to want a holiday even though DH says we can't afford it

[EllaBing]

We've just recently moved house and our mortgage payments have gone up by a moderate amount. DH did say that if we moved house this year, we'd have to sacrifice going on our ten days abroad. Now, I nodded and made all the right noises because I thought I could butter him up at a later date but it appears I am wrong.

The thought of not having some time in the sun for another year is making me very miserable. The last 3 summers we've had have been shit. I've had a bit of mild depression since we moved and I feel like I need a change of scenery before i start doing crazy things like cutting my own hair off in clumps or eating sraight out of the freezer.

I KNOW I sound like a petulant child but I'm only asking for a few days in a hot country. Fucking Benidorm will do as long as there's sun and wine. I am a spoilt monster

Them's the breaks

Hire a sunbed, get hot and uncomfortable underneath it, buy the children icecream and ignore them and read a novel. A complete beach holiday at home. See?

you aren't being unreasonable to WANT a holiday. you are being unreasonable to insist on one if you can't afford it and if you've already agreed not to so that you could move house.

sorry, but plenty of people have no holidays, ever.

I'm hardly infantising myself re: finances. I gave up work to bring up the LO, so DH is the breadwinner. Sorry if your inner feminist baulks at that. Unfortunately, DH gets the casting vote on big spends and that's how it is until I return to work

you are inept at hearing clear message
big house = less holidays

suck it up or go get a job princess

I'd love to go get a FT job.

Now can you point me in the direction of an affordable childminder please?

" Unfortunately, DH gets the casting vote on big spends and that's how it is until I return to work"

should be a joint decisioin, makes sod all difference that he works and you don't its your (as in plural) money.

And as for the OP - you are being very childish.

I have depression,and possible PTSD as well, yes I'm going on holiday - somewhere hot and sunny? No - Edinburgh and Liverpool (with free accomodatoin thrown in at both so it's really just travelling costs and spending money).

Suck it up. You got your bigger house,

I like how you're all assuming I got a "bigger" house. I actually got a house with disabled access.

Reasonable to assume bigger if the mortgage payments went up, OP.
Go on a long weekend to France if you're that desperate - ferries are cheaper than planes. You are being somewhat childish over this - compromise.

I KNOW I'm being childish! I said as much in my first post.

Jeez, I was expecting some sisterly bitching about mean old DHs, not a load of internet harpies giving me what for.

i see you are going to drip feed info and dispute posts based upon im a princess wanting benidorm op

aye knock yourself out.get a tan too

yes I'm sure you'll get a lot of sympathy talking about having just moved to a new house and how you have to sacrfice your 10 days abroad (I presume this is yearly thing?) on a website where many people will only ever dream of owning their own home, and if they're lucky they'll get a week in a caravan in Skegness for a holiday

but you aren't going to get that in the current economic climate, when your DH is being eminently sensible and you aren't! Seriously.

thats the rub there is no sisterly bitch about dem men

just silly misguided belief all us wimmin hate dem men and stick together

grow up princess

you can just imagine it the other way around, can't you - "AIBU to be incensed that my DH is insisting we go on holiday abroad this year even though we can't afford it as we've just moved and our mortgage has increased substantially?" - you'd have got all the DH bashing support you needed then.

Will you just stop with this nonsense?

I mean 'sisterly bitching about mean old DHs'.

You are a grown woman. Take responsibility for your own financial affairs.

cant polish a turd.thread is crap.op is a princess

no foreign holiday this year?

boofucking hoo.my heart breaks

So what if I go abroad most years, Toccata? I don't exactly live a frivolous lifestyle. I don't have a car, I walk everywhere, I buy my clothes from fucking Primark, I swap books with mates because I can't justify spending eight quid on one, same with music. I just don't think that I can bear another wet summer stuck in the house with LO not being able to go out because walking to the park results in getting drenched! I've sold loads of my stuff on eBay and have given the raised cash to DH hoping that he will let us use it to go towards a holiday.

My one joy in life is watching Hollyoaks (!) I think I'm entitled to some fun...

well there's your first mistake, imagining that you're entitled to anything.

FGS get over it - no doubt you'll get one next year as your DH won't be able to stand your whining.

"don't exactly live a frivolous lifestyle. I don't have a car, I walk everywhere, I buy my clothes from fucking Primark, I swap books with mates because I can't justify spending eight quid on one, same with music."

You mean likes lots of other people who CAN'T afford a holiday, anwhere at anytime.

That's the thing, Thumbwitch. I don't whine. I just get frustrated about it and then bitch about it on the internet. To a bunch of humourless feminists.

boo fuckinghoo i bet you exfoliate with brillopad too.

oh such a lot to contend with.how ever do you mange

and you've gotta laugh don't you - talk about financial priorities.

She can't afford to buy £8 books or music.........but she thinks they can afford to go on holiday abroad

You know what - actually thank you OP - you've made me laugh tonight, and there's not much of that happening round here at the moment so quite an achievment

we're not humourless feminists - see any of our other posts! we're just not agreeing with your spoilt princess attitude, that's all. Interesting definition of "feminism", btw - agreeing with your DH that you're being unreasonable.(humourless )

Tocc, you ok? you got another thread to talk to me or do you want to twilight?