July 2010: The end is nigh... To antenatal we say goodbye!

[stac14]

We're all nearly at the end so here is our last antenatal thread

tbh mlic one thing that kept me going when bfing was really painful was the thought that in 3/4 months' time I would kick myself if I stopped...I might not have done, I just felt like I would have.

right, 3rd night without DH done so far ('cept DD's only in her room, not remotely asleep), only 2 more to go and he'll be back for 2 weeks off :) woohoo!

stac yeah Im very curious! Ive made myself look good just in case she does come in haha!

DP isnt v well at the mo either, I always really miss sex when hes ill, although when hes not I could go ages, weird.

Sam's a sucky baby, really, really sucky and he won't touch a dummy. It's me or my finger at the mo. He'll happily spend 3+ hours sucking...but he doesn't cluster feed, so that's a relief!

On the plus side mlic you don't have people handing him back to you saying 'he's hungry', you latch him on only to find he isn't, he just wants to suck someone's finger. Or people thinking you're a cruel mother cos he's crying and I won't latch him on...honestly, the comments from mil were stupid...as if I hadn't tried feeding him!

Dylan is currently cluster feeding, has been since 7ish and will prob go on for about an hour.
Its the same every eve, but then once hes asleep he goes in his moses basket like a dream.

So ladies are we off on ou wee thread again? if so what we calling it and who is making it? we're running out of space

mlic I'm glad you have feel better about the bfing now, think its just hard either way. its good he went down well tonight

dh I totally would have done that, at the moment it takes me half my time to make sure I can get out clean, never mind having the hair done lol

viks I haven't left either of my kids to cry it out, I can't bear it. I think it can work for some kids and as mlic says as long as he is in a safe environment. But if its wind/collic causing devon to cry so much then letting him cry it out can cause more wind (apparantly) have you tried putting him in his bouncer in front of the washing machine or while hoovering? apparantly babies like white noise or is that noise from white goods lol

Rileigh has been eating since 4.30pm she has had nearly 12oz of milk, would this be cluster feeding to those of you who breast feed? does this usually signify a growth spurt? Any advice would be fab xxx

i think mlic makes a good point regarding dp's job tsc. How soon would you need to start?

mlic yeah she's 11wks tomorrow, i must go on about that a lot lol. I didnt want to go and do the thread incase you all thought i was ocd bout it haha

New thread I just went with the first suggestion, hope thats ok xx

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1046160-July-2010-The-gang-s-all-here-we

maybe i am ocd about losing the thread lol x

There seems to be a few unsettled babies at the moment thats weird isnt it. stac Devon has had loads today too, i recon its a growth spurt, it has to be surley. I left him crying to see if he would self settle for 5 mins but it was horrid and i couldnt do it any longer so i brought him back down and he wouldnt settle, lots of fist sucking etc so i fed him and he had 5oz just 2 and a half hours after his last 5oz!! WHY wont he go down in his moses till his last feed???????he wont sleep in it in the day at all only at night, we put up a black out blind too but still just hollars in the day. I have downloaded some white noise onto my ipod to see if that helps and it does when hes in the living room but not in his room, how weird. In fact the only time he sept for twenty mins in the day in there was when i put the vac on, crazy!
TSC just go to the int and if u get it then u can make ur decision, before then there really is no decision to make, thats the way i have always thought about things anyhow.
Ummmmmmm whats aibu

Dunno what to say about the job but maybe the 2 of you just go for the interviews and then see how you fare out and then decide.
Really love that the thread is busy again!!! Love coming on and having loads of posts to read!
My cousin that booked me the ticket to england has now booked a ticket for my othet cousin too!! Cant wait to catch up with them all!!

have you applied yet tsc? I think kk is right both of you go for them then see what happens. If dp got his job would you be happy to stay at home?

kk are you a close family? All us cousins get on great its the brothers and sisters that fight lol. Where in england you going? It is good we're back gabbing again x

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Excuse me. Bad evening.

This rant might be better off in the "am I being unreasonable?" thread, but I know you guys, and trust you to make the appropriate disapproving noises.

I think DH and I are rowing, but I'm not actually sure. I've had a total pig of a day running around like a blue arsed fly trying to sort out mine and baby's (now 2 weeks late) 6 week check, post redirection, dry cleaning, birthday gifts and a bunch of other stuff. I've walked miles, have a thumping headache and DH has been smoking in the front room while i was out, so i have to re wash all the sodding nappies, because they smell of smoke.
THEN he gets the hump because he didn't get his dinner until half nine, (at which point he decided that he couldn't be bothered to wait for me to finish feeding Gwen and helped himself)
So, I pointed out that when i asked him "When do you want dinner?" and he said "anytime" I stupidly chose to believe that that meant I could do dinner when it was convenient for me. Apparently it actually means 6pm. I point out that when the baby is SCREAMING with stomach ache, I can hardly just leave her and he grunts, and insists there's no problem.

Anyway, so he goes out to walk the dogs and 90mins later when he's not back or answering his phone, I go to see if everything is ok, in a blind panic that something's happened (bearing in mind we live in a former strip club, and tend to get disgruntled punters trying the door all night) to find him siting on the stage watching iplayer. in the dark. For GOD's sake! What is this, 1950s conneticut?! I don't get dinner done on time, I get sent to Coventry?

Anyway, rant over. I hope you've all had a better day.

no your not being unreasonable needles if he wanted dinner at 6pm he should have made it and to worry you like that is not on. Still loving your house, what made you go for it? X

needles I just dont think men cope well with change of life style or stress, obviously its his way of coping. My DH went straight out to mow the front lawn as soon as he got home and was out there chatting to neighbours for over an hour, while i had been coping with a screaming baby and trying to cook tea! I didnt feel like i could be mad with him though coz i dont want him to start dreading coming home to a screaming baby and an irate wife!
Oh aibu.........i get it now!!
stac ur not ocd, thanks for doing the thread!
Got Jabs today, any advice on how to make it o smoothly??

What is it with men that they can't seem to get their heads around cooking?! DH is fab and I love him to bits but he's completely incapable of seeing that I've got my hands full and it would be great if he'd crack on and boil some pasta for tea. All the meals I make tend to be about 30mins or less cooking time and I've shown him how to do countless recipes but I still end up doing all the cooking... needle yanbu and agree with mlic you probs both had an off day at the same time.
Hope you get some lovely photos mlic :)
So irritated, one of my friends just posted on fb that her little boy's sleeping really well...he's a week younger than Sam and he's her 3rd fantastic sleeper She's soooo lucky!
Also gutted cos a good friend of mine just had embryos put in and they've not taken :( they were her last ones too and I feel so sad for her.