Jue in June 2011....... third trimesters here we come!!!!!

[Clarkiee]

Hello,
Started a new thread ladies, fingers crossed it works xx

[BarbieLovesKen]

Thanks for the new thread Clarkiee.

BPrincess Rucksack idea sounds brilliant - very interesting.

Laughing at Moomin with constant countdown of shifts - I am exactly the same . This day 10 weeks will be my last day in work - Ok, 10 weeks is ages away but I'm trying to console myself that Im on the countdown of single fingers now really!!!. PLUS, I have next Thursday off for St. Paddy's day, Good Friday and Easter Monday off as public holidays and the 2nd May as bank holiday. (Will also have to book a few days off first week of May for exams)

MN2 that dress is absolutely gorgeous too!! dont worry - either will be really fabulous!!

Calgary - I've never had twins but regarding the bellybutton pain - I had this with dd (my first baby) and it nearly drove me insane (also, my inny turned into an outie!), apparantly its just everything is really packed in there so added pressure on it - can imagine it is with twins!!. Anyway, supposed to be very normal. Funnily enough, it didnt happen with ds or this one.. but thats because my stomach muscles are completely gone to be honest

Had a bit of a pregnancy related mini breakdown last night . I had been feeling really, really shit since Sunday - was like "late" pregnancy (although its not that late yet!!!) had really hit me, very suddenly and like a ton of bricks. I had a migrane on Sunday, which actually blurred my vision, went to bed and when I woke up on Mon it was downgraded to "headache", didnt get rid of it until today. Am at the end of my cold. My bum was killing me , I've started having pains in my bum, lower back and tops of legs that I've never experienced before and by feet, legs, arms and fingers are actually paining me, they are that swollen, am also having lovely braxton hicks since Monday night (and moan..moan.. moan..)

Was upstairs last night and tried to pick some clothes off the floor. Have realised I can no longer bend . I have twelve weeks of pregnancy left (or thereabouts). I am huge though - as I am being informed my everyone I meet lately (latest my aunt - who I met in my grannys last week - "barbie! you are HUGE!!!! I just cant believe it! your MASSIVE!! ten pound baby! Im telling you - at least - ten pounder"... followed by numerous comments throughout dinner tutting and shaking head, "I just cant believe how big you've got.."..

I nested like an absolute mad woman for the last 2 months of both my previous pregnancies - I mean compulsive cleaning for hours a day - right up until I gave birth - scrubbing floors on hands and knees etc.. I know because of that, that this never happened to be before (the cant bend thing) (despite putting on approx 5 stone with each pregnancy). I got really upset. I came down stairs in floods of tears, sobbing to dh how on earth was I supposed to function with a house to run, two kids, a full time job and a degree to complete for the next 3 months when I cant f*7&ing bend.

Has anyone else experienced this? I know its ridiculously early? mothers of more than 2 - is this a "more than 2 pregnancies" thing? When I bend, my bump is completely in the way, its huge, I hit against it and feel like my circulation is being cut off and Im going to faint. I really just cant. DH said Im the biggest I have been yet (but in a nice way, "you have a big bump - as in the baby" type comment) and maybe thats why..

Im so sorry this has been so long but Im really worrying how Im supposed to get through the next stage...

[CMH1stbaby]

barbie sorry you've had such a rubbish couple of days. If its any consolation I've somehow ended up back in MS, which I thought had been knocked on the head, and am feeling very sore and fed up.. Am planning to start recruiting the help that people have offered but have turned down so far. Actually only my mum and MIL but figure its better than battling on and getting more and more knackered! Unfortunately they can't write my thesis but am hoping they can help with the house stuff. Is there anyone you can draft in?

I look ridiculous trying to put boots and socks on because bending is awkward and makes me want to chuck - bring on the warmer weather so the flip flops can come out...

ps - don't forget the bonus bank hol for the royal wedding!!

[BarbieLovesKen]

Oh thank you CMH, your too kind. Its great to hear someone else is equally as miserable (not really of course, I hope your ok - I just love this thread as dont feel quite so alone).

Wont get bank hol for the Royal Wedding as Im in Ireland. DH has promised faithfully to do more than his share for the next while.

[Jer79]

Barbie I'm a few weeks behind you so I can't say much about the bending thing (yet), but it sounds like everything is seriously piling up on top of you.

What I've been told if it happens to me is:

1. Ignore absolutely everyone's opinions about your size.
   
   People are idiots. Plus they are idiots who often have insecurities of their own, so off-loading onto the pregnant lady in a hilarious way ('a ten-pounder, hahaha'; yeah, hilarious), makes them feel a bit better about themselves. So, sod them.
   
   
2. Set your own pace.
   
   It's your house, your nesting, your pregnancy, your way of handling things. Don't let anyone decide for you how anything 'should be', just go with how you feel day-to-day. SPD, which you sound like you have pretty heavily, varies so much day to day depending on what level of activity you do (like climbing the stairs!), and rest is the best thing for it, so if you need to rest instead of scrubbing the floor, sod anyone who tuts for even a second.
   
