Jue in June 2011....... third trimesters here we come!!!!!

[Clarkiee]

Hello,
Started a new thread ladies, fingers crossed it works xx

My poor little DS he had wee nap this afternoon and when he woke up he said he'd had a bad sleep as he kept coughing. The poor dear. I don't dare tell him I enjoyed his nap as I slept just fine

For once I actually know what you're all on about with OBEM as I watched it all the wat through for the first time ever (no annoying wussy girls screaming I think). I felt sad for the girl whose DH didn't go in with her. She was so adamant to hom that she was fine with his choice, but I could just tell she wasn't.

I too find myself wishing I felt more excited about impending baby, but there is so much shit going on at the minute that I don't feel I can truely enjoy it until that's all sorted. Some days I almost regret deciding to go ahead with TTC, but I have to remind myself I don't have a crystal ball and had no idea that things would turn out like they did and that I can be strong and things will get better soon.

Sorry didn't intend the me me me post there, just need to let off steam.

Yay on the offer SS

Sorry about the car Moomin, though ysy there are places you can stand to live near Aldershot.

And wishing the duck feeders weather the exact opposite of mine today for you tomorrow (It's been raining all day here, and snow on the hills)

PS I'm not some random, I'm usually NoMoreChocBiscuits

Kara My DH wasn't going to go below my waist with DS. He ended up being a styrup (sp??) and cut the cord. Such a star

I was wondering who you were nomorechoc and think your new name is absolutely brilliant!!!.

Are you ok? is there anything you want to let of steam about? (says the queen of it)

Thanks for that Starbuck and Moomin.

Anyone else getting sore hands, and feet that feel like they've jumped up and down on concrete for hours? I'm not even in trimester 3!

On OBEM - I felt really sorry for that girl being stuck between her boyfriend and parents. Must be pretty hard for any parent to see their daughter fall for a reforming heroin addict fifteen years older than their 18 year old, though he seemed a really decent guy. I'm noticing that with OBEM so many people on it are really young and broke, and it seems a little odd.

That was a lot of blue eyeshadow on those 'young person' midwives. I hope mine doesn't talk to me like that Aussie consultant did, like being pregnant makes me unable to take in sounds of more than half a syllable at a go. Poor pregnant lady looked around like she was going mad.

love the new name nomore/confessions....i was reading it thinking who on earth is this, she seems to know us well
If we could chose where we lived in/near Aldershot would be fine but with the army its a bit get what you are given ( i know th upside is cheap living for a certain quality house)......so its not so much the house for me but more like what the area/estate is like. Fingers crossed for our first or second choice

Here's last night's message take II:

We decided to have a 'trial run' of our car seat and isofix base last night, got it in fine and then couldn't get it out! Dad needed the car first thing this morning to collect my brother from the airport, so we resorted to just pulling it in all directions, the three of us were tugging and swearing and sweating away on the drive in the dark when good old mother comes running out in her slippers, waving the instructions, shouting "you need to lift AND separate!" and out it popped! I had to go and have a lie down on the settee and a slice of cake. We won't be doing that again until delivery day

Well done CMH, I'm doing an assignment today and am waaaaay off 1500 words. Shall we all do a writing swap? I'm sure you'd all do a better job than me, I'll just provide cups of tea.

Thanks for remembering about my course knackered, I'm still on the exploring psychology module but on the home straight now. I thought I'd get until October to finish but they won't let me postpone my exam - it's on 14th June and EDD is 7th they are sending an invigilator to my house and I'll get 40 mins extra for care of the newborn (or 20 mins extra for 'extended comfort breaks' if I'm 7 days overdue!) it's really stressing me out, but I'm trying not to think about it too much.

Jasmine, pregnant ladies should get a mini eggs signal like the batman one for emergencies like yours. Do you know morse code for 'mini eggs urgent' and use a torch to alert your (hopefully fluent in morse code) neighbours?

Loving your PMA nurse, you'll definitely do it and it'll be lovely pootling around with your little girl.

Today's update:

Yay for maternity leave countdowns, house sales and afternoon naps.

Boo to cars, insomnia and aching fanjos (the body part, not the person)

Off to watch OBEM.

SSD, my area is human rights. What about you? Congrats on the offer on your house!

