shy people get on my tits

[brimfull]

and I know I am being unreasonable

but I want to shout-' grow up and make a fucking effort!!'

and don't moan about your kids not having mates to play with when you never ask people back,never say hello in the street

thanks

needed to get that off my chest

Oh dear. I really can't see why you've started this if you know you are being unreasonable.

I think I'd rather be shy then a fool!

I hope this thread fulfills your aim.

me too! I hate it when they say-"you're lucky, you're just confident. No, we're all shy, some of us just make more effort...(sits back and waits to be slated)...

YABVU. But yes, I know what you mean.

I know

hit me with it

YABU.

Indeed only outgoing people should be allowed to moan or indeed talk. You go girl, make some new friends.

I have enough friends

not true - some people have social mojo - others dont

Well, YABU in relation to shyness but I think sometimes Y might NBU if it is someone who is not making an effort - one of my friends has a hubby who is not shy at work or with his friends but does not carry out the social niceties with her friends, and I find this annoying. I don't care if he doesn't like me, I don't much like him TBH but still force myself to pass the time of day with him.

what does mojo mean?

I'm guessing the OP hasn't had to take medication/therapy to help her social anxiety.

The thing is, I think crippling shyness is probably like say, my fear of heights. And I know if it was a life or death thing then yes, I would haul myself up that ladder/abseil down that tower block, but otherwise I just wouldn't. Regardless of anything else.

So I guess shy people are so paralysed by their shyness that in the absence of a life or death scenario (and lets face it, your kids' social life isn't life or death) then they just won't fake confidence/say hello/whatever.

yabu, and a bit unesessarily twatty....you sound like me when I'm PMTing, I hate the whole fecking world then!

So who is gonna start the 'confident people get on my tits' thread?!

YABU

Do you put your points across so forthrightly in RL? Perhaps this is why less socially adept people are scared of you and won't say hello.

I find that brash boorish people with no empathy for others get on my tits.

Glad to get that off my chest.

pasturesnew...

I wonder if people who can manage at work but then don't in other social situations are like that because socialising at work follows clear rules which are easier for a shy person to deal with. There is more capacity for making a mistake or misunderstanding the unwritten rules in informal situations.

Is there such a thing as too many friends?

I'm not surprised shy people avoid you!

I actually was going to start a thread about confident people!!

Last week I went to a party, and sat next to an ultra-confident woman who didn't know how to shut up. I couldn't get a word in edge ways, so I did end up feeling "shy" but in fact, her voice is loud, mine is quiet, so I gave up.

But it annoyed me. Who has the right to steal the show, when we all have something interesting to say (most of the time!)but are not given a chance.

She bored me in the end.

i was watching america's top model the other day, one of the girls was stunned that a european girl was shy, she said you just don't have shyness in the US, people just get on with it.

wonder if it's true

YAB extremely U.
Being shy is enough of a burden without people like you saying 'they get on my tits'.
It's not something you can just snap out of.

I think I work with her twoisplenty!! I have started bringing in my ipod, to try and drown out her voice!!

Are shy people born shy?
Can you be a confident child but go on to be a shy adult?

At said party, everyone started to leave at around 11pm, but she (who carried on talking) finished talking at midnight!! She must have a lot to talk about...