   I think it's something that will hit/has hit every one of us - there's always so much to do but for once we have a non-negotiable deadline and how are we going to manage any of it? Thing is, we will. You will. And people who don't get it can just get lost with their smart-arse comments.
   
   Make them wear BPrincess's rucksack for a bit and see how cheery they are then!

[HalleLouja]

Allo

[motherofsnortpigs]

barbie sorry you feel so poo. I'll come back as soon as I can and post a few reflections as a pregnant mother of 2+ children. Got to go and pick up the big snort pig from school now.

[jasmine51]

barbie whatever Mother tells you about bringing up a herd of snortpigs it will be good advice...hers are lovely little snorters.
On the bending thing - I am constantly amazed at how solid bump is...it just doesnt squish like a fat tummy. I've just mowed the lawn and had to get into all sorts of contortions to empty the grass box. then when it does get squished it really hurts/ makes you feel squiffy.

Mother next Tues or Weds pm would be great to meet up...am I going to be entertained by more stories of goldfish tragedy? Have you tried the new caff at Nettlebed yet? Keep driving past it, and looking at their website it looks like another prime candidate for coffees...except there is a lack of ducks there. Lisa - you work dont you? Any chance you have one of those afternoons off?

[BarbieLovesKen]

Aw thank you so much mother, would really appreciate it. It does feel different - I think I can feel more, if that makes any sense.

Jer - that you so much for taking the time to reply and you make so much sense and Im definately going to (try) take your advice (would love to have them wear rucksack ). Hadnt thought of SPD actually do you think thats it?. hmm..You really are too kind - thanks again.

28 week appointment tomorrow.

[HalleLouja]

I have found that yoga has helped with soreness / stiffness in my hips. On Monday before yoga I could hardly move but I felt a lot better after. Can't remember being like this with DS. I think each pregnancy is different.

[8rubberduckies]

Hi all - I really cannot remember much posted in the last three days, so apologies for the lack of personal comments, but just wanted to say to Barbie that I feel your pain! I feel about 8 months pg not 6, and I got stuck on the floor on Saturday in front of loads of my mates, when I squatted down to pick a fork up off the floor that ds dropped . I too am having massive mobility issues, and have started getting quite desperate and shouty about the housework and the unbelievable need to reorganise all the drawers, and the attic, and the basement, and clean the windows til they shine....

To compound all these problems, my back and SPD is murderous, but definitely improved now I am going to the chiropractors once a week. I would definitely recommend it to anyone having problems. I have been given loads of tips by her, but the ones that really seem to be making the most difference are; not carrying my toddler unless I really have to (I have trained him to climb into his carseat on his own!), using my exercise ball (even if just to rock back and forth on, apparently this fires up the muscles that support the whole area), adductor squeezes, and PELVIC FLOOR EVERYBODY! NOW!

To do adductor squeezes, sit down with a pillow or cushion between your knees and squeeze your thighs in towards eachother and hold for 5 seconds, repeat 5 times. I think I have already posted that exercise on here, but according to the chiropractor it's a really important one. I have also been sleeping with a Theraline pillow between my legs and this is making a difference.

Hope that helps all of you who have been asking about SPD. Oh, and Motherofsn I am also doing the tubi-grip thing! Find it a bit of a pain but certainly seems to help when I'm running around!

[CMH1stbaby]

8 thanks for pelvic floor reminder, I am so rubbish at remembering but have just done a few!

[Mummynumber2]

Sorry to hear you're feeling down Barbie, I've been finding doing things a bit more difficult over the last week or so and it also must be double difficult if you have other small children to look after. Are you able to rope in grandperents or others to help out so you can get a bit of rest while you're not at work? I have to say I'm on awe of all of you who already have child(ren). I honestly think this will be my first and last!

Thanks 8, I'm clenching as I type!

[NoMoreChocBiscuits]

Barbie if you're getting headaches and swelling you need to get checked out for pre eclampsia. and if you're joing the SPD club, you have my fullest sympathy! Get yourself refered to the ante-natal physio pronto.

Speaking of SPD mine has been good for weeks and now this week I have a constant pain in me bits. Time to go back to the physio and upgrade to a larger size belt thing I think. Sitting should not hurt!
I had something else to theraputically off load, but my reliable pregnancy brain has wiped it

[NurseSunshine]

Barbie sorry to hear you're having a crap couple of days :( Obviously I'm a first timer but I have heard that one gets bigger and bigger with subsequent babies as your stomach muscles are more used to being stretched so won't hold you in nearly as much. So you'll look bigger but won't necessarily have a bigger baby. Also, re bending, you said you feel as though you#'re going to faint. Thats because your baby is pressing on your large blood vessels and cutting off your circulation to your heart/brain, the same reason we're not meant to lie on our backs. So don't force it as you probably would end up passing out.

