Hi Ginge I am so sorry to hear about your little boy Oliver, please come and chat to us, although our stories differ we've all experienced something that isn't supposed to happen, our children aren't meant to go before us.
PPM - Well done love, how are the feet?
I did something for the first time yesterday, I spoke to some students about Malachy. Not like when I went back to school and some of them didn't know and asked me about the baby, but voluntarily. I'm obviously pregnant now but my A2 class (who I taught last year so knew all about Malachy, sent me a card etc) haven't mentioned it. However, they were talking about pregnancy so I told them. Then, 2 lovely girls were sitting by me using the computer and started asking me if I knew the gender, names etc. And then I told them about the baby that died, that I called him Malachy Aidan. They were really sweet and said what a lovely name etc and again these young women of 17 and 18 dealt with it better than some of the staff.
My voice didn't crack or anything, yet I'm holding back tears typing this.
Oh, and I have some fab news, one of my best friends is pregnant, a month behind me! Her mum died a week after we lost Malachy so she was going through her own grief at the same time. However, she came to Malachy's funeral and was so strong for me that day, I can never thank her enough for that. Unfortunately, she lives an hour and half away so we don't see each other that much, wish she was closer so we could do baby stuff together ( as oppposed to the getting roaring drunk that we usually do whilst not pregnant!).
Anyway, hope you are all ok, love and hugs to you all x