April 2012 babies!

[RosyRosie]

Hello, not sure if there's a similar thread already but just thought I'd create somewhere for nayone else expecting in April 2012?

I actually conceived about 3wks ago but I think this counts as week 5? Just staring to get symptoms - headaches, little stirrings of nausea, getting tired and grumpier than usual lol.

A little bit concerned because I have a LOT of work on from now until October and maybe beyond - and I think I'm just going to want to sleep and puke through it all - hell! :( d'oh.

Just realised my mistake there!! Honestly my mind is all over I've never been this forgetful before! I'm not sure really it seems such a long wait 12weeks doesn't it.

Hi cod, this is dc4 for me, hats off to a fifth, I'm never going through pregnancy again thank goodness!

This will be my last, dh will be having the snip to make sure. I am slightly worried about pregnancy and a small baby with 4 other dc's but their all at school/preschool now so can hopefully squeeze in some afternoon naps

hi mums,

I thought id update the dates, hope u guys dont mind me still being on here?
its just at first i thought i was having a april fools baby. Turns out my new date is 28th of march and im 12 weeks and 2 days!

28th march newmummyvicky
1st April caramel
2nd April Dollybird99
2nd April knittymum23, 1DD - 2 yrs
2nd April LaTristesse (36) Kent, DS - 18 mo
2nd April mumofwilliam, 1DS - 11 mo
2nd April squiggles2311, DS - 16 mo
3rd April preggerscheggers, DD - 10 mo
4th April Sugar26
6th April aprilfoolsbaby, 1 DD - 3.4 yrs
6th April BiscuitChart
6th April Empusa (27) Herts
7th April AprilAl
7th April itsgoodtotalk, DS - 2.8
7th April scratchviolet, DD - 19 mo
7th April thinkoutofthetoybox, DS - 2.2
8th April happydaysahead, 2 DS's, 1 DD
9th April Cutelittlecatlover, DS - 21 mo
9th April StrandedInStLucia
10th April splurs
10th April vintagenancy
11th April Essexmumma, 1DD - 16 mo
11th April HollyPockett
11th April SandyChick, DS - 4 yrs
12th April Acceber, DD - 2.1 yrs
13th April whenskiesaregrey, DS - 2.1
14th April beyondthelimits, DS - 10 mo
14th April Piggymad
14th April spout, DS - 2.1 yrs
14th April SurprisEs, Kent, DD - 2.1 yrs
15th April cheaperthantherapy, DD 13mo
16th April Bearcrumble (38) DS 18mo
16th April bushymcbush, DD - 3 yrs
16th April digitalgirl, DS - 3 yrs
16th April MrsY (27) Kent, daughter - 2.5 yrs
16th April Zwitterion, DD
19th April themightyskim,
22nd April Thepuddingchef, DS - 5 yrs, DD - 3 yrs
22nd April WhenDoISleep, DS - 2.6 yrs
25th April Thusnelda (40) London, DD - Sep09
26th April JellytotZ, DD - 1.10 yrs
26th April MeconiumHappens
26th April Spannermary (34) Yorkshire
26th April Twittle, DS - 13 mo
30th April Cosmicmouse, DD - 2.1

Id thought id let u know my 12 week scan well went, i can now shout it out!!!!
i did drink a little too much water thought and the midwife told me to go to the toilet twice, which i found quite funny.
(I think 1 pint off water is enough, and if you drink it 1 hr before you go that should be fine)

We managed to get some photos they were £10 for 4 prints but the midwife did us a couple more sneaky ones! Is amazing and its so lovely seeing the baby moved round, it looked like it jumped and kept putting its legs up in the air.
Ive also been feeling less sick but not been sleeping great, hopefully 2night ill sleep a little better knowing baby is save and well.

Goodluck to all having scan soon, i know 12 weeks seems like a long wait but its worth it! x x

CODwidow I'm expecting dc6 on April 14th and this is definitely the last this is roughest pregnancy so far and I'm only hitting 10 weeks I'm just praying the sickness eases off after 12-14 weeks (fingers crossed)

Oh wow! I'm glad there are more crazy people out there lol I only found out a few days ago so apart from tiredness, lots of toilet trips and mahoosive boobs I'm symptom free. I have 4 ds's and struggled badly with sickness with all of them so just awaiting for it's arrival but it has always passed by 14wks . How old are your 5dc's?

