July 2010: The end is nigh... To antenatal we say goodbye!

[stac14]

We're all nearly at the end so here is our last antenatal thread

Omg tsc glad its not just me then, I laughed yesterday and am pretty sure a bit of wee came out! Luckily Im still having to wear pads so it went on that instead of my pants haha.

I think Dylan has been going through a growth spurt, he cluster-fed all eve yesterday and Ive noticed he feels alot heavier to hold whilst feeding.
Im going to the drop-in clinic next week to get him weighed so will be interesting to see if Im right.

vik dont be afraid to let your emotions out.you have to work therough it to feel better in the end. wrt the bottles i sterilise all the bottles,boil the kettle,dont let it cool down, fill the bottles with the water, leave them in a clean place then just add the powder as needed and i give them at room temperature. because the water isnt cooled it stays sterile.thats the way the nurse an the hospital and the health nurse said to me to do it. makes it a lot easier than making a fresh bottle each time. give yourself a break.its not easy having a baby and i can imagine breast feeding just completely knocks you. maybe you'l start to feel a bit betteer when you introduce the bottle.
dh we were very close to doing the deed last night! was so worked up but stil a little bit tender and bleeding a little bit and plus we had no protection. got my prescription for the mirena coil the other day so as soon as i get first period i can get it in.
stac what did the doctor say about the reflux. ellie stil getting sick once a day but its a full feed and its always the lunch time feed. how do they diagnose it?

kk we were the same this morning! Im also still bleeding a bit so would rather wait til thats gone so its more enjoyable.
In fact might go to docs next week to sort out contraception..
How do you know when you get your first period, I suppose it'll be bright red instead of the browny stuff. Sorry if this is all tmi Im just typing as I think while feeding Dylan lol.

I want to go back on the pill which can be done 21 days after birth which is actually today!

i hate condoms too and as much as i want more kids...i dont want them just yet! its only been 2 and half weeks for me since giving birth and i got a good few stitches so might just leave it another few days to be sure its fully healed. like you tsc i think itsd watching him with ellie that does it for me! just makes me see him in a completely different light
was supposed to get a prescription for the gel for ellie's thrush today and then she got sick.....again and never got a minute to myself after that. and its bank holiday weekend here too so im hoping these drops start to do something because she's really off form with it

dh im 21 days on monday and im having the injection next week so im at least covered, but although ive always been a sex mad maniac, the thought of ever letting dh touch me again scares the shit out of me!!! i feel like my pubic bone is still so tender and today where my stitches were feels very sore, not had that b4! when i was pregnant hw didnt want to know, but now i have my body back hes keen but its not happening in the near future!!!
well hv came today and lyndon has put on 13oz in a week and now weighs 8lb 5.5oz!! she isnt signing me off and is coming to see me again next week as i told her how i was feeling she said its totally normal and that im doing so well, he is thriving and his skin is lovely so made me feel more positive about things!

memphis yeah I know what you mean, Ive told DP that we'll start by doing other things first so I know how I really feel down there. My pubic bone is still quite tender but hoping that'll fade by the time we actually want to do it.
Ive been keeping an eye on my stitches using a little mirror and they've healed very well so quite confident that they wont hurt now.

We've been doing very well with solely breastfeeding and Frank has rocketed in 4 week from 8.13 to nearly 11 and a half pounds!
On the down side my boobs are absolutely giant and I am HUGE. He seems to be eating a lot, but no cluster feeding. That sounds hard.

I feel bad for DD as Frank takes so much of my time and there is no school at the moment, but DD seems to entertain herself a lot. The last few days I have been taking her out but did not get any rest at all and felt I was on my last string. How are you coping other mums with older kids?

When it comes to sex - I am not interested at all at the moment. I think you should wait until you are up for it.

kk its being properly sick after a feed but still healthy. She also struggles with acid coming back when she's feeding. If i change a nappy after a feed she's sick. We thought it was wind at first which was why we used infacol and dentinox and we thought thats what was making her sick. The gp says its very common, things that can help is keeping her upright for 20mins after a feed, raising her head in bed by puting a towel or something under the mattress and changing her to a thicker formula. So we'll have to see how it goes. She was prescribed baby gaviscon to calm the acid down so i'll let you know how it goes. Oh and she takes hiccups a lot.

I was day 21 on wednesday and started the mini pill as i wasnt allowed the normal pill due to my headaches but i'm hoping to change back in a few months. Would have did the deed last night but i didnt know if i was covered by the pill as we don't like condoms either. But i think tsc and kk are right about the reason i want dp so much is due to the way he is with rileigh, aw luv him lol x

thesecondcoming we have no surestart here but lots of playgroups and music classes and parks... My DD is five and a half so she needs something a little more "grown up" but not too grown up.. It's a bit of an in between age If that makes any sense. There are things to do. It's just I find LO goes to sleep when we are out and then wakes up when we get back home - so that I don't get any rest at all! I guess it's just part of being a mum! Hopefully it will get easier when school starts again.

