feb babies - it's time to glow and grow :)

[angels1]

Hello all,

I just realised I put the 1000'th message on our last thread (uh oh, I think that's the limit), so in my at not realising I'd reached the limit, thought I'd better start a new thread if anyone finds it.

angels i don't envy you with the thrush situation, i used to get it if i ever took antibiotics. Hopefully will get better for you soon.

Thank you for the advice too. It is so difficult when you just have no clue as to what s going on in there and like you, i have 2 very long dragged out weeks until my scan!!!

angels- my mum said that me and my brother both went into our own cots with no problems (think we were both around 6 months old), my cousin co-slept with all 4 of hers and said she would do it again if she had another. DD is nearly 2 and still in with us and I don't anticipate any major problems with her going into her own room. We've got her a racing car bed and she's already really excited about it

I have heard one horror story but it started off "you're making a rod for your own back" and then turned out to be about a friend of a friend so it's probably about as true as that urban myth about the hook hand guy.

Thanks eaurouge. I'm excited as just found out there's a bf drop in centre at my local hospital - anyone recommend whether I should pop in while pg for advice beforehand or just go if I'm having trouble after baby born? Just would really like to bf but a little anxious as I know some people struggle/find it painful to begin.

Bwahahaha! I have just trimmed a week off my scan waiting time through the simple expedient of being a bit crap. NHS scan was booked for 19 October but I had completely forgotten when I made that appointment that we were away on holiday that week. And I know I won't be able to get another NHS appointment anywhere close to that date because their scan appointments were booked solid for weeks and I'd snagged the last slot as it was, so I've booked a private scan for the week beforehand (cheaper than replanning holiday, and doesn't incur the wrath of DS). And that means I only have just over two weeks to go, instead of just over three. Hurrah!

so that's 3 of us with 2 weeks to wait now - prof, me and pinkiepoo - we'll have to do a little countdown timer thing - going private is very sneeky :) mine's on 12th - anyone know actually what chance there is of bad news at the scan? I'm so excited but also want to prepare myself for potential bad news - but not sure how likely it is.

Mine is now the 12th too. I hadn't been able to justify the cost of a private scan to myself, but being a muppet and double-booking the dates makes it suddenly a relatively economical prospect.

How is everyone doing?

I went to see GP today as I have been getting increasingly stressed at work and with my long commute - which usually involves standing. So much so that I've not been sleeping and have been being sick with nerves at the thought of going to work.

I felt very foolish going to see the doctor, especially as I managed 1st pregnancy doing the same thing perfectly well. The DR was very sympatehtic and has signed me off work for 2 weeks with stress and I'm then to go back. She also strongly advised me to take maternity leave as soon as possible, ie at 29 weeks

feel very guilty about work and rather pathetic...but also so relieved that I can rest and try to get some sleep. Anyways, just putting this out there wondering if anyone else is struggling?

Pinkie I had a listen to babys heartbeat on Friday, I'm now wondering if it sounded ok etc etc, I think it's a normal emotion, I'd hope they would tell us and do something if it sounded strange!

That's great news prof, hope it's not costing a fortune. What's the date?

I'll join the two weeks until scan Angels mine is on the 7th! I'm trying to trick myself that it's closer by thinking of it as a week on Thursday haha.

I won't be co-sleeping, though it does sound lovely and cosy, also so easy to feed in the night. I have had to deal with the aftermath of co-sleeping before when a 2year old found it impossible to sleep alone, alot of screaming for a couple of weeks and all was fine, but I don't think I will find it easy to listen to my own crying like that it was heartbreaking.

girlafraid if you've read any of my messages you'll know I've been off work for weeks signed off by doc (although I'm a teacher so there was the summer hols in the middle) - I also feel terribly guilty. Work so far recently have been fab - they have got in a supply and have told me only to do what I can manage. I was suprised Doctor initially signed me off, and am seeing her tomorrow as I'm hoping to get it changed to doing less hours (she said she would do this). Don't worry about work - I know that's easier said than done as I get really stressed about letting people (funnily enough, students but not staff so much!) down and I get really cross with myself that I can't do it. I think this is a sign we are clearly dedicated to our job (I'm sure some people wouldn't give a stuff about what their job thought). Work have got to the point where they are just glad to see me in now!! I've been told from everyone just to put the baby first and not worry about things that in the grand scheme arn't as important. I've also tried thinking on it as positive - you get a whole 2 weeks to bond with your bump and relax - just do what you feel up to when you can manage it and I bet just without the stress of work you'll feel so much better. I assume that doing some work from home/reduced hours isn't possible as you might have thought to try this? The thing that drives me mad are the people that say they understand what you're going through but then clearly don't as they go on about how they soldiered through everything when they were pg - makes me feel terrible like I've failed and I really don't think they do know what I went through - even my doc says I've had a really unlucky time with sympotoms etc and that I've had it worse so far than most others. People knodding synpathy just get s me really cross when I cna tell they have no idea just how bad I've been. Thinking of you and I'm always here if you want a moan etc as I know how you feel.

