Ooh AbFab, how exciting!!! And Ivy too. It's making me want a home birth all over again. And on that subject... I had a text from a friend of mine yesterday morning about 9.30 from a friend who is about a week overdue to say she had had a baby girl, at home because the baby arrived so quickly her husband and two-year-old son had to deliver the baby in the pool!!! She texted again later saying she'd woken at 4.20 and the baby was born at 6.10 - the midwife and paramedics arrived at 6.30... I'm not sure if she had planned a home birth as I haven't managed to see her properly since we met by chance at the ante-natal clinic, but even still - make sure your partners know what to do. DP was frankly terrified when I told him.
It really has been a week of major news, good, bad, and tragic. I had a friend request last night on Facebook from a girl who I was in special care with. She asked if I remembered her and her son, which of course I did. He had been born very early, about 24 weeks, and had a lot of complications and had been in hospital in intensive care at the scbu for about six months by that stage. Anyway, I accepted her request and was about to post a message on her wall asking how her son was when I read her latest status update, a poem about loss, with a message added on saying about missing her son every day. I was reduced to tears in seconds, just couldn't get my head around the fact this little baby that I'd known had died. I knew his prognosis wasn't fantastic, but one of the nurses had told me a few months later after we'd left that he'd gone to the children's hospital and was due to be going home soon so I thought his condition had improved. She has since had another child, full-term and no problems thank god, and literally today, which was a weird coincidence, put up a message saying she is pregnant again. She was only 19 or 20 when her son was in SCBU and it constantly amazed me how someone so young dealt with such a stressful situation with such calmness and grace.
Dilly are there yoga things you're not allowed to do because of SPD? My mw said in general (not relating to yoga) to avoid abducting legs but there's lots of that in yoga - I'm hoping to start a class next week and/or do some in the house but I dont' want to make it worse. Also, after seeing your lovely Therapy dress online, I went to try it on in house of Fraser. It is gorgeous but as I have tiny boobs not suitable because of the off the shoulder bit - but I did try on and buy a different Therapy dress which I'm wearing for the wedding tomorrow. I was a bit unsure about it, but I showed it to DP tonight and against my expectations he loved it, so I felt more confident to wear it.
I had my NCT course today. It was very useful, we did some breathing and relaxation things which were good but also lots of talking about previous birth, expectations for this one etc. The afternoon part was talking about your current child and the new baby, and reactions to it, and how you will cope. We did an exercise dividing our day up into a typical one when both parents are at home, so eg a weekend for most people, then factored in having a two-week old baby... Then talking about how the child might feel, and I've got to be honest I came away feeling quite daunted and also a little bit upset on DS's behalf at what's coming. This has always niggled away, that this is the end of my time just with him and vice versa, but the thought of him thinking I don't love him as much any more breaks my heart. And on a practical level I'm really wondering how we are going to cope, particularly if I'm trying to get bfing established. He has just always needed so much attention, I don't know how I'll manage. I only have my mum to ask for help and she's 30 miles away.
Sorry for yet another long post.
33 today (yeehaa, love seeing the weeks mount up!)