November 2011 - more hand holding, scans and 2nd trimester chat coming up.....

[Katiebeau]

New thread chatty girls.......

really happy for all the good scans!
sorry for everyone who had bad reactions to the good news!

just wanted to ask if anyone has been experiencing wrist pain?
Last night I had agonising pain in my left wrist, my hand seems a bit swollen as well and it hurts moving it.
After DD's birth I had de Quervain's tenosynovitis, but never had pain during pregnancy.
DH thinks I should go to GP, but don't really fancy going to the out of hours surgery...

Oh Bluetink that sounds like carpel tunnel syndrome, where the nerve gets trapped or pinched slightly in the fiddly bones around the wrist, my hubby has it, and it's also a really common pregnancy niggle. The good news is you probably don't need to see an out of hours doc but it can be hard to shift. My hubbies just had steroid injections to see if that helps.

Bluetink The same kind of pain can be caused by the nerves in the neck and shoulder being aggravated.

bluetink it sounds like a trapped nerve/carpel tunnel, try to rest it, ice may help to reduce swelling. If it doesn't settle I would go to GP just to get it checked!!

I've finally relented and brought some maternity clothes at bargain prices (good brand yet 3 pairs of trousers/shorts for £15...they should have been £25 each!!!). Should see me through for a while :)

Came home to a letter from hospital with 20 week scan date, though not happy got to wait an extra week til 21 weeks... Cannot wait to see baby again :)

Thank you Truffkin and Chip for your rallying call! The support on this thread is really important to me. I am quite isolated in RL. DD2 had suggested I knock 5 years off my age for my stats in case my being 50 met with disapproval from you ladies. I said no, because I wanted to be accepted for who I really am, and she countered with " Well, you didn't hesitate to knock 5 years off on your profile on Match.Com!".

Bluetink I've had carpel tunnel syndrome, but it didn't make my wrist hurt. It maybe affects different people differently. My fingers and thumb (except the pinky) went numb, and I kept dropping things as I couldn't tell if I was holding them properly or not. I remember having to use a wrist rein to attach the pushchair to my wrist as I was scared it would get away from me on one particularly steep hill and the LOs would end up under a truck! I do think you should see a GP if it doen't resolve.

Chip Maybe the ms getting worse is just a blip, and things will get better again soon. Here's hoping!

I do hope so, knockedup as the only time I feel well is when I'm in bed and for practical reasons, that isn't a good long-term solution!

gahhhhhhhhh. told mil, first thing she said was "you're having twins." i thought how bloody rude, and i said to her i haven't put any weight on. it turns out she meant it'd been in her stars both english and greek that twins would be joining the family. I thought she was commenting on my size. (as mentioned before i'm not small) she then went on to ask if we could afford it. then turned to dss (who had only been told on the way to theirs) and asked what he thought of it. dss is not the type to be really enthusiastic and he'd already told me and dh that it was exciting news but wasn't going to be telling mil that cause he can be really shy especially when he doesn't know what the person expects him to say, so he just kinda of muttered ok or good or something, mil obviously didn't hear and said "oh no comment" with a look on her face. she's Greek for f sake, this will be her last grandchild i was expecting her to at least congratulate us. nope not even a grin. sooooo annoyed. thankfully my sil was really chuffed for us. avoided telling bil's like the plague dh will tell one on wednesday when i'm not there and sil will tell her dh.

I'm dreading telling people, I'm 11 weeks and have my scan in 2 weeks, if all goes well I'll need to tell people as I'm already showing.

Dreading telling work as I'm not that long back from mat leave (7 months). Lots of judgey people in my office who will no doubt be mean about my pregnancy.

Dreading telling family as this is our 5th child altogether (dh has dd from previous relationship) - my 4th baby - and we are living in cramped house as it is and need to move. This baby was a surprise in case you haven't guessed! I know my dad will be unsupportive and harass me about how we are going to manage.

So, I'm just enjoying this time when nobody knows!

