July 2010: The end is nigh... To antenatal we say goodbye!

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We're all nearly at the end so here is our last antenatal thread

kk dont feel bad for leaving ellie its a personal choice. I am far more relaxed about leaving rileigh than i was with jack. You have to work too and unfortunately that means you cant have her with you all the time, so dont feel bad a happy mum makes a happy baby lol

tsc meant to say earlier zumba is a dance/exercise class that has become really popular in scotland not sure about elsewhere, you can type it into you tube to see what its like. Its the most dancing i have ever done without being pissed lol

For the first time in ages rileigh has wanted a feed at 5am we bugger lol. Anyone up to much today? X

We haven't had our CTF voucher through yet - it just gets sent to you doesn't it? You don't have to apply for it? Only wondering cos DD's got one and I wouldn't want Sam to miss out!

We were off to the bf group but both children are sneezing and DD's nose is running non-stop so it wouldn't be fair on the others. As it is we'll stay in and do something, it's miserable out today so could be a long day!

memphis I find DD's really excitable after tea regardless of what we do. DH does tend to chat to Sam at odd times of the night when changing him, I'm just happy he's the one doing it!

tsc I wouldn't want to go if that were me either.

Morning,
I have to tell someone.........
Devon slept from 11pm till........7am!!! amazing!
He had such a bad day yesterday i think he was just exhausted to be honest but wow. However moma and daddy didnt sleep well at all, even though we have a video monitor and movement sensor i still got up three times to actually go look at him!
wrt ctf i havent had anything through yet, chulita i think it does just get sent but not overly sure.
We have a busy weeks this week, we have group today, jabs tomorrow, physio friday and saturday we are heading up to Brum and Im going to stay there for the week untill DH comes back for the foota the following weekend and I'll come back with him. Im not altogether sure its a good idea as it will,
A)Do my head in as i wont have any home comforts and I'll miss DH.
B)Make me want to move back as i will see all my friends and family and it will be lovely.
Very confusing for my tiny mind. At least Devon can have lots of lovely time with his grandparents where we will stay.
Whats everyone else doing this week......
TSC where abouts in Dorset, im right on the border of dorset, there are some lovely places, could u go out on some day trips to get away from MIL?

Morning,

DP has gone off to London for work today with that stupid female colleague. I was hoping she wouldnt come back from her sabatical (sp?) but she did and they merrily went off this morning while I spied watched out the window.

I dont know what it is about her, Ive never even spoken to her. I think its just the way shes so pally with DP, borrowing his stuff, texting him out of work hours etc. I just dont like her one bit. She does this gay wave at him aswell.

Ahhh thats better!

DH i wouldnt like that at all. My DH works with lots of women and i really have to keep myself in check......in fairness i have met most of them and they are mostly middle aged but still all he talks about are women so i know how ur feeling. Conversley a male friend of mine at work's wife read his texts and got mad at him because of a text I had sent him!! It said 'are u coming out for lunch x' that was it and it set her right off aparently and there was NOTHING in it at all, just didnt want to go for lunch on my own haha.
Devon is supposed to be sleeping in his swing but he is just lying there yawning his head off, do i leave him or get him out???

dh i get annoyed about it too. Dp thinks its funny that i get annoyed as he says he has all he wants blah blah blah lol.

tsc how did frankie get on with his bottle last night?

viks thats a fab nights sleep for devon its a pity you didnt sleep, its amazing how you automatically wake before them. Its hard to relax isnt it?

chulita the poor kids and you. When do you move? X

we defo need a new thread name as we're running out of room on here, any suggestions x

We start moving Tuesday next week. Staying in a hotel down here Tues night (dreading that tbh, 22mth old and a 9wk old in the same room as us...) then movers pack up Wed, hotel up in Hereford Wed night and move in Thurs.

dh my dh works with some women but whenever he talks about them and I raise an eyebrow he just laughs and says that no woman ever looks sexy in army uniform cut for a man which is probably true. I'm not worried anyway and it's really nice to trust that he's not going to do anything - goodness knows he has enough opportunity if he wants to, I couldn't stick the army if I didn't trust him!

How about July '10 babies postnatal, so little sleep we're all going mental - or maybe not...is mental non-pc? I'm not wanting to be rude, just needed a rhyme.

Afternoon all! :) Hope things are going well for everyone. No real problems here, just been busy lately trying to get Mindy's naming ceremony organised. It's booked now for 16th October!

I've only ever left Mindy with DH so far, though I did work a day in the office away from her for that. We're all driving down to the home counties this weekend though to stay with my parents. They're going to babysit for a few hours on Saturday evening so DH and I can...go on a date! We haven't done that for months.

In other news, I've reached the decision with DH that once Mindy reaches 3 months, I'm going to start introducing formula and progressively wean her off breast milk, hopefully over a month if my supply doesn't pack up too quickly.

I've actually been getting on ok with breast feeding lately, the thrush seems to have been defeated and she's feeding much quicker. However, she's still doing her manic evening cluster feed, which means I can't go out or do anything during late afternoon/evening, because even if I express a full 6 fl oz feed - that only keeps her going for about an hour!

