My daughter took her own life

[bereftmother]

The subject says it all, really. About six weeks ago my lovely, clever, witty daughter walked out of our house, leaving a note. Four days later the police found her body. And now, I just want to cry and scream and throw things. We have no Christmas plans, there is nothing to celebrate. When the post comes we don't know if the cards will be condolences or for Christmas.
We knew she was depressed. We just didn't know the depths of her despair.

Heartbreaking, I’m so sorry 💐 for your loss.

Suicide has happened in my family too. I’m so so very sorry for the loss of your daughter. It’s simply devastating. I hope the future is kinder too you. God love you all.

As a Mum I cannot imagine the anguish and sadness you are feeling..I have absolutely no words to help you but you are in my thoughts Xx

So sorry for your loss

I’m so sorry. So very sorry xx

I am so, so sorry . I hope the support of others can bring you some comfort op. Sending ❤️

I’m so sorry OP, I'm praying for you and you’re family. Please don’t be hard on yourself and take each minute, hour and day as they come. 💐

Op, I’m so sorry. Xxx

I'm so sorry op. I haven't got any words as I can't imagine how you are feeling.

I am just really sorry for your loss.

X

I'm so very sorry 💐 I don't have any words that can help but know you are not alone. There are charities out there PAPYRUS (they have a Facebook page) might be a place to start and may be able to point you in the right direction for you and your family (whenever you are ready) take time and try and look after yourself too
Again I'm so so very sorry xxxxx

OP how devastating for you. I can only say how sorry I am for the loss of your lovely daughter. As PPs have said people are very good at disguising their distress and the nature of the depression means it's hard to seek help.

There isn't a magic solution but you're doing the right thing reaching out here and getting support and help where you can.

This organisation is supposed to be very good and organises local groups for those experiencing similar losses.uksobs.org

Sending love ❤️

I am so very sorry. I cannot begin to imagine what you must feel and much as I wish I had. I have no words of solace to give you beyond that, as a father, I am thinking of you.

This is so heartbreaking, your poor daughter and your poor family, my heart goes out to you all. X

So very sorry to read this. The shock. The despair you will be feeling is beyond words.
I have been here where you are and at times still am. The feeling never leaves you not ever, but you do find a way of living with it. I wish you peace. I'm just a stranger to you but I am another mother who lost her child cruelly.
Five years later and I am ok because I have family. Without them I would be nothing. God bless you x x

I am so incredibly sorry for the loss of your darling daughter. Sending you strength and love.

I'm so sorry x

My heart goes out to you. What an awful loss you have suffered. I am so, so sorry. 💐

I am so sorry.

I am so sorry OP.

It is such an impossible thing to go through. Having had similar in my family I would just say your first priority is to take care of yourself right now, your other kids have partners to help them, and you can grieve together when you are ready.

I would also say try not to focus on what you should have spotted, the signs aren’t always very clear.

You have some tough times ahead so really do look after yourself, but also remember that eventually life will be there for you again. It’s not that grief ever leaves you but you can learn to live and even find joy alongside it.

I'm so sorry, nobody knows what goes through somebody who chooses to end their life's mind. I can't begin to imagine the pain you are going through, I hope you have support to try & if not come to terms with your loss, come to some kind of acceptance.

(((HUG)))

Its very very recent, all you need to do for now is get through the days. It's Christmas or it's just Sunday, 25th Dec, your choice. Your choice to ignore Christmas or do something Dd would have enjoyed.

there NO obligation to do anything you don't want to & likewise there's no reason to feel bad if you do enjoy parts of the day.

your reaction to Christmas doesn't mean (or change) anything.

big hugs & lots of strength to just keep on, keeping on.

it will never stop hurting, but it will become less raw & you will learn to live alongside the grief.

Oh god OP, I'm so sorry.

Forget Christmas - it's just a day - just concentrate on yourselves.

I wish I could think of something comforting to say but I'm a mum too and I know there isn't anything. Huge hugs.

so sorry

Depression is a bastard. Hugs to you

I cannot imagine the pain you’re in. I am so sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace.