November 2011 - more hand holding, scans and 2nd trimester chat coming up.....

[Katiebeau]

New thread chatty girls.......

lk congrats on getting the all clear, so pleased for you. And to find out it's a girl, how exciting to know!

It nice to hear everyone is 'coming out'. It's so exciting. However is anyone very anxious about it? I'm 11+5. Had a private scan this week and have my nhs scan in a fortnight. We don't plan to tell anyone (apart from close family and 2 close friends out of neccessity) until the nhs scan. But even then I'm really anxious about telling people. We've agreed no fb annoucement, and I really don't know how I feel about purposefully contacing people to tell them. Part of me wants to share the news and another is too petrified to. (I'm mc in dec and found out at my dating scan) does anyone else feel the same?

Oooh thank you all you lovely ladies for keeping my spirits high, youve made me giggle out loud this morning the in the hairdressers at fanjo cams!

Just wanted to drop a note to all of those who are still feeling like rubbish, as you will know from a previous post I felt like a horror for weeks on end (understandable now, as I know I have an intolerance to oestrogen, no doubt having a little girl hasnt helped!).Anyway, I'm 14 weeks tomorrow and am feeling like a different person - nausea is down to half an hour a day, no afternoon napping and generally i have more energy - i just wante dto let you know there is light at the end of the tunnel!

Oh LK thanks for that vote of confidence, am really hoping that my sickness buggers off in the next couple of weeks, I'm so sick of throwing up!

Woohoo for lots of great scan and test news - knowing for sure its a girl already that's so exciting LK - you must be shattered after sure an emotional week.

I am feeling pretty rubbish today - tired, bit headachy, bit fainty and just a bit outside myself - like I'm far away from everything that's happening - not great with a 4 yr old and 2 yr old in tow. Hormones have got me feeling a bit down as well - I know a couple of people who had MMC between 12 and 20 weeks and now I'm getting a bit pre-occupied with that (high of last week's scan has definitely warn off) - no idea why I'm being like this as wasn't pessimistic last 2 times.

Not helped by trying to get a doppler and failing twice as Amazon has twice sent me the wrong (and much cheaper) model while charging me the full price so I thought I'd be having a go at finding heartbeat to reassure myself this afternoon but instead I've been having a row with customer services grr.

And BTW Next mat leggings are rubbish - gone baggy at knees after being warn about twice - H&M much better.

Anyway I will stop moaning and try and pull myself together - midwife on 18th so not too far away for some reassurance

Ik that's fantastic news!

mash I had an internal scan pre-pg to check a fibroid but not at 12 wk scan, does sound like they were offering 'extra' service :)

I got my downs results yesterday, 1 in 10,000 so I don't think I'll be having an amnio thank you very much

Am 13 wks today so made my next app at the mw for nxt wk to check the rest of my blood results etc... No more nausea, but still tired and v hungry, have a desk drawer full of biscuits & jaffa cakes!

So after all of the gnashing and thrashing about, scan today went fine. Baby with heartbeat, arms, legs, toes etc, moving about. NT 1.5, which I think is average, bloods (which were as usual impossible to squeeze from me, both arms ), won't be available for at least a week. They're putting me at 14+0 with an EDD of 4.11.11, which is confusing as I thought I was 13+5 and EDD 13.11.11, somewhere the dates don't quite add up right, but either way it isn't going to make a hill of beans. It was super-busy at the antenatal unit, some of cmws complaining about lack of breaks for food , but otherwise a pleasant enough experience. So will try & rest easy for a few days.
Hope truffkin had a similarly good time and good luck for upcoming scanees.

lk That's such fantastic news! Also had tears in my eyes when I caught up on your post, good old pregnancy hormones.

MrsArchchancellor Also highly amused by fanjo, haven't heard it before but think it's my new favourite word!

Finally have my scan on Monday and am half nervous / half excited. Will be nice to finally have confirmation that there's something in there.

Am still exhausted and the heat isn't helping, so hot in London today!

Hope everyone's got nice plans for the weekend.

yay for jamama so pleased for you.