Love the name change, Confessions! So many of us have 'mum-to-be' names, I'm sure we'll be seeing many more name changes over the next few thoughts. Has anyone put any thought into this? Apparently the MN elite frown upon names that indicate you are actually a mother

Also - horrified thought - what are we all going to do when they stop stocking mini eggs after Easter?!? I'm afraid if I build up a stash now I'll just get through them even more quickly than I already am!

Jer _ I agree with you, she seemed really smart and is clearly wanting to make something of herself. And I think she'll be the making of him, he clearly adores her. I hope her parents will come around and support them both. I thought he seemed very charming and I could see why she fell for him.

Blimey you lot, a few hours away from MN and I've lost complete track of latest news. Ra ra for house offers, boo hiss for car problems and insomnia and fanjo aches. Yahoo for mini eggs (fwiw the 2 for one funsize deal at Tescos is terrible value when compared to one big family sized bag) Bump is enjoying being back on the mini egg bandwagon today.

Mother and Lisa yup - I'm all duck breaded up and ready for a meet up tomorrow - I'll be the one covered in paint and dust... with no kids to blame it on. Hopefully the weather will be as nice as today

I had two deep and meaningful questions about pg today. Baby brain means I can only remember one of them though...ok, dont laugh at me, I am blonde after all....you know they say that bumps at our stage are able to hear in the womb....well, if I am listening to music on my ipod...can bump hear that or does it have to be a megaphone to the belly button?

Oh and talking of belly buttons - I found my first stretch marks today, in a kind of spiral around my belly button...its quite sweet actually, like a whirlpool.

Nope cant remember the other question - will wake me up at 4am no doubt!

daisy love love love the idea of your mum running in slippers and waving instructions!! I hope she was also wearing rollers to complete the picture

Congrats on the offer Supersunny :D From what I understand from watching Phil and Kirsty, the first offer is a cheekily low one to test the waters, so then you come back with one slightly lower than the asking price but much higher than their offer and then they counter with one a bit lower than that but probably around what you wanted in the first place anyway. Simple

Hope you get your car troubles sorted Moomin. Glad you liked something about Aldershot.

I haven't watched OBEM all the way through yet, should I?!

nurse you obviously study kirsty and phil too......but i agree with the tactics for supersunny
I always watch OBEM......so far all has been ok :)

Hmm I might give it a go then. I will almost definately cry

thats a certain every week but for me only when the baby is actually born and it gives me tears of joy and emotion. I try to imagine what it will be like for me and DH.....i just cant imagine what it will be like, such an overwhelming feeling

Oooo, I've just remembered my second question, its one for those of you who have had a CS as well as a natural birth...it might be another blonde question...

When you have a baby naturaly (stay with me on this one) the baby comes out with a load of fluid, blood etc, then the placenta and other gubbins. Then as I understand it the rest of the uterine junk comes out the natural way over the next few days/weeks. If you have a CS, the baby comes out along with fluid and placenta etc...but then what happens to the rest? Does it come out the natural way as before or does it errr get hoovered out during the birth? Is there any difference in the expulsion after a CS as opposed to a natural birth? Is it more uncomfortable after a CS because the cervix and vagina has not been ripened and prepared for it?
Thankyou for bearing with me!

Oooh good question Jasmine. RE the music, I think baby wouldn't hear your music if you've got headphones in but they can hear things going on around you through your tummy :)

Evening all!

I have just caught up but can't remember all, will do my best though!

Hooray for house offers and moomin finding somewhere you would be happy to move to, fingers crossed it works out!

Jasmine the music needs to be on your belly for the bump to hear it. I am currently studying cognitive development and it has just covered prenatal development. One of the research projects I read about said how if you read stories/play music (the same piece/section) twice a day from about 30/4 weeks your baby will recognise this when they come out and it can be used to calm them down . . . planning on attempting that, anything that might make the nights easier .

OBEM - that poor girl looked exhausted! I do find it strange though that my ds was the same size and I am only 5'2" and no-one mentioned to be he would be big or had any concerns about getting him out (which was actually easier then dd!). And personally I wouldn't want anyone else with me giving birth in whatever fashion apart from DH, did find it a bit weird that he didn't go in but also feel a bit sorry for him that he regretted it.

