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DH away and not answering phone

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Wanttohelpbuthow · 01/10/2026 12:55

DH has been away for work on and off for the last few weeks, really long hours + jet lag.

He came home for one night on Tuesday night (we live near a major airport) which was essentially a layover almost at our house before driving the next morning 5 hours, again for work where he is the for the next 10 days.

He was obviously incredibly tired and was being unreasonable and out of character yesterday morning before he left which resulted in an argument. He then left without saying goodbye and I haven’t heard from him since, he’s never ignored me before but he went the entire day ignoring any calls or messages. I left it from mid afternoon but now still haven’t heard from him, the only reason I know he’s got there safely is because I have him on find friends.

I can also see he is still at the hotel … it’s 1pm and he should be working today as far as I know. I’m now getting really worried. Is there anything I can do apart from wait? Am I being overly anxious?

OP posts:
Cherryicecreamx · 13/10/2026 07:57

Would have thought OP would have updated us by now.

Usernamesalltakenblues · 13/10/2026 11:07

Cherryicecreamx · 13/10/2026 07:57

Would have thought OP would have updated us by now.

It's not OP's duty to update us.
Unfortunately there may have been a sad or even tragic outcome, or things may still be unfolding for OP. I hope that's not the case of course. I hope it's just she has forgotten about the thread

Cherryicecreamx · 13/10/2026 11:28

Usernamesalltakenblues · 13/10/2026 11:07

It's not OP's duty to update us.
Unfortunately there may have been a sad or even tragic outcome, or things may still be unfolding for OP. I hope that's not the case of course. I hope it's just she has forgotten about the thread

You get people taking their time to comment or offer support so a little update wouldn't go a miss. Of course anything could have happened but I'm actually thinking it's more of a no news type thing.

Usernamesalltakenblues · 13/10/2026 11:56

I've not read all the posts on the thread but there were quite a few of those that I did read critical of the OP@Cherryicecreamx and not very understanding or supportive of her.
if she was already upset she may very well have left the thread because it wasn't helping her. Who knows?
I just hope all is ok.

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