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to find it really sad when people wish their DC away

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shakeshakeit · 04/09/2009 14:34

With people literally counting every hour until they go back to school and they don't have to deal with them anymore. I find that really sad to read, yes children fight and are hard work but surely you knew that when you had them? Do people not enjoy spending time with the children and being able to do what they want rather than stuck in a rota every day? Some people can't have children, some people have lost children - do these individials give a moments though about others feelings when they plaster all over their facebook "kids are a nightmare, cant wait until they are back in school" etc every day of the holidays moan moan about the children. Are people not AWARE of what children are like when they got pregnant? And if not then if they are such a nightmare aparently then why after one have more - and in the case of my facebook example have 5. I have friends who have had IVF and adopted - they appreciate time with their children much more, perhaps because they realise what its like to be blessed to have children, even if they are bloody hard work - its part of the package.

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dexter73 · 04/09/2009 14:38

I had no idea what kids were like when I became pregnant! I love the holidays but it is nice to have time to yourself as well.

GypsyMoth · 04/09/2009 14:38

i have 5.....and?

so,you are saying that those who have had their babies through ivf or whatever other means,never moan or want them to return to school??? really??

when they are at school and in THAT routine,i find my kids are actually happier!!

i will moan if i want|!!!

Overmydeadbody · 04/09/2009 14:39

Oh god get off your high horse.

People don't mean anything by it. Children are hard work, tiring, stressful, demanding and crave stimulation from their peers, making the summer holidays quite a tiring experience. PArents know this, it doesn't stop them loving their children or being grateful for having them.

twirlymum · 04/09/2009 14:39

I love my dd being off school in the holidays. No routine, just play play play! I get cross when people whinge about their children all the time, why have them then!
I know they can argue etc, but it's a chance for us to spend quality time together, and I know that her brother and I will miss her all day

GypsyMoth · 04/09/2009 14:39

hey...iu can't find a job!! yet people constantly moan about theirs....all over fb and here!!! its life..

colditz · 04/09/2009 14:39

You have one docile 8 month old baby, don't you.

blueshoes · 04/09/2009 14:40

I bet even people who have had children through IVF or adoption feel this way sometimes. Don't make them feel bad for having such normal feelings from time to time.

rubyslippers · 04/09/2009 14:41

YABU

i am well aware that some people struggle to have children - doesn't mean i have an obligation to enjoy every minute with mine

children are very, very hard work - like Dexter i had NO idea how much work until i had DS

i disagree with your sweeping statement that children who have IVF and adopted appreciate their children more

Cadelaide · 04/09/2009 14:41

colditz

shakeshakeit · 04/09/2009 14:41

I wish colditz I fuckin wish

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deaddei · 04/09/2009 14:42

I love my dcs, but I do not wish to spend every minute of my day with them now they are older. And I'm sure they feel the same, preferring to arrange their own day with friends, doing what they enjoy.
Much of the moaning done is tongue in cheek- and no- you DON'T know what children are like when you get pregnant? How can you?
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blueshoes · 04/09/2009 14:42

So how old are your children then, shakeit?

RealityIsNOTDetoxing · 04/09/2009 14:42

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GypsyMoth · 04/09/2009 14:43

op you ABU and think you know it!!

whoisasking · 04/09/2009 14:43

Bloody hell. Full moon tonight innit?

I think it's sad that you think it's sad that people complain about their children.

Have you got children yet OP?

colditz · 04/09/2009 14:43

So you don't even have a child? YOu are hilarious.

Let them eat cake, I say!

BonsoirAnna · 04/09/2009 14:44

It's fine to want a break - it's normal and healthy to want a break from your children, and it's fine and healthy for them to want a break from you.

bibbitybobbityhat · 04/09/2009 14:44

This is a joke or a troll or the Daily Mail isn't it?

My cherished boy and girl went back to school today and I am enjoying the peace and quiet. To tell you the truth I'm a bit gutted that its the weekend already and I couldn't have a few more days (make that 7 hour stretches actually, I will still spend 7 hours in their company today and every school day) without them! Hee hee.

shakeshakeit · 04/09/2009 14:44

My child is dead in the ground blueshoes but never mind eh, least I don't need to hear the little brats argue

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deaddei · 04/09/2009 14:45

66 hours left till dd goes back.....1 hour till ds comes home! (scurries off for bottle of gin)

melmog · 04/09/2009 14:45

It must be awful if you can't have them or have lost one.

You can't blame parents for getting tired and fed up though. It's life.

I never knew how hard it would be. Wouldn't change things for the world and love them to distraction, but I can't wait to be able to go to the loo on my own though.

whoisasking · 04/09/2009 14:45

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Meglet · 04/09/2009 14:45

I think you are being a bit unreasonable. Some children are harder work than others, some people have small houses where they cannot escape the noise, toys and chaos at all, some people don't have the time or money for days out. My two pre-schoolers are on the go non-stop and it gets too much at times, for all of us. DS loves nursery and I love peace and quiet to get things done.

GypsyMoth · 04/09/2009 14:45

whats happened shakeit?

rubyslippers · 04/09/2009 14:45

that is a terrible loss to bear shakeit