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Ds1 15 killed himself.

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Makinglists · 15/07/2021 10:06

Ds1 who was 15 killed himself. He spent a week in hospital but the damage was too great and he died on 11 July.
We are still near the hospital sorting things out (he was in a childrens unit away from home). The feelings are overwhelming, I can't think of returning to the house where I found him. We have another child who is 10 and he is with friends.
There were no signs he would so this - he was stressed about Gcses and recently lost his grandfather but he seemed to be handling it. His emotions seemed normal for a 15 year old.
Awful though it is I wondered if there are others this has happened to and can share their story so we feel less alone.
We are broken.

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blahblahblah321 · 15/07/2021 10:09

Oh Making, I'm so sorry, that's awful Sad

I have no advice, sorry, but please be gentle with yourself x

Chocolatebuttercream · 15/07/2021 10:09

No story here but I couldn't read and run. I'm so sorry and send you my sincere condolences. I cannot imagine what you are feeling. Sending love

30degreesandmeltinghere · 15/07/2021 10:10

So sorry for your loss op...

CupoTeap · 15/07/2021 10:10

I'm so sorry, thinking of you and your family xx

madmomma · 15/07/2021 10:10

Oh makinglists that is so sad. I'm so very very sorry.

BlueyIsMyBae · 15/07/2021 10:11

So sorry to hear this, thoughts are with you OP x

MoiraNotRuby · 15/07/2021 10:11

I'm so so sorry. How awful for you. I hope you are being supported. Much love to you and your 10 year old.

Pigeonorcoot · 15/07/2021 10:11

I'm so sorry.

justthecat · 15/07/2021 10:12

So so sorry for your loss 💐

OrlandointheWilderness · 15/07/2021 10:12

I can't imagine what you are all going through. I'm so, so sorry.

Duckdown · 15/07/2021 10:12

I'm terribly sorry for your devastating loss. @Makinglists. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Geamhradh · 15/07/2021 10:12

So sorry.

seasonalremarks · 15/07/2021 10:13

So sorry for the loss of your dear son. Flowers

Phyllis321 · 15/07/2021 10:13

How incredibly sad. My deepest sympathy and condolences. I can’t imagine the pain you must be in. Sending you love x

sandgrown · 15/07/2021 10:13

So sorry to hear this I can’t imagine how you are feeling . Teenage boys just don’t open up in my experience and try to deal with things themselves. Please don’t blame yourselves . I will say a prayer for him tonight x

SpeckledlyHen · 15/07/2021 10:13

I have nothing to add but just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss. Losing anyone is awful but a child but be so so hard. Flowers

BettyOBarley · 15/07/2021 10:13

Oh gosh I'm so very very, sorry. There can be no greater pain Flowers

GoldenOmber · 15/07/2021 10:13

Oh, that’s awful. I am so so sorry.

mooloop · 15/07/2021 10:14

I'm so, so sorry for your loss Thanks

KnightandDay · 15/07/2021 10:14

Oh @Makinglists I'm so sorry to hear about your heartbreaking loss. Sending you lots of hugs and strength

absolutenightmare · 15/07/2021 10:15

What an awful shock for you. I lost my dad to suicide a few months ago, I really recommend joining SOBS. I have found it helpful to talk to others who have experienced losing loved ones to suicide. It's a very different sort of grief.

villainousbroodmare · 15/07/2021 10:16

I'm so sorry, love and strength and prayers to you all.

LongCovidSucks · 15/07/2021 10:17

So sorry for the loss of your son, OP.

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Ownedbypoppycat · 15/07/2021 10:18

So sorry,
thinking of you all

ineedaholidayandwine · 15/07/2021 10:20

I'm so so sorry OP.