Please or to access all these features

Bereavement

Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters. See also your choices after baby loss.

to find it really sad when people wish their DC away

206 replies

shakeshakeit · 04/09/2009 14:34

With people literally counting every hour until they go back to school and they don't have to deal with them anymore. I find that really sad to read, yes children fight and are hard work but surely you knew that when you had them? Do people not enjoy spending time with the children and being able to do what they want rather than stuck in a rota every day? Some people can't have children, some people have lost children - do these individials give a moments though about others feelings when they plaster all over their facebook "kids are a nightmare, cant wait until they are back in school" etc every day of the holidays moan moan about the children. Are people not AWARE of what children are like when they got pregnant? And if not then if they are such a nightmare aparently then why after one have more - and in the case of my facebook example have 5. I have friends who have had IVF and adopted - they appreciate time with their children much more, perhaps because they realise what its like to be blessed to have children, even if they are bloody hard work - its part of the package.

OP posts:
SassySusan · 24/05/2010 23:36

Message deleted

porcamiseria · 15/06/2010 13:19

I really would have expected a kinder response in the bereavement forum

this is BEREAVEMENT not fucking AIBU

shame on you all

OP I am sorry if this makes you feel sad , and even sorrier about the vileness here

we never realise how lucky we are eh?

StealthPolarBear · 15/06/2010 13:50

why has this been brought out of the archives?

Rockbird · 24/06/2010 10:22

It was originally in AIBU porcamiseria but was moved.

scanty · 24/06/2010 14:10

I didn't comment on sassys thread the other day. Think she brought this up as it enforces what she was trying to say about 'insensitive comments' and people avoiding you as it makes them feel uncomfortable. Looking at this thread, she might have been right. Requesting shakeits thread to be moved or deleted seems a bit patronising and sweeping 'it' under the carpet. I think we all have learned something from both threads.

thumbwitch · 24/06/2010 14:31

I don't think it was right to leave it in AIBU where people could just read the OP, pitch in with their "vile comments" and then feel like complete bitches because they found out later that the OP's child had died. It wasn't fair on the OP - the comments were very unpleasant indeed - and it wasn't fair on the other posters, some of whom had also lost DC.

It wasn't about protecting the feelings of the non-bereaved - it was about being fair to everyone - and MNHQ moved it for that reason, I'm sure. It was their choice to move it to Bereavement.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page