Feb babies 2011 - We may not be glowing but we're definitely growing!

[Wanderingsheep]

The old thread was getting quite full so I took the liberty of starting a new one, I hope nobody minds! I thought I'd keep in with our glowing and growing theme (I'm not very creative, sorry).

EarlGrey, might be something that someone who is having a home birth could do! I've never heard of her so I haven't read anything of hers.

earlgrey there is a rake of stuff on Ina May Gaskin in Childbirth section and I think maybe on some older posts in Feminism /Womens Rights.

wigglesrock I got the exact same one the other day, seems like a bargain, hopefully...

janedoe huge congratulations on your baby girl! it's suddenly become a lot more real if that makes sense.

thank you for all your support about healthy people with one kidney, really good to hear

I'm intrigued about how any woman would be in the mood during labour but certainly wouldn't knock it as an option

I'm glad we're all measuring around the same and it's much better than using a tape measure.

earlgrey I've heard having nookie in early labour can help the pain (forget where I heard it though). I felt a bit when I heard it as surely that really is the last thing on your mind at that time (??). I forget the reasoning behind it but I think it involved it spurting the body to produce some kind of hormone or spasm something that helps pain relief.

I went last night to measure my loo roll with my tap measure (trying not to let DH see me doing it as he'd think I had gone mad!) and it measured 5" too. Think mine are charmin (or cushelle or whatever they call themselves these days).

I can confirm it was the last thing on my mind at the time I did try to talk DH into some nookie to bring on labour but he was having none of it and I think it would have just been uncomfortable anyway.

wandering Asda have boxes of nappies (Pampers I think) on offer, baby wipes, a baby gym, car seat, bouncy chair, I feel like I'm in the generation game and maybe showing my age!!

Nookie in labour, I'm afraid if dh even holds my hand in labour, it irritates me, never mind try with the feckin' back rubs so I think nookie is well out the window

Anyone who even touches me in labour risks a nasty and painful death. Anyone suggesting nookie would probably wind up disembowelled with a teaspoon...

Pmsl @ "anyone suggesting nookie will probably end up disembowelled with a teaspoon."

Once your waters have gone I know that you're not allowed any because of risk of infection etc.

Morning everyone, btw!

I bet all the loo roll meassures the same, it would not make sanse as much of that stuff is actually made in the same factories and just put in diff. bags.

There was a thread on childbirth by a husband asking about this and if he should propose it to his wife, the responses were hilarious! very much in the teaspoon disembowelment camp.

dreamt again last night that it is a boy, so I am pretty sure now that it is a girl...

Gah, I've just had a text off my friend, who is due the week before me, saying that she's having a little girl! Fabulous news but she's announced that they're going to call her Charlotte, which is our name for a girl (she didn't know as I didn't tell her). It may well be that I'm having a boy but does this now mean that I can't use Charlotte? DH has his heart set on it! We are going to use Lottie as a nickname. It's weird, we must have similar taste in names as when I was pg with DD (Isabel) I told her we were going to call her Isabel and she laughed and said, "wow that's so funny as one of the names that ex suggested for the baby that I mc'd was Isabella, so we were going to use that for a girl!"

Late to the game as always, but I'm 8 sheets and the receptionist at work told me I'm "quite solid" now.

Congrats to everyone having scans and finding out the sex. I feel like I've bonded with him a lot more since finding out the sex. He's becoming an actual person in my mind instead of just "the baby."

Wanderingsheep - I'd still use Charlotte, especially as you intend to use a nickname. Maybe your friend will be overdue then she'll look like a copycat.

Lol! I think if we're having a boy I will text her and ask what her boys name was as we can't think of any boys names. I'm not bothered at all of having DCs with the same name (I mean Charlotte is hardly unusual is it - there are millions!) I'm just a bit worried that she might think, "that cheeky bitch has copied me!" I hardly ever see her TBH.

I would be more inclined to text her back right now with "You are KIDDING! Charlotte is our girl's name too! Still, this could still be a boy..." so that she knows you haven't copied her.

