Jue in June part 3

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We have now reached 2000 posts so need to start another thread.

Well survived my shift at work, in fact had a lovely day but thats because i havent set eyes on my line manager. I just did my job with nice colleagues and tried not to think about yesterday.

How do some people reply personally to everyone, i can never remember who said what.

On the subject of twins......those of you have been on here since thread 1 wasnt there someone who had had a scan and they had seen an embryo and another sac so they were going to have another scan to confirm if it was twins, or am i imagining it.

I have had a dull ache in my lower abdomen all day today, cant say its cramps and i have no bleeding but now think ive done something with how stressed i was yesterday. Silly i know......i just NEED to see this little heart beat. 10+3 today and still no date

Sadly, I have had a mmc and will be going in for an erpc tomorrow. Started bleeding at 10 weeks and a scan showed the bean had died at 7 weeks. I had a "reassurance" scan at 7 weeks and all was well, so it must have happened just after.

Lots of luck with your pregnancies ladies.

Poor you Yarnie Sending you hugs and chocolate and anything else that might ease your pain a little.

Hello all,

I haven't posted again for a while as I've been unwell, in and out of hospital for one thing and another, plus my grandmother died.

The last time, I was admitted with pain again, this time on the left side, so not gallstone pain. It turns out I have a small pulmonary embolism on my lung,so I'm glad I went in. had to have a CT angiogram, and I'm injecting myself twice a day with Clexane to deal with the clot (don't want it to kill me, lol).

I do have a familial clotting disorder, Factor V Leiden, which puts me at increased risk of clots in pregnancy, so...ho-hum. Low fat diet for the gallstone problems, and nice stingy pains twice a day from the syringes. I hope this baby comes out okay...

Ooops, forgot to add the positive bit...I did have my booking scan and I was 11 weeks 1 day, so I'm 12 weeks and 2 days today...all looked great! I'm starting to really look forward to this baby...even though I'm paying for it with one thing and another. I've gotten away with so much in my other pregnancies and count them and my children a blessing!

Really sorry to hear that Yarnie xx

I conceived my beautiful DD just 3 weeks after I had a mmc so there is hope for the future xx

Yarnie - so sorry :( take care of yourself.

MrsHedgie - great news about the scan, sorry to hear about your GM, had she been ill?

Nurse - I think you are being absolutely brilliant under these circumstances. Is there a friend who could be with you at the birth? Do you think your mum and dad could loan/give you the money to pay for a birth doula to be with you?

Yarnie I am so very sorry to hear your bad news, all my best wishes to you & your family during this difficult time.

MrsHedgie lovely to see you back but sorry you have been so very poorly, fingers crossed you have been through the worst & will be as well as can be during the rest of your pg. Great news about the scan though :)

I had to go to bed at 6 30 pm but was woken up by various DC's & DP so many times that I ended up getting up at 9 30. Don't think I will have any trouble going back to sleep though, I am so rubbish at the moment I simply cannot manage anywhere near a full day of being awake even though I am glued to the sofa as much as possible. Sometimes I look back to a few months ago when I would happily go out & do an 8 mile run as well as work etc & I don't even feel like I live in the same body anymore if that makes sense. Do you think the MW would have called me if there was anything wrong with my blood results last eg low iron? Only had them last Thursday though.

O mrsbigw I wish I could blame anaemia too! It is getting quite hard to glue myself to the sofa as it is covered in stuff I just don't quite get round to putting away.

Thanks for the kind messages - I feel a lot better today, although DS's vomitting was so fast and furious today he was making more than I could wipe up. I handed him to DH as he walked through the door and dashed round with the anti-bac. I am fully expecting the DDs to puke sooner or later. Last year it was croup and a little trip in an ambulance for DD2 and the year before that she had pneumonia which I didn't pick up until she was coughing up blood because DH and DD1 had 'flu. And STILL she never wears a coat...

mrsbigw sorry to hear you're feeling so tired. I asked the mw how long it took for blood results as I had mine on Monday and she said by the end of the week.

yarnie so sorry to hear your sad news-hope you have lots of support, and take care.

Yarnie, really sorry to hear your news :( Look after yourself.

Mrshedgie, so sorry to hear you're poorly again. It must be such a hassle to inject yourself twice a day, though if it keeps you and baby safe it's worth it :) Really lucky you went in to get checked out. Just shows we should never ignore things or hope they'll just get better on their own.

Oh dear MOSnorts, that sounds horrible. And your poor DD1! Really hope everyone recovers quickly.

