Feb babies 2011 - We may not be glowing but we're definitely growing!

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The old thread was getting quite full so I took the liberty of starting a new one, I hope nobody minds! I thought I'd keep in with our glowing and growing theme (I'm not very creative, sorry).

slightly suprised at how early the kids these days seem to be starting with boy/girl friends. I think in addition to my baby being like delias in that it will watch no TV, enjoy country walks, and being a completely wholesome perfect child, there will also be no boy/girlfriends until they are at least 25 [hgrin] [toungue in cheek emoticon]

I know dd1 came home from school last week and told me "X says he fancies me" (5 year olds) I told her that fancies just means they like you and they think you're nice and she told me "No it means you are pretty!!" . I then asked her what she said to him and she said "I told him I don't fancy anyone but my mummy, daddy and myself"

Well my ds is in love with Megan Fox, Transformers is his all time fav movie and he tells everyone who listens that she is very pretty and he wants to marry her.

Whats worrying is he already has a "g/f" according to himself and she is in the year above him. I have no idea where he gets his confidence from as i have none and was bullied terribly at school. I guess its a blessing that he is happy and settled and has lots of friends, even if it is girls who want to kiss and hug him all the time as he points out.

ScMacBt I agree I love that dd1 has confidence I was always quite shy, bit of a joiner but happy enough on my own, but she seems to make friends easily, she is the youngest of her class but nothing really fazes her. I think she has a bit of a crush on One Direction (X Factor) but doesn't know it, if you know what I mean. She gets all giggly when they're on, but much prefers Cheryl!!

expat no you're not the only one, I'm not going too much, but I had a terrible night last night anyway as I was so uncomfy. And now I'm finding that dd is keeping me awake by moving and kicking, which is nice as I get to feel that she's there, but not nice because it means I get no sleep! I dozed all morning though and haven't done anything productive today.

My TPT is... wait for it... a whopping 9.25!!! But it's all because I have extra small roll, I'm sure [hwink]

wigglesrock im sure if d be slightly panicking (sexist i know) but he just has this cheeky charm and everyon loves him. All the ladies in his dinner school/school office totally adore him and fuss over him.

Ds likes cheryl also but then again so does 90% of the country at this point ha. It funny to see them get all giggly over the opposite sex as its all so innocent and cute.

I refuse to panic about dds and boys, I keep thinking of myself at 16 and thinking oh God, please be more sensible than me or at least slightly cooler

Mr Wiggles sometimes has a mild panic about the clothes that they may choose to wear but I can remember some of the indecently short skirts I wore (although always with black tights even in July!!) And I met Mr Wiggles at 17 and we weren't each others first boyfriend and girlfriend, in fact I was the Other Woman . Don't get me started on Cheryl Cole, I find her the most vapid person on the TV, I could cheerfully choke her

hello ladies

TPT 8.5 sheets (I cheated and did this last night as the loo roll at work is a weird long strip and cant be ussed in official matters such as TPT)

Thanks for your messages on Fri night too - have calmed down now and DH has agreed that if his BF insists on those dates for his stag do, he wont go (4 days before D-Day for anyone who is interested!!!) And had that glass of wine but on Sat night while watching X Factor - bliss!

Had a v. exciting night last night. Rescused one of my beautiful chickens from the wratch of Mr Fox, but then had to take her to the vet for stitches (my Mum finds this histerically funny ) while DH took DS2 to hospital as he had split his lip on the kitchen sink. Everyone okay now though - phew, what an evening. Am please to say chook wasnt most bizarre pet in Vets waiting room - there was a rat with breathing trouble and a hedgehog who had come in for nail clipping/manicaure - so I didnt feel like total nutcase!

Wiggles that really made me laugh about your DS and who she fancies! Lets hope she keeps with that til at least 18!

Funnily enough, I actually got a full nights sleep last night! Kids were exhausted from a day out and the evenings 'entertainment' and didnt so much as whimper all night long....ahhhhhhhh lovely.

How is everyone else? I have only scan read past posts since Sat so hope you are all feeling better [hgrin]

Okay i feel as if i have missed something whats TPT?

If my Bump decides to be a girl i hope she is infinetly prettier and cooler than me than i was. According to my best friend i am the rea life ugly duckling. So bad ws i that no pictures exisist of me before i was 16!!

In response to Cheryl Cole i think she is way to publicised at the minute and her dramatics and tears begin to wear thin very quickly.

40weeks my goodness you had an interesting night :)Bet you are glad Dh has come to his senses regarding stag do!

TPT is toilet paper tuesday! you have to measure your bump at its widest with toilet roll and then report how many sheets wide you are! Great fun

I dont mind Cheryl Cole, I agree she is over publicised but then thats not always the persons fault. If their lives sell papers/mags then people wont leave them alone. I couldnt bear to live like that though.

