My DH is a bit of a baps/jugs kind of bloke, and I'm 27 wks preg...

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...so, AIBU to worry about how we're going to get round the whole breast feeding thing?

I wasn't able to BF my DD1, so this never arose, and my DH hasn't said anything and wouldn't cos he's a right sweetie, but how do you deal with the leaky boobs thing when you're playing a good game of hide the sausage?

Have sex ASAP after Bfeeding?

In your bestest cowboy voice tell him to

"get on the horse and drink your milk, pardner"

OMG BHLS

buy a sexy bra that gives you a cracking cleavage but can also accom breast pads (so prob padded style) and wear for sex until your flow settles down ?

If he is a truly, thoroughbred norks man he will appreciate all aspects of them, including their intended purpose.

Don't worry about it. He is going to love the fact that they are going to get bigger and be out on display so much. It really isn't a problem.

DH is either going to have to deal with the milk issue or compromise with the having them 'adorned' but covered for the early BF days.

I wear a bra in bed, otherwise puddles quickly gather...

Are you having leaks now?

I bfed & I think we often had sex not that long after I´d bfed.

Not deliberately, just happened that way as it was our bed time or baby was settled so we made use of that fact!

I never had any leaks, and certainly never leaked whilst pregnant.

diddl - nope, no leakage as yet thankfully, and I didn't when I was preg with DD1 either, so I've got no idea of just how leaky they get IYSWIM, one poor friend of mine started leaking when she was having lunch with her Dad once! so I've got all sorts of scenarios going round in my head lol

Sausage, I had visions of you advising tassles or something with the 'adorned' bit

Well, I personally only leaked once-I was late giving a feed.
I thought I might be so had pads in & no one noticed.

I don't think you really notice leakage during sex unless of course there's boob fondling/nibbling going on but while breastfeeding I didn't actually want dh messing about with them. That was quite a while for dd as well!

In the early bf days I wouldn't want any sex!!!

Kitty - that's given but if I BF up to say six months, if my nips can take it, that's a fair while for the poor bloke to be deprived!

haha this is one of the reasons i DIDNT breastfeed my 2!

didnt want DP to go off me!! i think men get freaked out when they see it to be honest.

both my kids dads found the idea of bf'ing a bit icky, although that wasnt the only reason i didnt do it - TBH I find the idea a bit icky!

and both of them were real boob men too!! so i didnt wanna ruin their toys haha.

and i would like to add that both my bottlefed kids are fine healthy specimens!!xx

I thought "baps/jugs" was going to be a Jesus feeding the 5000 with loaves and fishes (and presumably jugs of water) reference

mummee - that is an incredibly sad post. Breasts are not men's 'toys', yuck what a revolting expression. They are designed for feeding babies, and any man who can't cope with the site of his wife/GF breastfeeding his baby isn't much of a man in my very humble opinion.

I can only assume this is a joke post.

agree with alibooba.

I'm feeding my 9 day old now and leaking everyhere, which bugs me way more than my OH. But i know from experience that it will settle down soon, prob by the time i feel up for it again anyway. And if it doesn't, it certainly won't be an issue, it wouldn't have occurred to me that it might be tbh.

Whats another bodily fluid between friends anyway?

Good grief mummee09v

Grown men finding the idea of bfeeding "icky".

What delicate flowers they must be!

I don';t think it's a joke post, I'm sure lots of people feel like that

Oh dear. This is really sad. People's sex lives are their own business, but when they are posted on mumsnet then presumably it's ok to comment..esp. in AIBU

So.....the idea that a man would choose to put his sexual preferences above the nutritional and health needs of a tiny baby, his tiny baby, is really sad, and possibly unfair to many (most?) men.

Breasts do tend to leak at first (not with established bf) during sex, but if that's an issue women can keep their bra on and just use breasts during sex through the fabric (I don't have to spell it out for people, do I?). It's a bit different, some people may think the effect is not worthwhile, but FFS, it's not gonna kill anyone to do something a bit different for a few weeks. Or you can have sex after bf, when leakage is less likely.

Feel sorry for men if you want to, think they are being 'deprived', fine....but whose needs should come first, if there is some competition? A new baby's, or a grown up adult man's?

If a man goes off a woman because she breastfeeds, then what sort of a man is he?

And for the record, it's pregnancy that changes the breasts, not breastfeeding. Breasts return, more or less, to what they were before, in most cases, given time.

Um loving the idea of boobs as 'men's toys' Honestly no part of my body is a 'toy' for any man. And boobs were designed for feeding babies. Thankfully DP comes from a VERY pro-bf family, so had no problems with it. He just left the ladies alone in the early stages
OP- I really wouldn't worry too much about it. Give it your best shot, and hope you have better luck with the feeding this time.

And OP - if you're still here - why not just talk to your dh about it?

Find out what he feels and thinks.

Surely this isn't hard to do? Presumably you and he overcame your feelings about bodily fluids and functions in order to get into the situation you are in now?

Tbh I couldn't bear them being touched at any time other than feeding, while I was bf (if that makes any sense). It was fine, there's lots of other stuff you can do!

I would find that when "hiding the sausage", when I got into it, my boobs would start leaking anyway - sort of like a fountain effect but luckily my dh was man enough to not mind. I just wore a bra with plenty of breast pads, then I could forget about it.