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Original poster

naked toddlers showering at the public swimming pool

214 replies

Danthe4th · 19/10/2009 21:25

At our local swimming pool it is glass sided and the showers are in full few of the veiwing area, and the car park at a push.

I take my 4 year old for his swimming lessons on a wednesday morning, they also have the mums and tots class. I sit watching my sons class and the previous class are using the showers.

Why do mums strip their children off so they shower naked. I'm at the point when i'm going to say something, but do I say it to mum or management.Several children do this.

There are often workmen, strangers, dads whoever wondering about. I just don't think its necessary to strip children naked, why can mums not leave their costumes on.

I find myself scanning the area to see if anyone is looking, it just worries me.Am I being unreasonable.

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Original poster
Danthe4th · 19/10/2009 21:27

thats full view of the viewing area

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Lulumama · 19/10/2009 21:27

i think it is so very sad to see other dads and men in general as perveted paedos who need to be kept away from young children

YABU and it is such a shame that men arelumped together as one amorphous mass of child abusers

MillyR · 19/10/2009 21:27

YABU.

Mine would play in the paddling pool and the surrounding area in the park naked when they were toddlers.

Why on earth does it matter?

Meglet · 19/10/2009 21:27

They are toddlers. It doesn't matter. Mums are probably trying to get all the chlorine off their skin.

hester · 19/10/2009 21:28

What worries you specifically, Danthe4th? What would you say to mum or management is the problem? Is this about protecting the children, or something else?

I'm not having a go, just trying to understand what is worrying you about this.

Lulumama · 19/10/2009 21:28

if you had said that you had seen strange men taking pics on a camera phone or digital camera, then you would not be unreasonable

PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 19/10/2009 21:28

YABU. Why should toddlers not be naked for a shower - so what if there are builders, workmen around? And do you mean workmen or general workers male and female? dads? why not? If its a problem, why not mothers and fathers? and why should mum's leave their children's costumes on? Suggesting dads do not take their children swimming?

A wind up, surely, or at the very least not well thought through

PacificWerewolfwoohood · 19/10/2009 21:28

IMVHO, YABU - well, a bit. I think we worry about this kind of thing too much. Most people are not paedophiles.
I just hate the anxious/paranoid society I am living in - sorry, one of my bugbears: don't get me started on Health and Safety madness.

Anyway, ignore me, I am lose moralled continental European .

ruddynorah · 19/10/2009 21:29

you're being ridiculous.

emkana · 19/10/2009 21:29

ya def bu

I agree that it's awful to assume that any man must be a potential child abuser.

And even if there was the odd one with horrible thoughts in his head, I personally would feel it doesn't matter? No actual harm is done to the children?

LadyGlencoraPalliser · 19/10/2009 21:29

Agree with the others. What would be your reaction to seeing a naked toddler on the beach? Not that their parents should make them wear a costume, I hope. This is no different.

TrillianSlasher · 19/10/2009 21:29

Toddlers can be on the beach naked, can't they? So why not at the swimming pool?

(not in the swimming pool, but that's only cos I don't trust their bladder control)

LIZS · 19/10/2009 21:29

yabu , get a sense of proportion

morningpaper · 19/10/2009 21:30

YABU and mad

inveteratenamechanger · 19/10/2009 21:31

YABVU to assume that every man who is not directly related to a child is a potential pervert.

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 19/10/2009 21:31

YABU.

What on earth is wrong with showering a child naked to get the chlorine off them while their mother / father / whoever is taking them to their swimming lesson is with them?

I honestly don't see the problem

Ivykaty44 · 19/10/2009 21:31

yabu

ThePinkOne · 19/10/2009 21:32

Considering a recent news story surely naked toddlers showering in an all-female changing room would be just as worrying but you seem to be focussing on men being... what actually? Some kind of threat?

Original poster
Danthe4th · 19/10/2009 21:34

Its about protecting the children hester, recently a friend was followed for over a mile by a strange man at the same pool and its just got me worried, i've been on some recent safeguarding children courses and have read too much maybe, but I still don't think it's necessary.

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MsSpentYouth · 19/10/2009 21:34

Sorry but I am with OP, I wouldn't feel comfortable with it.

Don't get me wrong, I see nothing wrong with nekidness, it would just concern me that if it was that easy to see in then if someone did take a fancy to looking they could just loiter around.

I would take it to the swimming pool and ask them to make it a bit more private.

PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 19/10/2009 21:34

Its a wind up. Course it is. Or some media type fishing on views of male/female paedophilia, stereotpying.

'There are often workmen, strangers, dads whoever wondering about'

BrokenBananaTantrum · 19/10/2009 21:35

YABU

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Danthe4th · 19/10/2009 21:36

There is no changing room the showers are directly next to the pool its all open plan and can be seen from outside. You then go to a cubicle. Every pool is different I know but our newish one is very open.

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PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 19/10/2009 21:36

danthe4th so what about females? mothers? what about the woman who worked in a nursery who abused children? Why are you concerned specifically about men thats what I do not get.

MsSpentYouth · 19/10/2009 21:37

And as fortoddlers getting nakid on the beach, I actually prefer my DS to go nakid as it stops any rash from the sand rubbing in his nappy. But it isn't a regular plcae for nakid children to be and so wouldn't attract perverts to loiter.

And this isnt about them being male. I wouldn't like it if a woman loitered outside either.