Jue in June 2011....... third trimesters here we come!!!!!

[Clarkiee]

Hello,
Started a new thread ladies, fingers crossed it works xx

Motherof I'm watching OBEM on 4OD at the moment. It's not very gory, it's actually quite good. I loved the bit at the end where the young girl's baby was 3months old and she was holding her and the baby was laughing, that was lovely :) Babies laughing is the best sound!

BPrincess - sorry you felt like that :( Maybe they just didn't know what to say or thought you would like the chance to talk about non baby related things for a change? I find I have to check myself as if I could I would just talk about babies/pregnancy/birth all day every day, it is definately all consuming. Could you give them a call tomorrow and explain how you felt?

Daisy - surely it is your choice when you sit the exam? It's not like it's just a whim, you're, y'know, having a BABY?! You can't possibly be expected to revise with a day old newborn? If it came to it though I suppose you could always just say you weren't medically fit to do it so would have to reschedule?

I had a bit of a wobble today thinking omg this baby is going to take one look at me and go "Don't be ridiculous, YOU'RE not a mother!" Feeling a bit and alone today. Can't help but think this baby's getting a raw deal getting me.

Hi ladies, I am trying to keep up with you all even if I don't post very often but I have a question that google can't answer.
Tonight and the last 2 nights my bump has been quite sore/uncomfortable mainly about 2 inches below my belly button but stretching side to side and it lasts about an hour sometimes 2. I did have a stomach upset at the weekend and I've been taking wind-eze incase it was trapped wind but it's still bad tonight. It's joy ligament pain, it's too 'wide an area' It seems worse when I'm in bed and it hurt so much it kept me awake at 3am today. The strange thing is is that baby feels Really low down! Is it that I'm feeling everything much earlier because it's number 3 or is it just unusually low?? Has anyone else had a sore lower bump for a few days? I don't remember it feeling like this with either of my dc's.

Hope to get some sleep tonight, we'll see. Nite all. Xx

*it's NOT ligament pain, I've had plenty of that.

nurse there is absolutely no doubt that you are going to be a wonderful mum. You were brave and strong when it came to getting out of your relationship and making sure things were right for you and your LO (and how many of us can say that?!), and judging by your posts on here you are friendly, kind, intelligent, articulate and funny. What more could a baby want?

bprincess so sorry you felt like that. I haven't had that with friends, most of whom are planning families themselves or know they want children one day and are eager for info. Your friends' reaction does sound weird to me - I second the poster who said maybe give them a (friendly) call today and see what was going on. I bet it can be cleared up in no time.

at your question about the baby hearing music jasmine! I am SO relieved to discover the baby can only hear things through the belly and not through your ipod in your ears. Otherwise I'd be freaking out now that the baby can hear my thoughts, which is bad enough for me let alone a tiny baby!

monica my belly button's been sticking out for moths now. I normally have an in-ey, but about 10 weeks in it started to push out. Now when I wear tight clothes my shape looks like a mini bump on top of the main one. And when I lie still my belly button moves with the baby.

Mother and jasmine, see you this afternoon, with bread.

I have an iney too! When I had DS don't think it popped out until a couple of weeks before I had him!

Having pains in my hips and my lower back, think I have been overdoing it and now think I might have Sciatica as I keep getting sharp pains down one side.

Morning all
BPrincess try to talk to your friends about it, i was for years the childless, no plans friend, and it can be really hard as you do feel you have nothing in common and dont know what its like. At one point 4/5 of my close friends were all pregnant and i expect they wanted me to be excited but i just didnt get it.....they were 'just pregnant'.

monica my belly button is still an inney but stretching more and more....it was a very deep inney and i can now see the bottom which ive never been abe to do before

millie sorry cant help you at all about your pains.....if your worried speak to your midwife

nurse your baby will never think that of you, i agree with TTL's comments above. I expect all of us first timers are having the odd wobble, i certainly do.....hoping i will be a good mom and wondering if i will cope.