Yes SMB he did come to his senses and tried to imply that he never would have gone (so why mention it then!?!?!) He will have another stag do later in the year plus a golf trip to Portugal this November - and I wish him well on all of them, all I ask is that none of them are when our DC3 is born!! Oh and that I can get 2 nights on my own at a Health Spa please [hwink] Nice nap by the way!

Oh well in terms of TPT im 7 sheets. Dunno how this compares etc :o

I atched her on Piers Morgan on Saturday and did feel a bit shit for her especially seeing how that pratt broke her heart. I also would never cope with that amount of scrutiny in my life, how could i ever go to school in my horrible velour jogging suit (comfiest thing for the morning walk now its freezing), no make up and hair a riot?

Glad he cameto his senses 2 nights at a health spa sounds wonderful i must admit! Ifi can emotionally blackmail my parents or sisters into babysitting im planning on a wee weekend away in the summer as a belated christmas/birthday present to myself.

Oh my nap rocked i must admit .

40weeks when I used to take my guinea pig to the vet, my mum always refused to tell the vets (she used to come with me for moral support ) my guineas 'proper' name as they call out the animal in the waiting room like they call out your name in the doc surgery as she was too by it, but then, the name was 'Sir Smeogal Didymus'. [hgrin] Mum's probably thinking heaven help what I call this baby [hwink] .

wiggles so the 'my friend x fancies you' starts early now a days does it [wishfully thinks back to the olden innocent days]. I think I hated anything to do with smelly boys until I got to secondary school. But then, I do remember having a big thing for new kids on the block when I was about 9 and started my take that obsession when I was about 10 [hhmm]. I'm v excited they are due to tour next year btw but think I will give it a miss - mr angels will moan about the huge cost of tickets when we have so much on our new house to do and unless I go mad and turn up at wembley box office at 5am (which I have done when I was a teen but will not do now) I don't think I'll get much of a good view. I'm a bit of a view nazi - if I'm not in the first few rows or so in things like that I don't tend to bother (which is probably why I haven't been to anything of that nature for about 8 years!).

scmatbt I think my DH must have ugly duckling-itis with photos like you - I've never EVER seen any pictures of him pre about 20 years old (other than his old passport picture, which was hillarious ).

I do miss being able to spontaneously do stuff. Pre-children we'd often decide on the spur of the moment to go to the pub, or call each other at work and arrange a cinema or theatre trip for that evening, or stuff like that. Now anything we do in the evening needs to be planned well in advance and involves booking (and paying!) a babysitter, and it's almost impossible to find a babysitter for anything that starts too early or finishes too late so that limits what we can do.

Still, in about ten years I'll probably feel comfortable leaving DS babysitting the other two and heading out for a quiet drink at the pub, at least

Ha ha love the name Angels - I felt terrible as she asked me the chickens name and I didnt have one! She tutted and so I said, Bluey as she should lay blue eggs when she is old enough and I felt so uncool and unoriginal (but thats nothing new) DH not happy that I spent £42 on a hen either but I know in my heart I have done the right thing. We have to give her antibiotics for 5 days, that should be fun! Couldnt let her suffer, poor love.

OK well have to confess I shall be on the phone/internet of Friday morning when TT tix go on sale [hblush]

Wlecome back from hols prof hope you had a nice time. I know what you mean about being spontaneous. It just doesnt happen [hsad] I really do miss the pub I have to say

Hello!

I can't believe it's half term already! I just get used to DD being at preschool and now she's off!

What a miserable day! Rain, rain, rain - I spent 45 minutes waiting for a bus to take DD to a friend's house to find that the bus that goes in that direction doesn't go anywhere near my friend's house! Grr, stupid public transport [hangry] so she came and got us in the end! Lovely, kind friend [hsmile].

Angels, I thought that I would miss just being a couple but TBH it's not that different. When DD goes to bed we still have time to spend together on our own - this might be different for people who struggle to get their kids to stay in bed but DD is usually very good (sorry, that sounds really smug. I don't mean it to, she does misbehave in other ways). DD has enhanced our lives so much and I really enjoy her (and I say this as someone who likes their alone time). In fact, last year for my birthday we had MIL look after DD while DH and I went to the cinema and for something to eat. The cinema was OK but when we were eating we just really missed her! It felt too quiet as no one was singing, or shouting or talking rubbish and we were desperate to get her back! Sometimes I can't remember what life was like beforehand, like Wiggles said. Your life will change but it will change for the better!

I've just realised that I haven't done my TPT measurement. I'll do it later as I'm freezing and I don't want to move from under my blanket - brrr!