If it's any consolation this is my first and I can barely bend, and feel like a flipping whale. Am VERY touchy about my size now and do NOT appreciate people commenting on how big I am. I don't comment on the size of YOUR arse so please don't comment on the size of mine!

[BarbieLovesKen]

What a lovely bunch you are . Thank you so much, your posts really have mede me feel so much better (its funny what a bit of understanding can do??!).

Nurse pml at "I dont comment on the size of YOUR arse..." its so true though - why on earth do people seem to think its ok? my mother (who actually is lovely ) actually said to me at the weekend "it must be a girl because your back and arse and hips have gotton huge". Shes put on a few pounds herself and I wouldnt dream of saying it. Pah! Im probably being overly touchy - Im very weight conscious as a rule and have put on an obscene amount to date so its probably me really.. Makes sense over large blood vessels - thanks for that, will try to avoid it (not sure how though..)

Really sorry 8 but pml at your fork story. Just kept picturing it Im not very sympathetic today, am I? its good (not good - you know what I mean) that someones in the same boat.

Nomore have an antenatal appointment tomorrow so will mention headaches and swelling.

Thanks a million again, everyone x

[NurseSunshine]

Next time she says somthing like that Barbie just look pointedly at HER hips and say something like "Hmm wonder what you're having then?" and smile sweetly

[8rubberduckies]

Glad to be of service to you Barbie and make you smile.... you should have been there

[loueytb3]

Just popping on to say to barbie poor you, you sound as though you are having a really rough time. I hope you feel a bit better soon, I'm on no 3 (2nd pg) and it is definitely harder than the first one (which is saying something as it was twins). I think we are just more knackered to start with and our bodies have been stretched from the last time so we are bigger too. I am having all sorts of pelvic aches and pains which I didn't really get last time round.

Having said that, I'm getting the "oh you're really small" comments. And this is from DH who should really know better given that we had small babies last time round and I'm a tad paranoid about it happening again

Glad you have a mw appt tomorrow - definitely mention the swelling.

MN2 how annoying!! Hope you get one of the dresses in time.

[LisasCat]

Mother, you're off chocolate?????? How the hell are you coping? That would be like becoming allergic to oxygen!

And how's next Wednesday afternoon for a Soxon duck/child feeding outing? Will need to bring DD, if that's alright. Am happy to do Nettlebed - is the new caff in the church?

Barbie, I can't empathise with the bending over bit, but I am getting out of breath walking tiny distances, and end up having to stand there gasping while people just tap their desk waiting for me to hurry up and spit out what it was I came to discuss with them. I have no idea what I'm going to be like in 2 months, when I'm still planning to be working full time.

Mother has left the building, and I managed not to kill her. I rock! (Actually she was on best behaviour last night, so I think she realised she'd trampled on my emotions a little in the morning.)

I've just spotted the ad on the right of the page for the MN Wine Club...now that's just mean.

[8rubberduckies]

Lisascat do they do mini-bottles of champagne? I think you deserve one after putting up with your Mum!

[BarbieLovesKen]

Nurse and 8

louey I actually thought that earlier - that the twin mums will think Im being such a light weight as they have two in there and here I am moaning on and on...

Lisa that is mean - I am dying for a glass of wine... (and a cigarette actually 8, do you miss them at all at this stage?)

I have been usless at work today - Am wrecked, I've done SFA, if Im honest. Will have to make up for it tomorrow. Am now really happy as am going home in a few mins, dh has yummy beans, egg and chips ready for me. Will have long bath after dcs go to bed and have a date with my sky plus'd desperate housewives and from here to maternity (Irish version of one born) (and a packet of chocolate buscuits..). Tis the little things

[jasmine51]

[8rubberduckies]

I am still craving cigarettes . I swear it wasn't this difficult when pregnant with ds1 - I remember thinking how relatively short a time it was before the cravings pretty much stopped, and I definitely remember not being at all phased when my dp went out for a ciggy by this point last time. I just keep reminding myself that I have actually had quite a stressful time of it this pregnancy, what with threatened redundancy and everything. This is a bit embarassing, but I keep sneaking a little look in my dp's secret hiding place for his tobacco. God knows why, but it's nice to just glance at the tobacco pouch. And touch the tobacco pouch .

Now wine..... I am having a small glass twice on a weekend, usually either a Friday or Saturday night and then with Sunday lunch. It is the only thing keeping me sane! I swapped the wine on Saturday for half a can of Red Stripe at our allotment party and it was heaven. Made me realise the Becks Blue just doesn't cut it!

[8rubberduckies]

PS Just about to write my letter to my boss officially notifying them of when I intend my maternity leave to start. Oh, and putting in my 2 weeks a/l request beforehand! Yay! 2 months to go! (Oh, boo, actually ) that's a long time away....

[NurseSunshine]

Ooh forgot to say MN2 that backup dress is gorge, am crossing everything for you that you will end up with the one you want. Though you are more than likely to end up with 3 at this rate! Keep the receipts!

Barbie, the only time I crave cigarettes is when I have a drink, as soon as the alcohol touches my lips I start wanting one.