My DH is a bit of a baps/jugs kind of bloke, and I'm 27 wks preg...

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...so, AIBU to worry about how we're going to get round the whole breast feeding thing?

I wasn't able to BF my DD1, so this never arose, and my DH hasn't said anything and wouldn't cos he's a right sweetie, but how do you deal with the leaky boobs thing when you're playing a good game of hide the sausage?

My DP is a boob man (but mine are very small). I did used to leak a lot with ds1 but kept my bra on and pads. The one time I did take my bra off for him he nearly drowned! But we ds2 I haven't leaked much at all and this time round I don't feel odd about dp touching them during sex. I have leaked a little bit which I think DP was unsure about, but not enough to stop him trying to touch my boobs.

He and ds2 have a shared understanding! DP is also very proud that I have BF both our kids. It hasn't put him off my boobs at all.

Miggsie - good idea on the tea and bikkis, and like you say, absence makes the heart grow fonder
'It is a necessary sacrifice of fatherhood' well...they do fk all else lol

"you have serious issues there, not least of which is a definite tone in your posts that suggests you view yourself as some kind of possesion of, or adjunct to, your partner!"

yeah i do have LOADS of issues surrounding pregnancy and childbirth!! i admit that, and so did the medical professionals who dealt with me during my 2 pregnancies!! hence the two c sections. its just how i am. i don't know why!

BUT i do NOT see myself as a possession of my partner, just coz he is squeamish about breastfeeding!!

whats wrong with wanting your DP to still fancy you??!! nothing!! i want him to ALWAYS fancy me the way he does now and i don't think him seeing his baby hanging off my nipple like i am some kind of frieisan cow!!

and if i HAD of breastfed my DP would not have stopped me. but I would have known that he found it a bit weird so it would have got me down.

also i hear horror stories about cracked, bleeding nipples, nipple thrush, the baby getting thrush, baby feeding constantly, saggy tits post BF, babies not sleeping thru the night EVER while being breastfed, mastitis, infections, the list goes on....and i did not want any of that for myself!!

ps-i didnt let DF see me naked or even semi clothed till about 3 weeks post birth either!! (till the tummy, boobs and excess weight had gone!) analyse THAT!!

Jeez, couldn´t respect a man who thinks bfeeding is wierd.

I guess they´d not be able to be there for the birth either in case it traumatised them!

"i want him to ALWAYS fancy me the way he does now and i don't think him seeing his baby hanging off my nipple like i am some kind of frieisan cow!!"

What a shockingly ignorant and stupid thing to say.

In fact, it's so 'out there' and designed to cause offence that I wonder if the OP is a troll?

Saggy tits? Do fuck off.

Do not make me post a picture of my MAGNIFICENT breastfeeding/DH pleasing tits. You will choke on all that bile with jealousy.

Aaarghh..sorry OP, not you! I meant mummee09v

mummee - sympathy for anyone with issues about birth etc and hope you get help with these, esp if you have daughters (though also if you have sons). These feelings can go down the generations.

Enough with the insults though - totally unnecessary to share your feelings about babies 'hanging off the nipple' (gross image and nothing like what happens) and comparing it to being a cow. That's just nasty to women who do choose to breastfeed.

Don't think OP is a troll. Think mummee09v probably is. Or got lost on way to Bounty or summat.

Well, mummee, I hope you´ve got the money set aside for a boob job for when age kicks in!

Or indeed the fat lip you're likely to get if you voiced those opinions in my direction in RL.

erm, a troll?? what does that mean???? i don't know, i only joined a few weeks ago, and i like it on here!!!

again, i really am sorry if i have upset anyone!!! but this is AIBU, we are allowed to give our opinions, right??? as for the saggy tit thing, i have FEMALE friends that have breastfed that say they have sagged coz of it!!! my own MUM said it to me!!! anyway they all go south eventually anyway bfing or no so who cares!! sorry!! bloody hell rolls eyes

there is REALLY no need for namecalling and rudeness!!!

Mummee09v

you have ishoos. Fair enough. We all have ishoos about certain things. But please, recognise your ishoos are not normal, and your views are therefore not right, fair or normal, and that comparing breastfeeding women to dairy cows is fucking offensive.

Oh - and honey, lactating damages your tits, not breastfeeding, so yours will already be fucked, or as fucked as anyone's are, sorry.

also in the offended camp. i am as i type breastfeeding my 3rd baby and have never had any of that litany of imagined problems with breastfeeding, in a total of 2.5years of bfing.
And I'll have you know I have magnificent breasts, both now and post breastfeeding !

I don't think anyone wants to analyse you and your myriad of ishoos, who has that kind of time? You may have major body image problems, but don't project them onto the rest of us. We are proud of our bodies and their functions, and so are our OH's.

Am now thinking of starting an "I have magnificent breasts" thread. But where to post it? Chat seems so... inadequate somehow for such marvellous mammeries.

No one has been rude to you mummee but you have been very rude to others with your comments about breastfeeding.

Also re: the constant punctuation marks!!!?? it looks very teenage!!? IYKWIM ?!!

I totally agree with mummeeeeeeeeeeee

I had my tits replaced with a couple of spacehoppers and had a tummy tuck during labour. Heaven forfend that my mate should have seen me looking anything other that fab U lous

I also put lipstick on my baby and eat grass for lunch.

Yes, one question mark or exclamation mark will give your meaning. Three or four are unnecessary.