well another shift for me today......so another one crossed off the list :)

bprincess I know how you feel - I was out with friends all day saturday, saturday evening and then sunday morning, and pg not mentioned once. I know that some of my friends are TTC and finding it difficult so I haven't brought it up because I don't want to upset them/appear smug etc etc but it is weird because I feel like I have nothing to say - my only news really is this massive thing that's happening to me. The only solution I found was to whinge to my DH which was not too effective

had worst night sleep ever last night - ended up eating hot cross buns at 4am because was suddenly ravenous and LO was kicking really hard all night long.. still, I guess its good prep for sleepless nights, and at least when he comes along properly I won't be having to go to work as well.. On that note perhaps I'd better get on with some..

Thanks Barbie and SuperSunny, things are a bit tough at the moment but will get better soon. Just as soon as we can find somewhere new to live (long long story that I don't want to post all over the net because you never know who reads what where and I don't want to get done for slander off of an innocent comment - slightly paranoid? Yes ). Just saw a half way decent house for rent on the net that would mean not pulling DH out of playgroup.

Sorry Lisa really hoping you meant you bellybutton has been sticking out for months not moths, because otherwise that's one funny mental picutre . LO was making funny little movement right behind my bellybutton while I was eating dinner last night. DH and I were joking about a little tongue appearing. Bellybutton is slowly working it's way out.

Nurse how you're feeling is quite normal. The opposite will happen though, LO will pop out and love with you unconditionally.

Sorry for anyone I've missed now all I can think about is squidgey baby cuddles (and food )

PS thank you for thename comments, I quite like ditching the NoMore - I feel less shouty and school marmish

My belly button didn't pop out at all last pregnancy but i have a feeling it might this time as I'm already bigger at 5/6 months than I was at 9 months last time. I hope it stays an inny so my toddler can carry on sticking his finger in to stroke the baby, it's so cute!

Also I think I might be suffering the same pains as you muffin, My bump is lower than last time, probably because muscles are weakened, and the whole underside of my bumpo aches when i am on my side trying to sleep. it takes so long to get comfortable but not much else I can do as can;t sleep on front or back. It also seems to ache after a shift at work or when walking briskly. Sorry can't offer any advice to ease

My belly button didn't pop out at all last pregnancy either - it is a bit of a black hole, and just managed to get to being very shallow!

I have not got a hope in hell, yet again, of catching up with everyone's posts properly, but I just wanted to say to Nurse that IMO what you are feeling is pretty normal. You are going to be a wonderful Mum, and worrying about it being otherwise shows you really care; I still have pangs of self-doubt now about my ability in that department, and dc1 is a sunny, bright, spirited, well-nourished and sweet 2.5 year-old. All of our babies are going to love us soooooo much [sob sob].

bprincess I remember when I was first pregnant being horrified at how dismissive I had been of pregnancy and babies with my friends who had been pregnant before me; you don't realise how all-consuming it is until you experience it. I would probably feel the same as you though, hurt that they are not showing how really excited they are (they probably are), but try not to take it too much to heart, people get so caught up in their own stuff. I'd tell them how you feel though, I wish my friends had when I was young, free and single!

Aww, don't worry yourself Nurse I think most people have a "what if the baby hates me" wobble.

I've been talking about a friend of a friend today, and was throughout the conversation.
Apparently this woman (single, in her mid 20's but lives with her mother) makes her mum get up in the night when the baby cries to make the bottle while she (babys mother) has a fag. THEN she feeds the baby. Poor little thing is only about 2 weeks old.

that's grim citrus..

Nurse, you'll be a fabulous mother - without a doubt. Your normal to feel this way though - Im on number 3 and sometimes think things like this.

and CMH1st, thank you so much for the wallpaper link yesterday - brilliant! .

Lovely day here today - really warm. Hope it'll be the same tomorrow off - am really looking forward to tomorrow off. Bringing DC to mass, to my grannys for dinner and then we're all going to a local parade and little cousins coming to play in the village green with mine after.

