall though I just feel like crap and I shudder to think that this is how it will be for nine months - then I feel bad that I am whining when I am clearly not the first and most women have been through this at some stage or the other.

Bearcrumble · 19/09/2011 14:15

Further cementing my position as poo lady - yes, Twittle, you can take Lactulose during pregnancy. I caned it last time, not that it made a huge amount of difference.

I have my booking appointment on Wednesday and neuchal scan two weeks later.

SurprisEs · 19/09/2011 16:01

I phoned the hospital today and the lovely lady at the antenatal reception said she was beginning to send letters out again as for some reason none could be sent out the last two weeks (something to do with cover and all that). She sounded really defensive and it appeared to be as though she has had a hard time over these letters. I promise I asked nicely if my GP had already refered me or not and was not rude at all, but maybe someone has been. Poor thing. So yeah, maybe the letter is on it's way!

My sickness has vanished during the day but has been horrible during the night. But this disgusting taste in my mouth is getting on my nerves and brushing my teeth appears to make it worse. Anyone experiencing this? It does not taste like metal (as the books suggest) it tastes gross and I don't know what to compare it with but I never had it before I was pregnant so I'm pretty sure it's related.

Mackrelmint · 19/09/2011 16:48

Thaleia - I was miserable for the whole of my first trimester when pregnant with DD - it wasn't just the sickness, but like you I felt overwhelmed and not ready and not sure we were doing the right thing etc. I was very gloomy, doubted my relationship, didn't want to tell anyone because I thought they'd judge me for not being happy, that kind of thing.

Then at some point a switch just turned and I was fine again and I really enjoyed the rest of my pregnancy.

Likewise, this itme, although the nausea is not so bad, I am feeling quite down and almost depressed - snapping at people, struggling to be cheerful about anything, weepy, anxious about moving soon, questioning my relationship again. DP and I are bickering a lot, which is horrible.

I think there must be something about the 1st trimester hormones that acts like a depressant on me. I had fairly severe depression in my early 20s that got a lot better when I came off the pill (Microgynon), so I know I don't react well to some hormones.

I think it's fairly common to feel down and depressed in pregnancy, but I think often, as with me last time, it does suddenly get better. I hope this is the case for you! And although it's horrible to keep feeling like you're hanging on and hanging on, you do just have to believe that things will get better, and just try to be kind to yourself in the meantime. I think that's all we can do.

Mackrelmint · 19/09/2011 16:51

SurprisEs - I have to brush my teeth as soon as I wake up every morning as my mouth tastes foul! I remember last time thinking that pregnancy felt like a nine-month hangover - waking up feeling sick with a horrible taste in your mouth, greasy hair and headaches and major carb cravings!

SurprisEs · 19/09/2011 17:20

Mackerelmint I feel like I need to brush my teeth all day. When I was pregnant with DD I didn't have this foul taste in my mouth so this time
It really got me off guard. Does anyone know what causes it? Or do I just need a dentist appointment? Lol sorry if tmi.

spannermary · 19/09/2011 19:01

Hi, all - me again. So I've got norovirus. Lovely - d&v here we come. Missed the symptoms at first ( thought nausea was just particularly bad). But when my dry-heaving suddenly wasn't so dry, and well - you know what the other symptom is Blush - I came straight home & called NHS direct. Been ordered off work till I've been symptom-free for 48h. Is it wrong that I'm quite looking forward to the rest? Baby won't be affected, btw (in case you guys succumb) as long as I don't get dehydrated.

As you were (and sorry for tmi at teatime)!

SurprisEs · 19/09/2011 19:21

Hope you feel better soon :) and enjoy the rest, even though not under the best of circumstances.

georgee · 19/09/2011 20:00

Ooh spannermary poor you - I had norovirus twice when I was pregnant last time. Not nice but over quite quickly and as you say, no affect on the baby. Sounds like the winter bugs are upon us already!

Like many others I'm not so good emotionally either - borderline OCD about hygiene (I wash my hands so often they're starting to get cracks in them - it's so grim) and convinced I'll do something to ruin it all. I threw away a perfectly good tub of houmous today because it didn't have that extra plastic seal around it that some have - the reasoning was I couldn't be sure it hadn't been opened. Poor DH is sick of me!