stac is Riliegh sick all the time? Frank has his moments too.. But I find as you said that keeping him up and spending longer burping him helps. If I put him down - he will have milk coming out his nose

stac she was very un settled this eve. really hoping its not colic she's getting.didnt last an awful long time only about an hour but she was screaming unless she was lying on our chest. she gets sick after one feed every day, shes putting on weight, healthy, like rilieigh she gets hiccups alot. i was half thinking of stopping the infacol too thinking that was making her sick. but like today it was a good hour or more after her feed that she got sick. and she was sitting up in her bouncer. had to wash her bouncer today and yesterday! so she's not even getting to sit in it! and i feel as though its a waste of time dressing her cos she's just gonna get sick on it anyway!just hate to see her unsettled and she really seemed in pain this evening but then the thrush might have something to do with it.oh god i wish she could just talk to me and tell me whats up!!!!!!

jojo no she's sick at least once per day, but its a lot and comes out her nose. When frank burps does he seem as if hes got acid coming up? Rileigh looks uncomfortable her eyes water and it kind of takes her breath away.

kk Rileigh had a restless night at bout 2wks and i thought she was getting colic which is when we started buying the different remedies. But she has threw up since she was born so it obviously wasnt the wind, infacol or dentinox making her sick. Worth mentioning to doc. It is harder cos they can't speak, rileighs clothes have been washed more times than them being on her ass lol x

jojo no she's sick at least once per day, but its a lot and comes out her nose. When frank burps does he seem as if hes got acid coming up? Rileigh looks uncomfortable her eyes water and it kind of takes her breath away.

kk Rileigh had a restless night at bout 2wks and i thought she was getting colic which is when we started buying the different remedies. But she has threw up since she was born so it obviously wasnt the wind, infacol or dentinox making her sick. Worth mentioning to doc. It is harder cos they can't speak, rileighs clothes have been washed more times than them being on her ass lol x

Just thought I'd let you all know - my waters just broke!! woo hoooooooo!!!!!!!
will def have this baby this weekend!

good luck munchkin see you at the other side

Stac I'm not sure about acid... I just think he has not ben burped properly or I ate something he does not like..
Some parts of the day he vomits more and other times he is perfectly fine. I don't use anything like infacol as he seems very healthy and is growing very well.. I just think his body and intestines are still getting used too eating etc... I remember with DD it just naturally stopped at 3 months or so...

Morning all,

Im really sorry for another self indulgent post but I cant cope with this anymore. Im in tears as I write this. Dylan slept (and Im not kidding) for an hour last night and that was only cos I had him on my chest.
If I put him in his basket he doesnt cry but does that grunting noise I mentioned before.
Its so loud it wakes him up and DP and I cannot sleep through it at all.
It just sounds like he's straining really really hard, most of the time he does fart but I think theres more to it than that.

Ive had to get out of bed as he just wouldnt shut up, hes now laying beside me on the sofa happy as larry staring out the window, he seems to turn into a different baby at night, hes so good and peaceful and laid back during the day but at night hes grunting and straining and eventually crying.

I literally dont know what to do, nothing helps. DP suggested putting him in his own room (still in moses basket) just so that I can get some sleep and if he really needed me he would cry.
Hes only 3 weeks old I dont know how I feel about putting him in another room already.

Im just so scared that Im going to end up hating him cos Im so tired and Im getting so frustrated with him.

Also hes sick quite alot, pretty much once a day, definitely every other day. Im wondering if this is related?

Good luck munchkin hope eveything goes well.

DS is really struggling. Yesterday he crawled under my bed crying and refusing to come out because I was feeding the baby.
it's so upsetting and I don't know what I can do to make it better for him.

To make matters worse the MW came yesterday and because Elisha has lost more than 10% of her body weight we may have to go back to hospital. They are going to weigh her again on Monday, but if she's lost anymore we have to go back and DS is going to be distraught.

DH I would agree with MLIC go to the HV or call them. Frank does fall asleep like a good boy in his cot or moses basket downstairs and wakes up later making grunting noises or full on screaming. We end up co-sleeping for few hours every night as I just fall asleep when Frank is on the boob and we get quite a lot of rest this way. He does fall asleep like a good boy in his cot or moses basket downstairs and wakes up later making grunting noises or full on screaming. I would recommend letting him stay in bed with you. DD did it too and she has been perfect with bedtime routine later on. They are really tiny now and I don't think it will affect there behaviour in the future.
I also agree about getting out. I spent lots o time indoors with DD and was quite low. This time even though I am knackered I get out and that helps a lot!

Good luck Munchkin.

Gracie I hope little one is ok. How old is DS?

dh i agree with mlic try him in his own room just for tonight, to see how it goes, Lyndon grunts a lot and hv says its because their nasel passages are so narrow when 1st born. would you consider bottle feeding or mixed feeding to give you a bit of a rest so dp can help out? i also agree with the comment on getting out, with Dylan as fresh air and motion in buggy will help soothe him, dh takes Lyndon out in evening to chill him out when he has tummy ache, also get out on your own for a bit so dp can take over with dylan, go for a coffee with your mum or somethingjust to feel human again? thinking of you, keep talking about it, by talking on here and to hv and dh i feel so much better xxx
good luck munchkin see you on the other side xxx