Went to get my bloods done yesterday, Nurse had a rigth carryon trying to get blood out of me! she needed 3 lots and really struggled ended up using both arms :(

Got big bruises now! Didn't hurt much though at least, but still annoying as I hate needles.

Nurse - it is perfectly normal. I still worry that I am crap mother.

Especially now as DS ie being particularly defiant and I am finding him really hard work.

Thanks everyone, am feeling v down at the moment, sure it will pass.

Barbie sounds like a lovely day tomorrow.

My belly button is a flatty at the moment. Don't really want an outie but fear it may be inevitable

Oooh forgot to say Knackered, you should def get your bump painted! So fun! And post pics one here. I'd love to have it done.

Nurse so is that permanent paint ha ha? I can just imagine poor old Mr Bump once baby is out...all deflated and wrinkly! Hey you could have one of a lovely fresh young face and after the birth it would be like a little old lady....or a picture of a grape that turns into a prune...

24 hours til I get my bed back...and back in my bed. No doubt will still have my 3am wake ups but just cannot wait to not be sleeping on the floor any more.

Ah yes, sleeping on the floor at 6 ish months pregnant isn't great Jasmine. I had to do it for a bit when I first moved in and was waiting for bed to be delivered. Didn't do my back any good and it's much easier getting up at 3am from a bed than the floor!

Totally agree Nurse the sleeping bit is not the worst (actually not alot of sleeping going on anyway) - its trying to get up to go for a wee. Still not developed an effective method wihtout getting 1/ whizzy head or 2/ pulling bump muscles

Hey BPPrincess sounds like we've all experienced something simliar to you (if not quite as extreme). Most of my friends who have no kids and are not even planning to have yet them rarely talk about the fact I'm pregnant and although they might ask how I am I don't think a lot of them 'get it'. A good friend from Uni, who lives away, asked me more questions about my pregnancy in 30 minutes than our friend (who is my best friend and lives locally)has done in 7 months. The big difference being that the uni friend had a little boy 18 months ago so she knows what its like. I've got a few friends who are pregnant and they have become much closer friends the last few months.
A handful of friends keep planning 'girly nights out' I'm going to try and beat them to it with a 'girly night in' very soon because I'm getting too tired for a girly night out- plus its crap when you can't drink, have nothing to wear, want to save money and feel like a sleepy beach ball!

Had a scan yesterday, still a reduced blood flow from umbilical artery into baby number two. Everything else is fine but they want to keep an extra eye on it (I'm guessing they want to check that it doesn't get any worse) so I'm back there on Friday. I'm sooo grateful that my boss has allowed my maternity cover to work alongside me, it makes me feel much less gulity about being up at the hospital during my working hours.

Ouch kara!

Not the best time to go without a bed jasmine hope you get a comfy noght soon xx

Haven't caught up yet but was just at Prima Baby fashion awards... Next won for best maternity jeans for anyone that's still looking for jeans!

Thank you, thank you, thank you everyone for the lovely, understanding comments.

rubberduckies I too am horrified at how I've treated my pregnant friends in the past, just completely dismissive and uninterested [shame emoticon]. I think I might (just might, mind) send a friendly email explaining how I feel, keeping it light, but also reassuring them I don't want to disappear into a parallel baby universe, yet acknowledging that yes, things will probably be different, and that although I completely understand that of course they don't want to do baby talk non-stop, how it would be nice if I could just indulge very occasionally. The most obvious simile to me is when you meet a new bloke or have a new bloke obsession and you just want to talk about it ALL the time...

Clarkiee So identify with what you say about your friends - things shift don't they. Hope you enjoy your girlie nights in! And good luck on FRiday.

CMH Men are programmed to solve problems, not give sympathy! It's just the way they are! Us girls just want a cuddle and someone to say they've been there, isn't it rubbish, etc etc. I got a great email about this the other day, must try and dig it out...

Jasmine Enjoy your reunion with your bed! Perhaps a small glass of something indulgent is in order to celebrate?!