to want a holiday even though DH says we can't afford it

[EllaBing]

We've just recently moved house and our mortgage payments have gone up by a moderate amount. DH did say that if we moved house this year, we'd have to sacrifice going on our ten days abroad. Now, I nodded and made all the right noises because I thought I could butter him up at a later date but it appears I am wrong.

The thought of not having some time in the sun for another year is making me very miserable. The last 3 summers we've had have been shit. I've had a bit of mild depression since we moved and I feel like I need a change of scenery before i start doing crazy things like cutting my own hair off in clumps or eating sraight out of the freezer.

I KNOW I sound like a petulant child but I'm only asking for a few days in a hot country. Fucking Benidorm will do as long as there's sun and wine. I am a spoilt monster

I have a long thread in MH at the moment thumb >

Where exactly is the humour in treating your husband as though he is your father and denying you a treat which you know in your heart of hearts you cannot afford?

Blimey. If a holiday in Benidorm really is a big issue, then you should just go and earn the money for one. Simple. You asked me to point you to affordable childcare, and I will point you at your DH. He can make sure they are tucked up in bed while you go out and earn the extra cash in the evenings or at weekends.

OK so what started out as a light-hearted/supposed-to-be-funnily self indulgent first post by me has turned into an all-out bitch war.

I'd heard on another mums site that Mumsnet posters were pretty hostile. Ho-hum...

Then I will need to pay someone to look after my MIL/DD at weekends/evenings. You see my predicament.

what you mean princess is commeon sense prevailed.
no one kissed your arse
or mindlessly trotted out sisterly bitching about mean old DH

now grow the fuck up

Wow, how old are you Scottishmummy? You've got some anger issues that you need to deal with before you're allowed to converse with people online or otherwise.

You must have a pretty rubbish life if you need to take your anger out on strangers. There's a way of stating that you disagree with someone and badly punctuated/abusive posts isn't it, love.

No, I don't see your predicament. Is your DH incapable of looking after your MIL/DD?

Doesn't the OP sound like a journalist setting out her long line in order to catch a few ideas in the depths of a parenting site?

this is ScottishMummy on a good day

nah. Any journo worth their pay and rations would be able to spell infantilise.

He's not incapable, but I would feel unfair expecting him to look after them after working a 50 hour week, which is what he is doing atm. We agreed that I would stop working full-time to take on these responsibilities and as far as I see, that is my job.

Sorry that your first AIBU is not going your way - but that is often the way. Not a very good idea to start your first thread here. It even warns you of it in the MNHQ note above.

Couldn't see much lighthearted humour in your opening post either, tbh. Just "poor me".

Any undercover journo worth their salt would chuck in a few spelling errors to throw you off the scent

well it will be cheaper if you leave your DH at home to work

maybe Quattro dunno if i can give journos the same benefit of the doubt myself, but can't you all see this person is trolling for fish to land?

what is interesting me slightly is why you have changed your name halfway through your own thread - any particular reason??

There are ways of earning extra income which can be fitted round caring responsibilities. Like Avon/Bettaware, leaflet delivering, or of course adult chatline work. It's not a living but you could probably scrape up the cost of a weekend in Spain in a month or two if you flew by Easyjet and went camping.

oh well spotted Thumb!

Well, I did leave DH at home to work one day whilst I took MIL on a day out. I won't be repeating it again as he let LO draw all over cat/table/walls/laptop in red marker then put LO to bed with no nappy, lol.

Oops, sorry.Shouldn't say anything negative about the DH! I was most pleased to find my son's attempts at becoming the next Jackson Pollock very endearing and the no-nappy-to-bed thing was just a silly mistake that any mum would make!

I changed my name halfway through because I was getting so much hostility on here that I didn't want anyone to link me to my FB page from my real name. But you saw it, old eagle-eye Thumbwitch.

I have thought about the adult chatline work. I even filled in three online application forms. It turns out you earn thirty-five pence out of every £1.50 p/m phonecall. Now I don't know about you but I don't have enough dirty talk in my repertoire to make it past £3.50 Any tips would be gratefully received.

well that is just plain ridiculous - of course those are legitimate irritations in your DH's lack of attention to detail.

Perhaps you should take a breather from this thread and come back to it tomorrow?

I'm off anyway - RL intrudes.

Your DH can handle all the very hard stuff like making the money and the decisions, but simultaneously cannot be trusted to look after one small child and does not know how to change a nappy.

Is this a surrendered wife thread I have walked into by mistake?

this HAS to be a wind up, "can't afford a holiday even though we've just moved", can't aford to buy other stuff other than cheap/swapping, poor housewife with hopeless DH bringing in the £££'s that doesn't get a say in how the money is spent, moved to a house with disabled access (thrown in later of course), depression, wohm issues (suppose kind of linkd to hopeless DH mentioned above).............all we need now is the religion and BF/FF thing and we'll be complete won't we?

Hey, I'm not the only one with a child-inept DH, judging by some of the threads I've seen going on around here. And FYI, I DO resent having money-earner/decision maker status revoked but that's just how it is for lots of us that stay at home to care for LOs/relatives. Not all of us are power-crazy bitches who'd be happy saying to their DH "hey, YOU go out and earn the cash and let ME decide what we spend it on." That's just the sort of person I am. I felt bad asking for some new teatowels this week, for fuck's sake!

err no - you just you know talk to each other and discuss what the money is spent on - it's really not hard you know.

You don't have anything "revoked" -