Jue in June part 3

[moomin156]

We have now reached 2000 posts so need to start another thread.

Warning in advance that this is going to be a me, me, me post .

You might remember my friend had bad news the other day. Her erpc was yesterday and I looked after her DD for her. We both had bad news at the same time in July so was nice, in a strange way, to have someone to talk to who really understood. This time it's obviously different. She's quite a together person but this one has really knocked her and she has decided she's had enough, which I completely understand. I text her earlier to say I hope she was okay, she replied saying physically yes but emotionally a mess. This is what I expect and yet it's really upset me. I don't know what to do as I am going to be that constant reminder of the pregnancy she is no longer having (she was due 3 weeks after me). I have 2 children, she desperately wants 2. I know there's no answer but I needed to offload my guilt at the pain I am going to cause her just by being around :(

Next post will be much cheerier I promise, just wallowing at the moment and you're the only ones I can talk to about it!

8rd sorry to hear about your husband too, its really hard work being a manager, a really piggy in the middle job......cant please those below or those above. i know i havent been giving it 100% over the last 6 months but nothing was said in my appraisal 4 weeks ago.......i have had a lot going on in my personal life, huge work changes and things are being held together with problems that i know of and need to get staff motivated but with so many changes that can be hard......just think my pg hormones dont help.

I have my booking in appointment on friday so thanks for the tips folks......

Oh 'eck...midwife going to ask me to make decisions? I havent even come to terms that this bump might actually result in a real baby let alone thought about where I want it or what screening I want done! Now I'm panicking...sleep to keep the puking level down for the rest of the day or get onto google to find out about screening?...hit the ginger chockies first I think..
x

Don't panic! They give you a booklet which explains everything about screening :) It's basically whether you want tests to find out the chances of having a baby with Downs or other chromosome abnormality. I'm having the nuchal scan which measures the fluid behind the babies neck (nuchal fold), they then take my blood and use the results from both to give an clearer indication of my chances. Once those results are in there are other avenues for testing you can go down if you choose but no need to think about those yet! The only decision you might need to make is whether you want the nuchal fold (if they offer it in your area, not all do). No decisions on where to have the baby have to made until quite near the end so you can keep changing your mind!

Enjoy the biscuits :)

Opps, chockies, not biscuits (my mind often wonders to biscuits )

Hi folks. Had a proper tummy bug yesterday and made DH stay at home so I could sleep all day. Which would have been really nice if I'd not felt so ill. knackered I'll try to pm you about my experiences with a friend who lost babies. It's too long and too sad to post for everyone - but it might help you. Must try to get back into eating, woman cannot live on Fox's glacier minus alone...

Hi folks. Had a proper tummy bug yesterday and made DH stay at home so I could sleep all day. Which would have been really nice if I'd not felt so ill. knackered I'll try to pm you about my experiences with a friend who lost babies. It's too long and too sad to post for everyone - but it might help you. Must try to get back into eating, woman cannot live on Fox's glacier minus alone...

i think that should say MINTS

and I've double posted. Phone has a mind of its own...

and I've double posted. Phone has a mind of its own...

Knackered for you and your friend, it must be hard because you want to support her but clearly you cannot help being a reminder of what she has lost You sound like a brilliant friend though

Had my booking in appointment, at first she was a little put out that I was changing hospitals, and she said that I should have been given enough info at the pre booking in appointment, however when I pointed out that I HADN'T been given adequate information and I was just asked "where are you going?" she was more understanding and is much more supportive. I also told her I am considering a home birth which she didn't knock back, I explained I would make my decision once I am further along but wanted the back up of being able to go into the hospital of my choice, which she was happy with. So unless any futher complications arise then I am hoping she will support my HB option

And despite my being fat bugger (BMI 36!) she is happy for me to not be referred for consultant led care. I believe this is because this is not my first pregnancy and I had a straight forward, vaginal, intervention free birth with Daniel,
plus apart from being fat I am very healthy with lowish BP.

So overall a good result I think!