LK - great news that every thing is ok with your little girl :) Plus lots of lovely scan news from other people so yay :) :)

Had my nuchal scan yesterday and im 12 weeks today, it measured 53mm so its amazing to think how quick it grows when other peoples are a cm bigger one week on! Measurement was 1.5 which I'm assuming is good? Will get a phone call in 2/3 days if theres a high risk otherwise a letter in a week. Have every thing crossed. Baby had a nasal bone, which I've read earlier is a good sign though.

This is baby number 4 and I can def tell as my stomach is a lot bigger then it was with my others at this stage, its normally flat but I currently have a pot! I do look fairly pregnant (I'm hoping) as everything else is still behaving and staying slim!

No movement here but its still tiny so not suprised, cant wait to start feeling it though.

We've told both sets of Grandparents now, his were over the moon and mine were gutted as we expected. Still cant be openly pregnant as havent told my dds dad as he wont take it well and I'm hoping if I leave it a few more weeks he might sort himself out a bit more and be in a better frame of mind to take the news. He basically has major problems with me being in a relationship as he doesnt want 'his' children to have any thing to do with another man as he feels he been replaced. Makes things fairly difficult and means were having to be very careful about dds and my boyfriend is having to wait to move in because of it all.

ANy way none of it matters as long as this little ones healthy :)

Mashpot unless you've had previous issues with your cervix and they were double checking it was all okay, I wonder if they used the cam because they were having difficulties getting a good image? If you are quite curvy then the scan quality can be reduced, also if your bladder didn't quite push the baby up into a good view above your pelvis they might use an internal one. Glad your hubby got to see great pics of the baby but I'm not surprised you were a bit .
Collieandpup I totally hear you on the worry about announcing your news. My hubby is rubbish at it. I had to push him onto the phone to his mother. My biggest fear is that something goes wrong just after we've gone public.
Still got lots of lovely comments from friends. My family were a bit rubbish... MIL said it explained why I hadn't bother to cook much during her stay and she said she thought I'd been moody as well (she was here during the height of my bleed) but with me it's hard to tell. So many passive aggressive digs in one phone call. My aunt's the one who really pissed me off though. I rang everyone I could yesterday, put it up on Facebook but it was too late to call my gran so I planned to call her first thing this morning with the news only to find out my childless aunt had rung five minutes before me to break the news. She hadn't bother to call me, and appeared to have phrased it in a way that my gran thought this child was an unplanned surprise too soon after DS whereas I think the gap couldn't be better. I wouldn't mind but my aunt's had quite a few abortions (she's the other woman and her partner wouldn't leave his wife) and I wouldn't have dreamt about announcing her 'news' to my Catholic gran. Not very kind I know ... :( but I'm feeling a bit disappointed.

Poppet that's terrible about your aunt. Why be so mean and stir things up? She's obviously not very happy with her own life. And your MIL too! Really unnecessary. Just concentrate on your good news and celebrate with friends. Looking forward to being able to announce it properly, though I share your worries too. Am also going to have to hide it from work while I wait for them to give me another 3 months on my contract which will take me up to end of October.

Sorry you've had some rubbish reactions Poppet some people can be utterly thoughtless (or just downright mean in the case of your Aunt!) and I hope it hasn't taken the shine off your lovely news.

I'm hoping everyone will be happy for us and I can't think of any reason why not. i'm a little worried about how to tell my best friend as she has been dealing with her own fertility issues for almost 3 year and had a mc just before Christmas so although I know she will be pleased for us, I'm sure it will be difficult to hear the news. I'm due to see her in a few weeks so ma thinking I might tell her during a phone call to give her time to get used to it, rather than having to react to me in person. Of course I wouldn't dream of referencing that it might be difficult for her when I tell her, wouldn't want her to think I'm second guessing her feelings or reaction, but want to give her some space to deal with any upset if she feels that way. I know I'm thinking about this a lot but it has been playing on my mind since we found out we were pregnant and am so determined not to 'get in wrong' IFKWIM.