Wobblewatcher, oooh are you a nurse too? Have sent him a couple of texts about the house, just basically saying he's going to have to sort it out as I don;t want to get calls about him not paying rent or seomthing. He says he'll sort it so. I don't miss him, but it's hard being alone esp after a long day on placement etc. I am going to call CAB advice line in an hour and have sent messages to a couple of agencies RE houses on gumtree so cross your fingers for me :)

Morning all - can I have an emotional dump? I dont need replies,I just need to get stuff off my chest..
Had my boking in apt yesterday...and left distraught. MW was lovely, did all the paperwork, talked me through the options but the beginning of the end was when she took bloods to test for usual range of stuff, then explained about various fetal defects I could be screened for, then gave me a list of things I need to ask the EPU about my ongoing monitoring mainly because of my age. It suddenly seemed like there were a million ways this baby could not be healthy or even happen at all and I got a bit overwhelmed. She tried to cheer me up by seeing if she could pick up a heartbeat on her listening thing...and couldnt. The final straw was when I showed her a scan apt letter I got from the hospital to make sure it was for my 12 wk scan as the dates were odd. It turned out the apt was for a 20 wk scan for the pg I lost previously - that was my last chance of holding it together.
Ive spent the night imagining that I've already lost the pg, then reliving the odds of having a baby 'with problems' she told me about. Then imagining telling my DH that we have a ds child on the way (which I could cope with but he has already said he would 'demand' and termination) - sorry, but I've got myself into a right state.

Thats it, rant over - sorry if I've bummed anyone out but I really just had to get it out.

Hope everyone else is having a sunny day xxx

mrsh & yarnie it really sounds like you've been in the wars :( Thinking of you xx

Right ladies. I need a rant.....
I'm self employed & have a hair & beauty salon. I love what info but sometimes things happen that really bake my noodle.
I've been finding giving beauty treatments slightly difficult whilst trying to manage the 24/7 ms & found myself gagging while doing a normal pedi the other day. Jeez. What's wrong with me lol.
Anyhow. Last night. I had a new male client book a full body massage. Long story short, during the massage, he told me I have wonderful hands & that he's totally surrendering himself to me. I ignored him & carried on with my treatment. During the arm massage, he kept holding my wrist which I kept changing positions to get out of his grip.
When I had finished, he asked if I had any of the oil I'd blend left. I told him no but was happy to blend him some to take home. He then went on to inform me it was to use now. On the bits I didn't massage. You. You can guess which bits. At this point, he's laying they with the towels half down his torso with his arm & hand stretching down his abdomen....
I ignored him& told him I would have a blend waiting outside for him to take home.
I left him to get changed. He gave himself his happy ending (could hear grunting, nice) paid then left.
Went back in the room to strip the treatment bed (gloved up just incase) & noticed that 5ft of the 7th of protective couch roll tissue was missing.
Eurgh. Why?!!

I'm really annoyed. Ok. No more male clients unless I already know them but it's such a shame that the majority of men are perfectly behaved & the odd one ruins it for the rest of them :/

I really struggled with doing the treatment as was feeling so rotten. Just wish I hadn't have bothered :/

jasmine, I'm sorry you're so worried. All I can say is to try to just put it out of your mind until you have the scan and the screening tests etc. I think we're all worried about these things but think how many women have healthy babies, regardless of age. MW have to tell you about these risks, they told me, they will have told everyone on this thread. It's so that you understand and can give informed consent about the tests. They often can't hear the heartbeats with a stethoscope at this early stage, that's nothing to worry about. So sorry they hosp still sent you the 20wk scan app, I can't imagine how hard that was for you, especially on top of all the other worry. Big hug from me.

Oh my god moufflon, that's horrible. I'm so sorry this has happened, there are some really messed up people out there, really sorry you came into such close contact with one :( Are you on your own on premises? I can imagine that must have been quite scary. I don't blame you for not wanting to book men anymore.

moufflon I would be v tempted to report him to the police for sexual harrasment, if only to know how much he would squirm when they go to interview him about it & he has to explain himself to his wife. How disgusting, what a vile creature.

That was so sad to read about the hospital appt Jasmine, I know it was a clerical error but that doesn't take away how upsetting it must have been. Not suprised it made you feel that way. Am very glad you have a lovely MW though as it will make all the difference as your pregnancy progresses. Also by the time you have your next appt it will all be about you & baby instead of the screening & 'what if's' so please don't be put off.

Good to hear you are finding some new housing options Nursesun, hope it comes through quickly for you. The fact that you aren't missing XP speaks volumes, sounds like maybe you know he wasn't the right one for you. It will be much easier getting on with things if you aren't pining for him so good on you, I think it's great how you are coping with it all.

Thanks Sarahmum & MotherofSP re the exhaustion, I suppose I would of heard something if it was anemia. Must now face facts that I am actually just being a bit of a pregnancy lightweight this time LOL!

anaemia*! am obviously too exhauste to spell properly

moufflon I would be tempted to report that guy too. I don't think you necessarily need to stop giving treatments to men (though this one should definitely be banned for life) but I think it might be worth thinking through a protocol for dealing with such things. I'd like to say if it was me I'd have chucked him out at the first sign of trouble and threatened to call the police, but I'd probably have been so and unprepared I would have done the same as you.