Well Glitterballmama and Cep and others can i just say a big, smilely congratulations on your pregnancies! At least we can all be pleased for each other.
I had a lovely afternoon catching up with a lovely work colleague of my hubbies who had all but given up on kids after being told she had fertility issues, then found out she's epecting twins. Was lovely to talk about small people and pregnancy grumbles - and I have to say that at 6 and a bit months she looked wonderful!

I won't be posting for a couple of days as I am away. Well, actually I will be closer to most of you as I am going to the UK but you know what I mean! So I would appreciate it if you could postpone all dramatic pregancy events until my return!

chipmonkey have a safe trip. We'll be good, promise.

I second Poppet45's post don't let them upset you with negative reactions. As I am one to always look for a silver lining... I think the people who disapprove or nag about whether you can afford "it" etc are at least thinking of you. Ok it's not how you want them to think of you and yours - but it is a bit better than them just ignoring it through not caring maybe?

I'm in great spirits! It's true ms eases off..... WOOHOO I also managed to eat a veg curry I made from scratch (oooh get her!) without a gallstone attack.

Morning all. Bluetink I have had 1 carpal tunnel release op on one hand and I was due for another on my other hand, mine doesnt affect my wrist, like knockedup said it is more fingers. However it really affected my elbow as it was so severe :(. When mentioned it to mw she was like oh perhaps I had take mums to be more seriously when they say how much it hurts... OH and I were like erm ok then! I have wrist braces to ease the discomfort, never been given the steroids as the braces seem to do the trick (as best they can!). I think if you are unsure then perhaps a trip to the docs or if you can wait, maybe mention it at your next appointment.

Seems like a few of us have not experienced the reactions we had been hoping for, I had another one yesterday, 1st time seeing bil & sil yesterday and they didnt even comment, or ask how me or OH were not too sure what is going on there! Never mind like others have said, we can all be enthusiastic for the others!

chip have a nice break, take care!

Do you all maybe think that when we have got 'official' dates etc that we could have a list of edd's? I would start it but not much point until Tuesday.

Sorry for essay btw!

Pam Hope you get sorted, and start feeling better soon!

MissyN I can't BELIEVE people actually come out and say, you look pg! That's so rude! Once I told my boss, she did say she suspected, but would never comment! If I guessed someone was pg, I would assume they hadn't told me for a reason, so I would never comment!

bump I bought maternity clothes yesterday too! Finally feel brave enough to now we've had a scan! Just got two pairs of work trousers from Newlook. One pair was £15 the other £10! Bargains really!

Lauging out loud knocked up at the match.com comment! How old is DD?

Really sorry to hear some family's not been too supportive! I'm sure once baby starts growing and obviously when they finally arrive, people will be excited!

It was different for me and DH, as we've been married just under 2 years, just moved to Wales and got a new house, and are 26 & 25, so it wasn't really a surprise to anyone, in fact I think they were expecting it, so everyone really pleased with the news.

For DHs family it will be first grandchild/neice/nephew etc! And for my family some good news, after a bad year for everyone.

My MIL and her sister are coming over from Wales today to stay until Weds so I may be off the radar for a bit. I will try to sneak in and let you all know how my 12w scan goes. It will be 12w 0d if caculations are correct. We have to both sneak off as it's 0830 tomorrow morn. The plan is to come back armed with pictures to break the news. I'm so scared that something will be wrong. Silly I know.

Only one more sleep.

AGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

Afternoon all,

Sorry to bring things down a bit but I had a bit of a bleed yesterday and still going on. Stupidly did some exercise, nothing too crazy, but then I got a bit of brown blood when I wiped. (Sorry for TMI, there's more coming). No cramps so thought it was OK, then a couple of hours later I got red blood. Went straight to A&E, there for 4 hours. They did a blood test which was fine and have sent me home to rest as my scan is 3.30 tomorrow. Today it's back to brown blood when I wipe, not much and still no cramps but there has been a some bits in it. Like when you get your period and there's like little clumps. Anyone else had this?

I know there's been a few who have had bleeding and scans have been fine so I'm really hoping I'm the same. Would call in sick tomorrow but the person's whose maternity cover I've been covering is back and I think I've got to go in. Thought I'd got to 12 weeks and the worry was nearly over. Is going to be a long day.

