The PESH in a manger

[LadyGoneGaga]

No booze for our heads,
No clubbing, no Class A's,
No more pants of red

The midwives in the hossie,
Looked down where we lay,
A bunch of old, evil hags,
Fucked on Gas and A.

Ho, ho, ho you bunch of Hoes.

BESH BAYBEES
dontrythisathome, girl born March 25.
Cheggers, twinz girlz, born April.
FannyPriceless, boy, born June 8.
CurlyCasper, girl, born June 24.
CUNextTuesday, boy, born June 29.
AlpinePony, boy, born 1 July.
Carrots, boy, born July.
IggyPiggy, girl, born July.
Cosmosis, boy, born Sept 5.
Backinthebox, boy, born Sept 7.
Skatergrrrl, girl, born Sept 10.
VAG, boy, born Oct 2.
Silversky, boy, born Nov 1
SomethingSuitablyWitty, girl born Nov 2
okiecokie, girl, born Nov 12
Honeymoo, boy, born Nov 11
ReginaMonologue, boy, born Nov 13

UPDIFFED

maswera, can't possibly be having a baybee next week, due December 11
PollyPoo, wants to name her baybee after the dog, The New Messiah is due December 25
MrsFC, joining whether she wants to or not, due 22 Jan
ChoChoSan, "and Lo! The lord did resurrect her petrified womb", due 31 Jan
CluckyKate, hatching an egg, due February 2
Perfect Dromedary, defied medical science, due February 24
Muser, blooming at last, due February 27
Ginhag, reckless cake-carrier, due 28th Feb
Medee, finally over the Haribo craving, due March 12
Casserole, completely out of witty things to add, due April 8
Scorpette, now carrying a RL baby in addition to Clothilda and the squid, due 18th May.
Laurielou, the unmarried hussy with the "surprise" diff, due 31 May (ish)
Rocketleaf, no longer jealous of morning sickness, due 1 June.
Twinkle Toes, supergluing her fanjo shut, due 23 June.
LadyGoneGaga, Compulsive Stick pisser, due 28 July

Hmm sounds like he is just hurt and maybe getting a bit paranoid, but I think you are right, counseling is a bit daft at 2 yrs old? IME kids generally don't like the phone, I wouldn't go near it til I was 8 or 9 and my nieces wouldn't speak to me on the phone til well over 5! I wonder if you might be able to get MiniG to post something to his dad mid week, a card of a picture, just so he knows he is thinking about him, even if he doesn't want to talk on the phone? That might reassure him, especially as YOU would be the one doing the posting?

Tough on Lady, on everybody. Would it maybe help if you used Skype instead of the regular phone, if you can set that up? If you both had webcams and MiniG could see his dad maybe he'd find it easier to speak to him?

Oh and get your Ex to send stuff back, my youngest niece absolutely LOVES getting post. Might be nice for them to get a bit of correspondence going now, then when Mini starts writing it will be a good way of getting him to practice?

haha muse with the techno answer & me rocking it old skool ;-) skypes a fab idea.

Scorps of course you can have the book . Will dig it out. It helped me in the early days to think I had some idea of what to do. It turns out my natural insinct was right, and the book/other people were not, but it did give me some reassurance in those early days so not all bad.

Lady difficult one. Given I have O the same age as MiniG, I have to say that I think it's just a phase. O is very much a mummy's boy and would rather me do things with him/for him than his dad (who he does adore!). My friend told me she's having the same with her son who is also 2 and bit. It seems to be natural that young children gravitate more towards mum than dad, but I have been assured by parents of older children that this evens out as they get older. I know it's more difficult in your situation to explain this to dad, but I honestly think it's a normal part of development. As long as you are positive in front of MiniG about dad then that is all you can do. O likes the phone, but only on his terms and for approx two seconds before he wanders off. He also says 'go way daddy, mummy do it' for anything from nappy changing to getting him out of the highchair. Mr O gets upset too and sometimes calls himself a spare part (bit like I probably will when he's 16 and he's going to watch footbal or something with his dad!). I hope you get something sorted.

BTW: told Mr O that I didn't want his mum to come to the scan. Turns out he has already promised her! However, I got my letter through today and it says clearly that only one chaperone is allowed, so I have a get out clause . PHEW

Thanks for the advice, PESHies. I use my work laptop as my old one is shagged and rubbish and can't install Skype on the work one but have asked for a new netbook for Christmas so maybe I can install a webcam etc on that.

He is very much a Mummy's boy but he HAS to be really. He only has me to rely on 90% of the time. Think his Dad forgets that he is an absentee parent and there is inevitably an associated cost to that.

Just got woken up by a call from my mum to say that they have broken down, aren't coming up today, and don't know how long it will be til they can get here.

Had gone for snooze with mooch as pain v bad and was expecting them to pretty much be here by the time we woke up. Of course it's not their fault but am in tears, we leterally have no one else I can rely on to give me a break and I AM FUCKED.

Bollocks.

'literally', obv, no need for a speedy Gonzales accent.

God, Ginsters I'm so sorry. I'd come over if I could, I really would :( :(

oh shit gin thats bad news :( wish there was something i could do to help. I am bored of work and would happily skive off to come and give you a hand.