Perhaps you could screen your clients a bit - talk to them about what to expect before you let them book the first time - and then have a very strict policy. One step out of line and you're thrown out or barred (you don't need to tell them that, obviously, but at least you'll be prepared in your own head).

What a sleaze.

jasmine so sorry your booking-in appt didn't go well. I really hope you start to feel better today. We all have those days when we panic (I've had about 100!) and it's normal to worry. But your baby has a much much much greater chance of being fine than not. Hope you get a great scan soon :)

yarnie so sorry to hear that - take care of yourself x

mrshedgie what a time you've been having! Make sure you are getting as much rest as you can - great news about your scan!

moufflon what a disgusting pervert - did he honestly think you would reciprocate? Yuk! What a horrible situation.

Jasmine what a day. I suppose the midwife has to go through all this stuff with you, butit must have been very upsetting. And the scan thing is just really distressing. As for your DH, he can't 'demand' anything - it's your body and your baby and YOUR decision. Don't let him force you to do anything!

GV - that's reassuring that you felt movemenet very early on too. I'm kind of thinking now that it must just be a super super active baby and is bouncing around like mad in there.

moomin - I remember that too - who on earth was it? It def wasn't me - I've not had a scan yet.

Hello everyone :) Just checking in to say that I had my scan this morning and everything looks OK in there. Slightly frustrating that I've been put back 6 days, so only 11 weeks 2 rather than 12 weeks 1 - but the lady said that he was quite curled up and dozy so he may be a bit longer than they managed to measure.

We're calling it a 'he' for the time being as it seems to have inherited my chin and is therefore to be named Brucie. Wonderful.

Also, after finding out my MW is in my spinning class, my sonographer is the mum of one of my old school friends. No chance of keeping anything a secret!

I'm really feeling for you NurseSunshine, whereabouts are you? (do I remember Sheffield?) I would come to your scan with you if i could. I do echo the sentiments of everyone else to say that you seem much better off without him.

Moufflon You should totally give a statement to the police about Mr Perv, eugh, made my skin crawl reading it. You're very professional, I would have just walked out.

Jasmine, it's so hard not to worry isn't it? I refused to look at the screen this morning until DP could promise that there was a heartbeat. You're doing a great job of growing a baby and that's all you need to focus on.

All the best to everyone else I forgot to mention today.

yarnie I'm so sorry to hear your bad news. Look after yourself.

mrshedgie How awful for you. I'm so glad you got yourself checked out though. I had to inject myself during ivf treatmean and a great tip I was given was to numb the area that you're going to inject into with an ice pack wrapped in a towel. It also helps to reduce the bruising.

Nurse I was thinking about you when I was woken up by my cat at 4 o clock this morning! . I know you may have already thought of this but is there a uni/hospital near your parents that you could transfer your training to? I don't know if it would be an option of even slightly practical to move either in with them or close to them. It must be very difficult being to isolated.

11.15 and I haven't been sick yet!

x posts daisyfields. Congratulations!!! lol at Bruce!

Jasmine - {{{{{{hugs}}}}} I remember getting an appt for the 12 week scan after I had my m/c before DS, and I just fell to pieces :(

Moufflon and at your dodgy customer, I guess someone didn't tell him it wasn't that kind of massage I second everyone else - report him, hopefully it'll deter him from trying the same trick on some other poor unsuspecting therapist!! Hope you are okay, and I would stick to your regulars for now. Not surprised you are shook up!!

Thanks for your thoughts everyone - Im celebrating managing to eat a new type of food today so if/when it comes up later I've got something different to look at...sorry, probably tmi but these little things keep me amused!

nurse yes I am on my own premises, just glad I can call my own shots & have nobody to answer too.

mrsbig daisyfields kara Sadly I've had experiences in the past which I've had to involve the police. Nothing was done because basically I hadn't been physically assaulted. Nevermind the verbal assault. Very disappointed with their lack of support :(

take that I met mr perv the previous week, he seemed pretty normal but I didn't book him in as I was on my own that day in the salon. I took the booking yesterday on the basis that I thought I'd sussed him out. Had it not have been for the fact that I'd completed his treatment before he really started, I would have booted him out early as I have done with previous pervs. This time tho, I wanted paying after giving up an hour of my life on him :/ It's difficult.

I do try my best to remain professional at all times so know there is 100% no way my actions could be misread.

Thank you all for listening to my rant. You lot are great xx

Spent the day in bed yesterday, so just skimming through catching up a little bit. Haven't read in depth, but SuperSunny I hate takethat too

Sas maybe twins eh? ohh.

Also pleased to see I'm not the only one not wanting the royal wedding in June .

Not much going on here, just watching crud TV.