Hi all,

Had scan yesterday and all well so far, it was really lovely seeing more of the baby, sat on its ar$e for most of it but did a bit of jigging around and a big yawn/stretch type manoeuvre.

Then had consultant apt which I had been told was routine but was actually because of my high pre-preg BMI. Would have been nice to have been told that as was a bit of a shock to only find out there and then that it was an appointment about me being fat. As it happens, I'm only just on the level where they trigger these appointments (and have put on hardly any weight during pregnancy so far), and they're not going to change my care at all, but I do need to do the fasting glucose blood test thing. Am dreading it a bit to be honest. I have to go in at 8.30 with no breakfast and have blood taken, and then drinnk lucozade, then sit for 2 hours and then more blood taken to see how I am dealing with the sugar. I know I will be chucking up all morning if I can't eat so am not looking forward to it :-( ! Still I know why they do it and will be happier knowing that all is OK, but it will just be a bit of a horrid morning!

Apart from that, everything is fine so onwards and outwards!

D

Delia, glad your scan went well. Good luck for your GTT. I'm sure it will be fine but hope you feel ok during it.

Prof, I did do. She hasn't texted me back though so I'm hoping she's not mad! She's so lovely though so I doubt it. All could be a moot point anyway if I'm having a boy! Hopefully will find out tomorrow! [excited and nearly wetting myself emoticon]

delia great scan news :) On the GTT test score my mw seems open that I can do daily urine sugar tests and be monitored instead as I've raised the same worry with her. If it comes to it tbh, I'd rather be treated assuming I have GTT than go through a horrible fasting test where I know I will feel really nasty and sick.

wandering I think friends can often choose the same name - my previous fave girls name (matilda or 'tilly' for short) has been chosen by someone I know due a couple of months before me, and I know it's bad, but don't want to look like a copycat so have given up on that. Also, our chosen boys name my friend said was one of her chosen boys names (she's had a girl luckily) and it's a really unusal choice for boys name so it's really odd we both independantly chose it!

Just got back from mw - another epic 45 min appointment when it should have only been 15 mins . They have got me to fill in an NHS 'vulerable person' form so they can keep an extra eye on me and apparently I'll continue to see health visitor for longer than usual after birth to check I'm OK. I've been having problems with anxiety (amongst other things) in pg and I think they are concerned with how I'm coping/PND. Anyone have any experience with this? I'm also (haven't mentioned anything about work for a while here as didn't want to continue self moaning) struggling with work and mw seemed to think it may be best all round if I just get signed off for my pg as it's all making the anxiety issues quite epic. But I'm feeling a bit stupid - I know no one else who is signed off for the first few months with bad ms then the last few months from struggling to cope in general - I fel such a weed

Hi angels. Sorry to hear about your anxiety :( it's not stupid or a weakness! I have suffered in the past but not while I was pregnant so I don't know about the vulnerable person list. I expect they will just keep a close eye on you for PND.

I got PND with DD and my HV at the time was really helpful. I also had some counselling which really helped but I didn't want to take any drugs because I was paranoid about drugs getting into my breastmilk.

My top tip would be to make sure you get out every single day, even if it's just a walk around the block. Joining groups is great too, especially local ones so you can build up a support network. Some surestart centres have bumps and babies clubs so you can meet some other mums-to-be.

Don't feel a weed- pregnancy is a breeze for some lucky people but not for everyone.

thanks eaurouge . I have an anxious disposition anyway and have been on medication in the past for it (although not in past few years) but just seems to be alot worse since getting pg. Problem is with joining groups etc while pg (with baby is fine - tons to choose from) is don't really feel up to it, and was hoping that going back to work I'd feel a bit less isolated getting to see all the friendly folk - which I do. I'm worried if I get signed off I'll get really really lonely (already quite lonely after months of being stuck home ill and now stuck home whenever not at work having to rest as I feel so terrible from exhaustion from work when I do go in). It's like swings and roundabouts and I'm not sure what to do there's no right answer to this :(

Great to hear another healthy scan story, congratulations Delia!

