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My daughter died on Christmas day, and I am struggling this year.

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VilootShesCute · 18/12/2016 21:55

She was 9 years old and it was 6:50am 8 years ago Christmas day she went peacefully in my arms.

I can talk about it to family and friends but this year, I don't know, it's just hitting me harder. I don't want to put too much on to anyone else close to me so am trying to be strong but Christ, it is not easy. Please can I ask everyone to just think of my beautiful girl on Christmas day and without sadness, send love to her wherever she may be.

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Whatslovegottodo · 18/12/2016 21:57

Flowers I will give your daughter a thought on Christmas Day.
Would you like to share anything about your lovely daughter?
Wishing you a peaceful Christmas.

0phelia · 18/12/2016 21:58
Flowers

Oh my gosh so sorry. Tears in my eyes for you.

QODRestYeMerryGentlemen · 18/12/2016 21:58

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cherrycrumblecustard · 18/12/2016 21:58

Oh, this is just the saddest thing Flowers

How AWFUL Sad what happened, if you don't mind me asking? X

CheckpointCharlie2 · 18/12/2016 21:59

viloot I will also think of her. How heartbreaking for you.
Unmumsnetty hug (hug) to you.

VilootShesCute · 18/12/2016 22:00

Thank you Whats. I know it's a strange thing to ask of strangers but I have been around here for so long it doesn't feel that way...sometimes. My special girl was amazing. She never complained, she always cuddled. I miss her so very much. It never gets easier, just different.

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wrapsuperstar · 18/12/2016 22:00

If you wanted, it would be great to hear about your lovely little girl.

Will certainly think of her and you and send a great deal of love. Flowers

KavvYourselfAMerryLittleXmas · 18/12/2016 22:00

Love to you and to your beautiful girl. She will not be forgotten Flowers

EstelleRoberts · 18/12/2016 22:01

I will think of your darling daughter on Christmas Day, and will send loving, healing thoughts to her and you.

Flowers There are no words I can say that will ease your pain, but I so wish there were.

VilootShesCute · 18/12/2016 22:01

She got pneumonia, was poorly for 4 days and then Christmas morning it all became too much for her little body to take.

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SingaSong12 · 18/12/2016 22:01

Would you be happy to pray for her (and you)? I won't be at all offended if you prefer me not to.

In any case my best wishes and I will think about you both Flowers

VilootShesCute · 18/12/2016 22:03

Oh thank you all. I feel very lonely in my grief sometimes, like its all so unreal. But my other children mean it's a necessity to not run away or hide in a hole somewhere. Despite wanting to many times.

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Rainbowqueeen · 18/12/2016 22:03

Flowers for you and your gorgeous girl.

I will be thinking of both you and her on Christmas day

I hope that helps you. My very best wishes to you and your family

Blossomdeary · 18/12/2016 22:03

She will be in my thoughts on Christmas Day. I am sure you will have wonderful memories of your dear daughter and the love lives on. Flowers

VilootShesCute · 18/12/2016 22:04

Singa that is lovely. Thank you.

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mortificado · 18/12/2016 22:04

I'll be thinking of you and your little girl on Xmas day, I'll light a candle for her too if that's ok. Smile
I'm very sorry for your loss. But I hope you have a lovely day on Xmas.

Rachie1986 · 18/12/2016 22:04

I shall be praying for you and thinking of you and your beautiful daughter.

CheckpointCharlie2 · 18/12/2016 22:05

Oh viloot Sad my dd was hospitalised with pneumonia when she was four over Christmas four years ago too. She came through but I'll never forget it. I'm so gutted for you.

Nuggy2013 · 18/12/2016 22:05

You'll both be in my thoughts Flowers

8FencingWire · 18/12/2016 22:05

I'll be thinking of you and your little girl on Christmas day, I'll light a candle and send you both our love.
I'm doing this now, but I'll remember you on Christmas day too.

Are you getting any support?

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 18/12/2016 22:05

viloot - I'm so sorry. I know that's such a trite thing to say but please know I'll be thinking about you and your lovely girl on Christmas Day Flowers

Bestthingever · 18/12/2016 22:06

Bless you. It's not a strange thing to ask at all. In fact it's one of the nice things about MN that you can reach out and always find someone there. I know someone who lost their dm and dh on Christmas Day (different years - a horrible coincidence) and I know how they struggle. I will think of you and your lovely little girl. Please accept a virtual hug from me.

Wolfiefan · 18/12/2016 22:06

I'm so sorry for your loss. Christmas must be so hard. Trying to make it nice for your other children and missing her all the while. I shall be thinking of you.
Flowers

Ihopeyouhadthetimeofyourlife · 18/12/2016 22:09

My little sister died on Christmas Day 38 years ago. I always buy a single white carnation to remember her by. This year I will think of your little girl too

Howlongtillbedtime · 18/12/2016 22:09

I am so sorry for your loss . My son died at the beginning of Dec 15 yrs ago .

What plans have you got for the day ?

Whatever you fee like doing is the right thing .

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