AIBU to tell my daughter to report a flatmate's mother?

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Dd went to university a couple of weeks ago. She is setting in well and likes her flatmates.
Unfortunately there seems to be a problem with one of them. She is an international student and her mum came over to help settle her in, all fine.
BUT
The mum is still there, sleeping in the same room as the daughter.
The rest of them are getting increasingly annoyed as she's just there and as she doesn't speak any English it's difficult to ask what her plans are.
When dd moved in her contract said that she wasn't allowed any overnight guests to stay more than 2 consecutive nights.
Its been 2 weeks!
I've told them to go to student housing/ welfare and say something. Maybe they can do something?
Surely at the very least it's a safety issue if there was a fire or something as this woman isn't supposed to be there?
The rest of them dont want to get this girl and her mum into trouble but if the mums visa runs out surely that's worse?
I know I can't do anything but how do I get through to dd?

Nope it needs reporting. You can't co habit with someone in halls. Its ridiculous those saying its fine. Totally against the rules. That means any of them could be co habiting with someone - where does it end and she has no right to tell any of them to quieten down. Cheeky fuckers springs to mind.

Why are people so wet these days? (Not you OP.) Yes absolutely report her to housing. (And immigration.) Overseas student fees are about £35,000 a year - this person can afford to pay rent.

What country is she from? I would bet a decent amount on it not being her mother but a servant or chaperone.

Only in that you can have 16 or 17 year olds at university in Scotland. If your daughter and flatmates were 18 or older (as are the vast majority in England) I would give them advice but expect them to speak to the accomodation office themselves. If your daughter and her flatmates are not adults though, I guess you may have signed the tenancy for the halls rather than them, so it's a bit more of a grey area in who should speak to the accomodation office. I still think you should encourage them to, but a 16 year old may need more support in doing this than an 18/19 year old.

Yep the mother (and the student) are being cheeky fuckers. I’d be tempted to throw an all night, very noisy party if I were your DD

It definitely needs reporting, the daughter is in breach of her tenancy agreement and the mum is causing issues for the other housemates.

It's time for someone to step in and tell her to leave and it shouldn't be up to your daughter and her flat mates to do that.

The daughter will probably appreciate it too!

Definitely encourage DD to speak to the university accommodation services. Ideally in person if they have a reception desk, and then follow up by email.

Universities are used to sensitively dealing with issues between flatmates (although probably not this specific issue!) and should be able to help without creating too many issues between the flatmates.

Most halls have wardens, older students who have a resident role in return for discounted accommodation. Maybe mention it to them of so?

Omds, 100% report.

Course it’s odd! And it’s not fair on the girl! As well as the other flatmates.

Your daughter and other housemates need to speak to the girl with the mother and ask when mum is going. I expect she is planning to go soon but it's not unreasonable to ask if only for reassurance. That should be their first step.

If there’s a concern the daughter may not settle, I find it particularly strange she’s at a university in a foreign country. Surely she would be closer to home. I agree with PPs, the daughter is probably desperate for her mother to leave.

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Absolutely report. I had the same in a uni house. After a month I spoke to the landlord and she left a couple of weeks later. Uni accommodation should be able to deal with it quickly, and I wouldn’t feel bad about it as the woman is already acting entitled when she shouldn’t even be there. If there’s multiple people living there then she won’t know who reported it.

I wouldn’t say anything straightaway - she might only be staying a few days. Obviously if she’s there for weeks/months that’s different! Two weeks with no end in sight I’d be saying something.

It's completely ruining that poor girl's experience and I genuinely think reporting it would be doing her a favour.

She must be pretending not to speak English.

They need to tell the mum to leave immediately, not let her decide when she's going!

If there are under 18s in the flat due to it being in Scotland, having an unauthorised adult staying is surely a safeguarding risk, even if it's a parent...

Why?

That makes no sense. students are allowed overnight guests, presumably of any age

Not for two weeks at a time. The odd overnight stay, sure.

It's meant to be a fun experience all young people living together and partying. Imagine how it must change the dynamic having to flatshare with someones mum..

I know - there's no way I wouldn't have said something about this myself at that age in that situation.

@Ablondiebutagoody who wants someone's mum in halls with them? Especially one who interferes with cooking and goodness knows what else.

I thought that visitors to halls had to sign in and out? I think that was the procedure in my day.

From my student days in Scotland, we were made very aware that overnights would be monitored if there were U18s in the flat. It's not something that comes up in England but we had a 16 yo in our block who was young in the year and had come fresh from Highers...