Hi Everyone! We just had another scan on this wed at 7w 3d and it was all ok. One more next week and then our surrogate is starting to see her own doctor instead of being under the ivf clinic's care. I can't go 4 weeks until the 12w scan thought without an appointment with our history of 10mc !!! Also since we'll need to travel all the way to Texas to be at that 12w scan we want to be sure it's all still ok! Somehow good news just didn't manage to make me happy but anxious still. I guess it's because I've had a missed mc at about 9w after a heartbeat at 7w. Trying to put it out of my mind and concentrate on my ds and my parents who are visiting from another country. Feeling very emotional though and tearful even and unfortunately my poor husband getting the worst of it...
Have several friends also pregnant but further along and with no previous problems so feeling like it'll just go wrong for me again and they'll all have their babies which is also making me a bit sad.
Anyway trying to keep it all together and get to the next week . Hope everyone else is doing ok!
P.s. Can someone please add me to the list?!
29th April Nordicmom (36) London, DS - 6y
Thanks

I did add you Nordic, on the stats thread... glad to hear things are going ok for you. Does the surrogate stand a greater chance of mc, or are you worried because of your personal history? Fingers crossed for you this will all be trouble-free.

All ok here, I have 12 week scan on Wednesday, so will start shouting about it after that, all being well. Can't wait as it's been super lonely up until now, only Mumsnet keeping me sane!

COD my lot are 9,7,6, almost 3 and 21 months I seem to forget just how rough pregnancy is . When I was pregnant with dc5 I swore that was it , can't do this again. I think I'm just a glutton for punishment .

Wow mine are 8,7,5 and 3 so not too much different I swore dc 4 was the last I had a horrible pregnancy and had forgotten how hard having a tiny baby is but then broodiness set in again but this is truly it

LaTristesse, as far as I know there isn't a more of a miscarriage risk in general doing surrogacy ( and our surrogate has had 3 kids of her own with no problems) but I'm feeling down because of the reason why I always miscarry ( exept with my first pregnancy with my son) was never diagnosed even though they tested me for everything and actually also tried the treatment for natural killer cells ,that was mentioned earlier in thread, with steroids. Unfortunately the worst happened with that even though I was seeing a famous specialist in London and the steroids distroyed my health( possibly for life !) and after 9 mth of tests I was diagnosed with Secondary Addrenal Insuffiency by an Endriniologist and now need to spend possibly the rest of my life taking further steroids and painkillers etc. So I have paid a very high price for any baby I hopefully have in the end. I personally would warn again any stereoid therapies althought they work for some people and would have never taken them if I'd known the dangers !!!! I wish somebody had given me all the information I later found on the internet while trying find out what was wrong with me . Now I'm left wondering how well I'll be able to cope with a baby and my son since I have daily pain etc can't walk well some days let alone bend on the floor to change a baby etc but we will then just have to get help if I need it . After 4 years of trying and failing I feel doomed and afraid there's something wrong with the embryos we don't know about .... I have no bases for this thought and we've had them tested for the right amount of chromosomes with the ivf since it is the most common reason for miscarriage.
Hopefully this time will work out ok and I might even recover later on from my ilness . In the meantime I 'm taking one day at a time and doing what I can and resting if I have a bad day . It's lucky in a way that my son is older and at school even thought I originally would have liked a smaller age difference . I feel like I'll be able to cope with one baby and an older child ( he's 6 ,5 y) but would have been in trouble with two little ones!
Looking forward to seeing a scan in a month and a bit , maybe it'll make it seem more real since otherwise a distant situation since our surrogate is in another country and I 'm not pregnant unlike every other time when I've always had a lot of symptoms from day one and very sick . As in felt the pregancy every moment even before showing.. .
Sorry for the long post , felt like needed to explain our situation a bit further since it's such an odd thing to do this surrogacy :).

Wow that sounds like such a tough situation for you. I'm sorry for asking questions; I hope I didn't stir up a whole load of stuff you weren't ready to share... I hope you have good support around you...

cod-just interested to know how you have found 4? Mine will be nearly6,4 and 2 when dc4 arrives and although this pregnancy was planned I'm all of a sudden in a panic about how ill cope feeling quite anxious :(

Buns I'm not going to lie it is hard work mentally and emotionally but it is also so much fun. We do usually have a half hearted attempt at being organised each week otherwise washing/homework/shopping/cleaning falls behind and I try to spend one on one time with everyone each day just chatting about their day. I am also having this panic now as we planned dc5 but now it's actually happened I'm scared I won't have time for everyone! I think you'll be just fine

LaTristesse , I don't mind sharing . I've told everyone openly what's going on the whole time. I'm just hoping these really hard years finish soon ! Have to say I'm sick of trying and always failing. But I do have a bunch of good friends around where I live. Made a lot of other mommy friends once I had my son and have stayed home with him. My little boy and husband plus friends keep me going!