Twittle · 19/09/2011 20:38

La Triss thanks for the information on Hypnobirthing I am definitely going to look into it and will look at the websites you mentioned... anything that will help!

Bearcrumble thank you for the reassurrance about lactulose, a Boots pharmacist wouldn't give it to me today and told me to see my GP but I shan't tell them I'm pregnant when I next go in... don't think I can face many more prunes!!

Thalieia sorry to hear that you are feeling down about things, I agree with posts that it is probably due to hormones and hopefully in the second trimester things will improve for you. I have been feeling pretty rotten and tearful so far during this pregnancy but am keeping my fingers crossed that things will look a lot rosier soon...... I think this might happen once I have had a first scan, have now at least got an appointment with the midwife for booking in but will be over 9 weeks by then!!

Bearcrumble · 20/09/2011 08:05

Spannermary So sorry you've been stricken by the norovirus. Hope you get plenty of rest. You could buy Dioralyte (rehydration salts that you mix with water) if you're worried about getting dehydrated.

Thalieia I sympathise - I keep veering between terror and worry that something will go wrong and feeling miserable that next year will be 'back to square one' with the appalling tiredness, broken nights, frayed tempers and 'I'm going to break the baby' terror when I had been thinking we'd go on more exciting holidays and get to do a bit more stuff for ourselves when DS was that bit older. I feel guilty for thinking that because I am so lucky to be pregnant again. Also DH's job keeps getting more and more interesting and I am envious. Sometimes I feel like I want to scream doing the same old playgroup/park/coffee round someone's house shit. But there you go.

I had a pinkish steak last night. It was well seared on the outside, and I really really wanted it. Reading up it seems that it is safe to eat but I still have a bit of niggling guilt/worry. I'd been unable to eat and heaving all day, felt so miserable and it was the only thing I fancied.

Thaleia · 20/09/2011 11:03

Thanks to everybody, I feel so much better by what you said - it makes me want to cry. Sometimes it's really good to know it's not just me.

I can't believe what these hormones have done to me, I became such a wimp. Yesterday, I couldn't even bear to watch Grey's Anatomy because of all the blood and tears.

For me, it seems I have one good, one bad, one good, one bad ... day. And despite everything, I find it hard to be grateful for not actually being sick (yet). My mum had both times nothing! Why can't one inherit something like that, too?

Did any of the tips & tricks works for you? Thinking of going to Boots at lunchtime to get the acupressure sickness wrist brand.

VintageNancy · 20/09/2011 12:27

Aaaargh I've pulled my back! Have ice pack on and midwife says I can have paracetamol. I'm going to try and get in to see Doctor tomorrow. Not happy :(

Hope everyone else is okay. Can't use computer for long so haven't read back very far.

Mackrelmint · 20/09/2011 12:40

I can sympathise with the mixed feelings Bearcrumble. I have disliked my job for a few years, and would love to try to move to something I enjoy more, but I can't look for another job whilst pregnant, and I will probably end up taking another year of maternity leave if we can afford it. So it feels like anything for me is still on hold. And exciting holidays defo on hold for us at the moment too!

Of course I want another child, and I so desperately wanted to be pg, and I know I'm incredibly lucky to have conceived easily. It just always takes a bit of adjusting to every time you come up against that big old reality that You Can Not Do Everything You Want To.

I don't think it helps that since DD was born (14mo ago now) I haven't really done anything for myself in terms of hobbies/interests/going out. I have been out in the evening precisely twice, and been to one yoga class. I think perhaps if I had something that was just to do with me, and not me being mother and housekeeper and earner and so on, it would help. I think for some people their work gives them that to some extent, but as for me it really is only something I do to pay the bills and get no satisfaction from, I don't feel that at all.

spannermary hope you are feeling better soon!

georgee · 20/09/2011 14:36

Bearcrumble don't worry about the steak. I had a steak that was medium last time I was pregnant before I knew I was. And you're right, if it's sealed on the outside it's fine. My friend recently ate half a steak at a restaurant that was actually off (she didn't realise it at first). She was about 30 weeks pregnant at the time and she's due this week so nothing terrible came of it. I know what you mean though about the worry even if you know it's fine - I spend my entire life in a state of niggling worriedness!! x

HollyPockett · 20/09/2011 16:22

Hello All,

Sorry for the radio silence, work has been mental.

