I talked to mum this morning. She was gone this afternoon.
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Darkpheonix · 02/12/2021 19:39
Hi, I don't know why I am posting. My kids are devastated, dp doesn't know what to say.
She was fine til a few weeks ago. We booked theatre tickets to her favourite show for next year. Then she struggled to breath and go diagnosed with asthma.
Today, I spoke to her. She had opened door number 2 on the Advent calendar I got her. It was a conditioner. She was going to wash her hair and use it.
Before she got to the shower, she couldn't breathe. Dad got her inhaler but it didn't help and he called an ambulance. They arrived quickly, she collapsed and stopped breathing and they couldn't get her back.
I walked into their house and she was gone. She was in bed, the ambulance people still there.
I have had to phone family. Dad is worrying that she had a hair appointment booked and I can't get hold of her hair dresser to cancel.
Dad's broken. I am just sat feeling numb. I should be in pain and know it will probably come. But I don't want it to. I want to be numb forever.
I keep getting upset over the Advent calendar that will remain unopened from today. It was meant for her to treat herself. To pamper herself. And now it's just there.
I don't know what to do. I don't how she was here and then she wasn't. I miss her already.
ButterflyWitch · 02/12/2021 19:41
I'm so sorry OP
shivermetimbers77 · 02/12/2021 19:42
I’m so sorry OP, this is such a huge shock for you and your family. Sending un-mumsnetty hugs to you.
Brenna24 · 02/12/2021 19:43
I am so sorry for your loss. What an awful shock for you all. I am afraid that I have no advice for you but I want to say that it sounds like she was a wonderful woman and mother who was well loved. Do you want to talk about her?
Drunkpanda · 02/12/2021 19:43
I am so, so sorry Op. 
CherryCoco · 02/12/2021 19:56
I'm so sorry, sending you 
CloudyStorms · 02/12/2021 19:58
I am so sorry
iklboodolphrednosedpaindear · 02/12/2021 19:59
I'm so, so sorry
DramaAlpaca · 02/12/2021 20:00
I'm so sorry
anon12345678901 · 02/12/2021 20:00
I'm so very sorry for your loss
HollowTalk · 02/12/2021 20:00
What a terrible shock. I'm so sorry. It seems unbelievable doesn't it? You'll have to really be very kind to yourself. The shock and the loss together will be very tough on you all. 💐
Mantlemoose · 02/12/2021 20:01
@Darkpheonix I'm so sorry for your loss, that's so sudden it's hard to process.
Honkytonkyhonky · 02/12/2021 20:05
I’m so sorry
We lost my fil in feb-the part that got to me the most was he had his beers in the fridge and the tanker we bought him in the cabinet
He’d never get to drink them or use the tanker again
My mil is so lost,they where married just shy of 50 years
It’s ok to feel numb,it’s ok to be angry,it’s ok not to cry-if you feel it (or not) it’s ok
They say times a healer-it’s not,you just learn to deal with it better
My inbox is always open if you just want an ear or to scream
Go easy on yourself and lean on your loved ones in real life too
I’m sending so much love from the midlands
BirdyBirdyTweetTweet · 02/12/2021 20:07
I'm so sorry OP. My thoughts with you.
DontKnowWhatToThink7 · 02/12/2021 20:08
What an awful shock. I'm so sorry for your loss, OP.
Pinkclarko · 02/12/2021 20:10
I am so sorry. I lost my mum suddenly like that when I was 30, it’s awful I know. Take care of yourself. Xxx
RandomMess · 02/12/2021 20:10
So sorry
gogohm · 02/12/2021 20:11
So sorry op
You are in shock, still processing it. Give yourself space to grieve, the kids will be ok, tell your dp what you need eg space, keep busy we are all different. Also tell friends how they can help
newfriend05 · 02/12/2021 20:12
I'm so sorry op 💐
DeadoftheMoon · 02/12/2021 20:12
I am very sorry. What a shock for you and your Dad.
Sexnotgender · 02/12/2021 20:13
I’m so sorry 💐
hedgehogger1 · 02/12/2021 20:13
So sorry for your loss. Everything seems so much worse when it's out of the blue
ineedaholidayandwine · 02/12/2021 20:13
I'm so so sorry OP.
pickingdaisies · 02/12/2021 20:14
Oh you poor love, I'm so very sorry. It's not surprising that you feel numb, what a shock this is for you. There's no right and wrong way to feel when something like this happens. However you feel is right for you at the moment. Sending love
DoucheCanoe · 02/12/2021 20:15
I'm so sorry @Darkpheonix, there are no words to ease this right now but please know that there's no right/wrong way to grieve so take each moment as it comes.
Be with your Dad if it's what you both want and look after each other 💐
Junibug · 02/12/2021 20:16
Oh you poor thing, I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you much love x
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