Kara - sounds like a good appt - excellent that your midwife seems so accommodating

motherofsnortpigs - goodness me poor you. Make sure you get plenty of sugar and salt into you to stock up your stores

Oh knackered - don't feel guilty. It's a tricky situation but you can't help what has happened. I hope she has good news soon.

bananarama - that's so funny - I get berocca radioactive urine too. I am on pregnacare and it definitely does have an...erm...brightening effect on my pee although nowhere near as dramatic as berocca does

moomin - LOL - sorry sorry - it's prob really cool and retro by now

Well, I am now positive that I am feeling 'movements' - and my midwife-friend felt movement today too so I'm definitely not imagining it. I'm sure my dates are right, so can't understand it - phoned my midwife today to see if my scan can be moved forward - she's going to try but it's doubtful apparently.
I'm honestly thinking twins now

Oh my sasamaxx! That's bloody amazing! What's your dates and guessing not your 1st?
I'm not expecting to feel anything for ages yet, but número uno for me!
I've booked a private scan for next Wednesday so will be exactly 12 weeks. I'm too impatient it appears and figure I just want to get past this hurdle so for £55 I figure why not, I spend more than that on a night out and this is a billion trillion times more important.

misshoohaa I'm 11+4 and it's #3
Didn't feel movement until 20wks 1st time and 17wks 2nd time so it's definitely different...

OMG sasamaxx!! That's so amazing! Double trouble or twice as nice?!

Sorry about work moomin :( Hope you can rise above it all and just concentrate on yourself. I know it's hard though, you're at work all day, of course it has an effect.

Hope you#'re feeling better now MOSnortP tummy bugs are NO fun.

Nice one Kara, sounds like a good appointment.

Knackered - so sorry about your friend :( I'm sure that, even though she's so sad and exhausted of it all herself, it won't stop her being happy for you and wishing the best for you.

I dreamt last night that I was really worried about having has a mmc so lied to get an early scan(!) and the baby was fine and it was a girl :) I hope so. The closer I get to my scan the more scared I get. I'm also not looking forward to going to the scan alone and everything else. Not sure about mother as birth partner! She lives about 2 hours away anyway :( I think it's beginning to sink in today and I feel like I'm about to cry all the time.

Sorry if I worried you Jasmine, didn't mean to at all, hope you had a lovely appointment anyway.

Sasamaxx oh thats is so exciting; please remind me how many weeks are you now? Does your MW friend think it is twins too? Apparantly that is 2 strong signs of twins you are showing there, well according to DR Google, I am no expert!

I managed to change my scan appointment as I was struggling with childcare & it's been brought forward a day to next tuesday, thankfully it's at 8 30am too so I wont have to be nervous all day either.

Misshooha thats a good price on a scan, definitely worth the money. I have held off buying scan so far but only because I got my appointment through.

Glad your plans for the birth are going well kara I love the idea of home birth but it wouldnt be practical for me.

maybe your dream was a message nurse - that would be lovely. I had a couple of great dreams at the start but none lately.

Hope the booking in went well jasmine - having ascertained that my midwife is alive I now need to be able to talk to her! but progress none the less.

hope your day was better today moomin

nurse I can't imagine how hard this is for you at the moment - remember you are never alone - your baby is with you all the time.

mrsbigw - mw friend says she's not sure - it might be dates, twins or an unusually short pelvis. Surely if it was a short pelvis, though, this would have happened before. I'm 11+4. Wow - are they really 2 twins signs according to google? I just CANNOT wait 2 weeks to find out now!!

Thanks sasamaxx, that's all I have keeping me going right now :)

Yep, uterus measuring big for dates & early movement. I can't wait for you to find out either Sasamaxx! So exciting have a little google yourself; I promise there's not the usual google doom & gloom waiting for you.

nurse I hope things get easier soon I'm sure it must be a huge shock at the moment.

MotherofSP I hope you are feeling well & recovered now, pregnancy is hard enough without being ill to boot.

Glad you are making some progress catherine with the MW, I have been very lucky so far as mine is absolutely lovely & easy to find. Wish there was some way of getting her to do the birth with me too that would be brilliant!

Hello everyone, I'm glad I sparked some take that debate :) As for the royal wedding although generally not a big royal fan I do think it's nice to see two people looking so genuinely happy and I always felt for William & Harry when their mum died. A lot of pressure on the couple though.
I am STILL feeling sick (why isnt't there a puke smiley would be so appropriate!!)When oh when will it stop :(
sasamaxx v exciting feeling movement already, wow!
Have NHS scan on 26th, nine days to go....