Moving to formula means I can take more of a break, and I don't have to remember to express every morning just to cope with the evening demand. It also will make things easier when it comes to introducing baby rice and such in November time, since I can just mix with formula rather than having to express additional milk for that.

I already carry a carton and sterilised bottle with me everywhere, because I'm paranoid and over organised. So that won't change much. I worry she might get hungry somewhere I can't breast feed! I'll just switch to taking one of the divided tubs with formula and some bottles filled with pre-boiled water. Fortunately, Mindy is happy with milk at room temperature.

It all makes sense in my head... So why do I feel so guilty?

For sleeping, Mindy has managed 10:30pm - 7:30am and 9:30pm - 6:30am for the last two nights. I think she sleeps better in the cot in her own room, in some ways. It's quieter without DH and I snoring breathing and the sprung mattress is probably more comfortable than the thin moses basket one. I don't feel so guilty about booting her out of my bedroom, now.

I didn't realise so much of parenting is a constant guilt trip until now.

Lastly, I came up with some topic names ages back on the thread...

July 2010 - The gang's all here, we're now getting started on our baby's first year.

July 2010 - Getting used to a sleepless night, while covered in vomit - aren't we a sight!

July 2010 - What have we done? Can the baby go back? This is no fun!

Any of those good, or should I put my thinking cap back on? :) Alternatively there is already a thread in postnatal that's being used by a few people?

I like the second one spireal your so good at this lol. Parenting is a never eding round of guilt, I grounded ds1 for cheek the other day and felt guilty because his friends were out and he wasnt but I didnt give in thankfully lol. You looking forward to your date?

Wont be long till your all settled in your new home then chulita is dh getting time off when you move or is he flung straight into work?

mlic what stupid cows some women are, of course hes not spoilt, can he see about in the buggy? I and thinking of converting my pram into the buggy as Rileigh is soo nosey, the only think that puts me off is hers is front facing but shes not in it much. It really annoys me that people pass judgement when they dont even know you xx

No offence taken tsc! Just tead back on my post and realised how blunt that sounded!! I suppose im lucky in that i have a few people i can trust with her.

Iike the second name spireal. Although theres another july posnatal thread there already so we could just gatecrash?!!?!?!

Slimming world tonight!! dh i know what you mean about the woman. I'v had that too!! There was this girl who caused so much grief between me and dp in the past. He was with her before i met him. I can actually say i really dispise the girl and when i went to slimming world last week whos fat head was sitting there........hers!! Ao im determined to lose more weight than her! They call out how much you've lost so as much as i dont like seein her its great competition for me to have her there!!

spirael Currently i like the last one!!
But the middle one is probably better for the long run.
mylife wouldnt it be nice to keep our own thread going?
stac My DH said that i would be a rubbish disciplianrian(?) as im not strict with the dog at all, i think i will be ok but as u say spireal i do feel guilty when i feel like i have been horrid.
Devon is so clingy, i can hardly go out of his sight, im worn out! I havent even had a shower today and i didnt make it to class which im a bit pissed off about as i was forging some quite nice relationships. He just wont go to sleep again, not anywhere, well he had about 40mins lying on me and about the same this morning in the swing but thats it, he is so out of sorts, i really dont know whats wrong with him.

spirael I like the first one!!

Ladies DP called me earlier, he said this girl he works with wants to come in the flat to meet the baby. (her car is parked here as they both went in DPs van so she will have to come back here anyway) I dont know what to do, shall I let her come up and see him? I dont know if I really want to meet her HELP!

let her come up dp then you can size her up, she may be nice lol

I'm easy with what you all want to do, if we're gatecrashing send me the link lol can they handle us though? they made up a quieter july thread to get away from us when we were pg lmao xxx

I dont want her to be nice! lol then Ill just be imagining the worst all the time.

They are still in London so wont be back for hours yet :(

Dinner for one tonight...I havent got any wine!

mlic why do you regret it?

I dont think it'll happen now anyway, hes still in London and it takes 2 hours to get home, he hasnt even text me yet to say hes leaving so it'll be a late one and Dylan will be sleeping tired.

Shame

Aw mlic its a shame breastfeeding isnt something you can start again if you want to.

whats made you regret it mlic?

That sorted that dh lol. Aren't you curious? A girl in scotts work used to do my head in, same thing as yours and when i met her i realised dp wasnt interested in her tbh she was mega false and over the top so i'm glad i met her x

aw dh thats a tough one to call! you dont like her so maybe you'll just be winding yourself up by meeting her especially in your own flat. totally your call but personally if i was ever going to meet someone like that it wouldnt be in my house!!
aw mlic why is that?? just keep thinking of the reasons why you had to stop and keep telling yourself that.its very easy to forget things like that and let the guilt creep in so try not to be hard on yourself

Does anyone leave lo's to cry it out? If so how long for? I have had enough really the last few days, i really dont know whats wrong with him and i cant seem to placate him at all and the swing hasnt worked today, and a walk hasnt worked, god knows what else i can do??