Dh watched parts of it with me, and when Karen's dh said his worst fear was her dying and the baby not having a mother I asked dh if he ever thought about that (can't say it has ever crossed my mind!). He replied that it's something he has struggled with the last 2 times and this time is proving no different . Hadn't even occurred to me that dh would be worried about me dying (need some sort of sign for self obsessed, not considering dh feelings !).

On a completely random note, I bumped into a lady coming home from the school run who is hugely artistic and she has offered to paint my bump . Can't say it's anything I normally go in for but what the hell, it's the last time I'll be doing this!

Daisy - pm'd you . . . well am going to!

Oh and final thing before I disappear into the wilderness of study, I am actually more excited about this baby then the other 2 . Not sure why, probably because I know it's my last and so if I don't enjoy it now I'll have no other chance! Having said that, I still don't have anything ready for it . . . .

Thanks Nurse and Knackered I have a mexican bola which I wear around my middle so will be interesting to see if bump recognises it. He's certainly going to be familiar with the sound of explosive fartage!

DH reads one of two story books each weekend. its not quite twice a day but its a start :)

knackered is she going to paint a picture of your bump or your bump itself?! If she's painting your bump I would go yellow like a sun

jasmine I definitely bled after the section as well as after the vaginal births. My section was an emergency and I was fully dilated by the time they made the incision, so I don't know if it would have made any difference if it had been elective. Anyway it's only like having a period that goes on and on. The after pains with subsequent children were definitely worse, but I think that is to be expected and not a function of mode of delivery.

knackered my DDs are strangely calmed by the Archers theme tune and, in fact, Radio 4 in general. I had a similar conversation with my DH about worst case scenarios and tried to convince him that if it comes to a straight choice between saving me or the baby he has to pick me. He thinks this situation unlikely. As we are planning an HBAC we have to consider very carefully the risks so perhaps we've talked about this a bit too much...

daisy I can't believe they are expecting you to sit an exam 7 days after your due date. Have they got a plan for if you go into labour?! Presumably if you are actually birthing your baby on the 14th you'll have to reschedule for the October sitting? I am on your behalf. What if you are in hospital? Or off your face on pain relief? Or emotionally wrecked because you are functioning on the 3 hours sleep you've cobbled together in the preceding 5 days? They really haven't thought this through.......grrr.

Having a day of getting on my high horse on someone else's behalf - if someone can find my box, I'll go and get back in it now.

I might just see if I can find OBEM online - curiosity has got the better of me and I can't be bothered to lift my bottom off the sofa.

jasmine I have been wondering the same thing about CSs. Hopefully someone knows....

I was also wondering if everyone's belly button turns inside out? The idea of it makes me feel a bit ill but I can see that mine is already getting much shallower and stretched so I think that it might be inevitable!

...on second thoughts, I've just looked at the photographs on the website and feel a bit queasy...

Evening all, and as usual apologies for just popping in every now and then. Sounds like there's been good scan news moomin and other good news on cars and houses.

Jasmine - good question about the C section. I'd be interested to hear the answer.

I had my 28-wk appt on Friday and they took blood, then I went to have my anti-D injection (how many others are rhesus neg?). Now, I was full of cold and really not in the mood, but blimey it was a bit of a sore one...

If I may, can I have a little moan?

Just got back from meeting a couple of good friends, and came away really sad, in fact I cried on the train home. I can't say they were mean to me exactly, but it just felt they had no interest whatsoever in me and my pregnancy. I honestly don't go on about it - in fact hadn't even seen one of them since I broke the news back in late Nov. And I suppose it really does change you, being prg, it's kind of all-consuming. But we didn't even talk about it once. They chatted about hair dos, other friends and then, for about half an hour they went on and on about putting on weight! With me just sat there, while they went on about having a bit of a double chin/putting on half a stone/ etc etc. At one point I interjected: 'Ha! I'm wearing size 20 leggings today!'. The reply? 'Well, you're pregnant', and then she just moved on... I felt invisible, unimportant and just totally out of touch with two of my best friends. And very sad....

Has anyone else experienced this?

Also, love the idea of the music twice a day. Think I'll try it

And has anyone seen Spinning Babies (google it) - you can work out where baby's head/bum etc is and draw it on your tum - sounds like quite a laugh!