angels, I wish we lived closer as I'm feeling the same about not working and it would be good to meet up but please don't beat yourself up about not working. If that's what it means to ensure you feel relaxed (well, as relaxed as possible) and that you get enough rest then so be it, this is your pregnancy and you need to do what's right for your body. I've decided not to return to work after baby is born too as I know myself well enough to know my nerves just won't take it. You are being sensible not weak!

wandering don't worry about using the same name, especially if you hardly ever see her. Our name is the same as my old best friend's son but we haven't seen each other for years, I just see her parents around. I'm not worried at all as I've always loved the name.

angels please don't beat yourself up about work, if you can, get signed off. It will be another decision made, another worry off your mind. I was signed off from about 28 weeks with dd2 because I generally felt "shite"!! Stop being so hard on yourself, this is my 3rd and I have never felt worse, still being sick, now do as you're told before I have to hop on a plane and beat your bare bum!! (This is Mr Wiggles response to our almost 3 year old while she is hanging upside down on the sofa) xxxxxxxx

Just watched this on you tube and really recommend it to any first timers (or not as the case may be!) getting nervous about birth. I'm not normally a huge fan of Davina but she talks sense, I think! It made me cry a bit when she talked about being in transition but that's probably my hormones, I cried because I'd run out of peanut butter this morning

Agree with wiggles and NTSZ, angels don't beat yourself up about work, it's just one aspect of your life and at the moment it's not the most important one. You know this already, but you're not to blame for any of the things that have affected you in your pregnancy - not for the MS and not for the anxiety. It's all stuff that has just happened through no fault of your own, and given you a bit of a cr@ppy time of it. You're certainly not a weed, I marvel at how you've managed with what this pregnancy has thrown at you.

And just to demonstrate that you're being amazing and I'm not, I will now offload about my current state of panic about the GTT and risk of GD and its implications. I've stupidly been scaring myself about what the chances are that I will 'fail' the test and that I might have GD. I suppose I feel a bit stupid as for a number of reasons (not being asked for ages, and then not being given a sample bottle and forgetting to ring up and arrange to collect one), the first time I gave a sample was yesterday, so I am now driving myself round the bend worrying about whether something should have been flagged earlier. And cos it's related to my BMI, there is also the blame thing going on that it's my fault if something is wrong as I was overweight to start with, although it was an unplanned pregnancy so it wasn't a deliberate decision. And now the wondering whether I should be modifying my diet now as it's 2 months until the GTT and it seems like a long time to wait if something is already wrong.

So I'm busy getting my knickers in a knot about that now, and it's actually for something that might not even be a problem... Am clearly having an afternoon of being ridiculous.

D

thanks for your thoughts all. I just feel annoyed and frustrated with myself as I REALLY WANT to work! I'm just not managing it - I said to work could I be paid sick pay and then just come in and do what I can when I can (see - I'm dedicated - I'm prepared to do what I can manage and get no extra money for it!) but they say lots of legal probs and either I'm fit to work or I'm not :( I'm getting myself in a bad cycle as just the thought of the pressure of giving the commitment of saying I can take over a class unaided makes me really really anxious as I get so worked up I might not manage it and I'll let the school down (I love my job so much and hate letting anyone down). It would be alot easier if I didn't really give a stuff about it! Have agreed with work to keep going (still only an hour or so a day) for 2 weeks and reassess with GP as to whether it's good for me to continue or not.

needtosleep watched the vid - v. interesting but I'm still freaked out about it all. Liked what she was sayign about putting all of the strength/pressure into your body to direct it to getting the baby out rather than just wailing like a mad thing

delia have you spoken to mw about your worries? I'm sure you're not doing anything to harm your baby. I don't get offered to take the GTT test until 28 weeks anyway so how could giving a sample in this week make things too late (???). I too am being asked ot take it due to BMI and I too feel guilty that it's all my fault if something is wrong - I think it's a natural response but not something to dwell on (easier said that done for me though). They can't do GTT test until mid or so pg as GT won't show up early I thought (??).