November 2011 - more hand holding, scans and 2nd trimester chat coming up.....

[Katiebeau]

New thread chatty girls.......

i dont think taylor jean is chavvy at all, i like it!

Well my edd from the mw is 22/11 but the date from my early scan was 20/11 so we will see what my scan on monday says. Really nervous about it!

My top girls names at the mo (in no particular order) Susie, Milly, Naomi, Libby

hey chatterboxes,

All good here we've absolutely no idea about names, and aren't really discussing it apart from suggesting ridiculous ones...at least I hope that's what he's doing... Bubba anyone?

I've got great mat leave so taking 12 months. Was hoping to finish at 35 weeks, but may work more than that if can so can have more time with baby. Anyone else working til 35 weeks plus? Love the thought it starting it in july!

Collie if you do want an honest answer, I'm really not keen Taylor Jean. Go with your instinct. Don't hate me!

snuggled down and watching one born every minute, AGAIN!

TerrysNo2 thanks for that link - it seems like common sense to say we should all be eating healthily, regardless of what we weigh.

PamSco like you I generally eat the right things just too much and in the wrong proportions. I was almost jealous of the girl on Misbehaving Mums to Be who ate takeaway every night - I was almost as fat as her and never did that! Why did she get to have takeouts and not me??

alicat I love millie / milly too - did you read the Millie Molly Mandy books as a child?

My mat leave is somewhere in the middle - 6wks at 90% (which I think is statutory), then a few weeks at 50%, then a few more at 25% before SMP. I can't afford to go down to SMP as I'm the main wage-earner in the family. Have you all heard about Nick Clegg's new rules though? We're thinking that DH might take half my mat leave. I'm v jealous as he'll get the summer, but financially it makes sense.

I was sorting my maternity pay options out today as well they are quite good.

1-12 weeks 100% pay
13-39 weeks SMP + the 15% benefits package we get as part of our salary
39-52 weeks the 15% benefits package

If I cancel all my benefits I 'll get a wee bit of cash.

Don't know the Milly Molly Mandy books - I think I like it because of This Life!

Had DD been a boy she would have been William but the Royal Wedding I think has ruled that one out

Hey ladies, thank-you for the support. I know that I have a wonderful DP, I just can't help feeling rather annoyed at him for not speaking to me about the fact he was worried and wanted to speak to the MW.... haven't been able to speak to him about it yet as I when I got home from work so DP was just starting (and I'll be asleep before he gets home).

Anyway, MW managed to call back before I had to pick up DS. After a long and tearful phone conversation we have a plan and I now need to get a GP appt easier said than done. MW told me off for being a typical nurse... caring for everyone else but not fully looking after myself!!! The worrying thing is I have been trying to look after myself but it is so unnatural to me as I am so used to looking after others - DS, DP, patients, colleagues.

I have been making sure I eat properly ms allowing, exercise adequately fatigue allowing, and resting when I need to DS & work allowing.

MW was really positive though and when talking to her she was really sympathetic and has said I can call her whenever I feel I need to. Having chatted things through with MW she said that it may just be hormones being up & down alongside recent bereavement that is causing episodes of tearfulness and snapping. It not constant, I have a few good days and then they are followed by a couple of nightmare days. But MW did say that I am high risk of slipping into ante-natal depression if I don't have it mild already :(

In some ways it has made me feel better knowing that it isn't me just not coping with early pregnancy. At the same time I feel really guilty that I am putting DS and DP through emotional turmoil due to being low in mood myself. DP doesn't know what is best to do he gets moaned at for asking if I want anything & moaned at if he doesn't offer me when he gets himself something but is trying his best and I love that he cares.

On a positive note, I am loving the talk of baby names & decorating of rooms, it is so exciting thinking of all the baby bits :).

Hey ladies, thank-you for the support. I know that I have a wonderful DP, I just can't help feeling rather annoyed at him for not speaking to me about the fact he was worried and wanted to speak to the MW.... haven't been able to speak to him about it yet as I when I got home from work so DP was just starting (and I'll be asleep before he gets home).

