DH away and not answering phone

[Wanttohelpbuthow]

DH has been away for work on and off for the last few weeks, really long hours + jet lag.

He came home for one night on Tuesday night (we live near a major airport) which was essentially a layover almost at our house before driving the next morning 5 hours, again for work where he is the for the next 10 days.

He was obviously incredibly tired and was being unreasonable and out of character yesterday morning before he left which resulted in an argument. He then left without saying goodbye and I haven’t heard from him since, he’s never ignored me before but he went the entire day ignoring any calls or messages. I left it from mid afternoon but now still haven’t heard from him, the only reason I know he’s got there safely is because I have him on find friends.

I can also see he is still at the hotel … it’s 1pm and he should be working today as far as I know. I’m now getting really worried. Is there anything I can do apart from wait? Am I being overly anxious?

Id say your overreacting- you had an argument, he refused to say goodbye and now he's being abusive and giving you the silent treatment 🤷‍♀️

Has he been crossing a lot of time zones? You can get psychosis due to this. If you say he was making no sense and couldn’t remember the conversation I’d be slightly concerned about that.

I would call the hotel and ask to be put through to his room.

Did you call the hotel?

I don't think it's a big deal to call the hotel - I probably wouldn't call his work yet but a hotel wouldn't register anything out of the ordinary about putting a call through.

If he was delirious when you last saw him then yes you should check in on him

Did he wake up delirious and still leave to drive? Surely, work is not that important? It can't impact your lives this much, it's just not worth it.

Government department perhaps (MI5)? Use your noggjn.

MI5 have very detailed emergency protocols for their staff. They are still a civil service department.

MI5?

Competent adults can fall ill….ask me how I know!!!

Sorry, I’ve quoted the wrong post!

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it was incredibly dangerous to leave on a 5 hour drive when he was delirious from exhaustion. I hope you've managed to make contact now OP.

I'm not going to explain as it would be outing to the person involved but I worked with someone who had a similar situation and it turned out to be the absolute opposite of fine.

Sometimes dreadful things happen, hopefully not in this case but imo it's better to be save than sorry

Only on Mumsnet is it unusual to care for your husband

I don’t think that’s true at all. Most do care for their husbands. I think those that think we don’t, probably don’t have husbands or partners that regularly work away in vastly different time zones. Those of us who do are used to not having regular contact and know that if anything untoward was to happen you’d find out quickly.

Hope all is ok. Is he still on your location?

Have you managed to get in touch with him? Is he still showing up as being at the hotel?

Exactly….its another world on here!

We care about each other but we are audlts if we want to keep in contact we do we do not track or check up on each other

I’m not an audit, but if I were I would absolutely track and check up on everything, that’s literally audit’s job.

sorry.
a little bit anyway!

I’d be worried too op. More so because he was delirious before going. He could just be exhausted but that’s also how I behaved when I (unknowingly) had sepsis. I was an argumentative arsehole, felt like shit and couldn’t think straight.

Hope you managed to get in touch and everything is ok.

Hopefully he checked in last night and all is now fine.

Any update? This has played on my mind

OP I hope you’re ok