Hmmmm, could I have some advice from impartial ears? well, as you all know, I've just been signed off for a month after struggling with doing what I can. Work have been fab so far, and have extended my sick pay so I was on full pay when they could have paid me less. Have now got an email saying from next month (ie next week) I'll be on SSP.

Am now getting worried about how I'll cope with so little. Official school policy is 1 month full pay then one month half pay then SSP. They have given me 2 months full pay (although I have been working limited hours for one of those months so not officially completely 'sick'). I had a meeting a few weeks ago where I left under the assumption/belief that if I was signed off sick again for november I would go down to half pay for a month then SSP from december, so I was expecting half pay for another month.

I really don't know whether to just accept SSP and be grateful they have been so good with me or whether to make a bit of a fuss that I was under the impression I would get half pay.

I feel a bit annoyed that I was expecting half pay for another month but at the same time feel grateful that they have been so good to me so don't know if I want to smack them in the face with saying I thought I would be on half pay (of which I have no written proof that I would get it). Don't want to be unreasonable hence asking what your thoughts were.

thanks for your reassurances btw on enjoying life as a parent. My sister is 10 yrs younger than me and before she was born I wasn't sure if I wanted a sister/how I would cope, but we were/are really close and I used to look after her tons and used to really enjoy doing things with her on family holidays etc and felt the same as slaughtered in that things didn't feel the same without her. I'm hoping that it will be the same with this baby and I'll never really miss life without this little one.

40Weeks - I can't believe he even mentioned it if he "wouldn't have gone". Clearly testing the waters and now trying to cover for it! And I would've done the same thing for a chicken, would just feel like it's my responsibility to take care of her.

DH and I are both hopelessly dorky so either this baby will also be hopelessly dorky or find it very easy to be cooler than us.

Gosh yes. we have plenty of time to ourselves too. Its about trusting someone to look after them and just making the effort. We have tickets for Chelt races and a sitter and thats for March we will have a few drinks and bets and some fun. Also have wedding in June and have sitter for that looking forward to getting drunk and riding up and down the lifts in the hotel with dh.
Tablets have worked really well already. I have some energy back and no breathlessness. My mum is nurse and said iron works very fast. I have jet black pooh tho haha.
angels seek some advice about the pay im not sure where you stand. I know they can make you start mat leave if you are sick after 36 wks.
Our local hospital is midwife led only from Jan so i will have to go to Gloucester which is very inconvenient as 8 miles away so ho[pe to be home form my planned section asap.Mine is penciled in for 31.1.11 might book her birthday party for next year.
Its new and purpose built but i dont think they have any private rooms even for payment. If i get vile people in my ward i will ask to be moved or chip off home im afraid.

I'm also hoping that DD will be cooler than me! I was always quite shy. She's already showing signs of being more confident so I'm hoping it will continue.

DH was the cool one at school, who all the girls fancied. Well according to him anyway [hhmm] (we went to different schools and met when I was 17) although I must admit that I did get quite a few "ooh aren't you luckys" when we started going out! [hgrin]

Angels I don't have any advice on the work thing. I haven't worked "for someone" for quite a while (was a childminder up until recently) so have no ideas about laws etc and what you should be entitled to. I'm the worst person to say, although having a cut in your pay sucks, particularly at the moment!

angels have you thought about sending an informal email just saying 'can I just check that your now putting me on ssp because I was under the impression that I was getting half pay in November' if you keep it chatty and light it won't look like your being ungrateful but will remind them that they said something else.

Everyone is talking about staying on a ward in hospital. Is it too optimistic to expect to go home within a few hours of giving birth? Assuming its a natural birth of course. Surely its always better to go home to your own bed ASAP or am I missing something?

angels have you thought about sending an informal email just saying 'can I just check that your now putting me on ssp because I was under the impression that I was getting half pay in November' if you keep it chatty and light it won't look like your being ungrateful but will remind them that they said something else.

Everyone is talking about staying on a ward in hospital. Is it too optimistic to expect to go home within a few hours of giving birth? Assuming its a natural birth of course. Surely its always better to go home to your own bed ASAP or am I missing something?

thanks for comments - I didn't really want a legal view (as I know they are being above board), just if you thought I would be unreasonable to question to them going on to SSP when they have given me more than enough sick pay as it is... zero that was my thought too - for an informal email, but I don't want to appear cheeky/rude to try and sqeeze them for all I can get when they've been so good.

Zero if everything goes to plan i think you will get home quickly. Lots of people leave a few hours later, assuming nothing needs monitoring. The ward might not be that bad, you will be so pleased with your new bundle that nothing else will matter (but get DH to bring your food in!) [hsmile] And you can always discharge yourself!