Good luck tomorrow Missyraines.

Oh LittleMiss I don't know what to say, just wanted you to know I was thinking positive thoughts for you. Do what they hospital tell you and rest. If you need the day off tomorrow, take it. Try and not worry too much (know how silly it sounds saying that). Fx everything will be fine, as you say people do bleed and everything is fine x

LittleMiss ah big hugs for you. Agree with voodoomunkee, you should take the day off, work can always do without you for a day and your health is more important.
Fingers crossed for you. My Sil had bleeds throughout her second pregnancy and went on ok, but I know how worrying it is.
Take care and try and rest up x

LittleMiss I've had bleeds from week 9 to week 12... after my 12 week scan they magically stopped. They couldn't find a cause for them. I am now 14+3 and can feel our little one moving around!
Fx everything is ok with your little bean!

Wrists feel a bit better! Thanks for all the tips if it gets worse I'll go to Gp

LittleMiss Take it easy - fx that the scan will be awesome etc!

I'm so miffed about rude comments - everyone around me is supportive, apart from my cousin who's got the same condition as me (PCOS), but refused to do anything about it (lose weight, stop smoking etc) - and she's just not talking to me. No congrats, nothing, instead she went on another pilgrimage to Israel!

I've been getting little cramps, but I think it's just stretching. It's so hard when it's your first baby and you can't tell what's normal!
I think I've felt it wriggle - 15 weeks today...

Also started doing a Spotify playlist for Sprout, so we can educate him/her in the art of music :o

Thanks all for kinds words. Just wish I'd never bloody exercised, although it could all be unconnected. It's going to be a long wait till 3.30 tomorrow.

Bluetink that's helped a bit. Glad your wrist's feeling better.

Littlemiss that sounds terrifying. Can't believe they didn't scan you in A&E. I agree with Suzie take the day off. It's not like your mind will be on the job. Say you've been up all night with an upset tummy. They'll understand when they find out the truth down the line. At least then you can get some quality relaxing time in rather than rushing to then from work to get to your appointment. Really have my FX it'll be fine.

littlemiss sorry about the blood it is terrifying when it happens, i agree with the others rest and stay at home if you need tomorrow until the scan, fx for you.

voodoo we have a stats only thread here for edds etc, although it may have been a little while since it's been updated.

Littlemiss sorry if it was short reply earlier, I was typing on the phone.
The people at EPU where I had a scan after my bleeds said I could continue to do my regular activities, but my DH and work decided it was best to take it easy... so I had a week off work and that helped me to relax. That was at 9 weeks, as I said it continued little bits from brown to pink/bright red for the next 3 weeks. I will be thinking of you tomorrow! I know how terrifying it is, seeing blood almost every time you go to the toilet.

how is everyone keeping up with their housework? DH did a lot before I got pregnant but has now got a temporary job as we need the money so sometimes our homes looks like a tip...
I just managed to tidy up the kitchen while DD is having a nap. Still have to tackle the living room.
Honestly by the time this little one will be born, I need a bigger house, a cleaner and a nanny! I don't know how else I'm going to survive I must say I do work full time though.

Due to financial reasons I will probably also not be taking 6 months off work. Money will just be too tight to be surviving on SMP. Mainly because we have recently moved to the UK and are using up all our savings for my DH to become a driving instructor.
Anyone else who also thinks SMP is very tight? My work doesn't do any extras and it is not a lot of money. Or maybe that's just me and my previous experience, in Belgium I got 80% of my salary, but then again only 14 weeks maternity leave.

Oops just realised this is a long post

LittleMiss I had bright red blood one night, and also passed 3 large clots (looked like liver), each the size of a large grape. Thought it was all over, but everything was fine. So long as you aren't getting strong period like cramps it's very unlikely to mean that anything is wrong with the baby. I should take the day off if I were you. Good luck at your scan tomorrow!

And good luck at your scan tomorrow MissyR! I hope you get a delighted reaction from your MIL and her sister.

Staceroo My DD" is almost 16, and never hesitates to say exactly what she thinks!