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I talked to mum this morning. She was gone this afternoon.
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Darkpheonix · 02/12/2021 19:39

Hi, I don't know why I am posting. My kids are devastated, dp doesn't know what to say.

She was fine til a few weeks ago. We booked theatre tickets to her favourite show for next year. Then she struggled to breath and go diagnosed with asthma.

Today, I spoke to her. She had opened door number 2 on the Advent calendar I got her. It was a conditioner. She was going to wash her hair and use it.

Before she got to the shower, she couldn't breathe. Dad got her inhaler but it didn't help and he called an ambulance. They arrived quickly, she collapsed and stopped breathing and they couldn't get her back.

I walked into their house and she was gone. She was in bed, the ambulance people still there.

I have had to phone family. Dad is worrying that she had a hair appointment booked and I can't get hold of her hair dresser to cancel.

Dad's broken. I am just sat feeling numb. I should be in pain and know it will probably come. But I don't want it to. I want to be numb forever.

I keep getting upset over the Advent calendar that will remain unopened from today. It was meant for her to treat herself. To pamper herself. And now it's just there.

I don't know what to do. I don't how she was here and then she wasn't. I miss her already.

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Sportsnight · 02/12/2021 20:16

Flowers for you OP. It’s such a horrible time. My dad died in August, so I know a bit of how you’re feeling. I love that your mum had such a happy last day - she definitely knew how much you love her. I hope you find that comforting too.

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IpanemaPeaHen · 02/12/2021 20:16

I’m so sorry. That is very quick, you need to give yourself a lot of time to process this Flowers

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Fireflygal · 02/12/2021 20:16

That's heartbreaking and very sad to read. I'm very sorry for your loss.

Your mum will have known she was loved.

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Unreasonabubble · 02/12/2021 20:17

I am so, so sorry for your loss. What an absolute shock to you. Flowers

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beeboop2018 · 02/12/2021 20:17

I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. I lost my mam suddenly like that last year. The shock is truly awful... Like living in slow motion. Its a monumental head wreck to try comprehend... But all You need to do is try survive.... Minute by minute... Just hold on....

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ChrisPriss · 02/12/2021 20:18

I'm so very sorry for you and your family x

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Bagadverts · 02/12/2021 20:20

So sorry. Flowers

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LibbyL92 · 02/12/2021 20:22

This made me tear up.

I’m so so sorry. I couldn’t even imagine. Flowers

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Mummy7777 · 02/12/2021 20:23

I'm so sorry. Lost for words. Thinking of you, your dear mother and your family.

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LostThePot · 02/12/2021 20:24

I’m so sorry Flowers

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StopGo · 02/12/2021 20:26

I'm so very sorry

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Beautiful3 · 02/12/2021 20:26

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers
I lost my mum suddenly last year, I understand how hard it is to deal with, as it's so unexpected and final. You'll struggle but it does get easier with time. It's taken me a year to get over.

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stepbackfromthecircles · 02/12/2021 20:28

I'm so sorry for you all x

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SunsetandCupcakes · 02/12/2021 20:28

I am so sorry. Understand too well the weirdness between here this morning and not now. Sending love

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custardbear · 02/12/2021 20:28

There are no words that help but wanted to say I'm sorry for your news 🌹

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grapewine · 02/12/2021 20:29

I'm so sorry for your loss. What a terrible shock Flowers

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Camii · 02/12/2021 20:30

The advent calendar is so poignant. She will have known how much you loved and cared about her and that would have made her very happy.
Sending you strength at this terrible time

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Earwigworries · 02/12/2021 20:30

Sending you sympathy OP - I’m another to have chatted to Mum in the morning and her be gone a few hours later .

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CaribouCarafe · 02/12/2021 20:31

I'm so sorry, you sound like a wonderful and thoughtful daughter - it sounds like you had a lovely relationship with your mother, which only makes this harder Flowers

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Rupertpenrysmistress · 02/12/2021 20:31

So sorry to read this. My mil died just a few days before Christmas. It was surreal, we just functioned somehow. My dd did struggle to accept it, as like you, my mil was ok the day before and then gone. Take care of each other.

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Chosenonetosurvivethenight · 02/12/2021 20:32

What a shock Flowers give yourself time to process the shock. Look after yourself

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HalfHope · 02/12/2021 20:33

I'm so sorry Darkpheonix. From your posts it's obvious that your Mum was much loved and I am sure that that she felt that love from you all. She formed you in every way and her lovely nature will live through you. 🌷

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Wheresmywoolyjumpers · 02/12/2021 20:33

Much love to you - what a awful shock.

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FriedasCarLoad · 02/12/2021 20:34

I'm so very sorry. Losing one's mother is painful beyond words. You were obviously close.

I can't help but feel that your mother would have wanted you to pamper yourself with the rest of that special Advent calendar.

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Candleabra · 02/12/2021 20:34

What so terrible shock for you. So sorry x

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