My daughter died on Christmas day, and I am struggling this year.

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She was 9 years old and it was 6:50am 8 years ago Christmas day she went peacefully in my arms.

I can talk about it to family and friends but this year, I don't know, it's just hitting me harder. I don't want to put too much on to anyone else close to me so am trying to be strong but Christ, it is not easy. Please can I ask everyone to just think of my beautiful girl on Christmas day and without sadness, send love to her wherever she may be.

You and your little girl will be in my thoughts on Christmas Day. What a sad/happy time for her to leave you. I will make sure I buy a pink flower for her and I hope you and your other children have a peaceful and happy Christmas and that her name is mentioned a lot on the day.. Much love to you all xxxx

ouch thank you. And yes, purple was always her colour

Viloot, I am so sorry you will have to spend another Christmas say without your DD
It seems doubly cruel your loss happened on a day so associated with joy and family - I will be thinking of you and am sending your strength and love.

thequeen ❤

Pacific thank you

for you Viloot and everyone else who has suffered such a loss. Heartbreaking. I will be thinking of you

Viloot, I am heartbroken for you. I had to check on my two sleeping DDs after reading your opening post.

Dd2 was hospitalised twice with pneumonia after Christmas two years ago aged 2. They were dark days

I will be thinking of you and your family on Christmas day.

I will think of your girl and you this Christmas. ❤️

I have some wild flower seeds waiting to be scattered on our muddy bit of village meadow. I've put them aside to scatter for your daughter on my Christmas day walk.

I'm so sorry

I'm sorry I don't have the words to write something or anything that might help, I'm not sure there are any other than I am so sorry for your loss Viloot, I'll think of you and your daughter on Christmas Day.

stars how lovely

thats ooo give them a quick sleepy cuddle from me. I have to check my two many times throughout night all these years later. Just becomes a habit.

Hello, I couldn't just read and not post. I've no idea how it feels to lose a child. I lost my father whilst I was pregnant with my now 15YO. His passing was expected. My three children never got the opportunity to meet my wonderful father, but, they know all about him and speak of him often.

I know the first few years after his passing were the most difficult and almost cruel. There would be a brief moment Inbetween sleep and awaking that I forgot my grief for the briefest of moments. Then the pain hit like a sledge hammer.

Grief has no timeframe.

I hope you find some comfort from the words of others OP. xx

I promise I'll think of you on Christmas day. .

I'm so sad to read this, there are no words that I can offer that will ease your suffering but I just wanted to say I will be thinking of you.
As many others have said, I will be thinking of your lovely girl too - I think it's lovely how many people will be thinking of her. This forum can really be amazing sometimes.

If you want to talk or merely vent OP, we are all here. x

I will Viloot thank you. Hugs for your other dc too

My mum died on Christmas Eve many years ago and my grandfather died on Boxing Day the same year as your little girl. It's a really hard time of year to lose a loved one as the run up to being reminded seems to happen earlier and earlier each year, and it's a time where there is so much pressure to be happy and make everything perfect - I always find it harder than I expect it to be if you see what I mean!
I will be working on Christmas Day this year looking after poorly children so I'll think of your little one as well as the little ones I'm caring for (and you never know, if there is some place that those we have lost are looking down on us, maybe my mum will be there cooking her Christmas dinner for her!) xx

blackhearted thank you. I was just thinking the same thing, it can be so supportive here. I didn't know whether to start a thread but tonight, if I hadn't, I don't think I could have coped. Just writing helps somewhat

sally ❤❤

Sending you both love.

I am so very sorry.

I lost my baby boy at 34.5 weeks pregnant in July, and that left me utterly broken. I cannot begin to imagine the pain of the loss of your precious girl. I most definitely will think of you and your special girl on Christmas Day, and, if ok with you, will light a candle to remember her xxx

Would you like to tell us a bit more about her Viloot? Only if you want to.

I am sending love and support to all mums who are quietly suffering from the loss of a child. Tomorrow it will be 40 years since my baby daughter died suddenly age 7 months. What would life be like if she had lived? Why why why did she die? I hope I am a better person, more helpful and tolerant. Every day is precious. Hold your kids tightly and love them

I will light a candle on Christmas day for you and quietly pray