I'm 11 weeks tmrw and if this constant nausea doesn't magically disappear next Wednesday I'm gong to write a letter of complaint!

One good thing about the nausea is that I'm loosing weight! Not massive amounts but because I only want to eat small meals and lots of fruit, it's doing me the world of good!

My migraines have also made an appearance, which is nice - they've clustered and I'm on my 3rd one in 10 days. Not being able to take anything is just awful and today I fell asleep on the toilet at work for a bit just to try and help. It made me worse, so I'm now on a cup of Starbucks (my one a week I'm treating myself to) in the vain hope that the caffeine will help.

Who am I kidding!

x

mumofwilliam · 20/09/2011 19:45

hi all
hope all doing well - we had our 12 week scan today which was all good (amazing how much can see - didn't remember that from this scan last time!)

But now feels a bit real - and annoyed as will not get SMP but have to figure out how to do maternity allowance which sounds hard work!

Also need to change my date to March 31st offically now (not sure how to do it on the thing!) But can i stay in april please i like it here!

right enough ranting - still feeling nauseous and seems to be getting worse rather than better... so much for 12 weeks and feeling normal.

back to eastenders and more food.

Sugar26 · 21/09/2011 09:57

Hi all, back to working days now so not feeling quite so bad, sorry that your sickness is worse mumofwilliam. Mine seems to be easing a little, I now wake up absolutely starving but can't eat much before feeling sick again...just glad that its not as bad as it was.

Exciting to hear about everybody's scans, I have mine on Monday...I'm still terrified of bad news but trying to keep busy at work to take my mind off of it.

I have had risk assessment done at work and no more nights for me :-)

Hope everyone is feeling good today.

Rx

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 21/09/2011 11:24

Hello, I'm back, been up to stay with my parents for a week so they could help look after DS while I was dying

Got my scan a week tomorrow and then DSs first birthday the next week. Cant believe how quickly thats flown by! Got a friends DSs birthday this week, am sure they will notice I'm preg, as I look about 6m gone. If my scan was only a few days earlier I wouldnt have had to worry about them guessing...

splurs · 21/09/2011 15:06

Hello again everyone.

All these scans - so exciting!

I sympathise with all the comments about horrible work. I hate (and I use that word deliberately) my job and had been frantically looking for about 18 months before I fell pregnant. Ended up off work in May due to stress and depression, partly after my boss told me in April that everyone hated me (his words!). Just keep thinking that, with a bit of maternity leave, a few bank holidays and a bit of annual leave we've only got about 5 months left to go and then it will all be worth it Smile

Have also worked out that these pesky hormones can be quite useful on public transport. May be worth a shot if needed. Had a complete meltdown at York station yesterday afternoon purely because my train back down to London was cancelled due to a fire. DH was suitably supportive and hugged me and provided tissues until I eventually managed to get out of the station a couple of hours later but the real bonus was that no-one wanted to sit near the crazy lady on the train so I got a load of room to myself! Grin

Although I don't think I've quite managed to get back to the dizzy heights of one day a couple of weeks ago when DH served me gazpacho soup (he didn't realise when he bought it that it was meant to be served cold). I had no more than 1/4 a teaspoon before bursting into bawling tears with cries of "I don't like it!". He couldn't stop laughing for ages.

SurprisEs · 21/09/2011 15:19

splurs I've been relatively calm this time and only cried a couple of times saying I wanted tofeel normal again while DH tried his hardest not to laugh and be supportive.
But last pregnancy I cried for everything and the worst was when me and DH were trying to watch P.S. I love you and I wouldn't stop crying and made him turn it off less than 10 minutes into the film.

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 21/09/2011 15:21

crying I could cope with and DH could just laugh at me and DS look a bit puzzled.
temper tantrums are not so easy... :(

SurprisEs · 21/09/2011 15:31

Haven't had temper tantrums but I have become secret lazy tired and can't entertain the idea of sex.