Nordic can't imagine how you feel. Here we are complaining about feeling sick and tired and I bet you wish you were going through it yourself. You're a brace woman.
Silly question, but I know nothing about surrogacy: why a mother in Texas and not someone nearer to home?

Re boss, I have my money and I'll never have to see him again. hurray!

Went to the cinema last night with DH. It was fun and nice to have some relaxing alone time. Was sick as I walked out the door and in a bin as I left the cinema though... People must have thought I was drunk being Saturday night!

Yay, SurprisEs - that's great news! (not the being sick bit...natch). We're going to the cinema on Wednesday evening which is a bit brave for me, I reckon! Colin Firth calls...what can a girl do?

My grumble of the day? Spots!!! I hate my skin right now...I look like a teenager. And not in a good way.

Looking forward to the 'blooming' bit of pregnancy. Not sure it'll ever happen!

SurprisEs, I knew nothing about surrogacy either until after the 10th miscarriage even thought I had been on those steroids. I felt I couldn't keep on going down the more normal route and we had to think about our options . IVF was pointless for us since I had no problems conceiving but holding on the pregnancy. I looked into adoption and then to surrogacy. We decided to go to the US for the surrogacy since it seemed more straightforward there. Here there are no actual surrogacy agencies like there and the law is different so it's whole lot more complicated in England. The process is very time consuming and expensive but it seems so much more clear to go through an agency where there's a system in place and everything is planned with people who know what they are doing . Also in this country the surrogate mother only legally gives up her rights when the baby is 6w old, in the US in some states like Texas you can have your names on the baby's birth certificate right away. Once we are back here with the baby the surrogate has to still give up her rights when the baby is 6w and then there's a legal process to go through but we've got our english lawyer ready to do that. We didn't feel comfortable to go to a poorer country than the US for surrogacy because we felt we would have been taking advantage of somebody who is desperate . Our surrogate is middle class , educated, older (my age , I'm 36) married mother of three. We feel like she's in a situation where she has options and clearly wants to help someone like us and is not doing it just for the money. Also I feel like she's very mature and sensible person. n general she's a lovely lady and I'll always be grateful to her for doing this for us ! Can't quite believe someone can be that giving!!! Lucky we found her...
I do wish I could carry my own child like last time but at least I've been able to experience it once and know what it's like. I loved feeling the baby move etc but don't miss the 8 1/2 mths(!) nausea I had until my son was born . I had a miserable pregnancy so can sympathise with all you guys going through the symptoms now!
Happy to hear you got your work thing finally sorted ! :)

Nordicmom, you've really been through a lot - and not finding out why all these miscarriages happened must be very frustrating. It sounds like you've found a perfect surrogate now, hopefully it'll all go swimmingly from now on!
My neighbour has had a baby with a surrogate mum here, but I think it was arranged quite privately and it sounds like the surrogate is also the biological mother. My neighbour is about 60 and her husband in his thirties, it's the first child for him but she's got a few grown up children already! I think she had to formally adopt the baby but the husband is on the birth certificate anyway. It does take all sorts!

Hi everyone lovely to hear lots of you are having scans, and seeing and hearing your babies heartbeats, it is so exciting and reassuring!

I haven't even had a booking in appointment yet...! Have been trying to catch up in about 20minutes there are so many posts but just two quick questions:

Can anyone give me any advice on constiptation I had it a little bit with my DS but this time its a nightmare, I am eating prunes, bran, drinking water but nothing seems to help, does anyone know if its ok to take lactulose?? I would ask the MW but haven't seen her yet!

Also La Triss I was interested to read that you used hypnobirthing last time around.... I didn't have a great time with DS had every induction method and then 2 epidurals (which were my saviour) but I am a panicker and a worrier and I think hypnobirthing sounds like something that would really help me, how do I learn more about it, is it taught on a course, or do I get a book??? Thank you!

