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2nd stillbirth in 6 months. In shock.

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desperatehousewife · 22/05/2006 14:25

Had stillbirth at end of november - at 25 weeks. Got pregnant again 2 months later and went for 16 week scan this morning to be told this baby has died too. Am in shock but devestated - seems so unfair to happen twice in a row.

That's it really - just wanted to tell someone. I have to give birth on Wednesday.

I have felt like such a lucky person all my life and at the moment am feeling bloody unlucky and don't quite know what to make of it.

whereas in november I always knew i'd have another baby, this time I just don't know if I could go through pregnancy again. Am feeling pretty grim about the whole thing to be honest.

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lunavix · 22/05/2006 14:56

oh no :( Thinking of you xx

madmarchhare · 22/05/2006 14:57
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Tortington · 22/05/2006 15:00

oh dhw, i am so terribly sorry, terribly terribly sorry. if i can do anything at all please let me know. you must be devestated - i have no other words, i am so very sorry for you. your such a wonderful person. i'm so sorry.

amyjade · 22/05/2006 15:00

I'm so very sorry desperatehousewife :)
My thoughts are with you at this sad time.

My little girl Freya will be taking good care of your babies in heaven xxx

Twiglett · 22/05/2006 15:01

Oh DHW .. I am so extremely sorry .. that is so unfair Sad

lucykate · 22/05/2006 15:03

i'm so sorry, so sad you're having to go through this again Sad

my sil and brother lost their baby last week at 31 weeks

i really feel for you and your family at this terribly sad time, x.

Bumblelion · 22/05/2006 15:05

My thoughts and sympathies at with you at this sad time and will be thinking of you on Wednesday.

amyjade · 22/05/2006 15:05

Sorry desperatehousewife ment this :( :( :(

Lots of love xxxx

blueteddy · 22/05/2006 15:07

Oh, DHW, I am so sorry.Sad It seems so very unfair.xxxx

puddle · 22/05/2006 15:07

DHW it does seem so bloody unfair. Wishing you strength and peace. xx

NatalieJane · 22/05/2006 15:12

I am so sorry to hear this to DHW :(

I will be thinking of you xxx

slinkstah · 22/05/2006 15:14

OMG DHW i am so shocked, i was thinking about you yesterday wondering when you were back from your hols. i am so sad that this has happened to you again:(
really wish i could do something for you am so so sorry, am here anytime if you want a chat,cat me if you like:(
{{{{hugs}}}}

CarlyP · 22/05/2006 15:15

i am so so sorry dhw

cx

2Happy · 22/05/2006 15:15
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pepperpots · 22/05/2006 15:17

am so very sorry for you dhw Sad xx

myermay · 22/05/2006 15:21

god, this is so awful and so bloody unfair. How devasting.

Don't really know what to say - except i am so sorry and hope that you have lots of loving people around you to help you cope.

Will be thinking of you on Wednesday. Do the doctors give you any sort of indication why this has now happened twice?

PrincessPeaHead · 22/05/2006 15:24

oh, desperatehousewife, I can't imagine it. It IS unfair, it is too much. I'll be thinking of you on Wednesday, lots of love to you and your dh.

fondant4000 · 22/05/2006 15:25

So sorry for your loss dhw :( Wishing you all strength for Wednesday and beyond.

Do you know about SANDS? - support for parents of stillbirth. See \link{http://www.uk-sands.org\SANDS}

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desperatehousewife · 22/05/2006 15:26

thanks fondant. Yes sadly I do know about them. can't believe i'll be phoning them again so soon!

Thanks for all your lovely msges everyone. Appreciate it a lot.
x

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womba1 · 22/05/2006 15:28

Dhw... my heart goes out to you and your family. I have been through this tragedy myself and i'm at a loss as to what to say to you, other than you'll be in my thoughts xxx

Munz · 22/05/2006 15:29

oh dear god honney i'm so sorry for your second loss.

((((hugs))))

madamechocolat · 22/05/2006 15:29

What terrible news and such a shock for you and your family. Like all the others here, I am thinking of you today and will be thinking of you on Wednesday. I'm so sorry this has happened to you againSad.

HullaBalloo · 22/05/2006 15:37

so, so sorry to hear about your babies. I also had 2 babies that died in the womb so understand what you are going through. It traumatised me so much I never tried to get pregnant again and I now regret that so much. I wish that I had tried again as it's now too late and my son is an only child. It's so hard to think of going through it all again when it's so raw but there's every chance of a good outcome next time. Best wishes and good luck for the future xxx

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desperatehousewife · 22/05/2006 15:44

oh hb - i'm so sorry that you regret your decision - that is such a tough one. I've been thinking exactly the same things today - can't put myself through that again, but how on earth do i get my head round not having the family I always wanted and planned.

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hunkermunker · 22/05/2006 15:48

DHW, I'm so so sorry Sad You poor, poor thing.

Have they given any kind of reason or is it just pure plain awful chance?

I cannot imagine what you're going through - thinking of you x x x