My daughter died on Christmas day, and I am struggling this year.

[VilootShesCute]

She was 9 years old and it was 6:50am 8 years ago Christmas day she went peacefully in my arms.

I can talk about it to family and friends but this year, I don't know, it's just hitting me harder. I don't want to put too much on to anyone else close to me so am trying to be strong but Christ, it is not easy. Please can I ask everyone to just think of my beautiful girl on Christmas day and without sadness, send love to her wherever she may be.

I will be thinking of you, your family and your little girl. I don't pray but will light a candle and think of her and send you love and strength, if that's ok.

Oh cakes. I'll be thinking of her on Friday, and you. I understand the relief of the day passing, and with it comes all the tension that has been building up inside. I don't think I have relaxed for months knowing this day is coming and afterwards it hits me, I've been holding on to all of this when it's JUST another day without her. Doesnt help that Christmas starts in October in the shops and it's a kick in the stomach when you see the first decorations up. Sending love x

Viloot I'm so so sorry, this has brought me to tears. I too will pray for your little girl and also for you to give you strength. Your little girl will always be a part of you, one day you'll be together again. I hope you don't mind me saying that, I just want to try and give you some kind of comfort, but it's what I truly believe. I will think of your daughter on Christmas Day and you as well. God bless.x

Sending love and light

Oh I am so sorry, thinking if you at this time💐💐💐💐💐

So so sorry. I don't know what to say. I can't even imagine how you must feel. I will think of you, and your daughter, on the day.

steady sending love. It's tough isn't it.

Viloot , he was 14 mths old and yes Christmas is a bugger . but like you I have other children so we try and make the day as good for them as I would like to make it for him .

You have come so far nearly a year on but it is still such early days for you .

Really pleased to hear you have good support around you . it makes all the difference .

Sending love and strength

knitted that is lovely, thank you x

So sorry for your loss OP, and for all the posters who have a difficult anniversary to face in the next few weeks. I will be thinking of you all and remembering you in my prayers too.

VilootShesCute I will definitely think of your beautiful girl on Christmas day. You must miss her terribly. I'm glad she had a loving mummy in her short life, not all children do.

My father died 50 years ago this past Friday. By a horrible coincidence, because of a diversion, I had to drive past the exact spot where he was killed on Friday. I was only very small when he died, but 50 years of grief spilled out at that one moment. I had to stop. The thought of losing one of my children is beyond pain. I will absolutely think of your little girl. Our son had pneumonia when he was one and the terror seeing him so still in hospitalt will never leave me. Lots of love to you xxxxx

I know you said it feels like another day apart from her and I know this will sound maudlin to others but I look at it as a day closer to seeing him again .

Sending you love and hugs viloot. I know first-hand the pain of losing and burying a child. Christmas is bad enough that it acts as a reminder or a marker of what is missing in our lives, it must be even harder that the anniversary of your daughters death also falls on Christmas day

I will be thinking of you and your little girl this Christmas. Much love. x

So sorry. Such pain a parent should never have to endure

For all of you with Christmas losses. I will be praying for you on Christmas Day. Xx

howlong heart breaking. Bless him. Yes I am not sure I'd still be here if it wasn't for my family. They take it all on the chin, and I love them all so much. But they don't always need to hear how it's affecting me. You are all so lovely x

So sorry for your loss. I'll think of you both on Christmas day. I bet she was absolutely lovely xx

str4ngedays that must have been such a shock. Grief is weird like that isn't it, the smallest (or biggest in your case) reminders can open up a whole universe of pain. X

I always wake up earlier than the rest of my family on Christmas Day. This year I'll take that quiet time to think about you and your daughter and send you love. Wishing you a peaceful Christmas and strength xx

Your beautiful little girl will always be with you as long as you live.

MrsMc oh she was the best. And she had such a sweet sweet nature. She loved her food, so Christmas day was THE best for her when she was here. She could almost out do me with the lunch!

Viloot I am so sorry. I cannot imagine what you went through or continue to endure. Your last post is so powerful. As a Mum it's hard to even read.
I will hold you and your little girl in my thoughts, especially on Christmas morning. I know it's a strange question but did she have a favourite colour? I don't know why but when I think of her it would be nice to visualise that or something that she liked.
to all who have suffered loss.