Anyway, MW managed to call back before I had to pick up DS. After a long and tearful phone conversation we have a plan and I now need to get a GP appt easier said than done. MW told me off for being a typical nurse... caring for everyone else but not fully looking after myself!!! The worrying thing is I have been trying to look after myself but it is so unnatural to me as I am so used to looking after others - DS, DP, patients, colleagues.

I have been making sure I eat properly ms allowing, exercise adequately fatigue allowing, and resting when I need to DS & work allowing.

MW was really positive though and when talking to her she was really sympathetic and has said I can call her whenever I feel I need to. Having chatted things through with MW she said that it may just be hormones being up & down alongside recent bereavement that is causing episodes of tearfulness and snapping. It not constant, I have a few good days and then they are followed by a couple of nightmare days. But MW did say that I am high risk of slipping into ante-natal depression if I don't have it mild already :(

In some ways it has made me feel better knowing that it isn't me just not coping with early pregnancy. At the same time I feel really guilty that I am putting DS and DP through emotional turmoil due to being low in mood myself. DP doesn't know what is best to do he gets moaned at for asking if I want anything & moaned at if he doesn't offer me when he gets himself something but is trying his best and I love that he cares.

On a positive note, I am loving the talk of baby names & decorating of rooms, it is so exciting thinking of all the baby bits :).

*sorry about the double post

glad you're feeling better bump, im loving the chat too, going to watching another one born every minute I think :)

missynorfolk I'm too scared to watch one born every minute.... Think I'm in denial! Haha

Well after the success of my scan everyone has now been informed :) everyone seems really happy and pleased for us! My DNie screamed and ran around the house before phoning me up to tell me what a great big cousin she is gonna make haha.... All seems very real now!

good H007! glad you had good reactions. I guess im still at the worrying not quite excited stage, so want the scan to go well so that i can be excited too, bring on monday.

My mat package is 12 weeks. At most 4 weeks before due date and then the remainder after.
8 weeks are at full pay and the last 4 weeks no pay.

I think I'll quit beforehand, as I want to visit family and in general wanted to have at least 8 weeks off beforehand.
I also can't offset notice period with maternity leave :(

Morning, bump sounds like you have a few things in place should you need it, being pg does wierd things to us eh?

Folic we are the same as you, discussing crazy names. Haven't actually got any I like currently but am hoping to find out the flavour which should at least give us a direction to go in with a name!

I won't look at my mat leave, as I think it is something like 6 weeks at 90% then a couple at half then smp but if am back on these pt hours its going to equal about zero anyway. I would love a new job as things havent been too great at work in general and it was only a stop gap anyway. Easier said than done hence why applying for MA's and the like. My line managers manager rang the office yesterday and in her usual rather thoughtless way 'ah well we will be sorry to lose you', I sat there trying to breathe and say 'well I wasn't planning in leaving forever you know!', as my boss said, sure she didnt mean it like that but 10 points for lack of thinking before speaking on her behalf!

Was hoping to go shopping with a friend today but as payday is actually Sunday, nada in the bank, so may just go and have a coffee instead. I just feel so restless, hate not being able to plan, i.e mat leave, work etc.

Morning all,

bumpsand Glad that your MW was sympathetic and is making sure that you are looked after.

My mat pay is 6 weeks at 90%, 12 weeks at 50% plus SMP and then 21 weeks at SMP, plus we get holidays and bank holidays off in lieu, I have figured out that if I'm really careful I should be able to manage to stay off all this time, so should be only going back to work in August 2012, will be very very tight moneywise from Feb to June, but there are plenty of things to do for free and I've budgeted for a gym membership and going to the cinema once a week so shouldn't be too horrendous! Remember that we also get child allowance when the bairn is born so that should help too :)

We have totally settled on a boy's name, have had one for almost all the time that I've been pregnant, but are struggling with a girl's name, although have a short list at least now.