Only 14 1/2 hours to go until our scan now, we're in at half nine in the morning so am hoping they can't have got far behind on the appointments by then, am assuming we're second in the queue!

So I did get special treatment! poppet she told me before she did the normal belly scan that they would do an internal scan so wasn't a problem with the scan pics but anyway, I better get used to people poking around down there so no problem!

collie I feel exactly the same about announcing. Dh and I haven't even told all our immediate family yet (following scan on Weds) but we will do that over weekend and I haven't told any friends yet. It does seem strange to tell people after keeping it quiet for so long. I don't feel ready to tell work yet either, I'll give it a couple of weeks and see how I feel, or if a sudden bump means I have to confess!

Good luck tomorrow Truffkin I hope you enjoy it.

I've had similar worries about telling people. My husband's grandmother was lovely - after enquiring about my health, she spent the call telling us about the 3 other great grandchildren that are expected this year! His parents were not so much - his step-father's first response was "Why?", both more than inferred my husband needs to go get 'fixed', and basically say that they are happy for us but do not get us having a fourth at all. Quite disheartening (and makes me more worried about what they'd say if, God forbid, something goes wrong). I haven't told my family yet, as they live in the States and we don't really talk much, probably won't til after the 20 week scan when I can answer all their questions at once. My kids are very excited though which is nice.

ImBrian I'm feeling the same - I'm on number 4 and I just feel like I look huge this time.

Thanks Guys. I'm not actually down by it, as I know her life is complicated, I guess I'm just bemused because I hadn't epected her to do that. I think she just didn't think. At least I hope so. However I'm still waiting for her to say 'congrats' but guess maybe I shouldn't bother.

AAAAAAhhhhhh am finding this keeping it a secret thing really difficult at work! Really struggling with what to wear, someone at work asked me out right today if I was because i was eating AGAIN. And I had to deny it but I went bright red! And someone else commented on the way I was sitting, saying that anyone would think I was pregnant sitting like that!!!!!!

I have another 9 days until my scan, 5 days of work to get through!!! Am really struggling. I didn't realise I looked pregnant?! I don't know how I'm going to get through it! I think I'm going to have to make myself scarce at lunch and tea breaks and not spend too long in the staff room so that people can't talk to or at me!!! I never realised it would be so hard to hide!!!!!

truffkin I was in the same situation as you with one of my friends in fact she told me her IVF failed, the day I got my BFP.... Last week I couldn't bear it anymore so I sent a small group of friends including her a text apologising for not attending a certain event and on the end asking if any of them would be free to babysit in 6 and a half months ;) I decided texting was the best way as she could then deal with it in her own time and when I do see her everything will be fine and no awkwardness... It took me a long time to make my decision. I also add that it was early days and I'd appreciate it if it was our secret!

I'm doing the big reveal on Monday. I have to tell my ex, and I don't think he will be happy at all, at least initially. He was very upset when I was pregnant three years ago. Admittedly I had left him to set up with our plasterer. I'm sure he was pleased when we lost the baby.

This time round, as I'm now single, and it was donor sperm as well as egg, he has no reason to be jealous. I still think he will react negatively at first, so I will email him even though we talk on the phone most days, so he can have his reaction in private. I came into some money when my dad died last year, so the fact that I can pay for this baby myself, and won't be stretching the money he gives me for the others to pay for it will help, I hope!

After four years apart we have booked a holiday together with the kids in July as we've been getting on fine recently. We now go out to dinner all together if there is a birthday (in fact he insisted on paying for all on my 50th in March), and we both fancy a film that the kids want to see, we just both go, and one gets the tickets and the other the snacks. I think the fact that we are both single helps to avoid conflict. He really hated the plasterer!

I don't really see my family. The last time I spoke to one sister she harangued me about how awful I was to be thinking of trying for another, and we haven't spoken since. My brother doesn't like kids and hasn't said anything about it other than to confirm he received my email telling him. Presumably he's going with 'If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all'. Ah well. I'll have to tell my father's widow. She was horrified when I told her I was going for IVF, so nothing good expected there. Thank god for my lovely children and their excitement and positive attitude about it all!