Hi Ladies - just back from a week in North Devon. Looking forward to catching up with the thread once I have tackled the washing, ironing, shopping etc etc! Hope everyone is having a good Monday so far.....

Hi Ladies,

Sorry I haven't been on in a while - real life took oer for a while with DS starting nursery, my cat being attacked by neighbours cat, DH starting new job and other such craziness!

I had my scan today and all is well and it appears as though we are having a girl!

Hi angels I do remember your posts and am sorry you're going through this. How many weeks are you?

My situation is a bit weird in that the work stress was initially caused by an effective demotion after I returned to work after maternity leave - I've been sidelined even more after announcing this pregnancy.

I have a feeling I might get "made redundant" soon so though I don't think anyone will feel too sympathetic I don't think there's much I can do to make things worse as I'm already screwed.

The stress is just making me ill so you are right, I just need to rest. Feels very strange having house to myself though as DS is at nursery!

Hi all,

Not been on for a while, bit like semper and got busy...

Had scan today, all well and it seems to be another GIRL! DH is disappointed but I'm happy because if it'd been a boy he wouldn't have wanted a 3rd and I want more than 2, so because it's a girl we get to try again! Hurray! There's a little note on the report that says it was Sub Optimal because of Raised BMI- makes me feel like a bit of an awkward freak but then I think I have a healthy baby, bugger off NHS!

girlafraid your situation sounds shocking- can you prove anything and sue the bejesus out of them?

We coslept for one night, well, I say coslept, I don't think anyone actually did any sleeping. She was in her own room the next night and we were all much happier.

girlafraid I'm 19 weeks now and luckily have been slowly perking up over the past few weeks (still by no means up to anything vauguely normal, but at least able to try a bit of work). That sucks about work - no wonder you're stressed! But I suppose these things are out of your hands - worrying about it won't make it go away - relaxing will make you feel better and is better for your health etc. I say this but know I don't struggle my own advice with worrying about work etc .

While you're off is there any way you can go and get any kind of relaxation therapy type thing like massages etc - they might really help with the stress. I found them a lifesaver when planning my wedding earlier this year (managed to go from just getting engaged to married in less than 12 weeks all whilst having manic hormones as had just had a miscarriage - had lots and lots to do and got very stressed by it all! reflexology and back massages were my relaxation and stress saviour!)

Annoying colleague alert-i was discussing with someone the fact that my new look mat jeans cut into me a bit and i had found some comfy ones in h and m, she chipped in "oh ive got new look ones and they are fine on me" she is 11 wks!!!!!! I am huge btw.It sso annoying. She chucked a photo copy of her 10wk scan in front of me and did'nt even ask how mine went which was on the same day.grrr
Girlafraid- i am finding work hard tbh and they are very nice to me.I just want to be pottering at home and resting my horrible spd. Good for you having bit of time off.
hubbard that is very unfair and hardly fitting in with your mw duty of care obligations. What the hell are you supposed to di go on a flippin diet? Idiot, makes me mad. I have put on a fair bit, i could have cried in the changing rooms in h and m with all those mirrors and bad lighting, my bum is like a blancmange.I am worried they wont help me now!

Love the new good scan news

debka what do they mean by 'sub optimal'?! Erk, I bet they put that on mine as I got some long word which I looked online to find meant fat/obsese in my 12 weeks scan and got really really upset by it . I wonder if they put sub optimal on those that are very petite so might have a hard time with a small frame or those older/very young mums as their body might be considered not at the 'optimum' time to have a baby (not me saying that - just what they might consider btw - don't bite my head off!), or whether they just like to try and make larger people feel really even more miserable...

I think they HAVE to put something along these lines if your BMI is over 25 as it covers them if they don't spot something on the scan...

