naked toddlers showering at the public swimming pool

[Danthe4th]

At our local swimming pool it is glass sided and the showers are in full few of the veiwing area, and the car park at a push.

I take my 4 year old for his swimming lessons on a wednesday morning, they also have the mums and tots class. I sit watching my sons class and the previous class are using the showers.

Why do mums strip their children off so they shower naked. I'm at the point when i'm going to say something, but do I say it to mum or management.Several children do this.

There are often workmen, strangers, dads whoever wondering about. I just don't think its necessary to strip children naked, why can mums not leave their costumes on.

I find myself scanning the area to see if anyone is looking, it just worries me.Am I being unreasonable.

the whole reason it isn't private is to protect people/children....

They are babies ffs!

I always strip off the children's swim suits in the shower. They are knee to elbow ones, so I find it much easier to strip them off, shower them, then wrap them in towels till we get to the cubicle.

sgree with pav, and i made the point, why are you only referring to men and even other dads as potential peadophiles.....

where is this weird swimming pool?

YABu - but you probably know that

{sorry lulumama did not register your previous question smile, too busy ranting }

Why on earth is everyone a troll who asks thought provoking questions pavlov, there is a thread on AIBU about unfairly labelling people trolls because they dare ask a controversial question. I do agree with Dan4th, i would not like random people looking at me neekkid in the shower and would not like that for my dd, just something i feel uncomfortable about. I hate labelling all men paedophiles and perves thats not what i am on about. I would have dd shower naked in a swimming pool shower if it was more private unisex or not.

DD runs naked around a family changing room, with men as well as women there . I chose to go in this one, not the female one, as DH who is with me, can help me with dd.

not at all pav, it is a point worth reiterating, esp. in light of the nursery worker convicted recently

so the mothers that choose to shower afterwards also have to shower in full view of everyone - sounds very odd

Its anybody that concerns me, but as its mainly mums that take the children to these classes I go to and generally the workmen or people who just seem to be hanging around are men, but I do agree its open to abuse by all.But thats not the point i'm making, I just think they could keep there costumes on, save any risk from anyone.

I did not read that thread about trolls, not really being here and all. Does this said thread say I am not allowed to raise at this? At what point would I be able to question this? Or am I no longer allowed?

But if I offend - i take it back, and shall say no more on the matter of possible windup.

Stop looking at the naked children, you perv.

/sarcasm

I fail to see how a child abuser is going to be deterred by a swimming costume.

The mums keep their costumes on, there are 3 seperate shower cubicles if they want to use them but they don't, more space outside. I shower my son in the shared one, but he keeps his trunks on.

But the world is NOT entirely populated by paedophiles! Not even in the car park. Do you not let your children run around nekkid at the beach?

YABVU

The fact is that places like swimming pools are targeted by peadophiles, this is an unarguable fact. It is also a fact that peadophiles can be parents, like it or not it is true.

I know of people who have refused to work in swimming pools because they were so freaked out at having to go and fill holes drilled in changing room walls - at child as well as adult height.

However you cannot ever know if it is the moment that you walk in with your dc that a peadophile will also have decided to be there. It is a matter or risk assessment. I personally do not feel comfortable with situations as described above - however I do know IABU about it so I tend to keep it to myself!

In view of this being a legitimate thread, I feel very sad that the OP feels, rather than being able to celebrate the innocence of youth, of a young child being free to be as they are, she needs to ensure her child is covered in cloth at all times in public view. Its such a shame that people are so fearful of the their children's bodies being looked at, that they will stifle the one time we can be completely open with who we are - as children.

What risk? A perv might see them? So? They are being supervised aren't they? No danger for them? Why should they change their activities because of some sick bastard?

The kiddies run around naked at our local park in the summer, they are in and out of the sandpit and paddling pool. I disapprove because I am a mental person when it comes to sun safety.

YABU. Toddlers running around naked are lovely.

I completely agree with Pavlov.

I do not believe that a child is at greater risk of being abused or subjected to any kind of harm if they take their costume off in a public shower.

I do believe childhood is diminished by being made to cover up as a result of a parent's fear.

YABVVVVU and completely nuts

hesaysshesays paedophiles are present wherever we live in society, in the small numbers they exist. They could live on your street, they could teach in your children's schools, look after them in their after school activities, care for them at nursery, swimming pools are much less targeted these days, as paedophiles are aware this is a stereotype and that behaviours are more likely not less likely to be spotted in a swimming pool. They are much more likely to go elsewhere to avoid detection.

yes i think yabu i would shower my children naked even if people could see. They won't come to any harm as i will be there with them.

I think that we are getting paranoid if toddlers can't run around naked!