Oh KnockedUp we'll all be excited for you as well to make up for it and if your children are looking forward to the new addition, that's the most important thing

yes, knockedup we are all glad you're having a baby!

Missy, everyone in my work has always guessed when I'm pg from about 6 weeks so you've done well to get this far and only get comments now!

Morning sickness has worsened again. it really had been easing off but now it's back but slightly different. I have never had this happen before, it always started to ease at 14 weeks before. My mum and sis have had pregnancies where the MS lasted the full 9 months and I don't know how I will get through it if that happens to me.

Morning all :) Great news on the scans etc and sad to see the reactions some people have been getting, however my mum basically hung up on me when I told her so I can empathise. She is fine now and even possibly a little bit excited but it is still sad when the reaction you get isnt the one you want!

Up way too early for a childfree weekend but since 6.30 have been doing washing etc and going to treat myself to something yummy for breakfast (really want a bacon sarnie ) and going to try and spend some time with the OH as we really are not getting on at all at the mo.

chipmonkey I havent had full blown ms but for some reason it has been worse since I passed the 12 week mark - very confusing!

Hope everyone has a great weekend, looks like it is due to be warm yet chucking it down here, ah well!

morning ladies.

I'm sorry about all the reactions you've been getting. I told my db yesterday and although he said the "right things" he didn't sound to happy. But i think that might have been due to being a bit jealous he wants another one himself but his dw has back problems and has been having problems for the last few years.

Telling dh's family today, not looking forward to it i'm expecting sarci comments from his db's not sure how his dm is going to react. also telling dss today not quite sure how he's going to react either. I remember him telling me a couple of years ago that i wouldn't be having anymore, i think somehow he overheard his mother talking.

I'm feeling huge the last couple of days, i'm a big lady anyway but although i've put no weight on i'm feeling even bigger.

Hi all, it is heartwarming to read all the good news. I hope any bad reactions or insensitive relatives aren't spoiling your fun.

ms seems to have lifted here but I am close to knowing why I am so sore and itchy. Saw quack yesterday and she thinks I may have developed gallstones. Not even week 13 yet! This will be a long haul if I have 6 months of this pain. I was fainting with it last night, couldn't sit, lie, walk or settle anyway. Ended up on phone to nhs 24 and half way through the questions the pain switches off after 7 hours. Nothing, a wee bit tender but no pain. Very hard to go from weeping with pain to "oh it's ok" they probably think I'm a loony. Anyhow, blood tests next week and a scan to see the stone situation.

I came out to everyone in work yesterday. I announced it in the team meeting saying there was a new member of the team whose role was to give me an excuse to leave annoying meetings. I then said, in fact they are in the room with us and reached to my bag to pull the scan pictures out. The guy opposite me said he thought I was going to pull out a glove puppet! I hadn't laughed so hard in all my life, he must have thought I was losing it!

PamSco lol! Like it! Obvs don't like the fact that you arent feeling great etc, not nice so fx it is sorted soon.

Cep just smile sweetly and count down to the time to go home. Hopefully everyone will be really please, if not it may just be that it is a suprise which takes time to get used to!

My work colleagues were actually more excited than any of the adults. My dc's were very thrilled so that made up for everything if I am honest!

I can sympathise with those who had poor reactions from relatives... I told my immeadiate family early on (about 6weeks) but needed to tell my mum 1st on her own... Waited til we were in the car together and she wasn't impressed (more to do with having 7 grand kids before she turns 50 this year!!) Then told my sister who shouted at me & lectured me about contrception before finally saying congrts!!! Rest of the family took it well though and in laws!! Can say though after a couple of weeks my mum& sis are the most excited :)

pam love the way you told work, made me giggle :) I told work a couple of weeks ago - we are really short staffed with 1 nurse on sick leave and 1 full time vacancy... They were all being optimisitc saying it'll be better in june when nurse comes back from sick & then should have new nurse by july/august I had to say it would be short lived as I was pg therefore unable to do all tasks by then & would then be leaving on mat leave!!!

Raining here too :( what to do with DS??