Hi all,
I'll do my "hi's" then let you all know what a horrible person I am...
Halo Good luck with the scan tomorrow - its nice having the "bonus" one, however I hope they can see the spine clearly, and hope you are able to find out the sex (if you still want to as I sway from knowing one minute to the next!)
Highheels hope you are well, and still dodging the nausea!
Aly Nursery sound lovely! we still have to pick colours but I going to let OH have the final say (in the shade...) as we picked a yellow theme bedding with jungle theme, so I want the walls as neutral as possible.
Bunny Hope you are either feeling better or things are getting themselves organised for the "main event"! Whichever you would prefer!... although only a couple of weeks to go!
MrsW Sorry DP was a bit of a thoughtless prat. I am anti-male-partners right now, so sorry if this is a bit harsh... hope he has suitably grovelled and you were able to sort tings out (after breaking something as a reminder not to do it again...). Is it possible he was stressed about the work situation and this lead to the gap where his consideration of you should have been? (hope not sticking nose in emoti-con)
CrazyD only thing that worked for me was paracetamol and sleep. Given I was living on ibuprofen for stress headaches prior to pregnancy, I think I have done well if I only take one paracetamol per dose. I try drinking (water, then a fizzy drink for sugars if no easing of the headache) followed by something to eat. If it is still there then I go to bed if at home (or only a short while before I get home) or I surrender and take a paracetamol. Apparently we preggers folk along with new mummies (especially those breastfeeding) are more at risk from dehydration.
Ok - I accept now (before I even begin) that I am being a little unreasonable/neurotic/selfish/words to this effect - but in my defence I come from a blunt family...
Our LO will be the first grandchild on both sides. Sure I have mentioned this before... but for this reason we are being even more conscious in our decisions to avoid offending ie. my mum will be at the birth but no-one else is allowed to visit etc until I feel ok - however after this it will be parents then siblings to avoid "they visited first" type scenarios.
Long story short his mum and I are very different. I am a mouthy little Madame outspoken but make allowances for her behaviour so do not say anything directly to her no matter how awful I think she has been (as I am sure she feels she does for me). We told both families things we would like for baby. Some were basics (sleep suits etc) some were items we particularly want and will be buying ourselves - including branded items where I had done research and felt one product is better than another (unless anyone offered to step in and buy that item). It was done this way to avoid asking for anything whilst having a list for us (so we know what else to buy) and so when asked we knew where we were. This also meant if wanted they could chose what they wanted to give the baby or be told exactly which one we wanted (my family prefer the latter so they know it wont be wasted)
After all this careful planning to avoid any issues or causing offence there was one item I had chosen a particular brand (colour and model were not important as in this brand the whole range has the same safety aspects) - this brand clearly stated "suitable from birth" and I had friends with different models of this brand who rated them above others.
His mum gave us the item and said that due to how much they were "spending on her special birthday", think (the brand I specified) "is too expensive so have got you XX brand". Never heard of it, so smiled and said thanks - despite the fact I thought it was rude way to have put it - why not just say "we liked this one better" or something similar...
I read the review when we got home and this one is shit. Not suitable till at least 3 months and looks like a baby has already been sick on it (bad colours).
I told OH what I thought (that they should not have bothered getting the wrong one) - he said they wanted to buy "something that will be used regularly" - I respond "well it wont, so they should have saved their money and we'll get the one we "need"... do you want to return this one or just not say anything?
Then he said "we don?t need it, and this one will do the job fine, just a bit later".
I took offense to this and shouted back that I do need my child to have safe equipment at all times, and if I want the choice between safe equipment to rest the baby in the first few weeks then I was damn well going to have the choice.
I then summarised that his family know nothing and that I would be avoiding them from now on for disrespecting me by asking what I wanted, pretending to listen to me and discuss the original brand (why better etc) and then buying our child this piece of crap which is the complete opposite to the reasons why I wanted the other brand...
I know I went too far but this was just the last straw for me as 1) it is not the first time 2) OH never "sides" with me - whether I am right or wrong... 3) I may be experiencing "precious first born syndrome" but surely when it is because of SAFETY this is not a bad thing. It is coincidental they picked the worst colour...
I have thrown put the offending item in the garage and ordered the one I want.
I know that managed in a different way then we could have just used the item later on (and had a back up for earlier on) or suggested they keep it at their house "for when we visit" etc then just not use it until baby was big enough - but the reason I blow completely was when I said I was ordering the "right one" he said it was fine and we could just put the baby in his parents one "for show"
I told him my child was not a performing monkey and would not be getting in a death trap 
for show just because his family are a bunch of c**ts who deliberately brought something that was not suitable for use and if it wasn't deliberate then they did not care enough to check.
We have not spoken since Sunday morning (row was Saturday morning). After avoiding each other since the initial barney on Saturday I asked on Sunday how long it would take him to put the baby first... which was me poking the fire as I was still fuming.
Like I said I know I am ungrateful, and we are fortunate that people want to be involved - but it really got to me as I saw it a personal insult the reasons why his mum picked this one. I was more angry that OH cant see why this upset me so much.
Punch line is that the one they borught is only £5 cheaper than the cheapest model of the brand I wanted.
Can someone lie and say they would have debated acting in the same way???