Aw, thanks Aries you're lovely. I will get it together, but you know when you are just banking on something and then it's suddenly not happening? Just all feels a bit shit.

And I was looking forward to the work thing tomorrow without having to take mooch with me...am not sure how long I would've stayed anyway, but the idea of having food and a glass of wine and just chilling out was v appealing. Arse arse arse.

LGG, at 2, your mummy is the entire world. I apparently went through a phase of refusing to let my Dad hold me or kiss me when I was that age (poor Dad! ) - and that was when he was at home all the time when not working. I also used to hate using the phone until I was at primary school. I can see why your Ex would take it personally and maybe feel nervous that Mini G might love Mr G more than him, but try to get it through to him that this behaviour is entirely normal and not a reflection on his feelings for his birth father. Counselling because a 2-yr old doesn't like chatting on the phone? Overreaction, much?!

Seconding the idea that Skype might be a solution.

Cheers, Orchid, and PHEW that your scan latter nixes the plans for the MIL to come along. Bit cheeky of Mr O to promise her IMHO. Mind you, would give anything for the ILs to be bothered (TYF's Dad - who he works with! - has only just bothered to mention that he knows about the pg and that was to try to get TYF to agree to calling it the 2 names he's obsessed with if it's a boy* ).

Muse - if it's a 'no news is good news' results thang, then I hope no-once contacts you. Well done for keeping it down and try to take it easy if you can for the rest of the day

X-post, AAARGH! Oh ginster's, so sorry for you. Wish I could come over to. We need to invest in an ESH-copter, so we can drop in on each other in emergencies (or even non-emergencies, heheh). Missing out on little things can be more disappointing that big things, can't it? Gentle rib-avoiding hugs...

Oh Gin, how disappointing . Any chance of getting another sitter for tomorrow night? My friend handily has a teenage sister who MiniG adores who is handy for such occasions - anyone like that you could call on?

Cheers chaps. It's not a night time thing, is lunch/afternoon/evening, and before mum n dad were coming up the plan was to take mooch, and just come home early. So that will be the plan again. Or I may just bail on it, I don't know. Nope there is no one else I can ask, specially not at this short notice.

Tbh the work thing is minor compared to just knowing my folks were gonna be here for a few days to help out... And the fact I now don't know when they are coming at all...

I'll be fine. It was mostly just being woken up with shitty news that made me go all tragic.

Amusingly, chiro said this morning that I really should be signed off and resting due to having trashed myself, and I said 'it's ok! My parents are coming up, everything will be fine!'

Am laughing bitterly on your behalf, gin

Poor gin. Big smooches to you. Try and take it a bit easy if you can. Maybe you and mooch could play Dead Lions?

I have taken myself home as I feel grim. I thought food would help but it left me feeling breathless, dizzy and with heart racing. Think I chose bad things and fucked my blood sugar. Am now home and planning to go to bed. I just want to curl up in the dark. Feels really weird.

That's how I feel often due to my blood sugar probs, Muse. Please try to avoid caffeine and sugar and eat protein. If you feel very shaky, try eating some salt (sounds mental but your glucose being disturbed can throw out your adrenals and salt can right it). I cannot emphasise enough how important it is to eat some protein ASAP. Neck a bit of cheese or summat. I hope you feel better soon, my poor love

Yuk, poor muse. hope bed/ scorp's advice helps.

In more positive news, mr gin has just sorted it so my mum and dad are coming up today. Love love love.

Am off in search of more paracetomol and to make moochy some tea.

ah thats good gin and relax! I hope tey wait on you hand and foot for a bit. Also hope the bone crunching helps in the long run, it all sounds very ouchy and not something you should have to put up with!

muse you poor thing :( i hope results are all good and it was worth it. score sounds like she has good advice there, (now all i want to do it eat a chunk of cheese!) hope you feel better soon.

I am so bored of work. I am supposed to be researching but as it's for projects I won't even be working on, I am finding it hard to summon up any enthusiasm. Ah well only an hour to go and I can finish for the weekend, Hooray!

(feel pathetic now)

ladyG, The seven year old boy child used to be the same but loving his Dad and not wanting to stay with me when he was staying there. I used to just carry on calling regardless, and he eventually realised that I would be there loving him no matter how he acted. Maybe if you called him while he is at his Dads then he would get more used to the phone? Also I agree with what others have said, sending things would be good. But TBH, part of me thinks it shouldn't be up to you to suggest things, ExP is an adult after all.

The boy child isn't saying much but I know that he is pretty weirded out by the FC and I having a child and we have been working really hard coming up with plans to make sure he knows we are one big team. Maybe mini G is trying to stay with you to make sure he stays part of your family and your number one boy even when the new baby comes? I could be talking complete bollocks of course, but that is what is happening here, and a really great tip I had from carrots was rather than say 'aren't you lucky to be getting a little brother' then say 'isn't mini FC lucky to be getting a big brother as brilliant as you?'

Hmmm.... Blended families... Always tricky...

Speak to me, not stay with me - he was visiting his Dad and living with me. It was like he somehow knew it was me that left his Dad and he was punishing me.

And BE your number one boy. God, I really should preview!