Morning all,

Just wanted to say bump don't forget any time your feeling crappy or down, were always here!! [Grin]

Feel free to rant or moan or feel sorry for yourself as much as you like! We'll try to help!

Pam I can't believe you mat leave is such a raw deal! I though (I may be wrong!) That legally allowed 12 months off, even if its only at smp! Then its up to you to decide whether. You go back at the end! Just make sure you check the rules before you hand your notice in, would hate for you to throw away the money!

Hi Staceroo,

I assume you are referring to me?
I don't live and work in the UK and this is the standard package here :(

It's a rather hot and humid country, so I cannot see myself work that close to dropping.
Also, we had never budgeted with me working whilst we are out here for DH's job, so I will have earned a nice little bonus by the time I leave.

Just a shame that the terms here are so bad, otherwise I'd have considered working from home the last month before mat leave starts.

Oh well

Morning all :) Hang on in all people waiting for scans, they'll be here soon enough.

Did Yoga for Pregnancy last night, first time I've ever done yoga. Fell asleep on the sofa as soon as I got home, crawled to bed then slept through. Must have had at least 10 hours!

Maybe I'll give Yoga a go then Pam?

I'd love to sleep 10 hours, heck, even 6 hours withough break :)

Where I used to work ran a pg mums yoga class. It was totally over subscribed! Unfortunately it now isnt running and am so not paying! Sounds very good though!

OOOh Pam I just read up in a magazine about yoga for pregnancy and wanted to give it a go. I did do yoga course many stonesmoons ago. Was it a DVD or a book you did?

Bumps Glad you are feeling better for having spoken to the mw. I know what you mean, I would be pretty mad if OH had called behind my back but he did do the right thing and has opened up a channel of support for you so don't give him too hard a time! You lost someone close, that's enough to put anyone in a spin, let alone all the crazy hormones. Take care.

Well TTIF, first five day week in a long time and I'm feelin' it!

omg don't know what is worng with me, am watching yet another one born every minute, and am crying all the way through, even crying at the disneyworld adverts!! Oh god I need to get a grip!!!!

Morning everyone. Good luck to any scanees today. Another lovely day.

Bumps I second what Folic said, don't be too hard on DH or yourself. I still burst in to tears randomly sometimes if I think about my Uncle who died some 12 years ago . See - tearful now. With pg hormones to add in no one should be surprised you feel weepy. Glad MW is friendly and will keep an eye on things though.

My maternity package is quite good. 18 weeks full pay and car allowance for all the time I am off + SMP after 18 weeks. Holidays carried over/paid etc. We are trying to save about 2/5 of my salary each month (tight!!) so hopefully we can stretch that out for another couple of months. I work from home mostly so I am hoping to work as late as I can. Last time though I said the same but bloody SPD/PGP (what ever name they use this year) had me giving up at 36 weeks.

Twojacks - so impressed with your budgeting. Cinema trips etc. That's detailed....

Folic 5 day week is killing me and DD has obviously got used to more Mummy time at home. 1st time ever didn't want to leave for nursery today. "Say home, cuddle Mummy today" says she. Off to find some superglue to stick my heart back together.

Folic it was a yoga class, £54 for 6 classes. I was a bit nervous just turning up didn't know what to expect. I'm chucking money at anything that says it could make labour easier - hypnobirthing and yoga. Then save save save!

katieb I vowed to start saving the same as you but we keep saying "oh well, we won't be treating ourselves much after Nov". So wrong lol! After this weekend the saving starts.

MissyN :) stop watching the scary programme!!!!! I'm planning on walking into that birth centre never having watched a single birth programme. 1. I'm completely squeamish and 2. I'd scare myself stupid that everything will go wrong. Ignorance is my bliss. Me and Kate Bush bluring on the MP3 will get through it - oh and OH :)

Talking of music - if you could choose what piece of music was playing as your precious DC entered the world, what would it be?

I'm going with the theme from Rocky.