banana I can completely understand why you don't want to tell DP. I was convinced my pg had ended a few weeks ago and didn't tell him until I'd heard the heartbeat, knew everything was ok, and THEN felt happy to tell him what had been running through my mind the previous few days. It's daft isn't it? We want to share the good news with people, but then feel like we'd be burdoning them with the bad.
I don't know if this will re-assure you at all, but during my first pg I did some really awful stuff that I definitely thought would end it - had a chest x-ray without telling the nurse I was pregnant, had various immunisations and took some flu medication, again without telling, changed cat litter, ate sushi, smoked one of those hashish pipes you get in middle eastern restaurants. All this because I was too scared to let my Muslim employers guess I was pregnant in case they fired me and left me homeless and penniless on the streets of Kuwait without any way to get home.
But my very healthy DD popped out, a testiment to the fact that babies are tough little buggers. Just like someone said earlier that very few people mc from a fall, similarly I think very few are from all these things we're told not to do. I think it's most often because the way the biology bit came together made it unviable, and the body recognises that. But your scan seems to have shown otherwise.
Does this make sense? Any help at all? Or should I just not waffle on when it's this early and I'm waiting for DD to wake up?