Evening all,

Well I'm about ready for bed. Infact I think I might head there after this message! Somehow managed the day on such little sleep and even got away with not ripping my poor dc's heads of for small, insignificant things . Probably helps that they are both doing xmas plays and keep singing me songs from them, much cuteness :)

Nurse - am currently thinking up ways of creating a magic powder that will sort out the stresses and strains for you. You sound as though you are being strong, remember that crying doesn't mean you aren't strong it just means you need to release something. You have plenty of time to think about birth partners, etc so don't worry about that yet. Big fat hugs working their way to you through the power of the computer and lots of virtual chocolate (or what ever takes your fancy!).

Jasmine - Hope booking in went well :)

8RD - you just have to love being woken up like that . DD once woke me up by leaning right into my face, I woke up, she scared the pants off me and I headbutted her by mistake as I sat up quickly. . . needless to say she didn't see the funny side being only about 2 at the time (I had to stifle giggles through the searing pain in my head!).

Moomin - hope your day has been okay. Just think, one more day towards leaving

sasamaxx -twins eh When we went for my first scan the sonographer said there was only one. When we came out dh mentioned that she said it as though it was a good thing! He was desperate for twins girls and now his final chance has gone :)

catherineps - glad your mw is alive, always helps I think

motherofsnortpigs - thank you for any advice you can give. I have found today quite hard, especially as she has avoided me (not that I blame her or am cross about it, just sad . . .but also need to remember it's not about me!) Can you really not live on mints alone . . . how longs have you tried for Maybe you should alternate between the mints and the fruits (sure it counts as 1 of your 5 a day!)

Kara - glad it went well and you put the mw in their place :) Good news about not being consultant led as well :)

Misshoohaa - Can't believe you're 12 weeks next week and haven't heard about a scan. Do they not do you at 12wks where you are? Good news on the private scan, so worth the money (says she who has had 2 already )

mrsbw good news on getting your scan moved forward and to the morning :) Having mine at 2.30pm the other day made the whole day draggggggggg on for soooooooo looonnnnngggg :)

Really am off to bed now and I'm pretty sure I can't manage extreme tiredness and not being grumpy 2 days in a row!

Oh my gosh, how many smiley faces can I use

Nurse how awful for you, I can't imagine even being preg during nurse training (been there) But then to have the trauma of the break up too. Do you miss DP do you think? Have you been in contact with him? I read about your rows and feeling like you couldn't say anything, how awful.

Sorry to all those still feeling sick

Sasamaxx wow movement already! There was a thread on pregnancy where there were women feeling it early.

Very tired today but sickness not too bad. Had my booking appointment Monday which was pretty non eventful. Remembered MW from DD pregnancy which was nice and she thought DD was lovely and cute because she kept stroking my hand during the appointment!

Evening ladies,
moomin rubbish news about work. Hope you're feeling a bit better tonight.

I've had more problems at work too. My boss has told me that she's revoking my flexible working when I change jobs in Jan (for no reason apparently) and because it was only a trial I can't do anything about it. She also said she doesn't know what role there will be for me, so I am now in fear of my job, AGAIN. I do think I have been so upset this pregnancy that I am losing the capacity to care anymore. I started to feel really excited about the baby yesterday, so am focusing on that tonight :)

knackered I don't have any advice I'm afraid, but can really relate to how you're feeling. One of my friends had a mmc at 12 weeks. We were pg together last time, but I haven't told her I'm pg again yet (she was quite a few weeks ahead of me). I know she will be happy for me, but it makes me feel guilty and so sad about what happened.

nurse sorry to hear what you're going through. Can only second the advice on here that baby is the thing to focus on right now. Really hope you're ok

Sass movements already, that's fab! I felt movement v early last time (about 13 weeks so not as early as you). Haven't felt anything yet (I'm 13+2). I think we are all particularly excited for your scan

Hope everyone else is ok tonight. I think my ms is easing (hurray!!). I've had 2 nasty stomach bugs this pg, so am well and truly sick of being sick!!!

We're going to centerparcs next week. Never been before but really looking forward to the break from work. Oh and it's winter wonderland there now so lots of things to get in the festive spirit :)