shy people get on my tits

[brimfull]

and I know I am being unreasonable

but I want to shout-' grow up and make a fucking effort!!'

and don't moan about your kids not having mates to play with when you never ask people back,never say hello in the street

thanks

needed to get that off my chest

[roneef]

judgemental knobheads get on my ample tits!!

[more]

I just wish I had tits!

[lovechoc]

YANBU, for adults if that's what you mean. I get really annoyed with SIL and BIL for this, they just don't visit people, yet they expect you to make all the effort to visit them. And when you do visit them, we just sit there in their house in silence, until I initiate (or my DH) initiates a bloody conversation. Hello, you have a voice, use it. Grrrrr.

Obviously i've had to get that off my chest too, OP isn't the only one.

perfectly reasonable post, you just posted something that other people just haven't had the courage to post before for fear of being flamed.

[NervousNutty]

I am shy, and it seems to make alot of people think I am stuck up, which I'm not.

I try very hard not to be shy and be as chatty as I feel able tol depending on who i'm talking to.

I would much rather be like me though than those awful people who think the whole world wants to listen to them

[CybilLiberty]

The people that annoy me more than shy people are the ones I was having a perfectly nice chat to yesterday who look at me like it's the first time they've ever seen me today.

Or the Mums who I have seen EVERY DAY for 5 years on the school run but who still won't make eye contact.

If that's shyness, then it annoys me. If it's rudeness then it annoys me too.

[brimfull]

cybiliberty-that's what I am talking about

[roneef]

Lovechoc that situ describes rude moany people. Their shyness doesn't have to equal rudeness.

You and OP are putting the two together.

If people aren't very chatty/friendly there could be numerous reasons.

I'm sure shy people have enough to deal with than have to worry about getting on OPs tits.

[Mumcentreplus]

I'm a slow burner..I don't need to make conversation/small talk..but I'm very friendly..i listen and contribute equally..but I'm no 'life of the party'..those types do tend to get on my tits and chat crap..my sister is brilliant at small talk ...I'm sociable but I also like the fact everyone is different..some people are social butterflies and some social bees

Social Butterfly = good,interesting conversation with pauses for your response

Social Bee = Someone who chats non-stop about bollox and you just want to swat them!

[Katisha]

It's not so much shy people as such, but people who leave all the conversational gambits up to someone else. It's hard work. I'm not going to laugh at them or find fault with their conversation - it's not the playground any more.

[lovechoc]

that's also the train of thought I'm on aswell, ggirl

It's people that act shy, rather than are actually shy that annoy me. It is just plain rude.

[PuppyLoves]

I am in the unfortunate position of being both shy and talkative

I talk too much and for too long with people I am comftable with.
I shy away from talking to strangers.

I have the worst of both worlds

[AnyFucker]

ggirl, perhaps those shy people just aren't that into you ??

[Pogleswood]

You are also assuming that these shy people aren't making an effort - just because they are maybe not behaving as you would,or succeeding in being as sociable as you and perhaps they think they should be doesn't mean they aren't trying.For some people asking friends back or saying 'Hi' to someone they don't know well is nothing ,for others those things are really hard.

[TheBolter]

Agree and disagree. As a naturally quite shy person myself who tries hard to appear outgoing, I too find people who avoid eye contact and therefore appear rude to be really annoying... partly because they make me feel paranoid and partly because I think 'fgs, if I can get over myself so can you...'

However I also feel a bit at this thread as I know how crippling shyness can be and how horrified a shy person would feel if they knew that was how you felt about them.

Most of us have a deep desire to belong, but some people find it harder to show than others!

[muggglewump]

Oh dear.
I'm shy when I meet new people but I do make an effort. The problem is, because I am forcing myself to talk, everything I say comes out wrong and I appear a bit awkward and/or weird and not as I want to come across.

I think people think I'm a bit odd when really I'm just shy and not immediately comfortable in new situations.

I belong to another site, I got along well with a guy on there. A couple of years back he invited DD and I on an outing with him and his wife and DD. I went but I know came across badly and was never asked again.
I feel embarrassed about it now.

Nothing I said came out as I wanted it to. I was awkward, shy and embarrassed. I almost wish I had never gone

[TheBolter]

Puppylove - agree

[lovechoc]

Katisha, that's why DH's side of the family are like! it's like drawing teeth! very very hard work

[LyraSilvertongue]

I, and lots of other shy people I'm sure, find my mind goes blank when faced with having to make small talk with someone I don't know. Then I assume I'm boring them and that makes my mind go even blanker. People probably think I'm being rude.
It takes me a long time to makes friends as a lot of people, people like the OP, would have given up on me long before I've had a chance to get over my shyness.
It's really no fun and I have tried hard to get over it, and have improved as I've got older.

[brimfull]

not into me??

how very dare you

[LyraSilvertongue]

Mugglewump, I know exactly how you feel. It's horrible isn't it.

[thisisyesterday]

miugglewump, i am exactly the same!
i try and make conversation and just end up looking like a right twat. or else I start talking and don't shut up and just blather on and forget to ask the other person anything

it's bad, and i do try, but i am sure poeople think i am awful a lot of the time. and i knoow i have lost potential friendships over it

[squilly]

I was a very shy child but blossomed into something approaching confidence in my twenties. I still have crippling self doubt at times, but I always make an effort to speak to people in the playgroud or even in the street near my house. It's not always easy, but it has to be done.

I quite possibly talk too much and appear over confident at times. I try hard not to, but sometimes the more nervous I am the more I talk. I am probably therefore half way to being a cock and a tremendous bore.

I worry about it, but usually after the event.

I can sympathise with the painfully shy, though, as I used to be one of them, so I hope I'm not too much of a cock

[brimfull]

I think you probably are worrying too much.

I would never think someone was talking a load of crap or was awful.

[brimfull]

that was to thisisyesterday