Hi All. Now I've had my dating scan I feel I can add myself to the ever growing list :o

28th march newmummyvicky
1st April caramel
2nd April Dollybird99
2nd April knittymum23, 1DD - 2 yrs
2nd April LaTristesse (36) Kent, DS - 18 mo
2nd April mumofwilliam, 1DS - 11 mo
2nd April squiggles2311, DS - 16 mo
3rd April preggerscheggers, DD - 10 mo
4th April Sugar26
4th April Uglymush (31) Cumbria
6th April aprilfoolsbaby, 1 DD - 3.4 yrs
6th April BiscuitChart
6th April Empusa (27) Herts
7th April AprilAl
7th April itsgoodtotalk, DS - 2.8
7th April scratchviolet, DD - 19 mo
7th April thinkoutofthetoybox, DS - 2.2
8th April happydaysahead, 2 DS's, 1 DD
9th April Cutelittlecatlover, DS - 21 mo
9th April StrandedInStLucia
10th April splurs
10th April vintagenancy
11th April Essexmumma, 1DD - 16 mo
11th April HollyPockett
11th April SandyChick, DS - 4 yrs
12th April Acceber, DD - 2.1 yrs
13th April whenskiesaregrey, DS - 2.1
14th April beyondthelimits, DS - 10 mo
14th April Piggymad
14th April spout, DS - 2.1 yrs
14th April SurprisEs, Kent, DD - 2.1 yrs
15th April cheaperthantherapy, DD 13mo
16th April Bearcrumble (38) DS 18mo
16th April bushymcbush, DD - 3 yrs
16th April digitalgirl, DS - 3 yrs
16th April MrsY (27) Kent, daughter - 2.5 yrs
16th April Zwitterion, DD
19th April themightyskim,
22nd April Thepuddingchef, DS - 5 yrs, DD - 3 yrs
22nd April WhenDoISleep, DS - 2.6 yrs
25th April Thusnelda (40) London, DD - Sep09
26th April JellytotZ, DD - 1.10 yrs
26th April MeconiumHappens
26th April Spannermary (34) Yorkshire
26th April Twittle, DS - 13 mo
30th April Cosmicmouse, DD - 2.1

Hey Twittle, always happy to talk about Hypnobirthing, I feel like it changed everything for me, from my outlook on childbirth to being able to cope with so many other situations I'd previously found so difficult.
It doesn't obviously guarantee you a straightforward delivery but it does give you the tools to deal with whatever comes your way, and either way it'll feel much more positive!. You're not hypnotized like you'd see on a Derren Brown show or anything, just in a state of deep relaxation which is perfect for labour- our bodies inherently know what to do, we just have to keep calm enough to let nature do its thing!
I went on a course with this practitioner who's in SE London www.tums2mums.com/, it was quite expensive but worth every penny IMO... You get the book free, with lots of MP3s which I also found invaluable - I listened to them throughout my labour. You could just buy the book, but the course gave me lots of opportunities to ask questions, practice the exercises and get plenty of reassurance and support. You do have to put some practise in before you go into labour, and the breathing takes a little time to master, but becomes second nature quite quickly.
You should be able to find a local practitioner on the national website -
www.hypnobirthing.co.uk/ but do have a read of some of the testimonials on the Tums to Mums site, inspirational stuff, I thought...
Feel free to ask more if you want, I can't speak highly enough about it!

12 weeks today for me - yay! And scan on Wednesday, excited now, but scared too!

Good morning everyone :)

Nordic thanks for sharing your experiences. Very enlightening. Good luck!

So, ten weeks today (if my dates are right) and still no sign of a booking in appointment or scan date... I really need that scan as I'm so confused about the dates. Anyone else 10 weeks and still not seen a midwife?

Morning all!

Just been catching up. Good to hear about all the positive scans and welcome to newbies. V impressed with those on no 3/4/5/6!!!..

V glad you got your money SurprisEs - wonderful news.

Nordicmom - I really hope the surrogacy works out for you after all you have been through. It sounds like a really good set-up; although v difficult for you of course being so far away.

I still haven't got a booking in appointment - think I am 9 weeks today. Nausea has eased off a lot and I have no other symptoms really, so I have started to question myself that I am actually pg! May have to do another test to reassure myself - probably some time before I get a scan.

Interesting about the hypnobirthing... I think I'll look into it. I did pregnancy yoga from 13-40 weeks last time, and loved it, but although it helped for early contractions (lots of hip rocking), once they got stronger I just felt out of control and desperate for help.

I was thinking epidural this time, but might at least give the hypno training a go. Starting to consider homebirth again; tried last time, but transferred to hospital in the end, in search of an epidural, although it was too late by the time I got there.

Anyway, I'm gibbering on sorry. Ought to get on with some work...