At scan for DS my BMI was 20 and the pictures are amazingly clear. Now my BMI is 28 i have to say they are a little more blurred. I was a bit upset by the note too but do try not to take it to heart, they are just doing their job

I am definitely doing slimming world once this one is out!

I think it depends on who does the scan too though - at 7 weeks I had a private scan due to bleeding and the man pressed darn hard to the point of pain on my tummy but he got clear pictures through my flabby not so toned tummy. Then, at 12 weeks the lady at NHS only pressed really lightly on my tummy and said she'd get a better view with internal. I think I'm the only one I know to have an internal scan at 12 weeks .

'Girlafriad* Thats shocking treatment, I'm so sorry. I think taking some time out is probabably the best thing for you (and baby). Enjoy the quiet house, stick your feet up, watch crap TV/movies, take long baths and take away coffee's to the park.

Congrats on the girl news Deb, very sneaky excitment about number 3, I love it hehe.

Urk, I don't know how you manage to put up with that woman, Ledkr I think I would have murdered her by now! How terribly selfish about the scan, you'd think she would be excited to her how you are getting along - I'm always pleased to hear everyones news on here and I don't even know any of you! Why one earth does she need to wear maternity clothes so soon? I can still fit in my size 14 jeans at 18 weeks, granted they are now under the bump stylee. I wonder if she went out to buy them the day she got her BFP

Angels After reading about your internal at 12 weeks, I actually made sure my bikini line was sorted haha, stupid really as can hardly see it now and def wont be able to for the birth I'm sure lots of people have to have internals though, or the woman that did yours was terribly inexperienced.

I have the GD sugar test on Thursday morning, I'm getting in a bit of a state about it actually. I have no idea how on earth I am going to be able to make the 30 min bus journey alone, starving! I get travel sick when hungry, on top of the pregnancy sickness - joy oh joy. It all seems a bit unnatural, to stop someone eating from 10pm then pump them full of sugar for 2.5 hours!

Oh well, moan over, I'm sure it'll be fine.

tarlia let me know how you get on with the GD blood test - they've threatened me with that but when I looked utterly shocked and nearly burst in ot tears at the thought (my ms is still bad - and I HAVE to eat regularly or I end up in such problems with feeling awful). My mw did say it should be possible to see the diabestic nurse and do regular wee sample tests instead - I'm going to pressure for that.

ledkr we need to think of some good comebacks for you for your collegue when she goes on - wish I was more inventive to think of something good - where's prof ?

angel i think this is going to be the longest 2 weeks of our lives!!

I might pop to see midwife on weds....i know i am being silly but i am just so anxious. I have had a MC in the past and my mum had a still born after me, so i just worry all the time!!

tarlia sorry i hope i didn't make you paranoid??!! I am sure it was fine otherwise they would not of just let you go x x

I will do angel, I'm sure I will be fine, I'm mostly not looking forward to the journey and hunger sickness to be honest. Lucky you if you can get to see the nurse instead. They insisted I had this done now and in December as my BMI is slightly raised and my gran is diabetic.

Oh no, don't worry, Pinkie I was already worried by Friday evening haha. I think this is it for the rest of our lives, worrying about our children, I guess pregnancy is good practice. I'm sure all of our scans will be fine, lets just hope these two weeks fly! We are already a day closer, it's nearly bedtime

I can really relate to the concerns abolut baby moving!

As it's my third midwives expect me to be really feeling him/her and I'm not! At my 16 week midwife appt I ended up having an emergency scan as midwife couldn't hear the heartbeat and I've felt nothing - luckily all ok! All down to the position of the placenta which may apply to other ladies on here too!

I agree with girlafraid on the BMI thing - if they don't have a great view and miss something they need to cover themselves.

To all those with job worries I'm with you! I'm a nurse employed by the NHS and there are lots of cuts looming! Argh...

angels, that's pretty much what they'd do if you failed the GD test (although with a finger-prick blood clicky thing rather than urine tests) so it may just be that they are going to treat you as though you do have GD if you don't have the scan, to be on the safe side. So long as you get your appointment for first thing in the morning, though, the GTT isn't bad as you are basically fasting overnight when you wouldn't be eating anyway.

Hi everyone!

Haven't got anything interesting to report (like I ever do ) just thought I'd pop in and see how you all are.

I see we have some more good scan news congrats on your girls Semper and Debka!

Sorry to hear that some of you are having worries about GTT but I'm sure it'll all be fine!